₦airaland Forum

chineloSA:
one wonders if its compulsory to divulge your personal information? I think its pressure to fit in and be seen as a better somebody and low self esteem.

Buy hey, Nlnders lie like cheap carpert. But not every one though

Rogerdat you can say it's cheap and pressure to fit in. I think it's therapeutic in some sense.

I just finished reading a book. About social media and its impact on people's revelance and self worth. People crave that validation even if it's just momentary and from strangers.

Look at twitters, Instergram , Facebook etc I follow someone that literally update her weight loss everyday. That's a lot of pressure.

bebe2:
dats true o

But damn that cut is deep.

Stillfire:
Lol, the operative word has been bolded. Not many women can boast their husbands do half of them.

Oh shoot! Why did I mention that?

SAMBARRY:
Chaiii her accident sent shivers Down my spine bet e no hard to know person wey shalanga don master am. Just look at the squatting position you go know say the babe don dey use pit latrine for 20 years so to adjust to the conventional w.c hard am because she's not use to it.

Ewo baye shey ba idi fine girl yi je sha. No more jokolesho tins

No more jokolesho lady yi ti sign

coogar:
osinbajo should feel ashamed cos he is buhari's deputy(inferior).

Make him a congratulatory cake and write 'inferior' on it... He'll gladly eat the corner piece

To each and his owns.

Stillfire ... I can boast on behalf of my Westernized but traditional Nigerian husband does;2,3,5,6,7&8 regularly in your Chivary list

Coogar we have to find another synonym to represent that Word.

The paranoia & katatata wey e dey cause no get part 2.

When you're indeed sure of your capabilities and status.. No yeye word will move you.

That's why we tell them to get a JOB for starters.

bebe2:
scary stuff, even at home, i clean thoroughly before i seat.

imagine having 3 boys in the house, dem go use piss spray the toilet.

men are the main culprit

Hahahaha sis that's home, they can't help the rush. No vex

Public toilets are gendered na. Women are main culprit in that case. They get gut sef to climb that slippery ceramic .

bebe2:
father lord, pls help this lady oooo,

choi, see injury, i just hope this is not nigeria.

poor girl was probably scared of toilet infect

People do that a lot sis. They splash pee all over the toilet seat.

That's what seat protectors are there for but they won't use it.

God help her. Lesson learned.

Gosh.

Nifemiolu congratulation

Idowuogbo:
omg!! she looks massive in that outfit mehn...Jeez! What was the wardrobe team thinking? Too much fabric abeg! The style made the poor woman look larger than life itself. This wan na make-under. Makeup and hair on point tho! Lola is a cutie....love her style.

Hahaha ID abeg I no fit laugh.

TooNoisy:
But you just said in a previous post that women should not necessarily desire a man or marriage. So why should we teach our daughters to desire marriage at all? Seems you not very sure of your own stand.

Feminism itself teaches women to be self sufficient in all things and not necessarily desire marriage. In order words, we need to stop teaching our daughters to desire marriage.

By the way, the right reason is very very subjective. What you think is right varies alot.

This is what Nigerians don't get about the "married Feminists".... I honestly see them as a Fraud. Let's say it as it is, Marriage is a sociatal status thing. Every woman desire marriage, the moment he puts a ring on it, your decisions are joint.

A feminist can wake up and travel to kafancha while a married woman can't.

all4naija:

Keep it like that.

Stillfire:
I respect your own stance too. I don't believe masculinity is superior to femininity. Neither is a husband superior to a wife. The dictionary clearly explains what those terms mean. When we allude to the superiority of men, we allude to our inferiority.
However at the moment, since we live in a patriarchal society, are we just going to keep quiet? Absolutely not. We can start from what structures are put in place to protect womanhood? And how are they enforced? I cannot leave it in the hands of a patriarchal system that would rather I kept quiet because their egos are getting crush.

Thank you.

