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luminouz:
He didn't sleep around with them. He is a virgin.

Did you read his post at all? Una men dey taya me sometimes sha.

Don't mind the simpleton

Nyascobar1414:
Men, the society(women) doesnt love you.. Do things that will benefit men not women...

And not siissy men but realistic men..


If you say something that makes men look bad and makes women look good, people dont care(they rather applaud you)...But, If you say something that makes women look bad and makes men look good, people explode in rage and anger. The People in this context are both men and women.

The world we live in

ManOfSon:
Any man who cannot hold it together, cannot maintain sanity in the face of even the vilest provocation; if he thinks anger from a woman's verbal abuse is sufficient justification for physical violence - he should enjoy his life by himself, unmarried. Not everyone is mature enough for marriage. And marriage is not by force.

Another simp spotted

cerpvad:
I remember the day she threw verbal biles at me, I went inside and started throwing her belongings outside the door. She became paranoid and since then she had never raised her voice at me.

One cow for you

cerpvad:
I remember the day she threw verbal biles at me, I went inside and started throwing her belongings outside the door. She became paranoid and since then she had never raised her voice at me.

One cow for you

Electrochemistry:
Marriage was largely a huge success in the past and this past was a time so ancient and so little recalled. Today, with the exception of few success that we can point out, it's more or less a monumental failure as a lion share of married people invariably end up in remorse.

Infact marriage today is almost like an invitation letter addressed to the devil himself.
Shall we pretend that marriage is all bear and skittles when in fact the internet is full of horrendous testimonies from the world of the married?
In today's marriage, cheating and infidelity is very normal; you won't even be taken seriously if you complain about this.

In the end you are not better than those who adopt babies because you may find out later that all you call your children belong to someone else. Is that not horrible already.

Marriage will lead many people to hell because nobody is living up to the sacred vows made at the altar. Everybody does as they please. It's therefore better to leave marriage alone if you know you will not be faithful to these sacred vows. It is better for you to make heaven as a single than to burn eternally in hell fire with wife and children because of marriage you may not even enjoy.

The institution of marriage is fast becoming one that cannot be sustained giving the fact that the key elements holding it, trust, Love and loyalty are fast deteriorating on daily bases.
Time will come when majority will begin to subscribe to contract marriage rather than the ecclesiastical one that is based on sentimental values.

Deep

Imbecilicsamuel:
They can't take what they dish out.

Do you know the verbal abuse women face from men on a daily basis?

Use nairaland as an example. Look at the insults males here hurl at females and they are not married oo. The moment they see (f) close to your moniker, your opinion no longer matters.

Go to Facebook, the same thing. One inventless bat even tried bullying me on quora. I insulted the fool and he ran to the admin. My comment was deleted.

It's what you teach that the women practice so
Oga remove your d1ck from your mouth and just shut up!!!!

Madam not Oga because you're an effeminate man. Most women reason their emotions and subdue with victim card and emotional blackmail and selfishness and that is why they are never taken seriously.

worldclass68:
I don't know why people see divorce as a big sin in Nigeria....
If marriage is not working again, why can't they go their separate ways? Why staying with an abusive partner and eventually having heart attack and die like that?

And women re mostly the architects of these problems....and they re the ones who play the victim cards..
Men gain absolutely nothing in marriage, Nothing!!!
Wife would make u deserted ur own siblings while hers may come around anytime...she will make the children see the family from the father side as threat cuz of properties....
I was always on momma's side concerning the dad's family issues until I came to realize what lies ahead 9f me too and how women re just being manipulative and selfish...nothing more!!

Except for the surname, men has nothing to gain in marriage....
If eventually I get married and wife tries one nonsense with me...to her papa house straight I no won hear anything from any pastor or anybody.....

Thumbs up

VULCAN:
Your husband has a woman outside who speaks to the King inside of him.

What is saving you is that the woman is not after your seat.

Also he loves the kids and wouldn't want to leave them in your care as you will destroy them with your tongue

God bless that lady for she is the one keeping him sane and happy.

God bless you

Pastorsmile:
Women are good and well behaved only when they haven't got into your home. Once you get married to them,you will begin to see their real colour. My advice to young men is that they should be very careful not to rush into a fruitless journey in the name of marriage.
Women respect you when you haven't committed that much. Once you do, forget about it.

