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Literature / Re: 2017-2018 Chatbox by Faxole: 8:50pm On Feb 10, 2018 |
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Literature / Re: 2017-2018 Chatbox by Faxole: 6:48pm On Feb 10, 2018 |
ahkmed: This is actually Misswrite's reading list. She originally posted it and then deleted the comment. I reposted for the purpose of humor. |
Literature / Re: 2017-2018 Chatbox by Faxole: 6:44pm On Feb 10, 2018 |
MissWrite: George Orwell, Dostoyevsky, Nietzsche, Albert Camus, Emile Cioran, Arthur Schopenhauer, Carl Sagan, Noam Chomsky, Solzhenitsyn, Plato, Robert Greene, Thomas Sowell, Graham Hancock, Dean Radin, Steven Pinker, Jared Diamond, Hannah Arendt, Carl Jung, Naomi Klein, Daniel Kahnman, Robert Hare and everything History. |
Literature / Re: 2017-2018 Chatbox by Faxole: 6:08pm On Feb 10, 2018 |
MissWrite: Edited. |
Romance / Re: A Rape advocate's outrage at opinions on sexual consent by Faxole: 5:37pm On Feb 10, 2018 |
Dimples129: All rape doesn't share the same process and reasoning. There is a difference between the mental state and intention of someone who forces himself on a woman who refuses to have sex with him, or is unaware of his desires to have sex with her, and the mental state of someone who has already been given access to a woman's pusssy by the woman herself, after a period of reciprocal pre-intimacy, and been allowed to thrust in and out repeatedly for a period of time, and then for some reason, most of which I'll argue has physiological underpinnings, refuses or is unable to pull out his dick when the woman tells him to. There are certain cases where sensitivity and empathy demands that you put a person's need before your rights. Unless you are some unemphatic psychopath who doesn't care about anyone but herself. The fact that the law gives you rights doesn't mean you should sacrifice your humanity to express it. The aspect of this argument that just surprises me is your willingness to support the proposition that a man be sent to prison for years, maybe even a lifetime, just because he refused to pull out when commanded by a woman, after the woman has giving him consent and participated in a period of sexual intercourse with him. Also, you aren't nuanced in your argument. You don't seem to care about the circumstances of the situation and you aren't interested in distinguishing between forms of rape & considering that minor forms of rape be treated with minimal legal punishments. All you care about is that a man be sent to jail and his reputation destroyed with the rapist tag, just because he refused your order to pull out when you arbitrarily asked him to. I'm not sympathizing with the perpetrator. I'm just being objective and empathic - qualities you seem to lack. You aren't even making the same argument Misswrite was making. You are saying that irrespective of the circumstances, irrespective of the reasons underlying the woman's request, irrespective of the timing, any man who refuses to pull out is a rapist operating under the same mindset of men like Bundy & Panzram and should be punished the say way every other violent, sadistic rapist is punished. I find this to be reflective of the thinking of an insensitive person who just hates men and wants to exercise power over them. I mean, if you were a ruler who had the power to issue punitive decrees, based on your argument, you are just going to line up all the men who were reported to have refused to pull out after being ordered by women, irrespective of the circumstances, and send them to prison, or to concentration camps on some isolated island so they won't be able to harm women ever again. 5 Likes 3 Shares |
Literature / Re: 2017-2018 Chatbox by Faxole: 11:09pm On Feb 09, 2018 |
@Misswrite, what kind of books do you read? |
Romance / Re: A Rape advocate's outrage at opinions on sexual consent by Faxole: 10:16pm On Feb 09, 2018 |
Dimples129: Please answer this question honestly: Do you think a man who refuses to pull out midway during sexual intercourse with a consenting partner who engaged in reciprocal pre-intimacy with him and willingly opened her legs for him should face the same legal punishments as the typical rapist? 1 Like |
Romance / Re: A Rape advocate's outrage at opinions on sexual consent by Faxole: 10:03pm On Feb 09, 2018 |
Tozara: You are right in your conclusions. I concur. I understand Misswrite's arguments and I understand how the legal system works, but I was more concerned about the level of moral reasoning that undergirded her arguments and that of people who support her position. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Romance / Re: A Rape advocate's outrage at opinions on sexual consent by Faxole: 1:20pm On Feb 09, 2018 |
