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One should learn how to get up from the table when love is no longer served---Nina Simone.
sometimes, when it is actually over,what hurts most is not that it's actually over, but rather that feeling in the bottom of your stomach that you somehow knew but ignored, that he/she isn't right for you but you still decide to give it a trial and waste your time.

Toke, this is a fresh start, make the best use of it and make it count

uboma:
lol.


listen to my own story....


I purchased frozen Chicken at Sahad stores in Abuja.


At home, I discovered that the Gizzard was missing.


I was so pained that to this day, I do not buy frozen chicken anymore.


I buy the live ones and slaughter same myself when I have the time.

Oh my Sahad
live chicken anyday anytime, the taste is different and the difference is in the taste

If its not a cooked story, then the sis didn't do well, screwing your sisters ex....but I think it should be an indoor thing not calling your sis out on the social media..that's bitch like

freeze001:
So, mere verbal provocation is some kinda justification to shoot at an unarmed man? Is shooting in that circumstance a professional or lawful action? So you're actually excited that armed police men that should be responsible for your safety took aim and fired at a citizen who didn't constitute a threat to their lives or that of anyone?

How do you even sleep? Have you become so thoroughly dehumanised and brainwashed that such blatant crimes will earn your applause and commendation? People like you are the reason armed security personnel lose every discipline of their training and attack private citizens because they will always find willing supporters like yourself.

God forbid!

Exactly, mere provocation, he was not with a gun.... SARS and the Nigeria police are not worth it.... when I was in the university, I saw SARS members and MOPOLS who were cultist.
Moment they see a group of boys, na to start unofficial raid...bail is 100k even after breaking their bones

they are corrupt too...I pray never to encounter them in my life.

I was travelling from Kano to Lagos and a lady was on her period, we encountered some of them, they woke a lady up cos she was sleeping, come and see how they were harassing her that why would she sleep at the checking point, that she had something to hide,they went through her stuffs,saw a stained pant she'd earlier changed in lokoja in an eatery, they were shouting that either shejust had an abortion or shes a ritualist.... I was embarrasssed at the kind of people who are mentally unstable that the government had imposed on his citizens as security operatives... I was so mad at them, had to speak up asked them if their mothers, sisters and the likes don't menstruate.

invading ones privacy all in the name of security operative

Boarding school....yes

Every one deserves a second chance at happiness... may you find what you're looking for

Mrs Apanisile.
Mrs C. Bello
Mrs Olatuja.
Mrs Adeleke
You all were mothers, you made me fall in love with English Language/ literature..
God bless you all.

Dieu Le Viet ut sint unum...

Its hard to love two people equally. more like a 49/51 thing..
but parents should learn how to make it less obvious...growing up, my younger sis was the golden egg,had everything, no punishments, the book worm, so its natural my parents liked her..
she got gifts on her birthdays cos she was always coming out in flying colours
Twas tough then but I knew you can't love two people equally, really took time to realise they loved me just that they were not too happy about some of the traits I was exhibiting then.. When I took my studies serious, stopped rebelling, then I knew they loved me

beautiful... God bless your marriage

butterflyl1on:


I love this. It's all about choices. Those who do carry out abortions are seen by those who don't as wicked. Those who keep their babies and refuse to abort are seen by the other side as stupid. Nobody seems to realise that it's all about choices and ones best interest which sometimes may affect the baby for good or for bad.
Thanks for this

Yes, I'll never blame anyone for the choices they make, if you walk miles in their shoes, one might be able to understand their position and thinking..

But in essence, this is still Africa, single motherhood tend to come with lot of stigma and issues, the girl faces the whole thing, she's the one to drop outta school, raise a child, find it difficult to see love after expect in a few lucky cases..the boy goes on to become an "hero" and has everything back on track..

