Kriss216:

God bless you brother.

If na for you, no Nigerian girl will marry

You and that guy eeeh, no joy

luminouz:
You finally said something sensible
I'm shocked!!!

I'm also shocked he said something ever sensible

cerpvad:
I remember the day she threw verbal biles at me, I went inside and started throwing her belongings outside the door. She became paranoid and since then she had never raised her voice at me.

you are among the men that thing with their brain and not d!ck

I remember then when a pastor's wife was saying that 'nagging is d ministry of women' that if they fail to nag thst 'God wont be pleased with them ' as they will be seen as fsiled in there responsibility.
Imagine!!!
Anyways I always let her know too that such a woman if unlucky with a man careless with his fist, d woman go dey collect always.

placeofallure:
Family nuances.

Every marriage with its peculiarities. All kinds of abuses physical, emotional, verbal and the rest of them boils down to our inability to properly communicate in the house. Communication isn't just opening and closing your mouth.

There'll always be misgivings committed by either of the partners. Now if your spouse does something bad, address that issue, ONLY that issue, proffer solution if you can. It ends there. Don't bring the history of how his uncle was like that, or reminding her about how all her sisters are divorced ....how he did the same thing last century and blablabla... Women are more guilty here. That is what annoys the man and if he lacks self control, your guess is as good as mine.

Many men in my opinion are immature. You need to nurture them the way you would your 5-year old. If women understand this, there'll be peace.

That's not an excuse to misbehave notwithstanding. If you are not up to it as a man, don't marry. A man should be able to make informed choices that is best for his family. These failings or shortcomings are the things that infuriate a woman. And if she has an unbridled tongue, reeling begins. Plus men have this ego problem. It's not a taboo to see a wife more sensible than the husband. Men, know this and know wisdom. As a man, you could borrow sense if yours is inadequate. It doesn't make you less of a man. You're to complement each other. Marriage is not a competing ground.

God save our marriages.

Look at how this one just put all the blame on Men.

JovialJune:
Cause and effect;

You experienced an aftermath response to a provocation and you concluded it is the women's fault? So the wives in your scenarios simply woke up one day with insults unprovoked? Why didn't you ask the man what made his wife hatred-filled to insult him like that?

You men claim to be the head, protector, and all other duties required of you, and because you see this as a privilege to exercise control on another human, you expect no reaction? You think this is the 18th century?

Even the Bible gave simple instructions to husband and wives to have a peaceful loving home: husband love your wife, and wife submit to your husband, that's all, so if you men wholeheartedly love your wife, the submission comes naturally, but men want to eat your cake and still have, you all shout submission from now till tomorrow but will not do your bit first which is to love your wife.

You will cheat, disregard, degrade, provoke your wives and expect them to swallow it all calling it endurance, then claim your stupid nature of being polygamous to a woman that never had any agreement with you to have multiple wives or be a community diick, and you expect peace? Na there will be no peace, so it is either you both divorce or you live with the carelessness of your wandering spirit and also endure in the marriage like she is enduring or you kill yourselves in the process,

If you want to have the monopoly of stupidity, don't get married and be a baby papa, marriage is not for everyone, after all there are still millions of married people in this country enjoying the sanctity of their union and living in love and peace because they both worked and are still working together to keep it going well, so miss me with your bullshit write up of women bla bla, you men are always the root cause of whatever verbal insults you get from your wives.

Wowwww!

This one also follow for women way person go marry

Tufiakwa

donleo92:

Everybody is hung up on domestic abuse by men against women. Nobody spares a moment to find solutions to the equally devastating verbal abuse men suffer in the hands of their wives. It is worse because men can't discuss what their wives do to them for fear of scorn and derision. They suffer in silence. Timebomb.

Unfortunately, the Nigerian society has little or no support systems for this kind of situation. Little or no counselling services. It's been mostly left to the church to deal with. What happens when the man doesn't go to church? What happens when the woman doesn't believe in spiritual intervention? These women are raising daughters. Their daughters are hearing and seeing how they speak to and treat their husband. What kind of wives will they grow up to become? Those that treat their husbands as kings or those that believe husbands are nothing but verbal punching bags?

We've all agreed and rightfully so that a man has no business hitting his wife. So how then do you stop a wife raining verbal missiles at you? Leave the house? Okay. But you'll return and it will continue. What next? Leave again? For how long?

