₦airaland Forum

pretydiva:
my thoughts exactly. I'm even more angrier than u. Dis in all honesty is so wrong!!!

What is so wrong? A family rushed back early from a supposed 4wks vacation coz the son wouldn't stop throwing up... He's lost tremendous amount of weight and he's currently in isolation at the hospital. I hope he makes it. Many cases like that especially Africans.

I'm sure his parents were so conserned about what people will say back home hence their unpreparedness...

Aunty Bebe, since your flight is just 6hrs, freeze 4jugs of milk and pack them join. A friend in UK did that and it worked! Safe journey sis, pack kilishi come for me oh

You need a procedure called Vaginà rejuvenation/tightening with Labiaplasty , it's done by plastic surgeon only and it's very expensive ($3,000-6,000)

I honestly don't know how well a gynaecologist can to this procedure coz your body is back to normal compared to post delivery's state . He's just gonna stitch your external V, trust me it's not gonna work.

I'm sorry about your predicament. If in Nigeria,Try teaching hospitals and search for available Plastic surgeons. Abroad, you can take a loan. It's worth it. Overall, make sure you research their year of experience and possibly previous clients experience.

Good luck.

johnson232:
u should have pat me on the back....

Oh my bad

Jokes aside buddy, A simple 'sorry' can safe a life in any relationship. 'Sorry' averts life changing situations (e.g divorce, and longterm effect on children ). Some men think it's an act of weakness hence their obnoxious attitude.

The point is men need women in their lives more therefore they should tuck away their ego & calm the fûck down to nurture what they have so they don't end up alone @old age.

LastMumu:
Your home screen fine small, no be say e too fine o, make that your big head no kon dey swell.

e dey swell now.

johnson232:
u got a point...


but it doesn't apply to all men... that makes it uncommon in men...

*pats his head* yeah yeah

thorpido:
Think deeply about Ewuro's words.Pay attention to the bolded.
People like this hardly change.Ask yourself if you can live with it.

Sad but true. Always defensive and never wrong. They hardly change.

Laraoge... Please don't give up. Just start over and make some changes. It's sad many women walk on egg shells in their supposed happy home.
But let me tell you something, you don't have to walk on egg shells, you can be happy and still tolerate him without indulging him, just start over & change the game plan. It's called sacrifice, provided he's worth it.

nasha1:
Happy Sunday mumy mi
the mods ban me o, na so dey keep banning for her... I am not a trouble maker o,i just detest people wey no get common sense.

How are you? and family?

Hehehe knock senses into those ignoramus jare

We are doing great. Thank you

byvan03:
Old folks don't play with pension money, even if it is 5k. They do go for verification so no one can sign on their behalf. Your mum is funny .

E tire me jare. She's a character

Phew, another epistle...

Kaira333:
I have seen how mannered you are, clap for urself, inugo? I don't know why u are too sad and bittered, anyway its non of my biz. I thought u are a super woman? Y did u invite ur mil to come at first. Besides when u read try to read with understanding don't just rush and started typing like a fool. Get it right hubby suggested we invite Mil's sister instead of her. I know it's very unfair to her and it will bring serious trouble at the long run. Keep on talking trash like I said earlier its ur right OK? I know it serves me right therefore don't bother disturbing urself with dat. Nwanyi OMA inugo?

Girl I don't understand why you're trying too hard to suck me into your never ending spinning sob story, not my fûcking beeswax whom you chose to invite,

bottom line is you didn't listen to your husband who happened to know his family more than you. But your goody-two-shoes-eye-service-busy-body-self ( ) failed to put your useless brain into good use.

My dear, MIL don't need an invitation to my home dunce, my home is open to ALL , all she needed was a freaking local flight ticket and she's (or anyone else) not obligated, she was never here 'first' as you implied , We didn't need anyone, He was enough, we are a team.... So , HELL YEAH I'm a super woman.

Kaira333:
who cares? Lolxxxxxxxxxxxxx sad woman

Go and feed the miserable dude that gets to spend days & nights with you. You need help with that too? Mannerless girl

People keep appealling you 'not get angry' online yet think you don't need a time out and reevaluate yourself? I hope that grandma teaches gives you the home training you failed to adhere to in your parents' house.

