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Thanks a million for the help! I am more than grateful for your time and detailed feedback. 🙏

I will contact you on Whatsapp.
Thanks

Hello Gurus in the house!

Please anyone with a good career guide for my son of 7 years old plus, who is showing a serious interest in computer's design works. He loves to use the computer very often to design, using paint but I don't know much about the computer's world. Please what computer's skill can he learn that would help him in his future tech pursuit.

Thank you sir and ma in anticipation

wittywriter:
Great conceptual vision...howbeit start by creating your community creatively.
With the age bracket(5-13yrs) you mentioned I'll suggest you create an online presence for contents archiving...
[1] The easiest way to actively maximize social media is by been deliberately in the faces of your intended audience... So ask yourself this question.. Whom are your audience? Children or their Parent(s)/Guidance (s)?.

@Bolded you are the one to make this decision based on your expertise and the vision you have.

Howbeit reaching out to schools should be your last approach after you have created a community from the existing patronage you enjoy (as you claim).

Howbeit there is a more effective way to achieve your community via what is called Influenced PA Value.
It simply requires you to outsource for community at a cost.


Wittyness

Thank you so much for your tangible contribution and I really appreciate.

wittywriter:
Great conceptual vision...howbeit start by creating your community creatively.
With the age bracket(5-13yrs) you mentioned I'll suggest you create an online presence for contents archiving...
[1] The easiest way to actively maximize social media is by been deliberately in the faces of your intended audience... So ask yourself this question.. Whom are your audience? Children or their Parent(s)/Guidance (s)?.


Wittyness

Thank you so much for your timely and detailed reply.

I so much appreciate your help! On the solid point you raised on the community creativity, I am already putting up plans to reach out to schools.

In your own honest opinion, whom do you think would be the best audience; parents or children with reasons?

Hello great minds,

I am a storyteller for children between ages 5 - 13. I am also a juvenile coach to children of the ages above.

I am a trained Teacher with well over 10 years of teaching experiences across different states in Nigeria. Recently ( about 2 years ago ), I discovered a great passion for impacting young people with positive moral values through stories telling which lead to my resignation from my 8 - 5 job and the beginning of a whole new career...

I am of the opinion that integrating the formal education with positive moral values could be the answer to a healthier society for all.

Formal education, though the bedrock of any society is certainly NOT the ONLY answer to reducing or possibly eradicating the alarming and increasing rate of social menances especially; amongst young people!

I would appreciate your kind suggestions on the below:

1. How I can maximize the use of the different social media platforms. Kindly note that I am not an avid user of the same.

2. How to use my stories and contents to reach a wider audience and get opportunities to impact these young minds.

3. Generate income and supports for my time and efforts which will in turn afford me more opportunities to reach my goals of impacting young minds especially those in underserved communities.

Moreso, I believe that now is the best time to catch them young, prepare them for a healthier future and equip them with the required information they deserve to make the right choices because I believe that safety in rural areas equals safety in urban areas!

Hello dear writer!

I would appreciate ma, that you carefully go through my reply to your message in regards to your ' lonely state ' carefully and with a OPEN MIND, PLEASE.

Ensure you read more than once too, please.

Don't mind the construction, if it seems unprofessional rather focus on the points.

First, let me start by saying, " you are over 80% gone at finding the solution ( s ) TO WHATEVER IT IS THAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH. So, DON'T GIVE UP!

NEVER!

I say this because the first major step at being a better ' us ' or improving at something is REALIZATION. Which you already have!

Therefore, I celebrate you, your Success, your courage and determination to get help?👏👏👏👏👏👏👏🤗


I am certainly NOT here to preach religion even though a part of me is happy that you mentioned your efforts at getting friends from a church.

This is NOT because I am a preacher or a know - it - all ma BUT because I believe that reading your post just this night; was DIVINE!
I was so touched by your story. Hubby shared link with me ) and I have a burden to share some useful tips with you if you don't consider me a ' child '.

These are my sincere observations:

✓ You are a sincere individual; it's evident from your post.
You opened up about love for going abroad and also started your " mistakes ". I mean, NOT MANY PEOPLE WOULD DO THAT!


✓ You are restraining yourself " unnecessarily " ma!
How?

