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Richy4:

Take it easy buddy... You are just sentencing him to BY FORCE MARRIAGE......with hard labour of cooking and cleaning.....

My brother let's be realistic. The 21st Century woman wants freedom. Many girls in Europe and America don't even care to do house chores any longer. It's very sad but that's the reality. Op is very lucky to meet a girl who got European mentality, but in African body. The house chores should not be a problem, the two of them can focus on making money. Then can get a house help and when their kids reach like 5 yrs they will cater for the chores...only the hard ones will he have to intervene in. His kids will be more hard working and serious than their mom.

With they way am seeing it. The lady will give op a lot of hard times if op deceides to go through the baby mama apian way...she will milk op woto woto. Better to marry her...at least she is very good some places.

jondon11:
So I met my girl about a year ago during the start of the lockdown. We bonded real quick...she's easy-going, sorta smart, mad sexy and funny. Two months after we started dating, she moved in with me and began shuttling between my place and her sister's.

I work from home and my place is structured such that there's not much to do to maintain it. Although I work from home, I go out now and again for business and during my time out I run most of the errands...my girl ensures that it's only when I'm going out that she gets whatever she needs, from the market or errands around the area mainly cause she's often in a pant and bra watching a movie or just being lazy. She's a good cook but a lot of times I found chow coming late or not at all, and there was always raw food to prepare...sometimes her excuse for not cooking could be she couldn't get one ingredient or the other either because she didn't have cash on her or some other reason...there's mobile money just outside our gate and if she doesn't have the money she can call me to make a transfer but the main issue was laziness. I swept and mopped like 80% of the time, ran errands like 100%, cooked like 20% or the time (starved like 20% or sorted myself out someway), she did dishes 80% of the time and I brought like 100% of the money we lived on.

She is doing her MSc and our relationship started during the lockdown so she wasn't going to school. She was job searching (more like job waiting) so this gave her a lot of idle time which she spent watching Zee World or being on social media. I soon found a way to engage her in the job I do from home, and with the money she had saved in the bank (over 400K), she started work with me. I purchased a laptop for her for this purpose and so she could develop herself in other areas via online courses but she didn't do much work...working like two hours daily, very late at night...I sometimes complained but tried encouraging her as much as possible, especially when she made some success.

I'm sure you'd ask why I stayed in the relationship despite all of this? I was pussy whipped, had no other options given the nature of my work, saw some potential in her ( I know, a stupid thing to say) and thought I was in love (I'm 29 and shouldn't have been that stupid).

Fast forward to December last year, we discovered she was pregnant, a month pregnant. Told her we should keep the child and get married...she suggested we could abort since we weren't quite ready but I said what was a couple more months gonna make a difference?

Since then till now, we've been quarrelling non-stop, one issue after another of which it's mainly me raising the issues. Maybe it's the tension that comes from knowing I might be starting a family with so many unresolved issues. I've raised my concerns and told her she'd need to be more responsible in the relationship if things will work and even though she tells me she knows, I know deep down she doesn't mean it or might not be up to the task of being a married adult. From some of our talk she expects I'd take care of all the financial responsibilities and have suggested a couple of times we get help for chores (we've moved to a bigger space now) but I told her in clear terms that that's not how I imagined my life...having help for chores and the likes, besides, it's just a two-bedroom flat.

I've purchased some of the things we'd be needing for our wedding and we're supposed to do an introduction this coming week but I'm having cold feet and just want to call it off.

I'm bringing this here to know how I can manage this situation...I can be lazy but I'm a really ambitious person so this pushes me but my girl is not just lazy, but unambitious. How do I manage the situation...there's a child involved now and will need to consider the child but at the same time, I can't take on this much stress nor have my ambitions cut short because my partner is lazy.

What can I do??

Na lie you must marry that girl. I just dey laugh at you. when you dey comot her bra up and down...dey turn her for bed like barber chair...360 degrees...you no reason she dey lazy. Ogbeni no leave no transfer...you must marry that girl.

