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Mynd44:
I have heard Nigerians use "bride Price" and "Dowry" interchangeably and they seem to think they are the same. People just assume the bride price is the dowry or that they mean the same thing but this is a wrong assumption.

I knew this in Social Studies when I was in Primary 5 and it shocks me when people who I think went to school around the same time (not the current era where I don't understand the curriculum) make the same mistake. Perhaps people just think because they are both possessions and gifts exchanged around the time of a wedding they mean the same but nah. They are very distinct things.

So here is the major difference



From the definition above

1. Bride Price is given to the family of the bride by the groom and/or his family and this is mostly set by the Bride's Family.

2. Dowry is the property or money given to the bride by her family when she marries and she takes these things to her marital home.

In some cultures, Dowries cannot be sold by the couple as it is wealth that passes through only the female line so only the bride's daughter can inherit them. Thats why you see where some families have jewelry that their great grandmother used and a female descendant still wears it. It can even be shares of a company etc.

There has been cases in India and Northern Nigeria called "Dowry theft" in these cases, they grooms family (mostly committed by the groom's family) tries to convert the properties of the bride and steal them. I know India had to pass legislation against it. Sometimes, the husband himself tries to steal these possessions.

Note also that in a divorce, the husband cannot lay claim to the dowry as these are personal gifts and are mostly acquired before marriage so are outside the purview of shared items.

In Nigeria, dowries can include, Kitchenware, livestock, land, jewelry and in some parts of the north, the father actually buys furniture.

Note that Dowry is not wedding gifts given to the couple. These are gifts for the two of them.

AllenSpencer:
Seems you not a Christian

Seeds are never refunded. When you sow, you have to wait for harvest

Beuberry:
This is the time to spend wisely. January 2025 will be a very long month. Learn from this short story below.



Firsr few scene were cash out and oblee periods.

DejiPlug:
Praise GOD

Nigerian man sparks online debate after sharing his family drama in an anonymous post through social media influencer @Wizarab.

According to his account, he revealed his sister’s repeated infidelity to her husband, a man who had played a pivotal role in his own financial stability and supported their family extensively.



Opinions are welcome

Jesus is Lord

illicit:
I wish to catch my gf in bed with another girl...

👉👌👌

Thevoicetman:
Shallipopi review to interview that they can never understand music money because music money is like r!tual there is too much money in music

Watch video

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9IldHbM2oKQ

chiagozien:
I don't know if to keep it to myself.

He recently told me his intention to marry her, But before then he found out the lady know me through her comment on my Facebook post, Which he asked me if I know the lady.
I told him yes that she's my friend but I didn't go deep to the level our friendship was.
He's asked me if she's my girlfriend that he don't want it be dragging a woman with his brother.

I told him no problem that he should go on with her if he likes her(Already tired of her and didn't know it will lead to marriage discussion) The girl confirmed to my cousin she knows me very well and even know where I live in City,told him my area and street.
But I don't know if she told him our level of friendship.

But before then the girl reached out to me and told me my cousin (junior) is asking her out, That what's our stand, Which I told her to go on if she like him.

Her reply was I am the one she love most but she doesn't understand my attitude towards her again.

I said Okay.

Now my cousin is talking about marrying her, Even some days ago I was with both of them drinking, watching Masquerade and being entertained (I went to my Town for new yam festival)

The lady lives in the same city with me, From where we meet,She came back,I don't know if is for the festival or for the marriage matter because my cousin base in my Town for now.

We dated for three months before I started ghosting her because of a character I can't live with.
She is too possessive.

No lady will pass without her asking why do you look her Nash.(Even when i May not noticed the lady that passed)

Questions of how many girls you collected their numbers today, how many girls toasted you today.
Always demand to go through my phones.

Outside that she had no issues with the little I know her.

I don't know if to mind my business because he's the cousin I am more close to.

Olaolex:
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Testiebobo:
What can i do for my close friend who have being scratching his underneath for weeks.

A pharmacist prescribed an antibiotics for him but still itchy. He described his discomfort from coming up inside his body. #Lil will sometimes grab his joystick and rub it hard until it becomes pink# he told me.

I asked him when last did he Bleep and he said last year. I dont know how to help him again o. And i cant watch him crying from discomfort. What medications should i get for him?

LeeSmart:
Normally most women behave daht way lol. Bought an iphone13 for my wife, really didnt knw how she got the phone spoilt, she started blaming me for buying her iphone13 instead of iphone15. Las las i bought the iphone15 for her hoping she's not going to accuse me of not buying samsung s23 for her...
One can't just understand women at all.

AyobamiOluwole:
So this girl has been coming to my place, eat the best food and all that. I've asked her if she has a boyfriend and she said no. I do give her money without asking her for anything on return because I could see she is not the lazy type and she is really hardworking. I am very much ok with finances and I see no issues with some of her demands.


Yesterday I called her and told her that I'm not happy and that I need cuddle only and not sex(I lost so much Dollars from futures trading that night). She later called and said she will come to my place for that reason. In my mind I was thinking this will go down as sex and all, but I don't really want sex.

All I just needed is someone to cuddle and get distracted with that's all. This is the only time I am demanding something from her.

So she came during the evening time, and later that night we went to supermarket and I got her something's to eat at home for the night. We got back home and everything was going well. We were both on the bed when I reminded her why she came. This is someone I've been doing quite a lot for without even thinking twice out of pity. She wouldn't give in and wouldn't let me know why she can't just allow me to cuddle her.

Mehn, from the loss I had earlier and all that, I got infuriated and called another girl telling to pls come over for the night. Then I told this girl to leave my house since she can be that selfish. I sent her out of my house around 10pm. She was telling me she doesn't have money to go home, I didn't care and I shut my door against her. Though I was scared letting her out on that road and that time of the night but my anger got the better part of me. It was later after getting over the whole thing I confirmed nothing happened to her from someone else.

Pls is there anything wrong with what I did?

Modified: Anger is a bad thing. I am wrong sending her away at that time of the night. This is probably the judgement I'll get 😔