Recently, I visited a senior friend, an important man in the society and while we were downstairs gisting, the voice of his wife could be heard upstairs. She was spewing unimaginable bile against the man. She called him all sorts of unprintable names. Impotent, wretched fool, miserable man that was nothing when she married him, etc. This is a well respected man. A father of 4 children. She tore at his very core and mocked everything society respected him for. She said he'd soon crash and she'll be there to laugh at him.

I was so uncomfortable as I beheld the man. He was shrunken before me. He was deflated. He tried to gamefully continue the gist to distract me but it was not working. The woman's vitriol was a ceaseless torrent. Uncomfortable silence ensued. I excused myself and left his house.

I was really sad.

You want to know the truth? This is what most men go through in their houses. They labour and toil and build respect but when they return home, the one who ought to speak to the king in them tears them to shreds and tries to deflate their self-esteem. When they are outside, they try to act cheerful and happy but back home, they are shrivelled because the person they live with makes it a point of duty to verbally assault them.

A sad story comes to mind. There was recently a Nigerian Ambassador who was recalled because his wife released a story to the press that he beat her. She also released pictures showing fresh injuries on her body ostensibly inflicted by the man.

In a dramatic twist, their children came out to debunk the stories and said their mother faked the injuries to embarrass their dad. Grown up children.

A particular sentence by the 1st son saddened me. He said it was as if their mum woke up every morning with one mission in life: how to make their dad miserable. They said they were witnesses to how their mum constantly harassed and abused their dad and wanted the whole world to know that their dad was not who their mum was painting him to be.

Yes, opinion shifted on the scandal but the damage had been done. The Ambassador was recalled and nobody heard from him again.

A family is currently at odds with the widow of their son and brother. The wife was constantly verbally assaulting him. Nobody wanted to visit them because each time they were around, it was always quarrel and the wife would call him unprintable names. Even in their presence. When they try to interfere, she will give them their own. The man died recently of heart-attack caused by high blood pressure. He was in his late 40s. The family insists his wife sent him to his early grave with her verbal torments.

Our bars are filled with men who are afraid to go home to their wives for fear of what verbal torment they will go through. Men are finding every excuse to travel because they'll rather be anywhere than in their own homes.

Everybody is focusing on men as culprits in domestic abuse. Who is talking to the women?

I so agree with you sir. Marriage no be by force!

Kingsean:



the guy is just a confused being. he says women are useless but he's also a useless person for sleeping around with married women. imagine the pot calling the kettle black

My brother the thing tire me o

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donleo92:

Everybody is hung up on domestic abuse by men against women. Nobody spares a moment to find solutions to the equally devastating verbal abuse men suffer in the hands of their wives. It is worse because men can't discuss what their wives do to them for fear of scorn and derision. They suffer in silence. Timebomb.

Unfortunately, the Nigerian society has little or no support systems for this kind of situation. Little or no counselling services. It's been mostly left to the church to deal with. What happens when the man doesn't go to church? What happens when the woman doesn't believe in spiritual intervention? These women are raising daughters. Their daughters are hearing and seeing how they speak to and treat their husband. What kind of wives will they grow up to become? Those that treat their husbands as kings or those that believe husbands are nothing but verbal punching bags?

We've all agreed and rightfully so that a man has no business hitting his wife. So how then do you stop a wife raining verbal missiles at you? Leave the house? Okay. But you'll return and it will continue. What next? Leave again? For how long?

Recently, I visited a senior friend, an important man in the society and while we were downstairs gisting, the voice of his wife could be heard upstairs. She was spewing unimaginable bile against the man. She called him all sorts of unprintable names. Impotent, wretched fool, miserable man that was nothing when she married him, etc. This is a well respected man. A father of 4 children. She tore at his very core and mocked everything society respected him for. She said he'd soon crash and she'll be there to laugh at him.

I was so uncomfortable as I beheld the man. He was shrunken before me. He was deflated. He tried to gamefully continue the gist to distract me but it was not working. The woman's vitriol was a ceaseless torrent. Uncomfortable silence ensued. I excused myself and left his house.

I was really sad.

