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Merry100:
In my opinion, Nigerian women bring more to the table

What a foolish question! No wonder it just making Front page after over 3 years

As it is a counter attacking, passing to either B or C is okay, it all depend on how well you trust their ability!

Firebox123:
can you send your picture

For what?

Chin chin anytime, any day!
More of ground nuts cause pimples for me

I thought the post was for everybody!

80% of married people in Nigeria cannot relate with what you put up there!

Xso666:
Hello nairalanders, I am new to this forum and I was introduced by a friend of mine to this forum to seek advice on how to go about my marital issue.

Here is the problem, I married my wife a virgin and as at that time she was almost done with schooling as I met her when I went to stay with a friend around her school area. So we connected and then I told her I had interest in her and I would like for us to be in a relationship so she agreed and we started dating.

Fast forward to 2024 she was done with school so I went to pay her bride price and then brought her over to Lagos where I stay and then we started living together as husband and wife.

Everything has been moving fine after I disvirgined my wife and I felt like I was the luckiest man on earth and I feel like I already made it in life because I believe as a man if you get a good wife then you have solved 80% of your problem the remaining 20% will be making money to sustain the family.

So of lately I notice my virgin wife became so addicted to sex that she barely can’t go a day without sex and I am ready to give it to her any day any time.

So I traveled for work sometimes around feb 2025 and I stayed 2 weeks over there so when I came back I decided to take a stroll with my wife to get something down the street so I noticed as I was getting something she greeted a guy that sells female stuffs in my street so immediately I turned to talk to her she quickly discharged the guy and then they both acted like they were not talking together well I was unbothered because I mean the guy is just a trader doing his business and maybe she bought something from him and so I suspected nothing. Not until I noticed my wife likes going out to get things and she would spend time outside and this is something she doesn’t like doing before so I thought she is getting used to the Lagos life and so she is enjoying herself now and comfortable now in Lagos. I never had any insecurities whatsoever because I don’t believe she could have anything to do with any man since I married her a virgin although I know she has high sexual drive but I still think she can’t do no such thing.

Fast forward to sometimes around June I traveled again but this time somewhere close to where I live so I told her I would be spending a week or more and so I left to work getting there we lodged and waiting for update as regards to why we are here so on the 3rd day the contractor called and said we should all go and come back that the job has been rescheduled till the next month so I decided to go back home that same day since it was not far from where I stay so I tried reaching out to my wife’s number but she wasn’t reachable so I thought her phone was off, so I boarded a bus home to relax and break the news to her only to find my house locked and my wife wasn’t home and her phone was not going through so I managed to open the door using my spare key and then went inside and took my shower then I went to the kitchen but there was no food to eat so I decided to prepare something for us to eat in the house. I tried reaching my wife again and still not reachable and it was getting late already so I was worried and was curious to know what happened to her because she’s not so conversant with areas in Lagos. So I decided to pray and take some wine while I wait to think of my next action.

Suddenly she messaged me and told me she has not been able to charge her phone and there have not been light in the house, so I asked her where she was and she told me she was in the house and then I told her to come on video call I want to show her something I got for her but she told me the ba3 will die that she managed to use this to call me so I know she’s fine well I told her there was no problem and she should do her to make sure the battery don’t die so we can communicate tonight. So I went outside the compound only for me to find my wife coming back that night with this guy that sells female stuffs down the street and she was so shocked to see me at home she shouted immediately saw me and the guy just disappeared from no where.

Till now I don’t just know what to do because I married this woman a virgin but she has turned something else and I don’t know if to tell her parents or handle this like a man within us here although she told me she didn’t do anything with him that he tried to have her but she didn’t but how do I believe that please guys help me move this to front page so I get more suggestions as I am really confused.

Be a gentleman,Try to meet the man you saw her with, become friend with him, have a man -man discussion and ask him questions regarding his relationship with your wife. Make sure you act matured (no frowning, no threatening). The man will be surprised by ur reaction.
He will surely open up and tell you if there has been any intimacy between them. Then you decide what to do. (Note: this might take some times) but at least, it will be worth it at the end.
Because as for me, I can never accept a woman who’s cheated on me.

He thinks they are taking his photo shoot to promote his business 😀😀

Any man that says he doesn’t care about the sexual history of a woman is a messed man! In fact, such a man is under a spiritual marital bondage! After character, virginity (sexual purity) of a woman is the principal thing!
Roughly 30% of married men are not the biological fathers to some or all the children they are taking care of, and is is mainly because they don’t care about the sexual history the woman they married.

In conclusion: If I don’t marry a virgin then I will never get myself tied down with a woman I don’t know her sexual history . I don’t mind having baby mamas! That’s my opinion and nothing anybody can do about.

naijapikin2:
God bless you for this piece. Infact. If I meet a lady I love and she says she's a virgin. I will automatically end the relationship.

