₦airaland Forum

You’ve presented a number of ideas here, and while they’re expressed with conviction, several of them conflict with one another.
If these teachings are to be taken as serious Ifa philosophy rather than personal invention, clarity and internal consistency are essential.”

🔹 Contradictions that need clarification

‘Self-taught Babalawo’ vs ‘All trained diviners obtain their information from the spirit realm.’
You describe yourself as self-taught but also use the term ‘trained.’ In Ifa, training is not a solitary pursuit — it involves initiation, mentorship, and verification within a lineage.
So, are your insights confirmed through recognized initiation, or are they your own interpretations outside the established framework?

‘God cannot incarnate’ vs ‘God wants you to be a diviner.’
You state that God does not incarnate, yet speak of God actively directing individuals. That implies direct interaction. How does that align with your statement that God cannot exist in incarnation?

‘Every human should be a diviner’ vs ‘When you don’t know divination, you use a diviner.’
These are opposite principles. If everyone is meant to practise divination, then the profession of diviner becomes redundant. If only some are meant to, then your claim about universality falls apart.
Which do you actually mean?

‘Your spirit can drop thoughts into your mind’ vs ‘That is not divination.’
You dismiss inspiration or intuition as divination, but simultaneously describe it as communication from the spirit. That’s inconsistent — Ifa tradition doesn’t separate spirit influence from spiritual process.

‘I’ve not said anything outlandish’ vs ‘Humans are food farms for spirits.’
That is, at the very least, an uncommon cosmology. If it’s symbolic, clarify it as such; if literal, explain its source within Yoruba metaphysics. You can’t present such a claim as “common sense” without foundation.

🔹 Reasonable questions a genuine diviner should be able to answer

Lineage and authority:
Which odu or oral source forms the basis of your “God grid” model? If it’s a revelation, how has it been tested through divination or recognized peers in the Ifa community?

Method of learning:
What process confirmed that your understanding of the 256 odu is correct — direct spiritual initiation, apprenticeship, or solitary study? Self-taught interpretations often miss contextual meanings known only through lineage transmission.

Ethics and payment:
Ifa teaching on iwa pele (gentle character) places service before profit. How do you reconcile charging for spiritual access with that principle? When does sacred duty become a transaction?

Theology and gender:
You claim all fully matured spirits are female and that God cannot incarnate, yet God commands individuals. How do you reconcile this with the gender-neutral or dual nature of divinity in Yoruba thought?

Verification of claims:
You mention “over 60 billion spirits” and that each person is “food” for one. Where does this figure originate — oral tradition, scripture, or your own divination? Serious Ifa work is grounded in recorded odu, not estimates.

“None of these questions are meant to attack you. They are the natural questions that arise when someone presents new cosmology under the banner of Ifa.
A true practitioner welcomes examination — because truth never fears questions, and only the seller of mystery resists clarity.

lawani:
Why do you think someone will work for you without being paid? Don't you realize they have bills to pay too?

According to my ifa research God is the head of the fully matured spirits in a body called the God grid. All the spirits there have their last or current incarnation as female but the nominal head known as God can not be on an incarnation.

Your explanation is interesting, but I need to understand the foundation of what you’re teaching. If your claims are truly based on Ifa, then a few points should be clear and easy for you to clarify:

Source material: Which specific odu Ifa or lineage teaching introduces the idea of a ‘God grid’? I’m aware of Olodumare, Orunmila, and the Irunmole, but this structure doesn’t appear in classical cosmology.

Research method: When you say you’ve done ‘Ifa research,’ do you mean documented divination results, guidance from a recognized babalawo, or your own spiritual interpretation? The distinction matters.

Verification: If this knowledge comes through personal revelation, what process or authority within the Ifa community has confirmed it as valid? Ifa wisdom is traditionally verified through consultation, not individual opinion.

On payment: Ifa teaches iwa pele — balanced character and integrity. How does demanding payment before demonstrating spiritual credibility align with that principle?

