₦airaland Forum

doggedfighter:
You're hot in the night? And you are born again?

Go buy an air conditioner then.

Mode4:
I am always having a lot of sexual urge in the night. Most nights I usually have an erect penis that will not let me find sleep easily. I am 26. I don't want to have sex because I am born again. I am planning to marry as soon as my business gains ground, likely next year. I jus don't know what to do. Please, your kind advice and suggestions. No insult pleased..

DZTech:
Whether you're single, divorced or widowed-
First and foremost, love, respect and appreciate yourself.

Your child is a blessing.
I hope you're proud of them?

Our society is hypocritical.
Maybe it's the patrilineal nature of our culture. Maybe it's to prevent recurrence in the younger generation.
But if so, why do all developed nations have the same issue of unwanted pregnancy-
Despite all the preventive measures available to them, including safe abortions?

Let's leave that debate for politicians, traditional rulers and religious leaders.
Here's a simple fact-
Many of our parents in the 60-80 year age range had children out of wedlock.
Is this surprising to anyone?
After all, men will have sex. Prostitution is less than 30 years as a recognized and established profession, so who were men having sex with in small towns and villages, even in cities?
Single women.
And yet despite sex workers being a part of our society, everyone pretends that they don't exist-
In EVERY part of Nigeria!

Hypocrisy.

So, you had sex and had a child.
How does that make you any less of a respectable woman?
But it's YOU who has to change the narrative-
Starting by treating the term "baby mama" as offensive.
Then by taking pride in your Motherhood-
Wetin many women dey find, but dem no fit see...
And engaging in some serious reflection and self-realization:
What do you need?
What does your child need?
How can you attain both?

Come, lemme tell you-
This mentality of "I have to focus on my child" is both unhealthy and counterproductive:
Your needs, desires, ambitions and goals- that you had before you got pregnant- must live on.
Even if they were temporarily suspended.

So after your evaluation:
1. The most important thing you need is a support structure-
Parents, extended family, friends, colleagues and spiritual guide.

2. Then you need a plan for YOUR life- built around your child, of course.
But yours.
And let your support system know why, what, when, where and how they fit into the plan.

3. Assign tasks. Delegate. Use the human resources around you.
Always grateful.

4. Be free. At least, mentally.
Fill your heart with love and hope, as you fill your mind with plans and contingencies.

5. Smile.
The world keeps spinning, people keep living.
Join in. Cherish the journey. Cos the one thing you will absolutely HATE yourself for is-
When your child asks about their growing up, and you have to lie that you were happy-
When you were actually filled with misery and resentment. Maybe of them, even.

So create the past that your future self will remember- and tell your children of- with fondness and nostalgia.

After all, who sadness epp?
You go, girl!

Truvel:
Men, What Are D Foods U Can Cook Without Any Help 4rm Anyone? Me Na, Rice, Beans, Porridge, Stew, Soup (draw & Egusi).

virginprincess:
I know nairaland broke, bitter and frustrated alpha males will soon invade this tread to bash the op, just like the one above me just did. .

Silentgroper:
Something wey i don sabi since uni days..

fati2001 be don dy shakara 4 me ontop tuwo..
she no knw xay i sabi cook am.

nafskillz:
madam yi mana shuru

nafskillz:
kina da matsala i swear must you comment on his thread??

cristy149:
ok...sorry i dont understand what "useless" mean
see her mouth like trap

cristy149:
e go dey useless na... but if the title were reversed to "woman caught man". you would have written one mumu epistle here

Petyprincess:
Fat pocket

Descortes:
I'm not surprised.
To you female nairalanders every Male here who doesnt worship women is a redpiller

kenzysmith:
that means I truly kind of look like him if they were making jest

Descortes:
For someone I'd call my other half: faithfulness (I can't stand cheats, I'd rather be with a crazy dramatic woman than someone who would cheat on me) and a heart that truly loves unconditionally.

Legendarytonyy:
After 5 years abroad, A man want his wife to swear an oath, if she did not sleep with any man since he left Nigeria !
Is he right to take this action or wrong?,

Zeal0000007:
Pals I'm really fade up on my woman, next year supposed to be our marriage introduction, we've been together for 5years now. I engaged her last 3month ego. over two years now I've been struggling so hard to have sex with her she barely allowed me touch her. she gives allot of excuses during sex, she almost like write down the number of times we have sex in a week. should we have time table for sex?

I can't have access to her body when I want to, and we're staying together, I'm not a wood. It's always one excuse or the other just to avoid sex, she's really frustrating me, and this is someone I want to get married to in months, and I don't want to Cheat on her either because I love her and want the best for us. we're having issues like this now that we are not married what about when we are married. l'm thinking of quitting. she's 22 while I'm 29, she love sex before ,even more than I do, l'm just surprised at this development for the past 2year now, why is it different now, women do all they can to keep their men to themselves, why is mine pushing me away, from my observation there's no one or anything distracting her, she just being wicked to me and stubborn, pals I don't know if there's another option, I wanted to quit or give her a competition by bringing in another woman if that will make her sit up, I'm just fade up.

SILENTandSMART2:
I'm beautiful and sexy girl also


i jusss decided to put the F today, though many people think say I'm a man

ledaman:
Fati,Fati, Fati public toilet lady

SILENTandSMART2:
hahahaha
I'm a girl aswear , trust me
moreover i why did you change to M ?
i want a boy with good characters

ledaman:
Frustrated pig 2021 is knocking on ur door.

SILENTandSMART2:
i love person wey get eleribuu qualities



as for my boyfriend i want him to have some good characters sha

Silentgroper:
Jovial nt lousy smart good sense of humour.. hardworking independent lovable and caring

nurain150:
I think you objected adultery in your earlier posts.
sis I can't seem to understand the post

Cutehector:
no

Cutehector:
what is/are your non physical quality that you look for in another person?

Uzomacharles:
Yeah and small nose too lol

Though I have height oo,so make you no think otherwise