As for me,brrr I'm gonna bake some fresh cheese bread and make peppercorns omelette, & hot cocoa w marshmallow for my amazing fam.

johnson232:
@bold....

Ewuro what do u mean by the emboldened?

Lol ... I'm talking about that 'superiority' complex. Even when it's obvious he's losing an argument or at fault. (Imagine his response 'you know this is a public place blah blah' instead of simple 'sorry baby lemme call you later')

Though they will concede between the sheets.

Yoruba calls it 'egun ori'

I lie?

But there's solution to every problem...

God will bless you OP.

Mizzzbeee:
I have to say, we have lost this one. We are just all over the place... Playing without ball movement.! Making silly mistakes and what not. Okc's ball is falling while ours isn't. This looks like it would go to a 7 game series good nite yall...!

Hehehe

Kaira333:
Thank you

You're not welcome.

cococandy:
1. I just want to make an observation to you and Ewuro's post.
Sometimes people need help not out of laziness but out of necessity.

2. I'll use myself for example. Going to school full time and working part time leaves me no chance to be home all day with my lil' one.
And of course DH can't resign from his job to sit with her all day. How will we survive? Therefore we need help.

3.I'd rather a family member stay with her than take her to strangers when she's just weeks old.
Everyone's situation is not the same.

Nobody's ruling the need of grandparents for omugwo here but how to avoid cantankerous ones ... the need to be independent and be able to control your situation when life seems tough.
Yes people need help, after all nobody's an island. But when the available 'help' seems impossible and no go area, we should try and avoid it and make alternate plans around their scheduled life.

2. I went to school right after unplanned emergency CSection myself because I didn't want to retake the class and worked as well then but thank God hubby's schedule was flexible so he worked most evenings throughout school session. Though his mom came for couple weeks & that was it, we only had ourselves.

3. One can only entrust a willing family member to care for their children. I'd rather put my children in daycare than allow one cranky grandma mishandle them.

By the way , you have a good reason here, what's her own excuse, unable to change diapers?
Her husband told her not invite his mother, that speaks volume but she still insisted. she should continue spitting fire on NL instead of putting her stinky mouth to good use. Yenyenyen 'I want to confront my MIl' go and co front her now

Serves her right. Mannerless girl.

Here...

Mizzzbeee:
Lolawilliams how are you today love hope youd watch okc Vs GSW today... and watch our buildup towards Cavs downfall BACK 2 BACK!!

This babe won't kee me ... Big game tonight.

My name is Ewuro and I approve this message.

Eketem:
Ewuro you are right
We took care of our child on our own and believe me we are best for it. Parents should stop being so lazy.

Good for you my dear. The Lord is your (&your hubby's) strength and you will live to eat the fruit of your labour IJN.

byvan03:
" Cranky old folks", you are totally right . I also feel no one can do it as good as I can. Really some just can't do it alone you know, it can be draining and overwhelm many new mums. You are very right, they come for vacation and not to help .

Mom will start complaining about her weak joints every night so she won't have to wake up early to help the girls ( hubby already ironed & laid out their uniforms on their dressers so we don't need her sef) ... and when she gets up, you better get her moinmoin or akara & custard/akamu w evaporated milk ready on the table & make sure NTA news is on... na that one you wan send errand?

Before you say jack, she will tell you she wants to go to Nigeria to sign for this yeye pension again. I wonder what the pension stunt is all about, can't a family member sign on their behalf?

She can do whatever as I care less.

nasha1:
yes because she didnt want 2 be married to a nigerian man that will want a traditional marriage and in turn be a slave according 2 u.
so she wanted to go where men dont treat woman like slaves.

Happy Sunday Nasha!

Kaira333:
Dear, I don't need to reply you well because u don't have any sense of human in u. So senseless and selfish.

But you just did *evil laugh*

She's just what you need... Enjoy the ride sweetie

laraoge:
@Yourcoffin thanks for taking out time to put that up there.I appreciate it@mindfullness,yea, varieties spice up living.
@ewuro glad u have that experience and u willfully shared it.
But all pls, help take a long look at this excerpt:
Partner was away from lag to a function that he had to sleep over. In the room, he is d eldest.