Terminology: You refer to ‘fully matured spirits’ — is this your translation of an existing Yoruba term such as ori inu, or a concept you’ve introduced yourself? If it’s original, how does it fit within Yoruba metaphysics rather than contradict it?

If your practice is genuine, you should be able to answer these directly and confidently. Clear explanations are what separate an initiated teacher from someone selling ideas.

Cum4me:
The first son don't have equal rights with everyone. Let that sink into your brain

Everyone is equal under the law, how can you not understand something so basic? And thats what a last will and testament is for.

Let that sink into your brain.

lawani:
I understand that many people may feel uncomfortable with it but there are also people that catch fun with it. They will go with their team of friends to' frustrate'the inlaws with prostration and etc.
The most important thing is that you can bypass it if you are uncomfortable with it.

Let’s be honest — this isn’t some harmless custom. In many Yoruba families, parents and relatives have conditioned people to believe prostration is mandatory. The moment someone refuses, they’re met with insults, guilt, and deliberate attempts to damage relationships. That’s exactly the problem.

A culture that claims to value humility and respect should actually practise those values. Forcing or shaming anyone into a gesture strips it of all meaning. And the truth is simple — no one is legally, morally, or socially required to do it. Once coercion or harassment enters the picture, it becomes both a civil and criminal issue.

There is no ‘bypassing’ this quietly. People have every right to say no, and no family has the authority to impose a tradition on others. Real respect means hearing that no and stopping there. It’s genuinely troubling that some still can’t grasp something as basic and human as the fact that no means no.

Truthseeker10:
You dodged my question. Who gives the Diviner information and why would they charge me money for it?

These so-called spiritual advisers are the new snake-oil men of our time — selling invisible potions to thirsty souls. In the old Wild West, charlatans rode from town to town with bottles of miracle elixirs they couldn’t explain. In Nigeria today, some ride social media waves, claiming divine insight they can’t verify. They hide behind mystery, demand payment for secrets that dissolve under one honest question. Different century, same scam — only the bottles have changed.”

In a similar way to the original poster,
many of us have grown tired of these self-appointed prophets who promise power without proof. When questioned, they vanish behind vague words and spiritual theatrics — yet expect money and loyalty in return. It’s time we treat them as what they are: performers, not prophets.

Tello619, most of my posts and topics were restored by the forum — yours weren’t. You only have three topics left, and all three revolve around me. At this point, it’s starting to look less like discussion and more like fixation. Just to be clear, I’m happily married and not interested in whatever this is turning into. I even gave you a fair chance to discuss and settle things openly, but you chose not to — and that speaks for itself.

lawani:
I can't debate today
It is sad that the publication that I saw where the Portuguese recorded Yoruba being spoken in Benin can no longer be gotten online. The present Edoid speakers entered Benin when the empire declined. Even Kano was speaking a Nupoid language centuries ago. Things don't remain the same. Things change. Benin city spoke the same language as the other big cities of the empire that they related with.

📚 Verified Historical Sources on the Benin Empire

For anyone still confused about the real origins of the Benin Kingdom — here are verifiable historical and academic sources that clearly establish the Edo foundation of the empire.

1️⃣ National Geographic – The Kingdom of Benin
🔗 https://education.nationalgeographic.org/resource/kingdom-benin/

2️⃣ Britannica – Benin (Historical Kingdom, West Africa)
🔗 https://www.britannica.com/place/Benin-historical-kingdom-West-Africa

3️⃣ Wikipedia – Edo Language
🔗 https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Edo_language

4️⃣ BeninHistory.org – Who Are the Edo People?
🔗 https://beninhistory.org/eweka-dynasty/f/who-are-edo-people?blogcategory=Featured

5️⃣ Sociostudies Journal – The Benin Kingdom (13th–19th Centuries) as a Megacommunity (PDF)
🔗 https://www.sociostudies.org/journal/files/seh/2015_2/046-076.pdf

6️⃣ Edo Nation – Oral Tradition of Benin Kingship
🔗 https://www.edo-nation.net/iyieweka1.htm

7️⃣ National Museums Scotland – The Court Arts and History of the Kingdom of Benin
🔗 https://www.nms.ac.uk/discover-catalogue/the-court-arts-and-history-of-the-kingdom-of-benin


As an outsider who actually studies and respects African history — it’s frustrating to see people twist facts to fit tribal pride.
The Benin Empire was Edo, linguistically, culturally, and politically. That’s not opinion, it’s well-documented evidence across multiple sources.