You want to know the truth? This is what most men go through in their houses. They labour and toil and build respect but when they return home, the one who ought to speak to the king in them tears them to shreds and tries to deflate their self-esteem. When they are outside, they try to act cheerful and happy but back home, they are shrivelled because the person they live with makes it a point of duty to verbally assault them.

A sad story comes to mind. There was recently a Nigerian Ambassador who was recalled because his wife released a story to the press that he beat her. She also released pictures showing fresh injuries on her body ostensibly inflicted by the man.

In a dramatic twist, their children came out to debunk the stories and said their mother faked the injuries to embarrass their dad. Grown up children.

A particular sentence by the 1st son saddened me. He said it was as if their mum woke up every morning with one mission in life: how to make their dad miserable. They said they were witnesses to how their mum constantly harassed and abused their dad and wanted the whole world to know that their dad was not who their mum was painting him to be.

Yes, opinion shifted on the scandal but the damage had been done. The Ambassador was recalled and nobody heard from him again.

A family is currently at odds with the widow of their son and brother. The wife was constantly verbally assaulting him. Nobody wanted to visit them because each time they were around, it was always quarrel and the wife would call him unprintable names. Even in their presence. When they try to interfere, she will give them their own. The man died recently of heart-attack caused by high blood pressure. He was in his late 40s. The family insists his wife sent him to his early grave with her verbal torments.

Our bars are filled with men who are afraid to go home to their wives for fear of what verbal torment they will go through. Men are finding every excuse to travel because they'll rather be anywhere than in their own homes.

Everybody is focusing on men as culprits in domestic abuse. Who is talking to the women?

[/s]Nonsense as usual.

Me that still want to learn how to abuse abi shey verbally defend myself ni.



Men should be strong nah after all they are the Superior.

BigYash:
You dey mind them.. Most of them are wives in their homes,while the wife is the husband.. I saw one saying he saved his money in his wife's account, on another marriage topic on FP. I just dey laugh am. D day e go happen to am,na here the story go see come..

Omo...I saw that comment and I was like so some men are still stupid in year 2022...The confidence he even used in posting it was top-notch, I can't help but weep for that Uncle in advance

dacblogger:

No, by the time you eventually marry,cos I'm sure no woman in her right senses will want to marry a fool like you... Na your wife go dey beat you.
He goat

shut up ode.. this clearly shows the kind of stupid woman you are. Just thank God you’re not married to a man like me. See a she Dey talk nonsense with full confidence . You for collect wotowoto
If you can’t guide your tongue and expecting a man like me to swallow your bullsht, body go tell you ..
Mumu omo

BigYash:
You dey mind them.. Most of them are wives in their homes,while the wife is the husband.. I saw one saying he saved his money in his wife's account, on another marriage topic on FP. I just dey laugh am. D day e go happen to am,na here the story go see come..

lol so you saw that dumb post too. I wanted to reply the guy , I just let it slide cos I believe a simp is irredeemable

Society sef dey mad .. me and my boys will never be the weak men the society is trying to create.

dacblogger:
I will not lie, I dey insult Sha and if not for the kind of man my hubby is, him for don.commit suicide because of the things I tell him.
But the truth is that, I'm a very emotional person and I'm easily angered. Infact my hubby is the most annoying human being on planet Earth...
He has a way of getting at you and he does that on a daily basis .
So when he does that, I try to hold in the anger for days but when I can't hold it anymore, I explode... When I'm done telling him all those things, I feel better.
So you see , Venting is my coping mechanism.
We women we DNT do that intentionally, that is just our own way of expressing the anger that we have held for so long.
May God help each and everyone one of us Sha.

You're a learner beside my wife.

afamaustin:
Men are waking up.we are passing a whole lot from our wife from verbal abuse. How do we go about it.who will rescue us.
Most men die in the process of thinking about their wife verbal Abuse.

What can I say? May their souls rest in peace.

Nonexisting:
Married men keep saying that marriage is sweet so they should enjoy it and quit disturbing the cyberspace with tears.

no mind them.

Kriss216:

God bless you brother.

You dat is loving mariangeles .

You think say I no d look you.

MadamVanessa:




Inasmuch as I kick strongly against domestic violence against women. But if we want to be objective and look critically into most of domestic violence carried by men on women, we'll see that about 68% of it are caused by women.

The way and Manner wives talk at their husbands is always sad, and it's enough to make a sane man go insane immediately and unleashed his anger on the wife through beating.