All those men looking for virgin to marry I see them as those that can eat parboiled rice 😁😁

You sound like someone whose village people are after!
Marrying a virgin does not guarantee everlasting marriage, marrying a non virgin has no guarantee either. So is it not better to marry the one that, at least, you know she’s sexually pure when you met her? Please don’t annoy me this night o

press9jatv:
“The woman that I was suppose to marry demanded that I must have 2 cars before she can marry me” - Saka



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TdfJVlG9o_Y

I hope she later marry a man with private jet else, it will be very shameful

The point is, if you as a lady are not a virgin, you don’t have to tell a man to marry you before you both can be intimate.

Why didn’t you tell the one who disvirgined you to marry you before doing it?

Oyindamolah:
❗There’s no guarantee that spending money on promotion will make you go viral.

🔁 Consistency, quality content, strategy, and a bit of luck are what usually lead to growth.

📈 Some creators blow up in a month, most take 6 months to 2 years of trial and error to get traction.

> So spending all your savings on promotion doesn’t mean success.

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What’s Smart to Do Now?

✅ My Recommendation: Use a Split Strategy

Save consistently for your motorcycle, but allocate a small, fixed percentage of your income/savings to promote your content monthly.

For example:

Total Savings Promotion Budget (Monthly) Savings for Motorcycle (Monthly)

₦20,000/month ₦5,000 (25%) ₦15,000 (75%)

This way:

You don’t kill your dream of owning the bike.

You keep promoting your content and experimenting.

If your content starts earning, it can even speed up your bike savings.

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🚀 Other Low-Cost Promotion Ideas (Before Spending Big):

Collaborate with other small creators for free exposure.

Use trending audio and hashtags.

Post consistently (3–5x a week minimum).

Engage with your audience (reply to comments, ask questions).

Learn SEO/hashtags and algorithm tricks on YouTube, Instagram, TikTok.

Join creator communities where people support and promote each other.

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🚦If You Still Feel Confused, Ask Yourself:

> “If I spend all my money and don’t go viral, will I feel worse than waiting a little longer for both dreams?”

If the answer is yes — don’t spend it all.

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Summary:

✅ Don’t spend everything on promotion.
💡 Invest small, consistent amounts in content promotion while still saving.
📊 Track your growth and adapt your content.
🚀 If growth happens and income starts, you can speed up the bike goal.

🎯 You win either way — maybe just not as fast as you’d like, but definitely smarter and more secure.

Thanks so much for this advice!
This is exactly what I’m going to do!
I really appreciate 🙏

budaatum:
Who can guarantee you'd go viral in a year?
And who can guarantee your motorcycle wouldn't get stolen or crashed in the first week?

Invest your money in creating content to see how you go, and save up for a motorcycle. That way you'd be hedging your bet both ways to see which shall profit you.

Thanks so much for this!
That means I will have make it a year plan instead of six months, by splitting the savings into two.

I appreciate 🙏

Greetings nairalanders,
Your advice is needed urgently!
Please no jokes and insults.

I am saving up little by little to buy a second - hand/used motorcycle by or before December this year.
The thing is, I am into content creation as well, and content definitely needs promotion to go viral/get recognized.

Where I need advice: Should I be using the money I’m supposed to save for the motorcycle to promote my content?
Is there any guarantee that I can go viral in the space of the 6/7 months or even (a year) I’m planing to save for motorcycle?
I’m confused, I will not be happy, if I don’t go viral (at least to a certain stage where I can start earning from my content). And on the other hand, I don’t also buy the motorcycle!


Please advice me please 🙏

Four phones for girlfriend, is she a phone dealer?

I don’t understand, When did Partey become “former” Arsenal player?

That’s how low the mentality of majority of girls is. Even if he demanded for sex, can it be equivalent to the money he spent? Or is her gbekus made of gold?
Most of those gender needs to get a life!

Nothing is lasts forever!
Nothing is irreplaceable!

And you think it’s easy like that right?
Anyways, let’s see how you will prove him wrong by doing better

Why will I want to travel out before if not to make money, now I have the money so what am I looking for?
I stay in my country! I can be traveling on vacations one in a while

Remove the amount you took from the church and add interest to it, take it to the church. (Just assume you you got a loan from the church) and use the remaining to do anything it can do for you.

But most importantly, ask God for forgiveness cos a sin will always remain a sin no matter how you twist it!

How much will they get for qualifying that make them give out all these cars 🚘?

Over 200k for an hour flight? People get money o!

Chram:
I write with Pains in my heart.
I wish to ask God why some certain events occur in life.
I have lots of questions to ask, but nobody to give me answers.

I describe as Selfish, inconsiderate and egoistical the decision of my mum to remarry.