True history doesn’t need defending with lies — it speaks for itself. Knowledge frees; propaganda only enslaves the mind.

lawani:
..
Today's Benin kingdom is not the same as the old Benin capital or Benin empire by language.
Today's Benin kingdom is undoubtedly Edo but the Benin palace of old was the capital of the empire and language spoken within the walls was a Yoruba dialect.

There was a Twitter post I saw from a Benin man who said in the olden days Yoruba was referred to as the language in which the king is addressed

Click any one of these as proof, social media is nonsense.

📚 Verified Historical Sources on the Benin Empire

For anyone still confused about the real origins of the Benin Kingdom — here are verifiable historical and academic sources that clearly establish the Edo foundation of the empire.

1️⃣ National Geographic – The Kingdom of Benin
🔗 https://education.nationalgeographic.org/resource/kingdom-benin/

2️⃣ Britannica – Benin (Historical Kingdom, West Africa)
🔗 https://www.britannica.com/place/Benin-historical-kingdom-West-Africa

3️⃣ Wikipedia – Edo Language
🔗 https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Edo_language

4️⃣ BeninHistory.org – Who Are the Edo People?
🔗 https://beninhistory.org/eweka-dynasty/f/who-are-edo-people?blogcategory=Featured

5️⃣ Sociostudies Journal – The Benin Kingdom (13th–19th Centuries) as a Megacommunity (PDF)
🔗 https://www.sociostudies.org/journal/files/seh/2015_2/046-076.pdf

6️⃣ Edo Nation – Oral Tradition of Benin Kingship
🔗 https://www.edo-nation.net/iyieweka1.htm

7️⃣ National Museums Scotland – The Court Arts and History of the Kingdom of Benin
🔗 https://www.nms.ac.uk/discover-catalogue/the-court-arts-and-history-of-the-kingdom-of-benin


As an outsider who actually studies and respects African history — it’s frustrating to see people twist facts to fit tribal pride.
The Benin Empire was Edo, linguistically, culturally, and politically. That’s not opinion, it’s well-documented evidence across multiple sources.

True history doesn’t need defending with lies — it speaks for itself. Knowledge frees; propaganda only enslaves the mind.

lawani:
..
Today's Benin kingdom is not the same as the old Benin capital or Benin empire by language.
Today's Benin kingdom is undoubtedly Edo but the Benin palace of old was the capital of the empire and language spoken within the walls was a Yoruba dialect.

There was a Twitter post I saw from a Benin man who said in the olden days Yoruba was referred to as the language in which the king is addressed

It said historically, and you’ve essentially confirmed that your information comes straight from Facebook. Try looking beyond the fake history and propaganda your people spread.

drstranged:
Please post the link alongside

But like I clearly said in one of the other topics "im not a lawyer"

The Doctrine of Lis Pendens – Helpful Links

For those who want to dig a bit deeper into how the doctrine actually works under Nigerian law:

1️⃣ The
Rule of Lis Pendens in Nigeria – The Legal Standpoint
2️⃣ Lis
Pendens – vLex Nigeria
3️⃣ Defining
Scope & Limit of Application of the Doctrine – Gravitas Review
4️⃣ Before
acquiring any property, beware of the doctrine of Lis Pendens – SabiLaw


“In my land, we say a shield is only as strong as the man who carries it.
The law here is the same — a buyer’s title is only as strong as the judgment that stands behind it.”

lawani:
You flog this issue too much. I agree with your conclusion though but prostrating to elders is never a big deal to any Yoruba except if their rank bars them from prostrating like when they are a king or maybe even an army officer

I served in the military, and that’s not the point. Of course it’s a big deal if someone simply doesn’t want to do it. It might seem normal to you because you were raised that way, but to most of the world — even to many other Africans — it’s a definite ‘hell no.’

