₦airaland Forum

tosinhtml:
PHP is not something to worry about, you can learn it in a week, I promise you It's that simple. That is one major reason Devs hate it.

Maybe later on sha. Cause most selling products on code canyon were developed with PHP and I am working on a product I want to sell. But with nodejs and the other with FastAPI. Hopefully, I meet potential subscribers

Purvan:
Go is also for low level and embedded systems


Modern programming was built on C not cpp

Wow I never knew that. Maybe I've just explored the backend features if Go!. But I don't think there are much IC and microcontrollers out there that can be take go or say precompilers that precompiles to Go.

Purvan:
You made a mistake learning cpp , you could've learnt Go

Lol im done learning go integrated it on my last project. Cpp is for embedded systems and low level stuffs. Who knows what the future holds besides modern programming languages were built on top cpp

qtguru:
It's never too late, with C++ you will have some insight into PHP to some degree.

Okay noted sha. Lemme perfect the cpp and upscale my current languages then I will think of delving into PHP

The thing is Nigerians follow trends I kinda regret not learning PHP I am now stuck with other languages and I can't seem to bend toward PHP cause I got 2backend languages I use frequently and am learning another one for more job opportunities but not PHP but PHP will give you jobs. Same reason im learning C++ it's old but still relevant

JennyJossie:
Your advice pls at 29 to 30 some one is ready to marry you and also promise to train you in school, but you are not sure. And one of your relative said he will train you in school, and you are sure about it but on the conditions that you must let go of marriage issues. Which one will you go for

Marriage, childbirth after your 200L or after your admission else you will find it hard to ever go to school

boborosky:
Firstly, I am a guy who is goal driven. I work my ass off to ensure that I earn a living and this has left me with hating anyone who is lazy.
I met my fiance about a year ago. We don't reside in the same town but we talk everyday. When we started dating, she had told me she was done with schooling but she had a few issues which have prevented her from graduating. According to her, she finished in 2019 but has not been cleared because of those issues.

In the first few months that we started dating, I asked her why she was idle since the school was yet to clear her. I further advised that she should start something rather than stay at home. She told me then that she would like to produce and sell a particular commodity. I asked her what it required for her to start. She told me and I provided those things and travelled all the way to see her and hand those items over to her. Few weeks after that, I asked how the business was doing - she went from one story to the other. I was pissed because I thought she could have put all those excuses into consideration before letting me go through the stress of providing those items - It is not about the money for it wasn't much, but her lukewarm interest in pursing goals. Truth is that she never started the trade.

I let that slide and we moved on... Each day I noticed she doesn't have the desire to pursue goals. I mean, how could she have stayed over 3years at home without learning any skill or being purposeful. When it was clear that she wasn't being purposeful, I told her crystal clear that I would not want to be with anyone who lacks purpose or isn't resourceful. In response, she told me that she would work harder and do something. But as each day passed, it was the same old story. Right now, she teaches at a school - this was after a lot of pushing, and forcing and begging and all of that. Even, of the teaching, she complains that it is stressful.

She visited my family house twice. The first time she visited, I had to literally tell her to help in the sweeping of the house the morning following the night she arrived, which she did - I mean, I expected her to know (without being told) that that was expected of her as a first-time visitor in the frame of a prospective wife/in-law. Even as a man, you don't stay inside the room when you visit a family especially when they are doing chores - that was how I was raised. Maybe it isn't a general expectation, but that was how I was raised (Don't crucify me).

As it stands now, she isn't cleared yet and each time I tell her to go to the school, she would either reply reluctantly or get upset. Moreso, she doesn't have a skill. The truth is that, though she is nice, a virgin apparently, she may end up depending on me 100%. Given the way Nigeria is, one needs a partner who can support one. Also, coupled with the fact that though she loves me 100%, she is not very exposed (a bit timid), and lacks the desire to be independent, hardworking or achieve her own goals.