Me: hey boo, ow u dis evening
Partner: am fine,u?
Me: great here too
(Now I could hear loud music playing on the background)
Me: oh there's a loud music playing there.are u the one?
Partner: yes I am.
Me: but its disturbing the call
Partner: u know this is a public place o.u shouldn't be complaining if u ain't cool with it u hang up
Me: Did u say all that before ur younger ones?
Partner: you know already, why u asking?
I was enraged, I had to disconnect d call.
Then we switched to chats.he made a lot of complaints and we started to argue he said all sorts.he finally left d chat in anger.

Pls, was there any kind of over reaction on my part? Do I have to walk on egg shells in communicating with him?

Bashings are welcome here,just need to tweak whatever is wrong to right.

Not my place to blame anyone but you married an obnoxious man(this is not uncommon in men).

You need to sit with him and have the talk. start over-on a clean slate. That's how it starts, before you know it, you're tagged a nag and he starts to snap at you every time you question his behaviour. (Which is already happening )

Out of curiosity, why do you care who's listens to his responses to you, why do you care bikonu? You sef too like wahala.

Kaira333:
What is this one saying? Sold whose mum short? In case u want to know y she couldn't make it. She is working for her pension stuff and couldn't travel outside d country OK? Please if u don't have anything to say please shut up ur dirty mouth and don't annoy urself please.

wow... She must be dealing with you big time. Just what you need for this uncouth attitude of yours.

byvan03:
With my first I made Google my friend because I wasn't ready to be that whimpering help needing new mum jare. Everything I know about child care, I learnt online. For child bathing I watched them do it in the hospital, so I picked from there.
I don't understand why some MIL enjoy frustrating their kids wives .

My dear same here, I learnt everything via online & common sense. Now I'm a pro and go to area mama.

The earlier couples stop relying on some retired cranky old folks (that are better off in their own homes) and start to take full responsibility for their own offsprings , the better.

These old women are here for vacation. That's what most people fail to grasp. They are not your maids! I just leave them be. My own mother said everyone should seer the number of wards they're capable of raising, if my own mother will utter such(which is by the way,true) , i wonder what my mil's thought process will be?

Everytime hubby and I watch the kids home videos , we are always proud of ourselves. We've weathered all seasons carrying our children around our waists all by ourselves through the years so NOBODY can come to my house and yarn rubbish nor talk to my children anyhow.

DILs should stop looking for trouble, being lazy and care for their own wards!

cococandy:
Which one is that he's now dark and you should change his cream for him. Is he a baby? Some women sef.

You dey mind the trouble maker?

You barely see men exfoliate and this results in darkened face. All the men in my life are light skinned and they look weird without a shirt on, its embarrassing. They mostly wash their hair first and use same lather to wash the face. Pronto. Of course it'll turn dark except that man is bleaching.

Do we blame them? Society question the sexuality of few that try to care for their body in detail.

byvan03:
Jokingly tell her" mama e be like sey nah only you go sabi marry your son, if you keep talking like this he no go fit live with womanooo". Dey talk am dey shine teeth . If she vex" dey laugh dey talk sorry and keep saying " but mama you know sey nah truth" . Terrible MIL!

madam don vex

Yanga dey sleep...It's your fault, you knew this woman is trouble yet you sold your own mother short and invited her despite all her ill manners toward you after your wedding(according to you).

what do you mean you need elderly woman to care for your first born coz you're first timers, isn't that what those routine clinics they do in Naija for?

Your husband is supportive, both of you can care for your child without her help.

Let her stay put in her house and YOU face front and stop looking for trouble and putting your man in awkward position.

Be independent , grow up & stop being naive; you can't force people to like you, so eye service won't help you.

Schizophrenia

And it's a wrap!

Slow down

Flagrant foul. I'm losing my mind. What's the rush Raps?

SmooshCHN:
African man dey guard LeBron he dey vex. Cry Baby. That isn't even a flagrant. You don't expect him to foul the way Curry or Kyrie WI foul. These refs self.

dude's strong no doubt.

Joseph

These referees sef.