MissWrite: I'm usually pragmatic when discussing issues like this. I don't just argue for theoretical purposes. I'm usually more concerned about the practical implications of an argument. I find how you are justifying being insensitive quite shocking and morally reprehensible as well. Someone once said that extreme left wing ideology has the potential to undermine society. I've always found that to be quite a profound statement and when I think about issues like this, the validity of the statement continues to shine forth. Ideas like the one you are holding have the potential to turn humans into apathetic robots who don't care about the effects of their actions on others, on the basis that they have rights and freedoms. One of the things that has helped sustain society, is the acknowledgement that an individual's actions have consequences and these consequences can affect others, so when we make a decision to act, we should do it with the awareness of the negative effects it can have on others, even if it temporarily infringes on our so called rights. You don't just sentence a man to jail for years and destroy his reputation and life just because he couldn't pull out after consentingly opening up your legs for him to fuçk. It's not just insensitive to take the keys from the friend halfway through his journey, it's also selfish, callous and cruel. And the selfishness, cruelty and callousness of that action doesn't seem to faze you. All you care about is imposing your perceived rights. This is the kind of mindset that led to the death of millions of people in the Soviet union and this is the kind of mindset that's going to lead to the collapse of society as we know it. What you feminists actually care about is power and exercising that power over men. You don't care about the consequences of your actions and the implications of your arguments. You don't care whether they are selfish, insensitive, cruel or callous. You just want to exercise power. 6 Likes 3 Shares |
Romance / Re: A Rape advocate's outrage at opinions on sexual consent by Faxole: 12:02pm On Feb 09, 2018 |
MissWrite: The validity of "No" can be disputed if the circumstances suggest an arbitrary utterance. The validity of "No" can also be disputed if the consequences are harmful in some way to the other party. If we grant that "No" cannot be disputed, then we can as well apply that to every domain of life. We can say that people should be free to say no to the utilization of something that belongs to them, whenever they like, even after saying yes. So going by your argument I could lend my car to a guy to travel with and then half way through his 12 hour journey I could just say "No" and then tell him to fuçk off and find a bus or trek. You cannot dismiss the consequences of saying "No" after already saying Yes. The potential consequences on the other party matters. I think it's quite insensitive to say that the validity of "No" cannot be negotiated, especially after saying yes. I'm sorry if I implied that women don't have to be sensitive as well. We all have to be. That's why I used "woman/man" to make my point earlier. Sometimes a woman is only ready for some heavy petting. But in the books of a lot of guys, after the pre-intimacy comes the play. It's important that decisions can be made (and can be valid) at every point of the activity. A lot of things can happen in the minds of participants. You insert your penis and she suddenly has a flash of a memory that ruins the whole mood (a demon of the past). And if you continue, you're hurting her in more ways than you can imagine. Guy's aren't without their demons either. Since we don't know what's happening in the mind of the participants and the potential consequences saying "No" or refusing to pull out may have on either of the partners, why then are we legislating this as a rape crime of which the only victim is the woman? As you've noticed during my argument, I've always been specific about what I'm against. I'm against a woman telling a guy to pull out after consentingly opening her legs for him to fuçk. I know there are cases where a woman can unwillingly open her legs, but I'm specifically referring to the cases of full consent. Yes, this is true. Fight it out in a courtroom. But that would be the case either way; the law will give the man or the woman the edge, and the other the motivation to sue. If you are familiar with most courtroom cases surrounding this kind of issue, women usually win. And that's why I find the legislation to be dangerous, insensitive and one sided. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Romance / Re: A Rape advocate's outrage at opinions on sexual consent by Faxole: 10:46am On Feb 09, 2018 |
MissWrite: A guy who is told by a woman to pull out after being shown the green light has the same ability to pull out as does the guy who is raping a sleeping victim who immediately wakes. I'm not disputing that. I'm saying that the circumstances matter and the results and after effects of both situations differ, and we really need to take them into consideration. I have issues with legislatively categorizing a situation where a guy refuses to pull out when a woman who has expressed consent, and even allowed him fuçk her for a period of time, asks him to as rape and attaching punitive measures to it. I know rape is defined as a forceful appropriation of the body of another person to satisfy a sexual need and one could argue, although not conclusively, that refusing not to pull out is tantamount to rape. But rape is also considered rape because of the victim status of the person who's body is being appropriated. I'm finding it hard to see how a woman who already gives a guy green light, kisses him, engages in pre-intimacy with him and opens her legs wide for him to penetrate, and then at an arbitrary point during the penetration insists that the guy pulls out, is the victim, even if he doesn't pull out. In this situation, how is the woman more of a victim than the guy? Who is experiencing more suffering in this