We had discussed marriage, though I have not proposed yet. Conversely, right now, I am having a rethink which has caused me to be a bit withdrawn and retrogressive. I do not want a spouse who would drag me backwards, I have suffered a lot to get to where God placed me - I don't want a setback given that my family partly depends on me. From all indications, I don't know whether she will be able to handle and account for a business if one is established for her.

Even though the decision to either proceed with or withdraw from marriage is solely mine, I'd like a piece of advice.

For matured folks.... What do you think?

By default an average Nigerian lady is like that

There is something called fm WhatsApp or gb WhatsApp that does that easily without all these stress

If na you get the app watin you go do to collect your money back? Well, your other fingers are pointing back at you as you are accusing them: take it or leave it you need brute force to be able to collect a debt from a typical Nigerian. When he took the loan it met his immediate needs and he did not have a single plan on how to be able to refund

Truth be told you can't successfully give advice to someone in love. Best that can be done is with time God helping you it will wear off. Bear in mind that you still get many mumu things you go still do out of love in the nearest future

The thing is you can't advise who knows the truth but justify why they are doing the wrong thing. He is a breadwinner that's why the wife knows but still enduring the torture; his gf 🙄 is still there cause he is financially supporting her. And you op is thinking on how to tell him and not offend him because he is financially responsible for you to a large extent now. Take it or leave it his wife is in trouble: an acquaintance uncles wife died of HIV/AIDS inflicted by her husband because she did not know what she was sick of; cause the man hid it from her. The man is still alive and his last child is a carrier too. Help the woman by telling her to pick a life for herself something like a job if she has papers (degree) if she doesn't she should learn a skill. Empower her when she is financially stable she knows what's right to do. The earlier the better else it's her funeral you will attend with wishes of doing what's right early.

Airlohim:
Start by reading The 48 Laws Of Power by Robert Greene

Laws are awesome but difficult to live through them.

I tell you once you no gree I move. No stress about that.

siofra:
So, I told my parents I don't want to get married. I do not recommend telling your Nigerian parents you don't want to get married😹

My mom put her hand on her head and looked at me with pity lol. She said I don't have a goal in life, she said I'm empty.

My father was even more dramatic. He started praying o. He told me to kneel down and starting casting and binding all the evil spirits and his village people.

Ngl, it was hilarious. It's not like I don't want to get married though, I just wanted to see their reactions.

But why can't parents accept that not everyone wants to follow the way they did things? That I don't want a husband doesn't mean something is wrong with me and I won't be lonely because I plan on having 29 cats, a dozen goats and scores of chickens.

Are you less than 31 and 25 and above and saying this? Then I believe you!
If you are less:it means that you might still be confused as a result of some heartbreaks here and there.
If you are above 31: it means you might be frustrated that the right man isn't coming forth.

DCmaverick:
I was going through a dating app looking for girls around me to hookup with, all of a sudden i saw my pastor there. I jus couldn't believe it cus he is a man of God and he is happily married . So i dnt know what he is doing there or is he preaching the gospel to all those unbelievers there

He is human: always know this and know peace

Goalnaldo:
I have come to notice the uncanny beauty of the esan women. All of their women i have seen are beautiful and mostly lightskinned. Yesterday a beautiful woman walked into our shop with her daughter, i asked her "ma, sorry are you from esan?" she replied "yes. Why did you ask? I simply said "because you people are always beautiful" and she smiled. Back in delta though we were always told that uromi, esan women are what we should pray and fast not to marry lol. I am a modern man and i dont believe in generalisation. So, has anyone married, dated from there? What are they like?

Not all esan but the ones from Uromi are mostly fine

OdefaGirl:
Kids on Nairaland thinks marriage is boyfriend/girlfriend matter😂..... They won't be critical in asking some relevant questions like these... No one knows if she's having Postpartum depression or trauma, no one asked how old is the last child, and none of them asked if this woman is healing from surgery.
She might even be fed up with the dry sex life of Hubby or he's a one-minute man who leaves her unsatisfied.

They just think like a one-way lane.....

Well, people are more concerned with what the guy says and ignores the woman. Women are basically moved by emotions you treat them well you get a good treat. Events they don't like becomes devastating for the parties involved.