If your sister didn't complain about you calling her, who are you to refrain yourself ma?

OPEN UP MA! That's what sisters / brothers do for one another!

I mean, it's in tough times that we know through friends.

✓ You CANNOT GIVE WHAT YOU DON'T HAVE! Find God, sincerely now. You won't regret it ma.

Note: The people in the church cannot give you want you need if you don't first, find the giver of every good and perfect gift! What if you aren't paying enough attention to the cues from your maker?

I mean, everybody in the church can't be the problem. They all CANNOT hate you; that is if they do without any reason.
I am not judging ma; just stating the obvious!

✓ There are still great people out there, INFACT MANY; so why should finding one be so tough on you?
Look in another direction, please.

✓ Stop entertaining negative thoughts. It's playing a fast one on you.

Don't forget the Bible scriptures below; you can read them too.

* The hearts of Kings are in his hands...
* Without Him you can do nothing...
* Commit your ways unto the Lord...
* Help does not come from the east...
* We wrestle not against...
* If we have faith as little as a mustard...

I mean no insult at all: But please pardon me if you feel insulted!

My humble suggestions:

# How about you START by ' LOVING ' you and being happy.
This is one thing that I am CERTAIN about; HAPPINESS STARTS with you!

You don't believe me?

Ask yourself this question then: Why do rich, comfortable, seemingly happy people, home and abroad Commit suicide?

Here is it, you may have all the money, family, affluence and even loved ones around and still do the unthinkable!

# Geniuenly answer the following questions ma:

A. Am I truly lonely because I am abroad? I mean, I know it's busy there; never been there but then...
B. Was I happier back home?
C. Are people the reason I feel this way?
D. What is it that I am not doing right?
E. What do I truly lack, my inner self, family, fun memories or good friends
F. Do people ( family, now ) call me if I don't call them?
G. Has it always been this way?
H. Can I trace this loneliness to some past events? If yes, am I exaggerating it ?

Let me explain some of my reasons for asking you to do the above.

1. You may only need to change your mindset.
• Work more at being a better person,
• Learn great attitudes and communication skills.
• Get positive distractions and keep being positive.

2. Maybe, just maybe you have an attitude that is refraining you from expressing yourself the way that you should and this could be a huge turn - off to intending true friends!

# Join physical and online groups that interests you.
Here you would learn about other people and KNOW FOR SURE that YOU ARE NOT ALONE!

# Get involved at something you enjoy doing. Maybe, music, writing, traveling, cooking, attending to peoples' questions like me or anything at all! So long as it is something productive.
I tell you, you can't regret it!

# Focus more on your STRENGTHS! The more you do this, the lesser your weakness ( es ) show up their ugly faces!


Strick warning ma!

The internet isn't the best place to seek personal ANSWERS to pressing and possibly life - threatening issues like you have ma because some people here can't exactly tell what it is you are feeling, they probably are underage, you most likely can't share the same mindset because they " have it all. "
What more, no one may understand exactly how you feel and may just offer you advise ( s ) based on their own current situation or even past experiences.

Imagine this scenario, how can you explain to someone with food enough to take him the whole year that there is hunger in the land?
How can you tell a young lady in love that love doesn't exist?
How do you explain to an expectant mother that childbearing isn't really important?

I hope you get the picture now ma?


Now, INSTEAD of RELYING on answers from random people, why don't you consider:

1. Talking to a professional e.g counselor, therapist and so on.

2. Ask for honest feedback about your bad / good personality traits from close family members. This can truly be of tremendous help IF you truly want a positive change.

Don't get me wrong please, I ask questions online too from different helpful sites BUT I do well to be sincere with myself and the situation at hand before taking to any useful advice given online.

Then, my concern is that your own issue is something that involves emotions! ( Our emotion can do a lot, BELIEVE ME! )
They can make you call white black and vice versa!😊

A slight or immature reply could set you to a place you can't even imagine ( DEPRESSION ) and that is why I think otherwise ma.



KEEP TO HEART THE FOLLOWING:


CHANGE BEGINS WITH YOU!

Research has shown that OUR BRAINS BELIEVES WHAT WE TELL IT. So, BE POSITIVE!

EVERY BATTLE WE WIN OR LOSE STARTS FROM WITHIN; OUR MINDS!