When she born pikin get a house help. When your first child grows to like 4 to 5 years. Pay off the house help and train your kids to be hard working unlike their mom. let them learn how to do the house chores from their early days. Allow them to cook if she can't cook. Anyhow they cook am all man will eat it like that. Train them your own way. In my home we were trained without a house help. I cooked my first jollof rice at Nursery 3. The food no make sense. But my parents commended me and all man ate the food.

Marry her. But don't be quick to get her pregnant again. Ensure that this one whether boy or girl reach like 3 to 4 yrs, then you must have found some footing in your plans for your life.

She will be quick to double the kids, that's their way. Once they get married and have a baby...it's uhuru for them na to multiply the babies be their next ambition...so be in charge of the birth. Control the birth rate yourself.

Peace man...marry her

meobizy:
Happy Father’s Day in advance. I hope you saved enough. Pampers don dey cost for market.

Sis speak louder make the guy hear. Na because of rising cost of pampers and other baby stuffs make me take my time dey plan to relocate to a better place where govt helps couples through child support. No be to bang pussy be the problem...na to bear responsibility from reckless and incessant banging be the koko...

JuanJO:
Iwobi make this man no change mind go play you North Central make you no go jam Banditry and and killer herdsmen

leave Iwobi. He wants to play North East...Richalison or Cavert-Levin position. But these guys are sharp in front of goal than him.

Iwobi should calm down. Ancelloti is a good man.

Arewa1stSon:
We are beautiful!!

Una beautiful...but common Most Beautiful Girl in Nigeria (MBGN) una girls never win talk more winning Most Beautiful Girl in the World(MBGW)...na so so Miss Cow una girls dey win with their onions smelling, heat drenched hijab

Stupid, ingrates of a people

Fulani and Almajiri no get NIN na...it's gonna affect them during elections...so INEC don't need NIN for the imported Fulani from Mali and Niger come 2023.

NIN is for the South alone. To control their deeds and words on the cyber space

Bullshit country

Am happy Messi missed penalty so that he will not blame other players for Barca not qualifing.

Him too fup. Time to go back home and rebuild with the new President. Go home guys una don try.

Goodnight

I know Pep will run riots on Southampton inorder to send a strong message to all their future opponents...

Pep is too good to be a coach...come rule Nigeria abeg.

Na true say I no sabi sing but e get where I pass Laycon...that being said, Wagwan na wash. Fall for me and Fierce better pass am...

Wagwan no be song Abeg.

Amaju Pinnick help Ahmad Ahmad become CAF president...

Pinnick spearheaded the campaign against Isa Hayatou of Cameroon who want turn CAF to What Tinubu turned Lagos.

Ahmad Ahmad paid Amaju Pinnick back, by removing him as one of the Vice-presidents of CAF. Little did he know that Warri no dey carry last...

Amaju and co don strike Ahmad through FIFA. Ahmad Ahmad is not coming back. He should go home and next time he should learn not to fvck with Warri brought up.

Ahmad will pay a fine of 20 million naira which is 200million Madagascar Ariary...serves him right.

MarketMentors:
Dear Sir,

I am writing to you as a concerned Nigerian and an Easterner to quickly dissolve the Eastern security network (ESN) following the order from the President to all security personnel to shoot at sight anyone caught with an AK 47 rifle.



I understand Sir that your intention for forming the ESN is very noble following the recent invasion of the monstrous Killer Fulanis herdsmen who have taken over the Eastern forests and have been killing, kidnapping, maiming, and raping our people. But you need to call back your boys to lay down their weapons for now. I know your boys will surely listen to your voice or reason.

You will agree with me that the security atmosphere in the country is very tense and politized as well. The fight against the killer Fulanis herdsmen isn’t holistic but one-sided. The fight against the bandits is still nothing to write home about especially following the way bandits are being paid to release their abductees across states like Kaduna, Niger, and Zamfara states.

You will also agree with me that the order to shoot anyone caught with an AK 47 inside the bushes is mainly targeted at wiping off the ESN. So you need to apply caution and wisdom in this situation. Kindly dissolve the ESN and lay low for now to avoid casualties which will likely be innocent civilians.

We all saw the military invasion in Orlu in Imo state and how it all went down. Let’s not allow them to kill us this time with the order to shoot at sight anyone caught with an AK 47 rifle.

