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Climatology100:
I created a new moniker just to conceal my identity as I'm very frequent on travel and Autos sections.
I'm worried and I need advice on the next step to take.
I dated my ex right from our secondary school days, I was in JS3 while she was in JS2 and our relationship span till I finished my studies in university level though she couldn't proceed to the Uni as she insisted on doing business, she was so successful in her business that she built her own house before she attain the age of 26 albeit in my name(This I found out later while using her laptop as she later admit to it)
Things were moving good and steady between us, my parents and siblings know her as she often came over to my parents house, I met with his father once and the respect was mutual.
All this while, we never engage in sex until my third year in Uni, she's who she said she is, A virgin as I disflowered her then but things went side ways between us when I was elected as the president of one of the associations in school, she created this sense of imaginary rivals in every ladies she saw with me despite assuring her I'm not cheating on her.
In the year 2014,she became pregnant while I was in 400level though I told her I'm not ready for pregnancy as my head was full with so many things then, my CGPA dropped, having issues with my mother as everything was just not positive at that moment as I need to clear my head and pregnancy issue is just not what I need.Well, she told me she will keep it and take care of all the bills involved but I kept a distance from her and virtually from everyone back then.
My Dad eventually found out and he called and assured her of his support but she had a miscarriage when she was 7months into it, believe me as I was totally devastated when she called me around 1am to tell me as I and my Dad supported her in every ways possible, I stayed with her for 2weeks before I traveled back home(we lived in different state)
2months before I went for my service year, we had an unprotected sex and it was so emotional that I know there's more to it but I couldn't just concentrate when she asked me if I'm ready for marriage, I simply told her "I'm going for my service, I will be back for you" I never knew she read a lot of meanings to my statement.
I have one crazy idea of writing down the dates if I have sex with ladies(This I learnt from my Dad) during my service year, I lost contact with her as all efforts to trace her wasn't forthcoming but I received the shocker of my life when her sister posted her wedding pictures on Instagram( I haven't meet her as she too don't know how I look like as I don't do pictures, I have a phobia for taking shots with camera but we do communicate on phone)
The following month, another pictures on FB aibelt a new account by my ex thanking God for safe delivery of her baby girl,i quickly contacted her and we exchanged contacts but I asked her why the sudden development, her response was shocking, she told me "She can't wait for me as she's not educated but I'm, that I'm ladies man and she can't do rivals".
2years pass and I stumble on the baby girl pictures on FB and the resemblance is just out of the world, I quickly checked my diary and it correspond with the month she was born as in the date we had sex to her month of delivery, I contacted her to verify but she kept mute but on our consecutive discussions she always plead with me not to speak about it, she never deny nor agree to it.
I screenshots the pictures of the baby girl to my sister as I plan to travel down south to do DNA and if possible take responsibility of her but she told me to let her be that the right thing will be done at the right time by my ex.
Lately, I have being having a series of dreams as I keep seeing the girl trying to extend her hands to me but there's this barrier between us.
I called my ex yesterday to plead to her to tell me if I'm the father of the girl but she still repeat the same thing, pleading to me to let her go and not to talk about the girl, she even told me the girl is what keep her going emotionally everytime she think about me.
She's 5years now and everytime I see her pictures on FB or Instagram I always see myself in her.
Should I let her be without playing my role in her life or should I act with force to reclaim her?
Advice and Insults are allow.
you are just acting up because she got married. you kept her as your safety net and had no plans for her. you just want to use the baby to blackmail her and make her life miserable. you left for your youth service you did not communicate with her and all of a sudden you saw her wedding pictures and a baby then you remembered the date you had sex and want to claim your child. bros move on and allow her to enjoy her marriage.

TouchstoneNg:
These wardrobes aren't just beautiful, they are also very functional.

Wardrobe installation.
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kopell:
Spyder880 well done good job always. Please I need you to share the secret behind your wall plastering. I have never seen any crack on your plastering job in the last nine years, I have been watching your display on this forum. Is it the quality of sand, cement mixture, or quality of workers or any tricks behind the outcomes? You always amaze me with your sincerity, quality of job you deliver at stipulating time. I like to used this opportunity to advise you to encourage you guys to clean up as work progress not until job is complete, its makes the environment heath for them. I hope other contractors will be encouraged to practice same.

spyder880:
You can reapply the termite treatment after the roofing. A carpenter can climb the roof void and use a spraying can method to spray the mixture directly on the wood. I have also seen someone using brush to apply the mixture on roofing wood.

money121:
Yes we also pray the price to drop but as things is going
I doubt maybe the price will drop any moment oo
So the earlier the better..

rotecch77:
The client handle this.
But some thing in region of 38-45k will get you one of this based on the previous work we did.
Thanks so much for your time here.

Ikjosh04:
You're not serious, it seems you don't have any plans to stay with your husband. An opportunity for relocation in your place of work came 4 months ago and you have been married to your husband 4years. You didn't deem it fit to request you get relocated to the same state your husband lives.
P
Btw you worked in a bank for 9yrs as a bank teller, is there no room for career growth in your bank or you refused to acquire new skills?

rotecch77:
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Timtol:
Cost of each windows varies and no exact figure because measurements were taken on site which was used in getting the quantity of the materials needed to get these windows done,so can be a bit hard stating per window.

The protector has a Y16MM rod all thru and from my view I think each will cost roughly 60-80k if not far more.
As far as I know one of the current most expensive aluminum is nigalex.
Thanks for following

Timtol:
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Builders, Contractors, Engineers, home owners...

Since we are all on lockdown...

Who wants to share a challenge encountered during work (it may or may not be construction related) and how they handled it?

KolaShangOne:
It's okay if you're roofing with stone coated tiles and your roof height is up to 16feet.

There is no provision for wall plate (3x4x12).
Also, full size 2x4x12 can be used as tie beam instead of using 2x6x12. It will save you some money.

Nogging is not included (2×2×12).

KolaShangOne:
It's okay if you're roofing with stone coated tiles and your roof height is up to 16feet.

There is no provision for wall plate (3x4x12).
Also, full size 2x4x12 can be used as tie beam instead of using 2x6x12. It will save you some money.

Nogging is not included (2×2×12).

money121:
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3RNEST:
Lol the experience is shit, imagine your landlord telling u, bros your muzik too loud abeg low am i want sleep, like seriously I'm not paying rent or what, see me see wahala on top my own money...

placeofallure:
Hmmmn men could be desperately desperate at times.

Way way back, he used to fill our drum with water everyday among other errands, This was an exercise in futility las las.

Another, he renounced his religion. Every member of his family, extended and nuclear, are moslems. Even the mosquito in their house be moslem, yet he was attending church with me and became a Bro.....

Yet another, ran away from home, wife and kids inclusive, to be with me. Admittedly, I love this at first cos the wife is no good. I won't bother you with details about that. But for the kids, I had to send him back. And I think because of me, he became a bad husband too but he won't admit it. I think they're separated now. And me, I'm born again now.

Dubemcapital1:
The overview

rotecch77:
Update pics

rusep:
Thanks for your response. I was their also, I saw the roofing sheets. It was boldly written on it "TOWER" though they have only one colour (light orange).

They told me that it is an old stock, that they stopped producing stone coated because Chinese products have spoiled their market.
Thanks

rusep:
Morning & Happy new year house,
Please expect in the house, am considering buying tower stone coated from queens alluminium here in
Kaduna because Original Gerard is beyond my budget.

Please is tower stone coated a good product? the price is 2,700 per square meter.

Please I need urgent advice before I commit myself.
Thanks

HsLBroker:
with burglary N38k without burglary N34k

HsLBroker:
with or without burglary