It is NOT enough to read this post. As it won't do you much good EXCEPT you PUT TO PRACTISE some of the things you find useful from it.


I hope you find the post helpful and I shall be glad to help in any way possible.

However, TO BE SURE that you saw and read my comment, do well to leave a reply or you could leave me a message mymoves2017@gmail.com.



You would be fine!
Help is closer than you can imagine.
Your Mr. Right is around the corner. I can sense him!
God loves you!
🤗🤗🤗

Hello amiable viewers,

Do ensure that you read till the very end of this post, please.

Being a TEACHER and a mother, I have always been a stunch advocate for the fact that, " every child is special, unique and has great ( unknown ) strengths inspite of any weakness or weaknesses that such a child displays!

Seeing the post below really made me elated, as a result, I am reposting right here because I would like to hear your honest views on the topic above - Destructive criticism!

We all are guilty of this crime - " destructive comparison " !

It is a crime that is NOT peculiar to a tribe or colour.

We all have sometime; whether consciously or not fallen victim of commiting the crime -
We do so in our words and sometimes in our thoughts!

" How I wish my daughter or son was this smart"
" How I wish he / she could write and speak so well ".

The list goes on and on.

In all of this, that child still possesses some form of PECULIARITIES and UNIQUENESS.
Such that we may or NOT have discovered because we aren't focusing on the STRENGTHS but rather dwelling on the weaknesses.

https://www.linkedin.com/posts/dr-laura-narry-4b5503226_repost-inspiration-standoutfromthecrowd-activity-7055537007627755520-nLgX

Please click the link above ☝️.

The story in the above link will further convince you that you, infact have a gold- mine of opportunities yet UNTAPPED in that very SPECIAL CHILD OF YOURS!


The floor is open to every parent (s), adult teens, and especially; teachers to share their experiences on how they, encouraged, stood by, adviced, watched and helped someone overcame in spite of all the ODDS AGAINST SUCH AN INDIVIDUAL'S PECULIARITIES!

Hello amiable viewers, being a TEACHER and a mother, I have been a stunch advocate of the fact that, " every child is special, unique and has great unknown strengths inspite of any weakness or weaknesses that such a child portrays!

Seeing the post below made me really elated and I am reposting right here because I would like to hear your honest views on the topic above.

We all are guilty of this crime - " destructive comparison " !

It is a crime that is NOT peculiar to a tribe or colour.

We all have sometime; whether consciously or not fallen victim of the crime ; how I wish my daughter or son was this smart, how I wish he / she could write and speak so we'll.

In all of this, that child still possess some form of peculiarities that we may not have discovered because we aren't focusing on the STRENGTH but rather dwelling on the weaknesses.

https://www.linkedin.com/posts/dr-laura-narry-4b5503226_repost-inspiration-standoutfromthecrowd-activity-7055537007627755520-nLgX

Please click the link above ☝️.

The story in the above link will further convince you that you infact have a gold- mine of opportunities being UNTAPPED in that very SPECIAL CHILD OF YOURS!

The floor is open to every parent (s), adult teens, and especially; teachers to share their experiences on how they, encouraged, stood by, adviced, watched and helped someone overcame in spite of all the ODDS AGAINST SUCH AN INDIVIDUAL'S PECULIARITIES!

A pleasant evening madam. Below are my candid pieces of advice to you ma:

First of all, I think you and your husband need to apologise to God for trying to take the space of God in your son's life.
Your are NOT his maker!
I am saying this because you mentioned in your post that you both are christians but you never talked as such. I couldn't see God in all the picture.
It was just YOUR HUSBAND!
Did you and your husband sit to consider the implication if that is ( his calling - Computer Science ) ?

Secondly, I think your husband and yourself need to sincerely apologise to the young man - now, not because you ( were all wrong ) but because you
did what you did in the WRONG WAY.
You are his parents; guardian and your first duty was to ​help him make great and positive choices, to support him and encourage him, to help him fight and conquer his fears and NOT do otherwise.

Thirdly madam and very respectfully; PRAYER works but it doesn't do all for us!
Simply put, God will NEVER do what we as humans should do.
See the example here ma; you gave birth to your children and God will not train them for you. Although if you guide and instruct them in God's way, he helps you so that they turn out well.