Men should learn how to control their anger, because when you lay your hands on a woman, the society don't want to know the level of insults the woman gave you, all the blame will be on you and almost everybody including your fellow men would see you as a very irresponsible person.

I was in a bus and I heard two women talking in their late 30s, and one woman said that the worst thing a man can do is to.beat a woman and I wanted to slap the living daylight out of her then I remembered I was not directly confrontated by her and doesn't require a physical assault but in.my mind I called that stupid girl all sorts of names, slowpoke, olosho, gold digger, prostitute and all sorts of unprinted words in.my head, to be honest the worst thing a man can do is to let a woman verbally abuse him and let his only life t be miserable, some people live like they av two lives so.if.they die they can come back and live another one, shout out to all the men that are enduring marriage from a nagging and verbally abuse girl cos of their children and I want to tell u that as soon as ur children are grown up u have every right to file for a divorce

.

.. I have never hit a woman and in marriage I don't intend to but I have observed some marriages with verbal abuse from women and I'm beginning to think can I really control my self to not hit an abusive woman.. my take on this is that anytime this verbal abuse is getting to where you can no longer control yourself as a man please do your best to separate from this woman before you kill her unintentionally.. I say this even as a Christian and advice the one who separate not to even remarry.. and if a woman is not satisfied with your provision for the family rather than result to abusing the man pack and leave and go find your dream satisfaction elsewhere.. thank you

Until the idea of gender supremacy or inferiority is shelved, the violence will continue.

Humans are made equal in honour and should see, and regards themselves as such.

A human should not consider herself inferior because she happens to inhabit a female body neither should a male considers himself superior for inhabiting a male body. You could have had either body.

Until we start treating ourselves as equal, and stop chasing religious rights then there's no much hope for anyone.


As a male, ask yourself, what it you're born a female, how okay will it be for you being subdued and controlled?

As a female, ask yourself, what if you're born a male, how okay will it be for you to be condemned to heartbreaking financial responsibilities?

From this view things can be made right. But from the view of tent-pitching, like the OP is doing, no progress will be made.

Slynation:
Omo...I saw that comment and I was like so some men are still stupid in year 2022...The confidence he even used in posting it was top-notch, I can't help but weep for that Uncle in advance

D guy doesn't know what he is doing..

seanwilliam:
lol so you saw that dumb post too. I wanted to reply the guy , I just let it slide cos I believe a simp is irredeemable

Yes o.. That guy never understand women,he will learn with time..

Jeferious:
We are gradually getting there...that era where marriage would be unattractive to all and sundry. Na "boyfriend" and "girlfriend" till the death parts the couple.

But this my gender sef...if women are economically empowered more than men in our current society, you'd be shocked at how they'd thrash the idea of marriage. But since it's the other way round, they won't want to lose grip on the "cows" they are milking emotionally, psychologically, sexually and most importantly, financially. How men don't still get this memo up till now shocks me. Maybe some of them do, but their sexual thirst clouds their reasoning till it becomes their undoing.

The world is MAD. Everyone is playing safe in other not to get hurt. I don't see why the institution of marriage, as we know it to be today, should not be extinct by the next 50 years. I expect other forms of male-female relationship that won't require such high level of commitment to displace it.

@bolded
U couldn't have said it any better...

BigYash:
D guy doesn't know what he is doing..

E go soon clear for e eye...

Slynation:
E go soon clear for e eye...

I swear

JovialJune:
You experienced an aftermath response to a provocation and you concluded it is the women's fault? So the wives in your scenarios simply woke up one day with insults unprovoked? Why didn't you ask the man what made his wife hatred-filled to insult him like that?

bastardmod:

Wowwww!
This one also follow for women way person go marry
Tufiakwa

Modern women are bottom feeders, only happy when sucking your blood. Hence the hatred for mummy boys, or big sis fav bro. You can't feed of those type of men.

Was on thread yesterday, a woman explained how she had to threaten her elder brother's abusive wife. Ever since ... peace.

Imbecilicsamuel:


Oh, what were you expecting her to say? That domestic violence is justified?

Take corrections and move on.

Who are you both to correct me?

dacblogger:

Did I tell you this is an excuse... This is an act I am trying to stop. I am not making excuses for myself.
Read to understand please and not to comment.

This one is just the Damage control of your first post...