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Orilee9ice:
@ all
Aditu, Tan'moo oo ko waa soooo!! ile ise yin o ni jo naa o Amin!!

Tigi ogo baga sogo agagogo tigipaga tigipaga agawongon agarogoraga wogon agatungun ragabuguege

A good point u hv made Muhsin. We shud always ask about each
Other, to initiate this, how about sending our contacts to Jarus so that noone will
Be incommunicado. What do u think guys?

@Dominique
Ogo tigi Ragajigi sugubugu

Pweety4me:
Oga fun yoruba yin o!

Yoruba wa is too pweety 4u nah. Abi?.

Orilee9ice:
Gbogogbogo egeyingi egenigiyangan mingi, senge ege wanga sanga! Kigi longo segelenge egefrigi bogodingi manga quwagayegetingi kenge! ege jagasingi jagarenge ongo!!

Orile
Oro re su mi o. O re ko fuji r'egun ( o le ko fuji l'egun).  O tun nko oyinbo ni ede ena. Na wa for u sef. Yugu arga somgitingi elgi singi.

@ Tugu baga biegie

Maga disgi grage sgi mingi. ongo. Mogo mogo wigi pege tigi ogo baga fagaraga bagalenge dagadaga, waga rigi pege kogo lenge. Tubo gbiyanju jare, omoluwabi.

miftaudeen:
Hmmm, A pity to all muslims in over d world,just because will did not work together,why? well everybody faced his family alone and they are killing his brother in his surrandind wihtout any action,what i mean by killing is idealogical war fear e.g brainwash,empowerment by non muslim. my brothers and sisters please wake up and help your brethen in islsm.

Can u pls shed more light?

Mukina, how nah? Welcome back

Remii:
Let me try:

Ibeere ose tuntun leyi, e maa miliki.

Moyo se mogba a.

Remii
Ogo gbaanga. Waa jo mi, omo.

Egedege yogorugubaga naga nigi. 'Ena' (dot the 'e') ni won npe.

Chy no fine

Yetty
The title of this thread is SISTERS DISCUSS ISSUES AND QS RELATING TO FEMINITY AND ISLAM, and the section is ISLAM FOR MUSLIMS. kinni tie nbe?

Truly, the issue at hand does not only affect Muslim women, it affects the whole continent of Africa. Unfortunately, some people cannot separate or differentiate culture from religion. So before u start whatever u think you are starting, check the other books and take a good look around you, with more attention to your immediate environment.

Islam allow polygamy with reservations and conditions that if applied, polygamy is more healthier than nominal monogamy with 'side orders' that is more common with Xtian men.

I already knew that some rodents are going to crawl in freely to gate-crash. Anyway, thanks for the 'Iborun'. Eku ayonuso.

Moyola:
Igibeegeereegee ogesege tunguntungn legeyigi!
Ege maga migiligikigi!!

Sege kigi aga tungun maga sogo ege naga nigi. Kogo maga logo beegee

Yetty
Thanks for your input, but you may want to consider opening another thread "are men superior to women?"
To answer that - Yes they are, and all those Quranic quotes support my answer.

In case u are wondering, I stand steadfast in Islam. No turning back, no shaking. Islam encourage muslims to ask when in doubt and also to seek more knowledge, that is my right and it will be fully exercised without the fear of any anti-islam looking for a way to point nasty fingers.

@Remii
Exactly my point. Ti a ba se, bi won ti nsee, aari bi o ti nri.

uplawal:
hmmmmm, see how lagosboy jumped at nanai's post,

Me self see it nah. lol

Orilee9ice:
@ Africhika
if my memory serves me correctly,(and DayoKanu plz correct me if i am wrong, i came from Jand) its on the left hand side towards the beginning of Clark St if you come in from Halstead area,from Lake Shore Drive (where i was) its got like a Burgundy canopy outside by the door, and i think its next to a cab office 2! we drove, but u can also get a bus (going to Halstead) from Jackson boulevard, or the Train (Blue line) get off at Belmont and walk, did that when i went to Marshalls,

Orile
The direction you gave is for BOLAT restaurant. They moved in the summer of last year to Broadway street between Wilson and Leland right next to the Family Dollar store, they also change their name to IYANZE. QAATO is further North, about half a block from Touhy and Clark. We also have TBS, OSSAS, BQetc.

Awa Yoruba ma buru o. Epe yi ti po ju nkan tio sonu lo. Emi o tie ni gba ibi yi koja debi wipe bata mi a wa lo gbon panti si ile, emi ko!!! mo yeee.

Okay , jeki ngbiyanju, DUMP YOUR TRASH HERE SO THAT YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN CAN BE UNLUCKY AND UNFORTUNATE THIS YEAR.

@Nanai
You are right about that. If one is destined to marry 2,3,or 4 wives, no matter what his preference is, somehow and someway it will happen, likewise if a woman is destined to marry a half (shared) husband, no one can stop it from happening. May Allah answer all our prayers and show us the right path.

Lagosboy
My main point is for the Muslim community to stress fairness, and for men to be just and take into consideration the feelings of the 1st wife and do it right instead of always saying, men are allowed, so women should just shut up. Nothing is wrong with Islam doctorines, It' is our people who need to learn the proper way of doing things and not translate the Quran to make excuse for their rubbish.

Nanai:
@Lagosboy:Jazakallah.