So, I lost my lovely and caring dad six years ago. We had lived in Port Harcourt prior to his death. When we were traveling to the village, we packed all the little properties we had cos we were not going to return back to PH again since my mum would not be able to cater for myself and little siblings.
After the burial and funeral ceremony, we all stayed in the village. I mean a typical village where there's no good road, no electricity, no mobile network. I stayed for a few months, then left them to go squat with my friends in port Harcourt so I could hustle with my muscles and return back to sch at least because it had always been my dad's desire for all of us to go to sch, so I beat my chest and vowed that I would go to sch and graduate. Thank God, I'm done with sch now.

My current challenge now is my mum is in her mid forties and wants to remarry to a man in the village. She hasn't told me yet. But my paternal aunt called to inform me. I'm really worried because if she gets remarried, she will abandon my younger siblings who are there with her because she won't be allowed to take my siblings to her new husband's house as it is an abomination based on the customs and traditions of our place. If my siblings must live with her in that place, then they will have to start bearing the new husband's name as his children. Why ?

Also, as a male child, I'm not allowed to go visit here and eat or sleep over in her new house. If I do this, I might die. Why is this?

Based on reports, my grandfather(mum's dad) is the one mounting pressure on my mum to get married. I'm really worried about the whole situation because the ties between my mum and my siblings are about to be severed. Since my dad died, my mum has been living in her father's house instead of my dad's place. Though both places aren't far from each other. Its trekkable. I feel really hurt and betrayed, I can't even imagine my mum in the arms of another man. If I was stable in monetary and economic terms, I would have taken her out of that dungeon to come live with me, and also bring siblings along. I'm really pained as I type. Tears.. my dad died at age 47.

I wish u guys can beg my mum not to remarry please. What's the difference between me and someone from a Broken background?
Life is not fair to me and my siblings. Not fair at all. I know how I'm feeling right now.

Let me make it clear at this point that if her plans of remarrying goes through, I will dis-mother her. I'll cut all ties and destroy every bond that ever existed between herself and us the children.

File photo used for illustration

The tradition is the issue, not her wanting to remarry

bernardluccky:
I have issues with my girlfriend.

We have being dating since 2021 so 2022 I enter school but I discover the school have no certificate so I write jamb last year to enter uni but I ask my girlfriend if she can bear with me for another 4 years but she refuse to answer me due to I keep asking she suggest we Break up but I did not say no nor yes.

I just ignore her and did not call her for 2 months but I do write her on WhatsApp and fb because I love her so much base on we are not in the same state. It's being 2 years since we see each other
And now I done dey beg her for 2 weeks now.

Note: we have being dating for 4 years no intimacy no kiss no photo together.
The aim was till after marriage and we both 22.

Please I need advice.

She’s already with someone else, just face your front and move

Exgee:
But ur profile says Male

I just decided to put that, any problems?

Exgee:
Wow.. thanks.
Are u male or female pls ?

Female

Exgee:
Hi everyone!

Doctors, Pharmacists and other Medical experts in the House, please help me out. I can't seem to understand how my body system is reacting to lack of sex anymore.

I've abstained from sex for exactly four years now. I decided against going into any relationship with any lady since my last encounter with my ex. And I don't patronize hook-up girls because I can't imagine having sex with someone I don't have any atom of feelings for. I Also do not believe in sleeping with random girls, reason I stayed away from sex until I'm ready for marriage. Another major reason is that I don't use condoms during sex, so I've got to be careful with whoever I'm getting down with.

Some nights, I would have wet dreams, get up to the bathroom to wash myself. I don't masturbate. Last night I had a wet dream again as i slept and laid on my stomach(Sleeping posture), in the middle of the night, I noticed my d**k was rubbing the mattress thoroughly and I noticed something discomforting, when I noticed what was about to occur, I tried to quickly jump off the bed, but unfortunately, while in the process of jumping off, I ejaculated profusely & uncontrollably. My semen was very thick as I checked my boxers. I got up and went straight to bath before going back to bed. I was so angry about it.

Today, I'm now feeling pains in my scrotum and it's a bit swollen too. After I finished bathing this afternoon and was trying to dry my body, I noticed semen coming out but looking like pre-cum.
I need some advice on what to do, and how to go about this please.

The bible says we shouldn't indulge in Premarital sex cos it's a sin. You guys preach against Masturbation cos some see it as a devilish act. While others say it can cause erectile dysfunctional issues. So I don't know what to do. I'm just between the rock and the hard ground now.

Is there any Drugs I can take to inhibit the activities of these stubborn semen?
Again, how do Reverend fathers cope without sex throughout their Lives?
I need answers.

Having wet dreams occasionally is a normal thing! It the natural way of releasing build up semen from the body since you don’t have sex!
I haven’t had sex for six years now and I don’t masturbate as well, and I’m feeling fine! So don’t worry yourself when u you have wet dreams, it’s a normal thing.

That’s why I have VOWED never to marry a non virgin!
Even if she was the one who mistakenly disvirgined herself I don’t care!