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I just saw your mention Edwife

edwife:
Facebook is different from a personal phone,it is an open page.

She didn't even have his name saved on her phone,rather one Joshua.....she didn't even recognised him- now that a problem.
Why didn't he send his wishes on her Facebook wall like everybody? why her personal phone?

Of course they had underlying issues and i am pretty sure it has to do with the phone and a mysterious message.

I am belong to a school of thought that lump all forms of communication into one category sms inclusive. But I'll drop that topic for another thread.

@bold that Summed it all up. She's either a chronic cheat , her husband has trust issues or they're both kuku & looking for a way out of their man made hellhole they both called marriage.

Thanks

Tearoses... Gotcha , you're right text message seem too personal considering the 5years gap. So you'd prefer a Facebook chat?

Begs the Q, what's the difference between text message, whatapp, bbm, FB (messager) etc ?

But I can relate to that , A distant cousin continuously called me from Aussie # and I kept dismissing the calls coz I thought it was some random marketing stunt (you know USA & their cheap labour call centres). He sent me a message 'Hi , is this **( my name)', I blocked him. My dad had to call me to explain on his behalf I didn't even know he lives in Aussie.

Thanks

naijababe:
Oil less ayamase kwa?! You are on your own, make oyel police come and catch me na! Aye lamase ka to se orun o, shebi nor be everyday we dey chop am

Boil your quinoa with coconut milk, it is to die for.

@ Ewuro4, damiso don tell you, ibi ti a ti nje aye onigbin ni yen



We go know who tire first na

Ehnnn epele ohhh ... Aye onigbin.

Leave Damiso alone jare, she's doing oyinbo , who cooks ofada stew without excess oyel ... aye ti o pe meji.. Ma je nijekuje

I will eat a whole year's worth, You'll throw me out of your crib eventually

damiso:
Aberrrrdeeern (with Scottish accent ) Scotland

Next year for sure I go eat burst!

Tearoses & Edwife, I agree with you both I have oldies on FB that havent seen for over 10years but always exchange birthday wishes & comment on their timelines without any problem. I don't even know their marital status just like OP.
So are you implying I should cut them lose like that? (we learn everyday)

These aforementioned spouses in posters scenarios are just unsecured and have underlying issues in their marriages.

naijababe:
Come and visit Abz town and I will cook for you to your heart's desire

And where's this place?

edwife:
Eh eh eh let the Op answers this one o

I have an idea but just can't

Edwife OR what?


I can't

naijababe:
Blood of Jesus! Alatenuje

My middle name when it comes to food matter

naijababe:
Ewuro4!!! Ekun oko oke!

Obirin merindinlogun Lon keesi

Kinimotunshe oh

naijababe:
Spits on igbin and ponmo and Ewuro had no choice to handover back to the real owner

That is how an agbaya conquers

ordinary spit... Put sputum join, ajepo

#proudly walks off with my igbin, ponmo & iru#

edwife:
^^^^ Lol Ewuro4 don vex .
Maybe she is praying that the MIL decides not to come this time around or ........

Edwife I can't

damiso:
It is well dear

Funny enough some times you miss it when you eventually go back to work.My office overlooks a park and I had a pang of jealousy when I saw some mums playing with their lil ones in the parky today cos the weather was so nice. everything is a season.

I am a bit OCD and also cant stand to see disarray but these days I am learning what Yorubas call amojukuro before i could sweep and even mop sef 10 times a day.But now I pile up the mess and tidy it up like 1hr before bedtime I can't kee myself joor that's hubby's style when he is with them and I realise he is less stressed when he is with them I even found they prefer him staying with them sef cos he does not say 'tidy up' 'get down ' 'stop it' ' don't touch it' 100 times a day.

You noticed that too?

When your kid starts to ask why you arent dressed for work on your off day then there's FIRE ON THE MOUNTAIN

I stopped that looooong time ago. I tell other mothers to Chillax their muscles for Pilates or a quite walk.

Disarray is okay. dusty & dirty,(soiled) .. can't stand those.

Damiso, Hehe lol @ momsie , mothers esp actually enjoy raising kids in Nigeria compared to this place, that's why they have more children. Lot of less privileged relative kids are great help to the household. Even if you're okay here and opt for a Live in nannies sef , they will sign out after 8 hrs and additional worked hrs is overtime. Is that really worth it? That's why I said OP should subtly ask him for help and she'll be surprised. Raising children & keeping a good home requires ALL hands on deck in almost every household nowadays.

Your Dad was soo right how many buckets of water will suffice a whole household. we suffered for water in Naija oh even the well we had wasn't deemed drinkable so we only used it for flushing , wet flowers , wash gutters and laundry. we couldnt even bathe with it. The borehole was dug 3 times sef and you know how expensive that stuff was, and you have to do a repayment for subsequent service till its achieved.

I won't call that laziness , You are not lazy, just too laid back

FOR1234:
. God bless u for this sis
......I will try.......may GOd give me d grace cos it is not gonna be easy with two children...
. I just pray something should happen before my baby comes..