situation? Isn't the guy also a victim since his pleasure and happiness has been forcefully cut off for arbitrary reasons after getting his hopes up? Isn't this an equivalent of deception and manipulation which is also a crime, hence making the guy the victim? You are also implying in your argument that women have no obligation to be sensitive to the potential negative effects of their actions on a man. Let's be honest. What valid reason could a woman have to insist that a guy pulls out, after kissing, touching, engaging in reciprocal pre-intimacy with him and being pummeled for over a minute? I honestly can't think of one, besides maybe experiencing pain from the intercourse, which in most situations isn't the case. Most women who insist that a man pull out during intercourse do it for arbitrary reasons that I regard as insensitive and of lesser magnitude than the negative effects it would have on the man, which they don't seem to give a fuçk about. Like I said in another response, there is also the potential problem of cases of malicious intent on the part of women that could spring up as a result of legislating this as rape and attaching punitive consequences. This kind of law gives women too much power and some can abuse this power. Any woman can invite a guy to her home, seduce him, kiss him, engage in pre-intimacy with him and open her pants for him to slot his dick into her, and whenever she likes, even if he is about to cum, she can tell him to pull out and when he doesn't, he is a rapist. 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Romance / Re: A Rape advocate's outrage at opinions on sexual consent by Faxole: 9:33am On Feb 09, 2018 |
Dimples129: Analogies aren't actually proper ways to evaluate the validity of an argument. Because the interpretation of an analogy seems to bear some similarity with an argument doesn't make that argument valid. I think people who aren't very smart tend to be easily swayed by analogies because on this surface they seems to legitimize an argument, but when you pry deeper and think more critically, you realize they don't. I think you should be more concerned about raising women who are decisive and empathic. A decisive and empathic woman wouldn't allow a guy penetrate her when she has misgivings about having sex with him, because not only does she possess the ability to make quick rigid decisions, she is also aware of how difficult it would be for a guy to pull out his dick when having sex with a woman. This kind of legislation gives women too much power and because of this certain women can use the legislative advantage for malicious purposes. Any woman can invite a guy to her home, seduce him, kiss him, engage in pre-intimacy with him and open her pants for him to slot his dick into her, and whenever she likes, even if he is about to cum, she can tell him to pull out and when he doesn't, he is a rapist. Another aspect of this that lots of you feminists don't take into consideration, and this ties in with my claim about the lack of empathy you guys seem to not possess, is the physiological processes that occur when a man is having sex and how those processes influence his ability to be rational and make decisions. When men have sex, lots of the blood in areas of the brain that control rational processes are drained by the limbic system to sustain erections. When this happens, these areas of the brain, like the prefrontal cortex are unable to function like they should. So it makes it quite hard for a guy to think rationally and evaluate the situation when in such position. We need to think deeply about these issues. 3 Likes 3 Shares |
Romance / Re: A Rape advocate's outrage at opinions on sexual consent by Faxole: 8:46am On Feb 09, 2018 |
MissWrite: Waking up from sleep to the feeling of another man's dick is tantamount to rape. It's not analogous to a situation where a woman already shows consent after having kissed and engaged in pre-intimacy with a man, but decides that half way through penetration, the man should pull out. If two gay men begin having sex, after reciprocating an indication of attraction & after kissing and touching, and a minute into intercourse, the guy who is being penetrated tells the other guy to stop. I believe in this instance if the one who is penetrating refuses to stop on the basis of the difficulty of pulling out half way when the gratification he is deriving is so intense, he shouldn't be penalized as a rape offender. I think the burden of blame should belong to the one(whether male or female) who obviously lacks the quality of decisiveness. If a woman has apprehensions with having sex with a guy, then let her indicate this before the guy puts his dick inside her. I'd even argue that she shouldn't even begin pre-intimacy since she knows where it can lead. Like someone said, a man isn't a toy that you just tell to start and stop whenever you like. People like you who are making this argument tend to be unemphatic to the plight of a man who is being told to pull out his dick during sex. It's the equivalent of taking the orgasmic plug off a woman as she just begins experiencing orgasm. It's very hard to do this. 9 Likes 3 Shares |
Religion / Re: Why So Many Atheists On Nairaland Forum? by Faxole: 8:36pm On Feb 08, 2018 |