You need to understand that the ESN isn’t all that equipped to fight the well-sophisticated Nigeria Army. There comes a time in one’s life that he or she has to succumb not out of fear or cowardice but in a way to go back to the drawing board and restrategize to come back stronger and better.

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I don't understand you. Are you asking Nnamdi Kanu to obey an order purportedly given by someone he believes is a slowpoke and long dead...you sure say e go work?

ok

Rtk5:
That was how our own dear Bubu won his own. So what's the big deal?

The Big deal here is that Bubu's case was that of a square peg in a round hole. Here we are happy that a man who knows his onions and what it means to lead Barca, have be elected.

He got the contacts of many agents of top players in the world. He's gonna make Barca great again. Even Perez of Real Madrid is not happy with his return

Flackoo:
Quite obvious that Victor font is the future but Barcelona needed Larpota to keep the GOAT at camp nou!!! Come next season expect a massive overhaul but LEO is definitely staying!!!

Old broom sweeps better bro. Victor Font can try next time.

Moreso the devil you know is better than the angel wey u no even sabi im pattern

ShackWes:
We have missed you Joan

Now do everything you can to tie the GOAT at Camp Nou

Culers for life

Leo is staying with this development. Also our La Masia(Youth Academy) is now doing wornders. Our La Masia used to be our power house where Messi, Puyol, Fabregas, Xavi, Iniesta and co were groomed to world class players. Bartomeu neglected the Last Masia and started the tradition of buying players from other clubs (we used to buy from other clubs before, but just few) who don't even know the Barca philosophy and style of Play.

I humbly add my little voice to the voices of the entire Barcelona family and fans worldwide to say Congratulations to President Laporta.

A new era is dawn
Long live FCB
Long live Football
Long live Me/You

Joan Laporta have been elected Barcelona FC's president for the second time.


Laporta, who was previously president of the Catalan club between 2003 and 2010, saw off competition from Victor Font and Toni Freixa



https://www.facebook.com/109164507158325/posts/10152382446229953/?substory_index=33

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Lalasticlala
Mynd44
semid4lyfe
honeric01

Aorund mid 2019, I use to chat one girl like that on Facebook almost everyday. Then we began talking on phone. We went on a date that last 2 yrs.

Then we continued and all of a sudden she started acting funny. I asked her what's the problem, she said am not really trying for her. After some time she said she's gotten a boyfriend, I lock up. Stopped all calls and chats. I see her online, but I don't care to chat her since that 2019.

Just today(God in heaven is my witness) around 5:00pm...I was on my own going to a hair saloon to have hair cut. Vaam, a bike was carrying this girl coming towards my direction, on seeing me she tapped the bike man to stop her. She paid the bike man, the man zoomed off. I kept walking on my own. She called me and I turned, babe was all over me, that I stopped chatting her, bla bla bla because of what she told me, bla bla. At the end she told me she is sorry and wants us to back again, she even followed me to the barbing saloon. She waited for me to have my hair cut, guys were even surprised how the chick was following me up and down. I asked her to go, that we are going to talk later...

She wants to use me as a chat buddy, I refused. leave any girl that refused to get serious with you. leave her immediately...don't even negotiate pls

edoairways:
If a poor man share the same mentality with you, God will never elevate him

You now speak for God. And you are comfortable with politicians locking up the universities in Nigeria and their wards will be in Universities abroad right? And they will not even come out with first class honours, they will jumping from one night club to another spending the funds meant to develop this country. Name one Nigerian politician his son/daughter graduated from a Nigerian University?

You either like evil or you are wicked as a person.

stanliwise:
There are different kinds of big man, some of them worked hard. So next time, be specific.
And being the child of big man so as your children could be later on is not a choice so I don’t see why you think less of them.

You just changed the narrative

you never scrutinized my post before quoting me. I specified the big men " those oppressing us" I also put the " wicked politicians " you refused to read my comment very well.

Also that 125 persons like my comment vindicated what I said as factual. Your own opinion is on the lossing side and don't really matter to me.

Akwaibomdude:
He might not leave if his candidate wins.
Watch Out

If Laporta wins, Leo will stay. Leo trusts Laporta...Larpota talk am 2 days ago that they speak from time to time.

