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It used to be a source of succour when I feel beaten , weak and sore from life's struggles.

I empathize with those who have found masturbation pleasurable, as a means of easing and escaping pain .

But I charge you now, not to stay down anymore. It's time to get your self back. We can beat this demon.

It's an addiction for losers. Come out of it. It's so so pleasurable but you'll lose your soul, strength to it , and also your Godly compass.

Masturbation will ruin you. It's mental insanity.

It's my 7th day without seeing any porn or masturbating . I feel holy and clean when I pray . It's been a struggle .

For the first time ,I'm able to say no to the strong urges with ease.

I've never gone a day or 2 without it.

I WISH TO STAY LIKE THIS FOREVER RETAINING MY STRENGTH AND SEMEN TIL MARRIAGE.

As a maths Teacher , I do extra lessons..

By the end of the month I'm able to gather extra 50k aside the small peanuts the school pays.. it's not easy.

Georgekyrian:
I don’t take time to show my stand anywhere I found myself, the worst shock that happened to religion now is that in this generation of Aquarius, we came prepared, both your education and knowledges can’t even defend your belief..
I don’t stand down for any fvcking religious bigot, I am to extreme them not them doing that to me

It never ends well bro. You're gonna seem like the black sheep , cuz majority have been zombified.

It's like everyone thinks and feel the same and you're indifferent; you're the non conformist.
Everyone , even family wants you act a certain kind of way . You on't get the ecstacy people get from socializing on the online media, in clubs , gatherings and from religion .

The moment you stop conforming to these societal norms and systems, and try to break free, by questioning every logic, happening, event and wonder why people are to blind to the distractions, despite the slavery that comes with all these "ecstacy", the world and the enslaved people of these systems will point a large gun at you, with all readiness to shoot.

You're so done, and left with no choice than to play by the rules of the game master , just so you can be at peace with the enslaved of this world.

You either stay woke and not reveal your stand, or resist and be loud about it and get eliminated fast. The Truman show and the matrix explains modern day reality.

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Calitoscassius:
Crooked pastor, so he couldn't save himself as he was claiming to have saved others. Anyway, now he can go and meet his imaginary sky God i guess.

You're very stvpid as well. You mean he wasn't suppose die , he's some sort of immortal? I don't know where you reason from, probably ur anus

Unsad:
Lol. When will you guys learn ?

You're very stvpid

Came4apost:
Poor man says he his been extorted..my man u need to earn and stop thinking small.. men are providers .. women are keepers .. find yourself a keeper.. don't expect your woman to build ur future for you

You're being very silly.

Came4apost:
Sorry mr 50/50 u will marry ur class sha

How can someone be this Dumb and stupid like you? Christ!!

Kelvin3476:
Why are u struggling to accept the truth ?

Whose truth?

stanliwise:
Don’t do what you did again

What's that

OnlyDeCapPlease:
My guy. Females are not interested in all this epistle. With most females it's all about ME ME ME ME. She's the one that is supposed to be "pouring her heart out" not you, as far as she's concerned. What you've done in your chats is make her feel guilty. It doesn't matter what she has done, no matter how serious. Her problem here is that you made her feel guilty/bad so YOU are the one in the wrong and it overshadows any thing that she might have done.

Females are not really concerned with the contents of what you have to say or how well you put it together. What matters to them is HOW you say it, WHEN you say it, HOW it comes across to her and, most importantly, HOW it made her feel.

Well, I've had up to my neck. I won't have to deal with her kind anymore. I should have kicked her out along time before now.

SmellingAnus:
Everrich96 This one she dey bill you like say na every day you dey bang her? But wait o... Is it just a platonic friendship?

Boss just platonic friendship o ..

theNOISEmaker:
op na she be this abi?

No boss. Who's that? Please take that down. I don't know who that is.

Came4apost:
The OP is just a cry baby .. if ur girl has to ask before you give .. u don't love her .. I always want to know my girls financial status all the time .. so I know when she is broke and how to handle it ..

Sorry, that's not love. You're gonna get dumped soon and you'd be at loss. You're trying to play the saviour in the relationship but in return she probably doesn't give 2fvck about you in your lowest moments. A girl that can't build with you but wants to always extort you at the slightest chance. ..

davillian:
Some girls just dont have sense......
She knows this dude is going through alot ATM....
If you can't support him then don't even ask him of anything....
U know weda airtime way de Baba phone na borrow he borrow am.....

Me I've gone pass this stages and I know the kind or type of woman I want in my life....
Some don't even pass the friendship stage before I tell them to Bleep off....

More grace boss. Most of these ladies didn't come to build, they came to eat and destroy you. Very inconsiderate and self centered.

anochuko01:
If you're caring, you won't even think of demanding whatever from someone who has got challenges. That's what it means to being considerate, caring and having conscience. The lady had none of these.
How can you even call somebody telling them you crave sharwama? That's the height of it.

Thank you.

doggedfighter:
Should a girl be your problem now?


You want to have and fvck a woman when there are important issues to sort out in your life.

And you have the effrontery to bring it here?

You deserve some brain resetting slaps.

Nonsense !

I think you've got more depressing issues to bother about ma'am. Put your self together or move .I'm certainly not the cause of your frustration over life.

It didn't end there.i had to pour out my heart via my second WhatsApp line before equally blocking her off...

I'm just disappointed at how some people come into your life genuinely at first and in the long run they try to run you by blackmailing you emotionally because they've got this strong entitlement mentality.