Now here is my point, it is nice that you were told to pray BUT you need to do the NEEDFUL!

1. It is imperative that you find your way back into your son's mind ( heart )
Reasons; his image and self - esteem has been tampered with, his love for you all damaged, his trust shamed.

2. His mind needs to be " at peace " , ( balanced ) for any meaningful recovery to take place because our MINDS as humans is where " We Win or Lose Every of Life's battle "!

3. Get the help of someone your husband respects to convince him.
I mean, since he has the resources, helping the young man actualise his own dream should not be problem.

​Now to the young man in question, sit him down and tell him how much his father loves him and was merely looking out for him. ( Don't feel ashamed to admit he took it too far )!
Help him to trust you again because the ( isolation ) is DANGEROUS for him! It could lead to a whole lot of irreversible damage; suicide, drug abuse, low self - esteem, emotional and psychological trauma and so on.

Let him tell you want he wants and then, encourage him as long as it is something positive!

See ma'am, even if he FAILS while trying or doing what he loves, it'll only make him stronger and wiser.
Research has shown that " kids " that are allowed to ( explore ) - use their own self - will turn out great in life!

You should read more about that ma!

I mean, ask your husband what exactly he is ( afraid of ) ?

Then, get your son help! He needs it because having someone ( a counselor / therapist ) to share his HURT with would help him heal up faster.

In conclusion, you have a wonderful child as your son ma!
He has a ( heart of gold ).
I just hope he gets the help, love and support he needs.

And yes, pray and pray!

I wish you well ma as you help another star shine!

Your post is really inspiring. I think you should start a " kids / teens " club where you enlighten young ones on some of the unexpected exposures they are likely to face abroad or far away from home ( maybe in school ) as the case maybe while also educating them on possible ways to abstain and staying " sane " in an " insane " world.

Antoeni:
"Festus Keyamo insisting Bola Ahmed friends are the ones into narcotic business not him reminds me of the saying:
“show me your friends and I will tell you who you are”.

Well said! However, that saying above had been modified. It is now, " show me your friends, I will tell you your future! "

DollarBuddy:
So there's this cute 20 year-old Yoruba babe who lives with her elder brother, a senior Gynecologist in a government owned hospital in my area. She is so down to earth and very respectful.

To cut the long story short, this Yoruba girl has been entering my eyes like Omo detergent since the year 1241 AD

As I no want to talk too much, or to be seen as a player, I arranged for us to meet at an open space, an eatery. When she showed up, we only had a short chat before I told her straight up, that i want to marry her. If you see as babe shock ba

Anyways, I mean it. I'm 36 and the Yoruba girl would be 21 by next year September. She has agreed that I come to greet her brother. And I'll be doing that pretty soon.

She is just my spec. She is very brilliant and voluptuously curvy. She'll be graduating from the University by next year.

I hate to waste a lady's time, Godwilling as soon as she graduates by September next year, we're tying the knots.

That's a brave thing to do!
Similar to my story; now 13 years ago and still counting...
Wish you all the best and you won't regret it; she won't disappoint you!!
I still love my husband and feel loved by him even though we didn't court for long.
Ride on!!!

Aside from having " self - determination "; I can't deny that I had the help of others.
So, in this view; I'd ike to share some of those I give credit to for a " life well lived ":
My parents no doubt, my siblings and my seniors in school.

I remember the days of ( Extra curricular activities ).
How we were taught how to develop our boldness and confidence.
Yes, it was just a normal thing to do then but I carried that courage through and I must confess it helped me in numerous ways.

I would never forget how I also developed great love for " big grammars / words " through the club and of course with the help of my seniors in school.

I would love to hear your view on this as the old saying is ever true, " THERE CAN'T BE SMOKE WITHOUT FIRE ! "

Who do you owe your beautiful today to?
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It's time again to continue where we stopped!

Aside from having " self - determination "; I can't deny that I had the help of others.
So, in this view; I'd ike to share some of those I give credit to for a " life well lived ":
My parents no doubt, my siblings and my seniors in school.

I remember the days of ( Extra curricular activities ).
How we were taught how to develop our boldness and confidence.
Yes, it was just a normal thing to do then but I carried that courage through and I must confess it helped me in numerous ways.