You've said it all.

relaxandsmile:
Since men have decided to leave reality for illusion, they will continue to be at the receiving end. FOLLOW THE LINE OF A HAUSA MAN WHEN DEALING WITH AN ABUSIVE WOMAN and be happy with your life oh men.
Incase you don't know the way of a Hausa man, it is SEKI (Divorce) straight away.
If a woman knows you can tow that path anytime in your relationship, she will think twice.
How can you toil so hard to build a home and someone is making it a nightmare for you?!

Good point

Kooldame:
May our children not come across some boy-men,immature billy goats that can make marriage frustrating, no matter how you value them and make them feel secured they will prove they don't deserved to be loved by displaying their animalistic behaviour to their hardworking career wives,only divine intervention can change them from cheating,keeping malice,stinginess,and all sort of negative attitude that can turn their women to fierce looking wolves who are ready to devour and rainstorm their heads with words that pierce more than swords.

This thread is not for your selfish prayers.

Moneyboyz:
I almost sent my wife packing yesterday because of this verbal abuse issue.
What happened?
I went out to buy bread and kept my phone at the top of the shoe rack cause I know she will want to go through it.

Immediately I came back she started nagging and shouting calling me names saying I'm hiding something by hiding my phone cause she can hear it ringing when she called it.

It went on and on before she sparked a plug in my brain. I was this close to taking my kid to my mom and sending her away.
If you hit her now story will change.

No woman born of a woman will dare nah or challenge my authority. She'll regret every bit of it.

Imbecilicsamuel:
Then don't talk about others taking corrections when you can't yourself. Who are you?

Lol, you are a joker. Am I the one you're supposed to be correcting? Abeg take that elsewhere jare.

Murphyenemuwe:
Lol... When I was much Younger I questioned so many things foolishly. Like how will you tell me I must not disclose my earnings to my partner? Then why did God say we're one and not two? Mumu me. Not married tho but to form faithful guy I go post my paycheck to my girl. She was supportive to be sincere. But the moment she knew money was flowing in she just has this desire to ask Everytime. She's working o. I learnt that lesson the bitter way. Before we broke up if na 10 naira be contract wey enter I go tell am 2 naira. A war was waged against marriage the moment they conceived in their hearts men and women should be equal. They were never meant to be equal. As weird as this may sound, women were never created to have power. I'm talking in the confines of marriage. Submit to your husbands and husbands should love the wife. Civilization changed the rules and we shouldn't expect the same result

Thanks for your input Sir. Happy Easter.

ukaface:
really, I don't.

Money, sex, comfort, status, little or no responsibilities, security, children.... the list is endless.

BigBashiru:
Marriage benefits women more.... when you get married u sign up to take care of an expired olosho all ur life..... u sign up to take care of her financially all her life.... that's why they love it and that's why the financial stress is too much for men ....

You've said it all boss.. happy easter

Imbecilicsamuel:
Oh, what were you expecting her to say? That domestic violence is justified?

Take corrections and move on.

Who are you both to correct me?

ibechris:
Envy kill u there...

U should be more ashamed for not having any good story in your life to tell.
Well,I don't usually reply frustrated people before I will add to your problem.

Lol, what is there in you that is worth being envied? Being a slave to a woman? (Laughs) well it's pointless to reply you further.

ukaface:
what are the benefits?

Of course you know the benefits .

Uziyl:
Most times you see in Hollywood and Nollywood movies where it's ok for the actress to slap the actor over some arguments but if it is the other way around the actor will be termed a villain or woman beater. This makes me wonder what sort of message they are portraying. If any girl slaps me because of one emotional baggage or mood swings she's carrying on her head. Omo. I will slap mine back. Let's both respect each other

I support the bolded and will gladly do same or throw her out in split seconds. Nonsense mustn't be absorbed but expelled.

placeofallure:
Family nuances.

Every marriage with its peculiarities. All kinds of abuses physical, emotional, verbal and the rest of them boils down to our inability to properly communicate in the house. Communication isn't just opening and closing your mouth.

