₦airaland Forum

birdman:
Its Thunder's series to lose. With Chandler sidelined, I think the Mavs will fold ultimately Plus Thunder are hungry - who would believe Curry wins a ring before Westbrook .

Curry's a genius.

Lowry's killing it tonight.

vbiye:
i initially thought it was a test, but it has gone on for too long, am going to leave him before the end of this week.

Don't just dump him... Clearly state his shortcomings to his face. All of it.

delishpot:
All these signs and OP is still asking if this is normal? Anyhow, I hear people say that women easily dump guys who treat them well and stick to the ones that treat them like trash. OP is proving it to be true

@bold , That's what my people call "eran iya" (penchant for punishment).

As much as I clamour for Women's Financial independence like my life depend on it, I loathe self centred/greedy men like a plaque. May as well redefine his role before signing the dotted lines or keep it moving . Useless thing

Oga go do your homework, find distributors in UK, Canada & US. People prefers locally made food than Chinese store bought.

You'll be laughing to the bank.

postmann:
So, for the unmarried women still dating and courting remember; just before that Vulva swells in a moist readiness, just before you part those thighs and let a man in , if it doesn't all end in marriage, honesty demands that you must tell your would be husband about it all just before you get to the altar.

Werey omo... Who send you message?? Hehehe *coughs*

Fem29, ewudu is Jute leaves na, took me a while to find out too. used powdered okra for abula before I discovered it.

How are the cuties, Grade1 in fall? Gbogbo aye

donbenedict:
Madam dats why you are a woman.. stop complaining.. womanhood is golden.

Hehe... CLOWN.

Womanhood is Golden...and that makes you what... WALLPAPER??

Where are your parents? Agh... Lord have mercy. I'm sorry but is your mother alive? How on God's green earth can a mother release her daughter to move in with a man without proper marriage rights, even just introduction and court marriage? This saddens my heart. So you're slaving your postpartum body (that needs pampering itself) away for opportunistic grown azz folks that needs to borrow themselves a brain?

No Matter how hard you try to garnish yourself in every possible ridiculous ways FOR acceptance to your 'inlaws' , one fact remains you're still a desperate baby mama willing to sell herself short for a ring.

This ridiculous trend has to change.

DonZizzy:
@ Nairalanders i have a girlfriend that does not know how to grind pepper with a grinding stone ,should i go ahead to marry her ?
she's very pretty , well mannered and educated .
But can't use common grinding stone to grind pepper ...what should i do?

Stop Trolling

Aww beautiful. God bless your home.

A 5yr old is already a school ager I believe? Put him in school already.

Put your Resumes out for a job if you have formal education & past experience.

If you have no past experience, start with volunteering.

Learn a skill (Sewing, Hair , Auto-mechanic) of choice.

aforti:
Almost everyone has a demon inside them, they just need the right stimuli to ptobok that dekon, although some people have mastered ways of taming their demons. That being said everyone has a good on the they just need the right atmosphere to fully express that good. The measure of ones character as good or bad is totally subjective to the observer. What you term bad could be someone's ideal.

Great submission.

Taming one's Demons is what people call a ticking time bomb. Humans need to learn the art of letting out their true emotions and let go of societal perception. Yes taming ones bad side is perfect for the optics but bad for your wellness.
Recently talking about breathing yoga with a friend as a way of letting off steam from everyday stess and dealing with life difficulties (such as dealing with some everyday & inavoidable and irrational people scattered on this God's green earth).

And what is bad to you may be my best option. So get that. Variety is the spice of Life.

And I so agree with Byvan03 , from marital perspective ; behind a virtuous woman is always a great and understanding man.

When a good person ( as majorly portrayed) is pushed to the wall, then you have a beast, hopefully these same people will defend her character to strangers then.

but that's not my business coz I won't take shait from anyone and it doesnt matter what strangers think. Children are watching and laying good example instead of embedding the art of being a doormat is a good option. Especially in this day and age.

Another angle is ; The problem we have as humans is what society think and how our character is portrayed. I attended a seminar and read inspirational books, but positivity seems to be the key ingredient and common attribute of bring a GOOD PERSON inside and out. what really matter is how you feel about yourself as human. Your positive self will automatically attract people's acceptance and approval of your character. People will get to know the real you through your positiveness.That's just it. Trying TOO hard is just a facade and fake.
*****




When will spring sprung here

SAMBARRY:
good night o

Don't forget to turn off the lights in the sitting room,corridors and kitchen. Check whether the gas cooker Is of and the electric cooker,lock the door and close the curtains

Good morning here o

Leave my wrapper kuilye I wan go hug my husband for bed. Dude's in wonderland

This is exactly why I don't like oversabi nose pokers especially when it comes to parenting. I'd rather read professional parenting blogs.