Below is attached, screenshots of the chat I had with a lady who posed to be a "caring friend".
We met barely 3months ago, and in one week she was already making demands , cuz when she met me , I might have given off a notion of being successful cuz things were really working fine with me. She asked me to take her out , I tried to ignore cuz I was loyal to my girlfriend, now EX. Eventually after black mailing me emotionally, I gave in.

There were times she really cared and there were days when I tested her patience whenever she requested for financial favour and I didn't give in, she became mean and impatient. Recently , things have been really hard for me, and I can't even pay my rent, and I lost so much money to bad investments and I can't even afford a good meal. I'm just a final year student singly helping myself and no one's helping out , i've got exams by the corner and my girlfriend just broke up with me. So much heartbreaking events . She claimed to be my friend yet she kept looking for means to extort me, and She's got a boyfriend .

Just Last week, she called me for the first time in 2weeks since . She was acting all caring and next she tells me she's broke and she's looking for capital to buy make up kits , I tried to ignore. Next thing she starts saying " you cant ask me how much I need.. bla bla" , I then told her all the aforementioned problems I'm going through...She started crying that truly I was going through alot.

Fast forward to this night , she flashed me and I called her back . She started saying stuffs like she's craving Shawarma etc. I ignored , she complained. She requested other stuffs which I ignored and tried to skip the convo. She said she would come see me , but I've got to book an Uber. Had to remind her of my current status and things aint funny anymore , but I can book her uber when she would leave only if she came using a public trans. We ended the convo..


Moments later, she chatted me on Whatsapp to recharge her phone. I couldn't take it, I had to give her a piece of my mind, she felt offended and she blocked me. Like, why make it an obligation to always try to take something from me? The least or most you could be as a "friend" is to be supportive than being a parasitic leech!!

DrMeroThaEmperor:
DM ME..... Or message me on www.facebook.com/emperormero

I sent a pm sir.. Thanks alot.

taxiappguy:
Bro, I find nothing spectacular in your story, in short, its perfectly normal. Every girl you meet will eventually leave you, until you meet your wife. Even she may leave.

Unless you marry your first relationship, this is the struggle for all dating men. All my relationships, where are all of them today? If i were to follow this your logic i for kuku don mad. Fact is, you will dump some and some will dump you, dating goes on.

Instead bro focus your energy on your career, . The time for woman will come and I promise you, you will get the best and she will stay.

Thanks alot bro..

Asekhamid:
The moment you are scared of loosing a girl,you have already lost her....
Girls are like cat,you just have to leave them to do what they want...they come and go as they please and if you try to force them towards you,they will bite.
Be a man and accept your loss..it might be hard but within 3 weeks you would be fine..your heart just needs to accept the fact that she has left you..
Nobody is permanent in life and the only person who will always be there for you(whether you are insecure or not) is YOU..
My tips to get you back on track:

-delete anything that reminds you of her like pics and contact
-start exercising or lifting weights
-do things you love doing(your hobbies)
-Hang out with friends
-engage in one or two sports like football
-talk to other girls (even flirt with most of them)
-DONT STALK HER

If you do this,you will be fine and back to your feet in less than two months..work on yourself for a better future relationship

Thanks sir. I had tears in my eyes after reading the emboldened.. Its the truth and I will heed.

RedChiefPriest:
I understand how you feel bro
Right now you feel scared and so so sad,it is like you have lost a part of your soul and you can't be happy again,you loose appetite and you will wish you can just see her.
I'm sorry man but she's gone forever
You have to know and tell yourself that and it's not your fault she's just making it look like it's your fault.
Just try to heal,it won't be easy and can take months but just try to get busy,learn new things,meet new people and always avoiding thinking about her.
Soon your heart and mind will stop playing tricks and will stop hurting you over her and before you know it, you will start feeling better.

Keep your heads up and forget those half brain morons abusing you, most of them don't know love or raised to love.

Thanks alot man. I truly appreciate . I believe I will be better soon.

yanabasee1:
You're insecure, that isnt the reason she left....


Anybody that have doubts about it's partner is totally working on instincts....


OP, you have a whole lot of good days ahead of you...You are barely done with your schooling....The labor market is waiting for you and all you're worried about is a woman that you can't sincerely tell if she loved you...

I had kept a relationship for 7years and I fought to keep it and tried to have things work for good but I had to let go as you don't have to keep people who don't want to be in your life, because they'll always leave when the have the chance.....

You're right ...

Secondly, 7years is a whole lot , I wouldn't stand a chance... You must be very strong.

SmellingAnus:
It's part of development.... The only problem is when you don't learn from it... Let me help you with some words that will be useful to you in the future... Read the below diary

https://www.nairaland.com/4189254/words-wisdom-experience-surely-need

Thanks Boss, will go through them right about now .

I'm insecure, lonely and depressed . I've had my hopes all raised . She was my best friend and only friend. I always thought for 2 and did for 2.
I did everything to make her stay, I was convinced she loved me to a fault. She would do anything for me.

But my insecurity was my biggest flaw. I didn't want to lose her Cuz I was scared and unknowingly pushing her away. In my previous thread, I stated that 'everyone I've loved ended up leaving eventually', and I almost never let anyone in, but In Her case, I did . I have always felt alone all my life till I met her.

All of a sudden she said she was busy with life , she was stressed and tired of my insecurity and she wanted to leave me in the relationship. This came after we had a slight misunderstanding and we didn't communicate for a week Cuz she wouldn't talk to me. It came as a shock. I'm broken and I'm still wondering where I went wrong. I need someone to talk to . I just wanna make money and work on myself. I'm about to round off school, in my final year... With all the pressure and depression I might misplace my priorities.


Someone help me. I need therapy. I want to move on but I dunno how to start.

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