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Sunnyshinylight:
The Dark Side Of Living Abroad Nigerians Don’t Tell You



Every day on Nairaland, Instagram and WhatsApp, we see pictures of Nigerians abroad living “soft life” — big jackets, snow selfies, fine streets, clean trains.

From Nigeria, it looks like once you japa, all your problems are solved.

But the truth?
There’s a dark side of living abroad many Nigerians don’t talk about — especially those already there.


Let’s be honest.


1. Loneliness Will Deal With You


In Nigeria, even if you’re broke, you have people. Neighbours, family, friends, noise, gist.
Abroad?

You can stay months without real human connection.
Everyone is busy. Everyone is tired. Everyone minds their business.


Many Nigerians abroad battle silent depression, but won’t say it because they don’t want people back home saying “you wanted to japa, now see you.”


2. You’ll Work Jobs You Never Imagined
That “abroad” dignity fades fast.
Doctors become caregivers.
Engineers wash dishes.
Graduates do night shifts nobody wants.


Nothing is wrong with honest work — but the mental shock is real, especially when you remember how people respected you back home.


3. Bills Will Humble You
Yes, currency is strong — but expenses are stronger.
Rent.
Tax.
Insurance.
Transport.
Utilities.
You may earn well, yet still be one emergency away from crisis.

That’s why some Nigerians abroad can’t send money home as often as people think.


4. Racism Is Real (Even If It’s Silent)
It’s not always shouting or insults.
Sometimes it’s:
being ignored
being over-policed
being treated like you don’t belong
working twice as hard to be seen as “normal”
You’ll constantly feel like you have to prove yourself.


5. No Family Safety Net
In Nigeria, if things scatter, you can manage:
stay with family
borrow food
get help
Abroad?
If you fall, you fall alone.
Miss rent = eviction.
Lose job = real trouble.
No uncle. No mummy’s friend. No village support.


6. Immigration Stress Can Break You
Waiting for:
papers
visas
renewals
approvals
Living in fear of one mistake ruining years of effort.
That stress is not a joke. Some Nigerians abroad are physically there but mentally exhausted.


7. You Can’t Easily “Come Back”
Once you japa, coming back empty-handed feels like failure — even if you’re tired.
So people endure misery in silence, just to maintain the image of success.


Final Truth
Living abroad is not bad, but it is not paradise.
Nigeria is hard.
Abroad is hard — just in a different way.
Anyone telling you japa will solve all your problems is not telling the full story.
Over to you, Nairalanders 👇

Would you still japa knowing all this?

Nigerians abroad, what’s the hardest part nobody warned you about?
Let’s talk — no packaging.

No 2 is wrong
Many Nigerians are into tech, management, admin, banking etc

Diamond098454:
Too much bitterness , toxic, bullying and insults on social media including Nairaland

Bitter people everywhere

It begins with you. Respect the opinion of others

To what end...the citizens are suffering

Ibrahim1985:
The thoughts of a woman sleeping with multiple men on a daily should be enough to stop a guy from even seeing a prostitute. Think of that thought alone , you will be discourage to even seeing olosho or run girls. Prayers and fasting are great steps on the way to recovery but faith without works is dead. God words is sharper. Konji is real when a frequent patronizer desires to have sex with prostitute. Please recites God words or pray when konji dey.

1 The thought of catching an STD is very good reason to stop. Herpes, Gonorrhea and so in

2. shame should be enough to stop a regular customer , imagine a small boy or girl just discovered her uncle or big bro is a frequent customer.

3 Find a girlfriend or get married, getting a girlfriend might be hard for some but do not give up . If you need tips on getting a girlfriend: Dress well, smell good, use deodrant and avoid body or mouth odor, clean cut or keep beard clean and have some money, you will find one with patience. Personal hygiene is must, work on your game on women and be patience with women. Prostitution is instant gratification , getting a girlfriend take time , but be patience.