We can argue about those terms till blue on the face but as it stands in Nigerian culture Men are superior (in family setting) end off. Does that make the other gender inferior? It depends on how you envisage it. Motola jalade is a successful woman and not a feminist, so that automatically makes him superior right? is she inferior to him?

@keeping quite, absolutely Not. I believe we got our priorities mixed up here, what Nigerian women should clamour for is Female empowerment and Equal opportunities, FGM abolition , equal pay( if there's any).
Fighting for breadwinnership, control & power in marriage is the least of our problems as it stands.
Feminism never going to work. (Sorry I kept saying it).

Let's agree to disagree on this one. I'm a lady with few words.

VictoriaBee:
Why are you obsessed with her?

Are you a lesbian?

Royalroy please warn this kid to watch her unflossed mouth here. Adults are having a discourse here not teenagers.

Stillfire:
I will tell you why. Because we see men as culturally superior to women. Don't you think something is wrong with this attitude and if we should look at the reversal statement on that premise it translates that females are inferior to males. Damn!

Hmm
I don't see anything wrong with the attitude. Superiority & Inferiority are both subjective terms.
Feminists made the word frivolous and berating.

I respect what you stand for though.

raumdeuter:
Child support, child marriage, domestic violence, child labour, female mutilation, girl child education are the major things I think African female should be fighting for not the who wash plates, who cook, and the self serving agenda

Absolutely ridiculous.
I think our government is working on them... We'll get there.

Stillfire.. Feminism is never gonna work in Nigerian Family setting.

blessedapple:

Leave slimy alone jare & stop teasing him

This is not a man vs woman thread and I would hate for this thread to decend to that. This is just a platform to express our opinion.

Why should a Feminist feel berated or small because she's not married , divorced and free?

I really don't like discussing this topic but your post is catchy!

"The problem is not the gender , is the culture"

What does Nigerian culture depicts? Let's take a look at 2/3 commonly discussed examples..


1. Submissiveness in marriage.
2. Male superiority.

These ^^ are no doubt our culture in every region ... Soooo *sighs* what was your point again? Oh pay scale. That's just the least of Nigerian Feminist problems. For starters , they don't want to be answerable to anybody. Don't dictate what their choices should be. Simple as that. So in other words they have a cause. And that's just the tip of the iceberg but I'm making supper in between so no time.

And Please forget the pseudo feminists clowning around when discussing Feminism. Frankly, I don't take those serious atall. I call them 'shoe shiners'. When you see , hear & read a Feminist , you'll know. Period.

Add on: still on family. you're right , the acclaimed Feminists you mentioned in your original post do not have husbands.The married feminists are what Nigerians don't get. I pondered on the whole System and it is just not possible to be your own person in a working relationship, it's not. Every decision must be joint. So what's the independence in that? It's either you have an open marriage or remain single. Besides being related to as his equal, every woman wants to be treated like well, a woman. That's the dynamics of marriage under normal circumstances. I've read many articles about Feminist men and I don't see any form of endearment about them. The woman may as well stay single, hire a sperm donor and wear her well deserved T-shirt.

Do I believe in equal opportunities? Hell yeah. Do I believe we are equal Absolutely NOT. But that's just me.

Contd.

Partition

Jadonjack:
YES I AM

Then there's absolutely nothing wrong with that food portion. Put more stew ( vitamins, vegetables , fats& oils) next time to have a more balanced diet. And eat more fruits later to aid digestion that's all.

Men have an average of 50% more muscle mass than women and muscles requires more calories to sustain. ( Yahoo)

Don't let anybody's opinion ( office goons) downcast your self worth. Most of the large portioned heavy food we (women) post on NL were our husband's as men use up more energy than women. Also our body mass , same way you feed a two year old less than an eight year old diff food portions.

We have lunch rooms big mouthed goons all over the world so I'm not surprised. when I see a 6.5ft man, it's a no brainer to conclude what sustains his physique.

Nothing do you!

The landscape is green , that's a plus.