There'll always be misgivings committed by either of the partners. Now if your spouse does something bad, address that issue, ONLY that issue, proffer solution if you can. It ends there. Don't bring the history of how his uncle was like that, or reminding her about how all her sisters are divorced ....how he did the same thing last century and blablabla... Women are more guilty here. That is what annoys the man and if he lacks self control, your guess is as good as mine.

Many men in my opinion are immature. You need to nurture them the way you would your 5-year old. If women understand this, there'll be peace.

That's not an excuse to misbehave notwithstanding. If you are not up to it as a man, don't marry. A man should be able to make informed choices that is best for his family. These failings or shortcomings are the things that infuriate a woman. And if she has an unbridled tongue, reeling begins. Plus men have this ego problem. It's not a taboo to see a wife more sensible than the husband. Men, know this and know wisdom. As a man, you could borrow sense if yours is inadequate. It doesn't make you less of a man. You're to complement each other. Marriage is not a competing ground.

God save our marriages.

Lol, a waste of time reading this.

MadamVanessa:




Inasmuch as I kick strongly against domestic violence against women. But if we want to be objective and look critically into most of domestic violence carried by men on women, we'll see that about 68% of it are caused by women.

The way and Manner wives talk at their husbands is always sad, and it's enough to make a sane man go insane immediately and unleashed his anger on the wife through beating.

Men should learn how to control their anger, because when you lay your hands on a woman, the society don't want to know the level of insult the woman gave you, all the blame will be on you.

You started well here but failed to advise your gender appropriately.

Sureplug123:
Oga Man Up! Who is Dangote's wife? Are you richer than Dangote? Are you more responsible? Are you more committed?

Most of the richest Men in the world are either single or divorced.

Your points are just pointless

Most wimps are naturally weak and foolish men like the okoro you just quoted

sgtponzihater1
Below is the link to the redpill thread. It'll be of help

https://www.nairaland.com/6048178/reality-every-guy-need-know

annyz:
Buying house in your wife name?

Congratulations!!!

leave him jare, don't worry your soul. It's only a matter of time before the chameleon changes her colours to suit her selfcentredness

ukaface:
A quick question though
And I hope I get answered.
Why is it that most males are the ones that keep complaining and regretting marriage?

Because it is a scam to men as there is nothing beneficial exclusively to them while for women it is like a partnership where she is a nominal partner yet enjoys most if not all benefits without any actual stake in the partnership and takes all upon dissolution of the partnership.

Spanki:
The crazy idea of looking for a rich man as husband under the auspices of being a faithful Christian has dominated today's churches, and it is nothing but a fallacy! And it has portrayed marriage as nothing but a scam, because such ladies when things turn south, you will definitely know her true colours! And I pity a man that is not *STRONG* when such unfortunate circumstance befalls you.

Men... Be wiser! Happy Easter

God bless you. Happy Easter

Reference:
Selfish man that hates responsibility.
By the way, may I ask how you came into the world... okay you didn't ask to...

All these awon woke feminists only use emotional blackmail, play victim card and insults to buttress their point. That's all they do.

advanceDNA:
The guy was just lucky to find a good supporting striker as a wife...thats why he's caping anyhow

Yes, I just hope and pray it doesn't change colours like the chameleon. Some marriages were once sweet until some wives unleashed the dragon.

Hathor5:
Edited

Now that I have read the entire story, I have this to say. You blame that other people tricked you into marriage by saying that marriage life was sweet. Your experience was bitter though.

Did you ask those people how they made their marriages sweet? Or did you believe it takes a wedding ceremony for a marriage to be sweet?

You say that your single life was awesome. Did the things you were enjoying before you got married fall from heaven? Or had you worked for them?

Why do you people put so much effort into their careers but believe that a good relationship/marriage must fall from heaven? Why are people willing and ready to go the extra mile for their career goals but not for their marriages/relationships/families?

The truth is: if you want your marriage/relationship to be sweet, be ready to work for it.

I wish those other people would have told you that too.

It's balderdash like the bolded that they use in turning effeminate men to Simps. What happened to the woman working for it? Selfish lots.

odinson1:
Buying a property in your wife's name is a benefit to you? What nonsense is this?
Common sense will tell you that The wife is will be the owner of said property, so once again,the man benefits nothing.

Don't waste your precious time arguing with him. Let him continue living in his folly and illusion