GodisStriking:
By posting only truth I don't need to move. You go ahead run your mouth full of lies.

You make sure to create your own thread so we can duly compare. It would be interesting to know what you'll title it.

I presented verifiable evidence with clear sources. All you’ve done is cherry-pick a few YouTube videos to fit your view. If you actually look at the full evidence, it shows that straight men like us have caused far more harm in the world than any gay person ever has. Well, not like us i fought for years to protect other people so I guess its like you.

Tello619

“Listen well, for I will not repeat myself.
You speak my name as though it burns upon your tongue — Fenrir, Fenrir, like a chant in the night. You whisper it each dawn, you seek it each dusk. You have made me your north star, though you walk in circles trying to find your way.

Once, I thought you an opponent. Now I see you for what you are — a man ensnared by his own envy. You post nothing of worth, create no thought of your own, and yet rise each day only to check my tracks. Every word you speak is shaped in my shadow. That is not rivalry, it is obsession.

You wave your “evidence” like a broken sword — forged from lies and doctored images. I have seen your tricks before; little men have long played with illusions to feel powerful. But truth does not bend to the hands of deceivers. I proved as much with Goran3310 and his fables of pictures.

As for me — I walk these halls freely, enjoying the fire and the laughter of this place, while you hide behind the block button, peering through cracks, whispering my name like a curse and a prayer in one breath.

And the old Norse words I use? They are not rage, but ritual. They remind me of who I am — and they remind you that you cannot shake me. I do not need anger. My wrath has cooled into iron.

So mark this well:
I do not chase you. I do not fight shadows. You are already defeated — not by my hand, but by your own obsession.

For the wolf does not howl at every barking dog. He waits, silent and sure, until the noise dies and the night belongs to him once more.” ⚔️🌑

lawani:
I can't debate today
It is sad that the publication that I saw where the Portuguese recorded Yoruba being spoken in Benin can no longer be gotten online. The present Edoid speakers entered Benin when the empire declined. Even Kano was speaking a Nupoid language centuries ago. Things don't remain the same. Things change. Benin city spoke the same language as the other big cities of the empire that they related with.

Stop using Google its lazy and easy to manipulate

Getting world history information from Facebook? Wow, no wonder this country is in such a state.

GodisStriking:
Homosexuals are the hunters of men

Im going to start posting videos of what you men do to women here tomorrow. Lets see who can find more and the most horrific

And remember you had a head start

drstranged:
You made a long article but didn't answer the most important question which is: how does a potential buyer know that a land is in dispute and thus avoid buying it? Every point made here would be useless if this very important question isn't answered

I stated how his other version of this

LILTJAY:
Reno Omokri is of the opinion that the highest, most polished culture on Earth is Yoruba culture.


He stated this on his Instagram page today December 11. His post reads;




https://www.instagram.com/p/CmB_1GPjKnx/?igshid=YzdkMWQ2MWU=

Yeah right, of course.

When the Bow Outlives the Ground: Yorùbá Prostration, the “White-Cloth” Rite & The Hidden Crisis in Raising Daughters

In Yorùbá culture, marriage used to be much more than just a union of two people.
It was a covenant between lineages, ancestors, and moral systems.

But today, a serious question needs asking 👇🏾

Why do many Yorùbá families still demand the old rituals of honour — like the groom’s full prostration (dobálẹ̀) — when the structures that once justified those rituals have almost disappeared?

And with 1 in 4 Nigerian girls sexually assaulted before 18, what happens to the old ideas of purity, discipline, and honour that those rituals were built on?