Nice one Ableguy

SAMBARRY:
lol

Orisirisi. That's your own parental style and I respect that however I will NEVER subscribe to such. If you ask me that kain yeye question it's my eyes that will do the talking

Egbe , I'm going to sleep jor, kisses to my Princess

SAMBARRY:
mayb when theyre all grown up and leave your house you will keep paying them for washing their clothes, cleaning their fridge,washing their car and arranging the cloths. Ogedenbaje lo elonpo

kuilye you'll never change oh. You stopped reading my post after the first paragraph

SAMBARRY:
That's good.bottomline just as there are no perfect persons there are no perfect parents. Parents raise their kids differently based on what they perceive as their reality. So the point is we should all endeavour not to raise overspoilt rotten brats buy intelligent, smart hardworking and domesticated kids instead of all this indomie agric fowls

Hmmm, BOTTOMLINE.. it's none of your beeswax since we have different last names

AND

I'll raise my brood as I deem , end of story abi dandan ni (na by force?) lol

SAMBARRY:
all this end time mother's dey vex me

I dey wait for wura make she grows fast con tell me mummy I can't wash the pots because you've not paid me

This is Nigeria o.I no dey for all this sme sme oyinbo style.

Actually, My first once asked me that when she was 4 or so , it was very funny coz others never did, sometimes I had to refund them when we are in the store and they needed to buy toys or treats,

that kid looveees money like crazy... We use same Apple ID and I dare not use her credit I tell you.

ableguy:
My dear nobody paid us ooo, if care is not taken we will pay for doing our chores.

My dear nobody paid us ooo, if care is not taken we will pay for doing our chores.

Hehe my bad, I thought you were referring to your mom.

edwife:
How about just telling them to do chores because it's a way of life? When you use something,you clean after yourself.

Pocket money is different from getting paid to clean after yourself. Otherwise we should also pay them for doing homework, going to school and sleeping.

I am good, yeah you have been MIA lately.You good?

Different strokes my dear

As a renowned Helicopter parent(kids call me that ) , I did what I had to do at the time. (I used to find it intrusive, utterly offensive & annoying , when other parents tell you how to raise your kids right, especially when noone is perturbed) , I saw it as a phase which was fun IMO. Kids used their savings on vacations and all that.

But you're right in your submission though. They must understand the essence of responsibility. Really , who wants to raise a couch potato brat considering the present world where accountability supasses everything else?

I'm great sweetheart, hope all is good in your end?

ableguy:
I see it that way too, the mum is always traveling. She has spent most of her life in USA. Maybe that's where she got the idea.

So to be clear , were you rewarded for chores? Are you condemning your mom's parenting skill?

If you do, no do whahala

Sambarry,easy oh

nothing really... I've to admit, did that for a long time coz I read it on different parenting blog as a great way to encourage children to start doing chores from early stages of life. (Rewards)

I still did that to ingrain chore doing into them until they're 6, then changed its cause & we call it 'pocket money' (weekly) which every child is entitled to.

You have to do your chores Abeg. We all have a part to play in a family.

Edwife , looong time

midayy:
Hello....

I'm Aramide, 27yrs, married, stay in lagos.

Favourite color is Black

Hobbies are movies, music and surfing the web

Welcome Midey , you are an epitome of Beauty. That said , have you remmited your dues £ to Tearoses?

Titilayooni:
This post was triggered by what a lady posted about a banker earlier and how he was been stingy..... Ladies!!! I really don't like the manner at which 98% of NL guys talk about our love for money. I think we need to start making things right,we shouldn't be too dependent on a guy. We should let them feel that whatever they do is a bonus.. When a man spends on you,ts a great feeling but when you spend on yourself babe,,,ts a boss feeling.... #teamnoliabilitytoaman#bosslady#kingofqueens#

Omo dada alalubarika, your parents will be proud of you. Cheers

All these brouhaha over a terrible 3 tantrum?

So what would you do if she says she Hates you when she starts high school ? Better enrol in Therapy asap.

teekay213:
i have an eight years old daughter that doesn't eat most of the food we cook like porridge,semo,amala,beans,etc she only eat selected food like rice or noodles and some weak food like cereals and it's also problem for my wife cooking her food seperately.what surprise me is her brother we both raise together eat all the meals we prepare.pls how can we make her eat all these food?

Which one be 'weak food' ? Rice No be food?(as long as you put dodo and chicken/meat) cereals are made from cornmeal , noodles from drum semolina unless she's celiac (gluten free- which I doubt coz she eats rice).

Welcome to my world

*dancing shoki*

familyrocks:
Change too, just start Ignoring him totally, in fact just live as Co tenants. And from your write up it seems he is not doing well financially and your still young so please the second option is leaving that marriage before you get pregnant

In Baba Oyo's style :

"Igi Da Eye FO"

Lawd help us from DIE-VORCE proponents.. Amin oh

OP.. Your husband isn't superhuman, he did what he had to to wife you and that's the mistake on his part; putting up his A game throughout your coutship without showing you his vulnerability/weakness. No offence but maybe the dude's still stuck with the wedding expenses hence his financial difficulties.
Since he's not being disrespectful, I'm gonna tell you to please calm down and talk to him. If he doesn't wanna hear it, give him space, and go back again when his face is fanimorous. You're still on the early phase of your Union and he's gonna have some hard time adjusting to some things , financially especially. This is not new.

Marriage is not ALL bed of roses. There ups and downs and unnecessary tantrums from your partner that'll struck your imagination like 'how the hell did we get here' moments.

Take care my dear.

WORK , TRAVEL ... REPEAT

jemype:
that one cant even handle registry booking. E b lyk say dey go pay ur groom price finally

*faints*

Alakoba tio n salamo .

tearoses:
LOL
I would have even thought they will say the opposite, that it the man who wants to kill the woman with work
Driving in Iyana Iba or iyana ipaja is not beans o!

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