HopefulLandlord, I'm curious to know what your opinion is on the double split experiment? I'm asking this question because you seem like an intelligent individual who is interested in the truth. What do you think are the possible implications of the result of the experiment? |
Romance / Re: Man Calls Pre-wedding Pictures Haram, His Love For Erotic Pictures Gets Exposed by Faxole: 8:05pm On Feb 08, 2018 |
hajidel: I'm not a christian, but I'd rather be a christian in 100 life times than be a muslim for a day. And my reason for this is predicated on my preference for the moral framework of Christianity which is light years ahead of Islam - A religion whose moral framework is still anchored to 7th century Arabia - A religion that cannot tolerate criticism - A religion that punishes by death people who leave the faith - A religion that at it's core is intolerant of other faiths. A religion that endorses the killing of people who draw a picture of their prophet - A religion that regards people of other faiths as lesser humans - A religion that supports pedophilia. 3 Likes |
Romance / Re: Man Calls Pre-wedding Pictures Haram, His Love For Erotic Pictures Gets Exposed by Faxole: 4:54pm On Feb 08, 2018 |
ollah2: Are you more literate in Islamic jurisprudence than the mullahs of various Islamic countries who formulate Sharia codes that classify forms of expression between unmarried lovers that are milder than what you find in pre-wedding pictures as haram? Gerrarahia mehn! 3 Likes |
Romance / Re: Man Calls Pre-wedding Pictures Haram, His Love For Erotic Pictures Gets Exposed by Faxole: 4:45pm On Feb 08, 2018 |
alBHAGDADI: The political correct leftists who support Islam and shield it from criticism are mostly ignoramuses who know nothing about the history of the religion and the danger it poses to the world. They are just neo-marxists who see the world through the lens of oppression of minority groups and they always side with the minority, irrespective of the demerits of that minority. According to them, the problem isn't with Islam, the problem is with the west and it's patriarchal, oppressive structures. They see the current woes of Islam, like terrorism, as a direct product of western imperialism and they see any hostile behavior of muslims towards other cultures as a response to racism and the attempt to impose their cultures on the muslim societies. To them, there isn't any link between the behavior of muslims and Islam. What a load of bullshit!! These airheads most certainly haven't read the Quran and the Hadiths. If they have, they'll see that there is no internal contradiction between the violent behavior of muslims around the world, and the doctrines of Islam. And another thing that surprises me is that most of these same political correct leftists are also feminists, but yet they side with the most misogynistic religion in the history of time. 8 Likes |
Religion / Re: Why So Many Atheists On Nairaland Forum? by Faxole: 3:04pm On Feb 08, 2018 |
hopefulLandlord: I listed Atheists who experienced depression and extreme psychological crises when contemplating the lack of meaning in life. I didn't mention any atheist who attempted suicide. I said I had read of one who actually committed suicide, but I forgot his name. I only said statistically, atheists tend to make more suicide attempts than religious people. This argument on suicide wasn't between me and you. It was between me and Martinez. The argument I had with you was on christian values and how it had influenced western culture and the Nigerian society. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Religion / Re: Why So Many Atheists On Nairaland Forum? by Faxole: 2:49pm On Feb 08, 2018 |
vaxx: What's the dispute about? |
Romance / Re: Man Calls Pre-wedding Pictures Haram, His Love For Erotic Pictures Gets Exposed by Faxole: 2:40pm On Feb 08, 2018 |
What a hypocrite. In my experience on this earth, I haven't met bigger and more dangerous hypocrites than muslims. This doesn't mean I haven't met people from other religions who are hypocrites, I have. I've met christian hypocrites. But the troubling thing about muslim hypocrites is that they are the only ones that have the tendency to harm and even kill others for the same thing that they are guilty of. And they'll justify it with their holy scriptures. And even when they commit a crime that's so dehumanizing and reprehensible, they'll just brush it aside like it's nothing and say that Allah will forgive them. Just look at this guy brushing off his own more reprehensible action without any remorse whatsoever, yet labelling harmless pre-wedding pictures as haram. If this was a muslim country and this guy was a member of the bureaucracy, he'd have issued a fatwa already, and tomorrow and in subsequent days you'd see dead bodies of recently married couples littering the streets. Islam needs a serious reformation. 496 Likes 41 Shares |
Romance / Re: If Rapture Takes Place On Valentine's Day,will you Make Heaven? by Faxole: 2:12pm On Feb 08, 2018 |
You have to be really dense to believe that the Revelation story is a literal foretelling of the future. And you have to be denser and very ignorant to think that the world will end by a rapturing of Christians into heaven. 1 Like |
Religion / Re: Does The Bible Give Clues To How Old The Earth Is? by Faxole: 8:05am On Feb 08, 2018 |