🔹 1. What the rituals actually meant

Back in the day, two linked traditions gave the groom’s bow its moral meaning:

▪ Aṣọ funfun (the white-cloth rite):
A white cloth was laid on the bridal bed. The next morning, the blood stain showed the bride’s virginity — proof that her family raised her under strict discipline and moral guidance.

▪ Dobálẹ̀ (prostration):
The groom prostrated fully before the bride’s parents to say:

“I acknowledge the labour of your upbringing. You raised a woman of ìwà (character), restraint, and dignity.”

The bow was not a formality — it was earned respect.
The family had proven their moral training through their daughter’s behaviour and reputation.

🔹 2. What families had to do to “qualify” for that respect

In ancestral Yorùbá society, a family only qualified for honour if they fulfilled three sacred duties:

Àbọ̀ ọmọ (Protection & Discipline):
Parents and the extended family guarded their daughter’s conduct and protected her dignity.

Ìkọ́ ìwà (Teaching of Character):
Daughters were trained daily in patience, humility, and self-control.

Ìmọ̀ ìbáṣepọ̀ (Social & Ritual Education):
They were taught family protocols, respect for elders, and spiritual cleanliness.

When these were done, the groom’s bow — the dobálẹ̀ — was not just culture.
It was a certificate of gratitude for moral labour already proven.

💬 Now here’s the hard truth

Historically, when a man married into a Yorùbá home,
he wasn’t just getting a wife — he was inheriting a moral legacy.

He got purity,
he got honesty,
he got a woman whose life had never belonged to another man,
and the family was publicly honoured for producing her.

But today?
Let’s be honest — many families still demand the same Bentley-level honour,
while offering a reality that’s far from what the ancestors meant.

It’s like paying the price of a brand-new Bentley,
only to receive a used Honda Civic with 200,000 kilometres on it —
and then being told you must still bow, thank the seller,
and pretend it’s the same standard of value.

The analogy isn’t about money or shame —
it’s about truth and fairness.
If the old rites were built on moral proof,
and that proof no longer exists,
why should the full ancestral honours still be demanded unchanged?

🔹 3. What exactly qualifies a family today?

If modern parents don’t guide, mentor, or uphold communal discipline,
can they still claim the same cultural credit as those who did?
If the community no longer guards its daughters with the same vigilance,
and if trauma, exploitation, and broken values now shape many young lives,
shouldn’t the rituals adjust to the new reality — instead of pretending the old one still exists?

That’s not disrespect —
that’s cultural honesty.

🔹 4. Why that old moral ground has disappeared

Modern life has changed everything. Evidence backs it up:

✅ Erosion of traditional parenting:
A 2014 study from the University of Ibadan (Changing Child-Rearing Practices Among Yorùbá Parents) found that 74% of families now use liberal or mixed methods, and over 78% admit respect values and greetings have weakened.

✅ Loss of moral apprenticeship:
Research from Advances in Applied Sociology (2019) confirms that the extended family mentorship system that trained daughters in discipline has largely collapsed.

✅ Urbanisation & social media:
Modern schooling and city life replaced communal parenting with independence — less supervision, less shared moral training.

✅ And the biggest crisis — sexual violence:
National data from UNICEF and Nigeria’s Ministry of Women Affairs show that about 25% of Nigerian girls experience sexual abuse before age 18, and many are assaulted multiple times, even in marriage.

The Yorùbá make up about 15% of Nigeria’s population, so the daily number of assaulted Yorùbá girls is heartbreakingly high.

That reality alone destroys the old assumption that a bride’s “purity” reflects perfect upbringing.
It often reflects a lack of protection instead.

🔹 5. The numbers that tell the truth

If we’re honest, very few Yorùbá families today still qualify — by ancestral standards — for those old ceremonial honours.

Studies and sociological observations suggest that only:

5–10% of families still maintain strong moral and character-based parenting (àbọ̀ ọmọ).

10–15% still actively teach ìwà pẹ̀lẹ́ (gentle character) as a daily family value.