Lexusgs430:
Whatever is manufactured, would always have a used market element.........

Would you want to spend much for a used phone?

How's the sex event been? Boring? Same styles? No pre-intimacy? Quick ejaculation? Is she happy in the marriage? Do you down-talk her withany opportunity given? Are you maltreating her? Is she over worked?

Ken4Christ:
How much would it cost him to have a bag that has provisions for padlocks?

Or what will it cost him to make a simple cupboard?

The young man is mentally unstable.

When you stay in hall 3 block f that year you will know that cupboard is not a good idea. Zip that can be opened and closed even when it's locked! If your things are not locked you can accuse someone of taking but if it's locked you won't see anyone that agreed to take it.

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Infolenka:
Racism derives from a lack of respect. You only discriminate and look down on people you don't respect. And respect is earned not given for free.

If black people want to end racism we need to earn the respect of the world. And we are failing woefully at that .

Nobody is racist towards the Chinese even though there are a lot of things to be racist about them. Why? Because they have earned the respect of the world.

You only earn world wide respect through scientific and technological advancement. It's that simple. There is no other way.

Majority of the popular black people in the world are actors, musicians and sports people.
The world doesn't care about these sorts of people. It doesn't matter how many of them you have, it's not going to earn you respect.

Think about this: How many Russian musicians, actors or sports people do you know? Yet everyone respects Russians. How many Chinese musicians, actors or sports people do you know? Yet everyone respects the Chinese. Science and technology is the only thing that brings respect.

We keep promoting useless fools like these BBNiaja housemates, jobless Yahoo boys, ashawos and touts, and yet expect the world to respect us?

In universities serious students with prospects are insulted and cajoled by their yahooboy/ashawo peers because they take their studies seriously. We give awards and financial rewards to people who do useless things but give no regard to smart young people with brilliant technological ideas, yet we expect the world to respect us?

Black people are a global joke and unless we acknowledge that and look for ways to stop being a joke to the world, racism will continue.

If na criminal thing a black man de represent; black man no one work no creativity except is directed towards negative acts. Everybody talks about change but our actions speak otherwise. Election was rigged by lecturers that weren't paid for 8months of strike- remember they clamored asked for change; black man is consciously greedy they think of just themselves not minding if people die as a result.

When people want to commit a crime dey find personal justifiable reasons even if they sound invalid. That's why I always have the school of thought that truth is relative cause we all have different things we see as right but might be wrong in someone's eyes. What we accept as truth collectively is an intersection of our personal truth.

Musty112:
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Booker

Stage a proposal: set it on her status. Make it loud and let her wear a ring! The story will now be I cannot cheat on my fiance

Why? Did they steal yours and you are looking out for who did? Cause it's obvious we both know its unwise to purchase an already used of that phone!

I see you are not the guy that likes sex before marriage. Don't let anyone coerce you to disrespect God just to please them. Women are naturally like that: they aren't devils but they put their hormonal needs first even before God it's in your place to make them know what the priority must be- God first!.
Well as for the covering of boobs: it's just your second time she isn't comfortable yet women tend to hold back on some things till they feel absolutely free.

What's the normal you charge outsoders?
What's the normal others charge?
Inflate the cost price and play along like you didn't charge service fee. Women will always be the same

Everybody knows Biochemistry department in Uniben so he is lucky its just 5 he got. The course seems demanding. Make him just put more effort, kill his pride and make friends with the smart ones in class, then and prepare for an extra year to concentrate on the carryovers.

Pastries
Peanuts
Food- moi moi etc

It's obvious you are overrating yourself. Hence you are making silly mistakes you bet because you wanted to have enough cash to show off. You are now with whores because, with the way you have shown yourself in your local environment, you don't want a woman that will expo your excesses. Stop the crap and accept you for you. I know you have what it takes to make yourself better so stop your unnecessary distractions and use your earnings to get more if you wish to upscale your finances.

What about Benin-city what's city about it?