@Ladies: Please don't hate me but I think I have to agree with the men on this one. Honestly, we women are too selfish.Allah has created men and women differently i.e with different needs and desires.While a woman can be satisfied with one man, a man can hardly be satisfied with a woman. I don't think a man needs a reason to take in another wife. Men have the capacity to love more than one woman at a time. Its amazing how muslim women go to extremes to ensure their men don't re-marry.

I agree that muslim men are unjust but that doesn't mean Islam is. Islam has provided protection for women in cases like this. If your husband is taking a second wife, encourage him to find out Allah's rules and provisions concerning the matter.

Ladies, please don't push your husbands into Zina as Allah will definitely punish you for that.

Yeah, men may have been created differently but one thing is for sure, we bleed the same blood, we she same tears, and have the same heart. No woman can honestly say "no problem, bring it on' when it comes to second wife, unless the woman is really not in love to begin with(very few women are like that). It can be accepted fisabilillah if it's done in the right way and manner, but not 100percent happily. "For best result, take as prescribed" If done the way Allah prescribes, women will have less S&S (Suffering & Smiling).
Nanai, I will like to know in some years to come, if u still have the same feeling. May we all live long, insha Allah.If you read my post well, My main concern is how it is done, not very much on the act of doint it. No man needs to be pushed to zina, trust me, its innert with them. Your best will never be good enough and your all may be too much.

Remiiii
Eku eke eebu

Noble
Rora maa na awo o.

O daa, a o ni searchi e, sugbon a o ni joko taratara. Ki iwo na maa ranti pe oju wa lara re (all eyes on you)

Thanks Remii.
I have read it in the Quran too, about how the wars converted so many women into widows and their children, orphans, which was the reason behind having more than one wife. It wasn't to support men's infidelity. The other issue, is if the woman , for some reasons cannot have children. I am yet to see in the Quran 'not looking attractive or aging' as the reason. Most of our men start with zina and then brand it 'sunnah'. Isn't sunnah different from zina? The other woman sometimes is coming from a relationship where she was cheating on the man and now wants to become the wife of the person she has been cheating with. Takullah!!!! Now here she comes, in full force, and with their favourite slogan "I want her (meaning the rightful wife) to scoot over so I can sit, but if she refuses, then she will have to vacate the seat for me" Ahba!!! And lo and behold she will do ANYTHING and EVERYTHING to make this happen. Ya ayhu al-nas, taku robakum!!!!!

I think we Muslims need to thoroughly educate our men about this delicate issue while being truthful and then it will be easy to educate women about the acceptance of such act. 'Ihidina siratal mustakeem'.

Allah knows best

Ewo tun ni "Ina wo" please explain

I pity the guy. Some people don't value what they have until it got lost. Well, I wish you good luck with the next man.

lady_hard:
Poster is an agbaya.
If he continues with this, he will end up as sugar daddy to young girls. He will be 45 dating a 17 year old girl and he will be struggling to look young but end up looking foolish.

Like 'Baba-jayejaye' (the movie with Jennifer and Baba Suwe). Shake it baby, shake it baby, MONSTER.

Moyola:
Ara nfu mi si o! Maa bo kin search e dada!

Emi na faramo wipe ki a search re daada. Omo ile 'Kata' abi kilo pe ara e?

@ Lagosboy
Is this your opinion or can you back it up with one or two verses in the Quran or Hadith? It's easy to assume that when a man gets a second wife, it's his wife's fault. Many a times, this is not the case at all, men are just polygamous, just like u have mentioned. For discussion sake, let's just say the wife is now looking 'less attractive' why not approach her about it and allow her to spice up again, afterall she was attractive when you married her. Replacing her with another woman in the name of I am a muslim and I am allowed to have two,three or four, yes it is allowed but is it compulsory, is it a requirement by God. You men don't know how much women suffer silently because of this, most especially the way our Nigerian men do it. It is cruel, if you ask me. Personally, I don't like it and I already let my husband know that if he ever decides to do that I will use the "exit' instead of being the second best. If you ever wonder why most women nowadays are having extramarital affairs, this is one of the many reasons. They don't want to have a nervous breakdown over a man, hence they seek happiness in the arms of other women's husband, what a domino effect!!!. I don't supposrt being unfaithful just becuase of this, and that's why I would rather throw the towel. Like Jamila said, it can be swallowed in the name of God, if there is a very good reason for it and it is done with compassion.

uplawal:
sister,u dnt have to if u love him and he loves you,but what could have led him to want a second wife,could u have caused it or maybe he just feels he needs more children and you think youre okay with the ones you have already?or you dnt satisfy his sexual urge anymore, cos i know men, thats all they think about apart from their career and food

Did not happen to me, yet. Just asking so that I will know how to answer when faced with a challenge of talking someone out of it. Besides, every muslim woman needs to know, because you never know when it will be your turn, whether you feed him properly (in so many different ways a man can be fed) or not, most of them will find an excuse for it whenever they choose to get a second wife.

uplawal:
though am not saying a woman should not look preety to her hubby though but that does not call for indecent clothings all cos i wanna look kinky

Actually, a woman can wear anything she so desires in the presence of her husband, skimpy, kinky or even your birthday suit as long as only four eyes are watching, and that does not constitute indecency.

FayeZik:
Can a woman divorce her husband because he is getting a second wife?

Guys, why the long silence with this Q? I smell some 'ojoro' coming o.