And fewer than 5% still practise traditional etiquette, rituals, or mentorship of girls in the old form.

In essence, maybe 1 in 10 families truly continue the moral practices that once justified the groom’s prostration.

The rest — even with good intentions — are performing the ceremony, not preserving its spirit.

🔹 6. What this means in real life

When families demand big “traditional” weddings, expensive lists, and the groom’s bow —
but no longer practise the discipline, mentoring, or communal protection of old —
three things happen:

Ritual becomes form, not function.
The prostration is just a cultural identity badge — not earned honour.

Entitlement replaces effort.
Families expect respect without having done the moral work to deserve it.

Cultural dissonance grows.
Young people feel the rituals are hollow; elders feel insulted.
In truth, both are right — the ritual has lost its soul.

🔹 7. What would earn prostration today

If Yorùbá culture wants to keep its dignity, we must rebuild the reason behind the bow:

✅ Families that raise children (boys and girls) with honesty, empathy, self-discipline.
✅ Parents who model ìwà pẹ̀lẹ́ (gentle character) daily, not just demand it at weddings.
✅ Recognition that modern challenges — autonomy, trauma, sexuality — must be faced with compassion, not denial.
✅ Mutual honour between both families: humility from the groom, integrity from the bride’s people.

In short: the bow must be gratitude for moral effort, not entitlement for ceremony.

🔹 8. Conclusion

As the Yorùbá say:

“Ìwà l’ẹwà obìnrin” — Character is a woman’s beauty.

The real beauty of Yorùbá culture isn’t in the bow or the white cloth —
it’s in the ìwà rere (good character) that once made those symbols meaningful.

Until families rebuild that foundation — through moral teaching, communal care, and honesty —
the bow will remain just a gesture,
not gratitude.

Culture should not be costume.
It should be character.

References (for those who like receipts) 📚

Owolabi, C. S. (2014). Changing Child-Rearing Practices Among Yorùbá Parents in Ibadan, Nigeria. University of Ibadan Repository.

Aládesanmí, Á. & Ògúnjìnmí, I. B. (2019). Yorùbá Thoughts and Beliefs in Child Birth and Child Moral Upbringing. Advances in Applied Sociology, 9.

UNICEF & Nigerian Ministry of Women Affairs (2021–2024). National Data on Sexual Abuse in Nigeria: roughly 25% of girls abused before 18.

BMC Public Health (2020). Ethnicity, Religious Affiliation and Girl-Child Marriage in Nigeria.

Fenrir:
When the Bow Outlives the Ground: Yorùbá Prostration, the “White-Cloth” Rite & The Hidden Crisis in Raising Daughters

In Yorùbá culture, marriage used to be much more than just a union of two people.
It was a covenant between lineages, ancestors, and moral systems.

But today, a serious question needs asking 👇🏾

Why do many Yorùbá families still demand the old rituals of honour — like the groom’s full prostration (dobálẹ̀) — when the structures that once justified those rituals have almost disappeared?

And with 1 in 4 Nigerian girls sexually assaulted before 18, what happens to the old ideas of purity, discipline, and honour that those rituals were built on?

🔹 1. What the rituals actually meant

Back in the day, two linked traditions gave the groom’s bow its moral meaning:

▪ Aṣọ funfun (the white-cloth rite):
A white cloth was laid on the bridal bed. The next morning, the blood stain showed the bride’s virginity — proof that her family raised her under strict discipline and moral guidance.

▪ Dobálẹ̀ (prostration):
The groom prostrated fully before the bride’s parents to say:

“I acknowledge the labour of your upbringing. You raised a woman of ìwà (character), restraint, and dignity.”

The bow was not a formality — it was earned respect.
The family had proven their moral training through their daughter’s behaviour and reputation.

🔹 2. What families had to do to “qualify” for that respect

In ancestral Yorùbá society, a family only qualified for honour if they fulfilled three sacred duties:

Àbọ̀ ọmọ (Protection & Discipline):
Parents and the extended family guarded their daughter’s conduct and protected her dignity.