4. You are wasting money when you sleep with oloshos. The amount of money used on olosho can be used to start a business, buy land , car e.t.c

No 1 is more than enough

Only a man that does not value his life sleep around

Savageman247:
Watch video below


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=107IEke67Y0?si=2exqk2QkkH1PdS0J



Source: https://www.reportnaija.ng/2025/12/grieving-mum-makes-her-late-daughters.html?m=1

So disgusting
What's such video doing on social media

nlfpmod:
Thieves Caught In Port Harcourt, Rivers state, Made To Sing & Dance To "I No Go Thief Again"

Them catch two thieves for Lagos… just wait for the drama 😂😂😂 pic.twitter.com/VQQVClFajp

— 𝕯𝖆𝛎𝖎𝐝🧘🏾‍♂️ (@DavidPattt) January 24, 2026

Throwback https://www.nairaland.com/7847258/generator-thieves-flogged-made-dance

The video said Lagos but your caption say PH

Which one we go believe

This Wike guy is playing with fire

Their loss

MONEY247:
I am a student
This is my second degree....
And let me tell you for free, school and money go hand in hand...

Tetiary education these days for the financially buoyant...
People are suffering in school...
Bro/sis enter street... There is more money on the street than school...

Learn a scalable skills like
Cyberspace security
Programming
Computer science
Outside tech skills... Learn
Data analysis
Public speaking
Video editing

Alaye skills also like
Vulcanizer (Those people are silent millionaires)
Mechanic for expensive cars....
🤣 🤣 so on

Bro school is not easy ooo
Except your papa get money...

I am in school and I do everything to make money...

People are making tons of money without regular conventional education...

School n money don't go together
Skills and money go together

School gives you knowledge on how to relate, behave and improve your skills to make money

Glorified secondary school

oluwaahmed:
My dear a degree in a foreign language like German, French, Dutch, chinese is more valuable than a degree in any nigerian language you can work as a translator for the nigerian government or nigerian business people and earn in Euros, you can work for the nigerian embassy in those foreign countries. If you migrate to those countries like Lithuania, Luxembourg, Belgium you will get very quality work. Omo you guys need to change your circle

You are wrong

There are adverts out there in uk, canada n us looking for yoruba teachers or translators

chiboycue:
Congratulations to her.
Just wondering who would want to employ her with her B. A. in Yoruba language

Masoyinbo

AZControversial:


Congrats to her. Degree na degree....

Dele Momodu read Yoruba too

When the no 1 deal with drug

They should release them...killing coup plotters is old school

The true Dangote is about to unleash the dragon

Osiris12:
Now we see why iron rod expensive for market

Without iron the road won't survive 5yrs

Corruption caucus

Good riddance

US airways is a death trap

Stay humble kid

HacheNoire:
In saner climes Nigeria, such can never happen.

The government having verified forecast, would have made necessary mitigation plans.

yinmu

We go soon enter June-july and everywhere will be flooded as usual

Where is Trump in all these

Africa is blessed with a good climate

CTee1:
Ever since I stopped gambling, my phone has been boring. What do you guys use your phones for? Mine is just Nairaland, TikTok, and YouTube. Am I missing something, or is my generation slowly going into exile?

Researh, write jounals n articles

Nice fiction

Lamba master

Put date if you are sure

reddingtonblack:
it is the same Barryjhay patent flyboi record when he discovered Kizzdaniel did not patent it .... that is it

if you own an intellectual idea and you stall to patent or copyright your friend can launch it nd patent it ...e don cheat yu be that

In kissdaniel case, Barryjhay forgo it to kizz willingly

If the movie/song was released before the date the impersonator registered it .. bimbo can go to court to revert ownership

Did you read the attachement or you are just impossible by default

Song Produced and authorisation given. Movie released, then few weeks a later a clown from nowhere copied and uploaded the track as the owner. Hence the loss of monitization

If you will not provide full details, why post on social media...abeg rest

It is called testimony for a reason

Cunhaaaaa

Kill dem all