Biblical scholars have traced the chronology in the bibilical texts conclusively to around 6000 years for the creation of the world. Scientifically, this might seem false since the earth is over 4 billion years old and the universe over 13 billion years old. But the interesting thing is that this date of 6000 years correlates roughly with the age of the earliest human civilizations. We know that the genesis story was borrowed from older creation myths, notably the ancient Mesopotamian myths, and then modified. And we know that the ancient Mesopotamians were the oldest civilization, even predating the Egyptians. What if they knew something we don't? |
Religion / Re: Joseph Stalin Was A Good Man by Faxole: 7:36pm On Feb 07, 2018 |
hopefulLandlord: Yes. And I also argued against Christians and Muslims on this forum. It's very easy to argue against religion. I dumped the idea for the same reason I dumped Christianity. I became enlightened. Over the years I have gathered lots of knowledge that just run in direct opposition to an atheistic conception of reality. |
Religion / Re: Joseph Stalin Was A Good Man by Faxole: 6:51pm On Feb 07, 2018 |
hopefulLandlord: I think our current understanding of the nature of reality is incomplete and our scientific method of evaluating truth is still in it's infancy. I think humans throughout history have obtained knowledge about truths that even current science doesn't fully grasp and these truths have been passed down through time, mostly secretly, and some of these truths have been embedded in religious books and religious beliefs, howbeit in a distorted and implicit manner. God in the sense of an anthropomorphic creator of the universe might not exist, but does that mean all the instances in various religious books where people were interacting with beings who weren't human is just mere fabrication? I don't think so. There is more to it. Same with the various religious experiences that have abounded through time and still abound. Discarding all as just illusions or fabrications is unwise. 1 Like |
Religion / Re: Joseph Stalin Was A Good Man by Faxole: 6:01pm On Feb 07, 2018 |
hopefulLandlord: I'm someone who believes that there is a lot humans don't know about the nature of reality. I don't believe in the existence of a God the way the monotheistic religions do, but I don't discard them as mere fabrications of ignorant minds. I believe there are lots of universal metaphysical principles that are embedded within most religions, and there are things that the inventors of these religions know that humans today don't. And this applies to the ancient Mesopotamians, the ancient Jews and the so called Bishops who canonized the christian scriptures. 1 Like |
Religion / Re: Joseph Stalin Was A Good Man by Faxole: 5:24pm On Feb 07, 2018 |
rekinomtla: The same way atheism could lead to genocide, an adherence to religion could also lead to genocide. More people have been murdered in the name of religion throughout history than all the deaths in the regimes of Stalin and Mao combined. There are inherently good and bad aspects to every belief system. What you do as a result of the belief system is what's more important. |
Religion / Re: Joseph Stalin Was A Good Man by Faxole: 5:07pm On Feb 07, 2018 |
hopefulLandlord:I'm not. I am not an atheist either. |
Religion / Re: Why Does God Allow His Believers To Be Exposed To Painful Things? by Faxole: 4:38pm On Feb 07, 2018 |
Being exposed to painful things is a consequence of limitation. Humans are limited in various ways - We die. We die because we are destructible and can be harmed. Without limitation there is no being and hence no existence. Forms of limitation like pain and death are a necessary requirement for being. 1 Like 1 Share |
Science/Technology / Re: Elon Musk Launches Car To Space on World's Most Powerful Rocket(Photos/Video) by Faxole: 4:12pm On Feb 07, 2018 |
Rex123: I know what I'm saying. I used Latino as a cultural delineation not as a racial one. Even still, the Latinos(as a racial term) still trace their origins, and much of their genetic material, back to the natives/Indians. There are still millions of people in Southern and Northern America who hail from the direct unadulterated blood line of those killed during the Spanish conquests. In places like Peru and Bolivia, natives make up majority of the population. |
Romance / Re: The Blunt Show - Can A Relationship Survive Without Sex? by Faxole: 3:57pm On Feb 07, 2018 |
amakadihot87: I'm not referring to you, I'm referring to the video you posted. Go online and you'll see that these are the only kind of discussions you see black youths gather together to have. As if it's talking about relationship and sex that will move their society and culture forward. 89 Likes 6 Shares |
Religion / Re: Joseph Stalin Was A Good Man by Faxole: 3:52pm On Feb 07, 2018 |
The sarcasm and humour in this is Gold. |
Romance / Re: The Blunt Show - Can A Relationship Survive Without Sex? by Faxole: 3:36pm On Feb 07, 2018 |
The only thing black youths are good at discussing is relationships. Go on YouTube and you'll be hard pressed to find a single black channel dedicated to talking about intellectual/scientific subjects and interesting ideas. If it's not BkChat relationship nonsense, it's make-up and hair advice. Even currently in Nigeria, if the average youth isn't talking about Big brother Naija, they are talking about football. After you all will be wondering why black societies are all backward. 308 Likes 39 Shares |
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