Believe me, single parenthood is nothing something you would want to experience... it drains

Thank you

sometimes in life, Everyone has these moments where they are caught between a rock and a hard place, I'll never support abortion but neither will I castigate whosoever does one..
Choices are hard to make but its in one's best interest to make choices you can live with

No...it shouldn't cause an issue...
we have different plans for our lives.. it is his life,and he can run it anyway he sees deem fit..what if the elder bro is not even thinking of marriage in like say five years?? will he keep his life on hold cos of stupid family traditions?
Same way a friend told me his aunt said he shouldn't get a car when his parents do not own one, he was asked to use the money to get a car for his parents and hustle more to get his.... even if he's in dire need of the car...
Do not let anyone control your life, you and you alone is responsible for your life and how you run it

Marry your woman....you have seen your woman, wife her.

wunmi590:
Just put your mind at rest, your money would come in.

Amen... thanks so much

wunmi590:
Don't disturb yourself too much, you would be paid all your outstanding's.

When you first get employed into both federal and state, you would work for three month without pay, then at the end of the fourth month you would be paid your 4month salary.

Just chill they are helping you keep your money.

Goodluck

Thank you.
I heard they are being told to pay us all on or before 10th October...I pray it comes before then.

Please don't settle down yet, don't bring a woman into the picture cos she won't be loved. Your family will believe the woman is the reason why you've decided not to take care of their "needs".
Try and establish one of them if you have the means, so that whosoever you establish will take care of the family when you have " retired " since they are leeches and want to suck you dry.

One thing about families like this is that as soon as you stop giving them, they remember all the "good deeds" they've done for you and how you have decided to 'abandon" them when they need you most not minding how many times you've put your own life on hold to take care of their needs.

You have taken care of them for "ten years" you need a break, if you don't close your eyes and get your heart desires, you'll continue to slave for them till time goes..
Yes, family is everything but they have to be considerate too, if they really love you
The choice is yours

That is why a man must always have a legal will.
....in order to save his family the stress and trauma of having to fight over their entitlement
I won't be surprised if the brother is financially okay and he's still looking to acquire his brother property and his wife, like if she's a piece of furniture.

We still have a long way ahead of us in Africa as per the girl child and her rights

AinaNamos:
It doesn't always take that long, it's supposed to be just a quarter which is just three months. Hang in there you'll soon be sorted out. Cheers.

thank you

stingg:
I even take 1 month senior you. Mine took 27 months

Eyimofe2017 if you have your way, start working in another place to keep yourself during the long wait. It used to be around 4 months some years back but things are worse now.

Alright thank you.

LUGBE:
Just June and you are complaining , mine took 2yrs and 3months.

Just put your hope earlier next year. You are yet to be captured, Hmmmm.

You have many processes ahead, congrats

Are you kidding me
Jesus Christ....ain't easy in a place like Lagos, to and fro from the mainland to island everyday, plus everyone believes I'm working now so no funds.

I pray and sincerely hope I'm settled very fast, just the capturing

thanks for the good wishes

Please I just started work in a federal ministry since June but I've not been paid till now....though its not just me, I know of about other people in different ministries that have not been paid too...

How soon do they start paying the new intakes??
My boss told me they had instruct them to pay all outstanding latest by 10th October but I'm really worried

paiz:
Real men don't beat a lady in public you take her inside

Are you serious

I love my space...
Though since she has once lived with you and you really didn't enjoy it, just tell her you're sorry,you won't be able to accommodate her..I don't support lies but this is Nigeria, she might take it to heart, so better make something up ..

Some friends are better kept "afar"

I wouldn't mind if my future husband has OCD, as long as he doesn't involve me.
My dad can clean for Africa, he brings the chairs out everywhere to sweep underneath, my mum calls him "environment inspector"
The man is super clean and tidy, he even irons his pants,he brushes his teeth with a mirror every morning...I can go on and on

The timing is wrong, especially the long hours spent on the call...You should be able to have the "us" time.
Is there an issue at her maiden home?? Cos whenever I spend long hours talking to my mum, there's either a party planning or she wants get me involved with something at home sort of and it's an occasional thing.
Perhaps she feels you are not a good companion enough.
Try talk to her, let her know she has an obligation as a wife, mother and daughter and she should balance it well, tell her you miss her attention..you've been apart for hours so you miss her.. make her want to talk to you more( you guys know how to go about it now, the love me button).

Communicate with her.
all the best