I would never forget how I also developed great love for " big grammars / words " through the club and of course with the help of my seniors in school.

I would love to hear your view on this as the old saying is ever true, " THERE CAN'T BE SMOKE WITHOUT FIRE ! "

Who do you owe your beautiful today to?

reeleriksen:
I regret not learning a skill or handwork
I'm an undergraduate
21years old
Someone should suggest a skill i could learn even if school resumes

Hello friend, you need not complain or regret anything.
I mean you are just 21 and I am happy to inform you that you have all the time in the world to try out something you think you have an interest in.

Again, the decision on what to do solely depends on you; " discover yourself".
No one can understand you better than you!

Remember the old saying, " it is better late than never! "

So let's continue from where we stopped.

I think having a picture of what you want for your life will to a great extend help to curb if not eradicate "distraction" ( decadence ) in your life.

Think of the so many pressure you have to face and you'll agree with me that you need to build a strong defense in your mind against those external forces.

Another thing I found quite helpful was defining what I want first before considering what others may want or think that I should do.

I term it as "self - determination!"


What do you think?

emmanuelbrown26:
if u want full information, u hv to tell us d nature of d environment,

I actually do not understand what you mean by ' nature ' of the environment.

Howbeit, I would throw more light based on my understand;
It is an area though with schools; but with not enough focus on moral standards.

Also, there is no social / recreational settings for this young ones to fulfill the social aspect of their lifes.

We are social beings and if we don't balance every area, there may be problem...

godfrey02:
Google is your teacher. Anything you want..

Thanks so much for your response.
And yes; been out - sourcing useful information online but there's a whole lot there.

I think I would appreciate the help of a MENTOR.
Someone who was once in my shoes...

Moved to this underdeveloped environment due to the nature of Hubby's work. ( A worker in the vineyard ) .

There is a lot of moral decadence especially among the young ; ( children and youths ) in this area. You see a lot of social vices, inappropriate behaviour, immoral and indescent dressings and so on.

This is where I need your kind and helpful experiences and counsel.

I operate in the children' s department and I have a great yearning within me to see some positive changes around me especially among young people because I believe they are our tomorrow.

I intend to achieve this by creating a CLUB for fun and moral teachings. This I believe would help to salvage a lot of the menance around.

However, it would require a lot of guidance
and mentoring which at the moment I think I need more.

I am a trained teacher and i am married with children.

Kindly help with any useful information on any body or organizations that can help to achieve my dream.

Thanks in anticipation!

Now, let's continue where we stopped. How about we list some of the things that helped us to stay "clean “ while growing up.

Below are some of mine; in no particular order:

Strict but loving parenting

Constant mentoring and admonishing from parents, siblings and teachers.

A sense of relevance due to participation in various social functions: birthdays, family picnic, school extra curricular activities, etc.

This really helped to give me a high self- esteem and confidence to make my own decisions without intimidation from friends.

Quality and educative television programmes like the T.V series; I need to know, man and woman unusual, impact but most especially ;the first.
The former was a programme on teens pressure, sex education and good parenting.

Lead role played by; Jennifer ( Funke Akindele ), Moyo Lawal and so on.

I'll like to take a break here.

So, let's hear your views and share how you overcame!

thisweekng:
Story of a little girl picked from the slum of Makoko to a school in Abuja with an annual fee of ₦1M


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NSJOFv5e9ug

A Nigerian man has shared a beautiful experience with a girl whose life changed after he took her out of Makoko, Lagos.

@Otto_Orondaam revealed that he met the little girl in Makoko over 10 years ago, before taking her out of the Lagos community where it is believed a “girl shouldn’t go to school”, to an Abuja school with annual school fees of N1m.

He added that though issues from home affected the girl in her scholarship exam which she failed at first sitting, she rose above that to become a top student in her school.

There is NOTHING God cannot do!

Hello everyone

I would like to share my observations on the above topic and I would appreciate if we all post ours and if possible prefer solutions as we rub minds on this very pertinent issue.

Recently, I observed that a lot of young people go around doing things that were thought impossible in the 80's.

Young adults go about almost " unclad", acting very disrespectful, involving in all kinds of social vices.

These are just views that I observed and sincerely, I fear for the generations to come.

Kindly share your thoughts!