Cos I don't nid any help....if I cope with my first then I should dis time

What are you praying for to happen?
We know you 'don't need any help' ( your kinda person fume from your post sef) She's only doing all these for her son not you. It's her son's home too. Relax nobody's stealing your spoon.

naijababe:
Wa fo mo now You want igbin ati ponmo after you don call me agbaya finish

Hahaha odaa jor mabinu.. #Grabs igbin & dry ponmo from her#













Agbaya

fem29:
Thankss hun , may we all reap the fruits of our labour

Amen!!

naijababe:
You don't want igbin ati ponmo sisun?

Agbaya na me you dey do like this ehn , olorun wa

Okay oh I'll take those too

fem29:
Yes ooo you are soo right, it's mentally and emotionally tiring. I REALLY wish I could have gone back to work since but full time nursery for twins in London is ridiculously expensive. Thank God school starts in September. I love my girls but it has been a hellish 4 years

The lord is your strength. They are kuku worth the stress. Look at them.

Bollinger:
Yes. The quantity of tomato and habanero pepper is dependent on the quantity of green pepper. Irrespective of quantity, the ratio is usually 6:2 for tomato and 2:1 for habanero pepper. The Real secret is to make sure one boils the blend till all the liquid dries up before frying. Don't forget iru oooooo. Goodluck .

Thanks a mill. Na Iru you dey mention without an Aunty prefix? You're spoiled.

Naijababe will arrange iru for me as I'm completely out of Naija condiments

Say what happened Insecurity abound in many homes. An old time mate suddenly unfriended me on Facebook in the middle of serious business discussion and next person I saw on my Twitter was him again apologize for his wife's action. Say whaattt??!!! Asking me for business proposal( otunboroje).

Many innocent people get mugged and mudered by 'mysterious source'. God knows best but one has to be very smart.

Eng. Oduok, you meant well and God sees your intention, send an apology note via same addy to her hubby and NEVER contact her ever again. Block & erase her contact from your phones.

Bollinger:
Made this ayamase last week on the fly. Had to manage what i had. It's so hard to get ingredients over here.

Hi, so you only used green bell peppers & 2 cherry tomatoes and it turned out great?

Damiso... nostalgia, Water corporation all the way ni before dad got a bore hole too.

I agree to get help with water fetching but also talk to hubby in regards to being involved. Some men just don't like being forcefully summoned to doing stuff especially after a long day at work, you gonna have to tame them like a cat

We went to Disney store yesterday and saw this beautiful Cinderella dress ( beige one) , I checked the ptag and saw $120 , na head rub I began dey do, 'iwo naa sha ni baba won', oko mi, olowoori mi ale mi.

When a woman can't talk her husband effectively then something's wrong somewhere.

I must be one weird mom . I sleep late & wake up early.

Dyt

Madam, No I don't have one like yours because we worked together rather than see her as a stranger coz she's not my mom. These folks are old and not just there to serve you alone, it's a mini vaca for them too so have that in mind. Hehe you're funny, so you expect her be up @8am for what The earlier the better ladies understand the concept of marriage.

my MIL is not a morning person ( as the matter of fact most of them aren't) and since the baby doesn't have anywhere to go why bathe her early? so I sleep in wella and she takes care of the baby herself around noon after her morning devotion & coffee.

As per shaping the baby's head, do you have a problem with that? If you do then tell her point blank without being rude about it.

As per laundry, you don't have to form superwoman beyond your ability, do what you can coz she deeply understands you're a new mom, trust me she knows.

Lemme tell you , I've seen soo much new mom vs mil problems, I can't even begin to narrate them all, your approach & body language will determine her attitude around your home. Some women don't like anyone in their kitchen , MILs notice this and backs off hence their bad attitude, and since this is an obligation for them to care for their grandkids, their bad side began to emanate.

I know a new mom that cooks 4x a day coz she doesnt like strangers in her kitchen. If the mil needs an ordinary pap or tea, she rush in the kitchen will make it I tell ya. And I heard she gossiped about her mil being unhelpful, I just told the other ladies to ignore her coz she's a big fat liar. She hugs everything it was too uncomfortable to watch.
I can't , I dont freaking care just make me the damn food.

I've seen another mil from village that loves to watch Nollywood 24/7 and cares for her grandchildren but her dil detests it coz of power bills she was diven to the airport by her son after 6 weeks unnoticed. I heard she cried at the airport. Na real gobe waiting for that wife in Naija oh.

... And many many more.

So madam OP, Maybe you should check yourself first. And If you can't stand your MIL's presence in your home. Then don't . Good luck with that.

lexy2014:
Meaning it won't always b like this. its not bad belle. Its d truth

Mind yall own beeswax and pocket Yall so called TRUTH. What is always with you Nigerians and unsolicited advice? You have only 2 choices on this thread, Join the happy bandwagon or face front!

dwayni:
No offense you sound like an angry broke black man.

Shhhh don't decend to that mbok .... It's not their fault , NA economy.

PHEW !!

kaboninc:
So you do like him?

And why won't I ?

Well if it'll make you feel better, ask her why she always 'copy' your gifts ideas (jokingly). I for one don't see anything weird in this. People do this all the time.

crystalgem:
our toilet is made of white tiles, can't watch it go brown

Mine too all 4 of them, I don't wash them everyday. Take it easy jare.