That Leo told him that: " All he promised him, he(Laporta) fulfilled it" and he also stressed that Messi problem is not money that he wants to retire the way Xavi and co retired...he wants to retire with trophies.

fergie001:
Leave our Bartomeu.......biko

I don't even know what you are saying....are you the only Barca fan on Nairaland. Am also a Catalan. I am even a top fan on Facebook. I follow Dembele daily.

Moreover, Bartomeu is gone...he was doing price and leave...he will price a player and will not buy it. He loaned out Coutinho to Bayern, He refused to bring Neymar back, He refused to sign Martinez, instead he brought Pijanic wey don die and swapped him with Arthur, he was the one that let Suarez leave unceremoniously....He will be signing low profile coaches like Ernesto Valverde and Queque Setien and co...

Bartomeu ruined Barca so I know what am talking.

fergie001:
Bartomeu remains Barca's best President ever.

The Police should stop witch-hunting him....

Barca was most successful in their history as a club under Laporta. Most Barca fans wants him to be back including Messi. They will vote for him for Messi to stay. If he losses, Messi will definitely leave Barca.

Bartomeu ruined Barca

Laporta all the way. He will win with a landslide

God hear his prayers...

That pure water guy got positive ambition and he will make it.

These are the type of lads that will rule the world. Not all these children of big men, God knows how to make the children of all these big men oppressing us suffer...they don't really go far in life so don't envy them and their life styles...ill gotten...ill spent.

They will send their children abroad for college, Bachelors and Masters...Then they will be playing ludo with the future of the children of the average Nigerian in the name of ASUU strikes, etc
Under the guise of COVID19 fumigation of hostels, these politicians and their fumigating agents, looted the properties of students in the the school hostels. They are wicked and evil.
But God no go shame us.

IamFINESSE:
But still this doesn't change the fact that, there are 380 species of frogs and Toads in India but there are only 80 species Nigeria so if we organize a football match between Nigeria frogs and India frogs they will score us falaa because they will have more substitutes

Guy your are too funny...

Also the news does not change the fact, that there are 10.5 million Kangaroos in Australia. And Uruguay have 3.4 million people. So if the 10.5 million Kangaroos in Australia deceide to invade Uruguay. Each person in Uruguay will have to fight 3 Kangaroos. Even Suarez will have to deal with 3 stubborn Kangaroos.

SouthNigerian:
Situations and Circumstances cause events to happen.

The insecurity situations is creating a cord of unity among the Southerners. Over the years, Saboteurs & enemies of the South were successful in sowing discord and hatred amidst us.

But there are great things we are yet to discover about us Southerners. Our true strength is yet to reveal until we join Forces in Unity. We are capable of ruling the world.

We can redefine Democracy in Africa through our practice of Regional Democracy. We are the living hope of Africa.

We are in a strong wave that no man is capable of halting. All of Buhari's actions and inactions are blessings in disguise.

We got talented youths and a promising future down South. Our greatest undoing is our greedy leaders. And we Southern youths are too docile, the first and only time we asked radical questions was during the #EndSars. If only we the Southern youths can ask more radical questions, we may relegate our foolish and selfish leaders...I mean all of them, and take up our own future and the future of Africa.

Na "Duck Nyash" full Benue State o. When I went there they like the car die. Na their official taxi lol.

I entered the duck nyash from Gboko to Kastina Ala. My legs pained me all through. Now space to stretch ur legs. That duck nyash no follow at all.

One TIV guy was telling me...his main target now is the duck nyash. I laugh tire. I told him if you carry this ur duck nyash come East or PH, no one go enter am o.


for those asking for the pics ...see it below

Na "Duck Nyash" full Benue State o. When I went their the like the car die. Na their official taxi lol.

For those asking for the pics ...see it below

femi4:
So you removed Ucl they won 2yrs ago.

At least they reigned for 3yrs

They won 2 trophies under 3 years. UCL and EPL which other trophy?
The main team dominating England right now is Man City. Even when Liverpool played Man City...they won with robbery. Bayern won 5 trophies last season. Barca don do am before under Pep. Madrid won UCL 3 straight seasons. Juventus don win serie A 9 times now in a row. These are the real big boys of European football