Ìkọ́ ìwà (Teaching of Character):
Daughters were trained daily in patience, humility, and self-control.

Ìmọ̀ ìbáṣepọ̀ (Social & Ritual Education):
They were taught family protocols, respect for elders, and spiritual cleanliness.

When these were done, the groom’s bow — the dobálẹ̀ — was not just culture.
It was a certificate of gratitude for moral labour already proven.

💬 Now here’s the hard truth

Historically, when a man married into a Yorùbá home,
he wasn’t just getting a wife — he was inheriting a moral legacy.

He got purity,
he got honesty,
he got a woman whose life had never belonged to another man,
and the family was publicly honoured for producing her.

But today?
Let’s be honest — many families still demand the same Bentley-level honour,
while offering a reality that’s far from what the ancestors meant.

It’s like paying the price of a brand-new Bentley,
only to receive a used Honda Civic with 200,000 kilometres on it —
and then being told you must still bow, thank the seller,
and pretend it’s the same standard of value.

The analogy isn’t about money or shame —
it’s about truth and fairness.
If the old rites were built on moral proof,
and that proof no longer exists,
why should the full ancestral honours still be demanded unchanged?

🔹 3. What exactly qualifies a family today?

If modern parents don’t guide, mentor, or uphold communal discipline,
can they still claim the same cultural credit as those who did?
If the community no longer guards its daughters with the same vigilance,
and if trauma, exploitation, and broken values now shape many young lives,
shouldn’t the rituals adjust to the new reality — instead of pretending the old one still exists?

That’s not disrespect —
that’s cultural honesty.

🔹 4. Why that old moral ground has disappeared

Modern life has changed everything. Evidence backs it up:

✅ Erosion of traditional parenting:
A 2014 study from the University of Ibadan (Changing Child-Rearing Practices Among Yorùbá Parents) found that 74% of families now use liberal or mixed methods, and over 78% admit respect values and greetings have weakened.

✅ Loss of moral apprenticeship:
Research from Advances in Applied Sociology (2019) confirms that the extended family mentorship system that trained daughters in discipline has largely collapsed.

✅ Urbanisation & social media:
Modern schooling and city life replaced communal parenting with independence — less supervision, less shared moral training.

✅ And the biggest crisis — sexual violence:
National data from UNICEF and Nigeria’s Ministry of Women Affairs show that about 25% of Nigerian girls experience sexual abuse before age 18, and many are assaulted multiple times, even in marriage.

The Yorùbá make up about 15% of Nigeria’s population, so the daily number of assaulted Yorùbá girls is heartbreakingly high.

That reality alone destroys the old assumption that a bride’s “purity” reflects perfect upbringing.
It often reflects a lack of protection instead.

🔹 5. The numbers that tell the truth

If we’re honest, very few Yorùbá families today still qualify — by ancestral standards — for those old ceremonial honours.

Studies and sociological observations suggest that only:

5–10% of families still maintain strong moral and character-based parenting (àbọ̀ ọmọ).

10–15% still actively teach ìwà pẹ̀lẹ́ (gentle character) as a daily family value.

And fewer than 5% still practise traditional etiquette, rituals, or mentorship of girls in the old form.

In essence, maybe 1 in 10 families truly continue the moral practices that once justified the groom’s prostration.

The rest — even with good intentions — are performing the ceremony, not preserving its spirit.

🔹 6. What this means in real life

When families demand big “traditional” weddings, expensive lists, and the groom’s bow —
but no longer practise the discipline, mentoring, or communal protection of old —
three things happen:

Ritual becomes form, not function.
The prostration is just a cultural identity badge — not earned honour.

Entitlement replaces effort.
Families expect respect without having done the moral work to deserve it.

Cultural dissonance grows.
Young people feel the rituals are hollow; elders feel insulted.
In truth, both are right — the ritual has lost its soul.

🔹 7. What would earn prostration today

If Yorùbá culture wants to keep its dignity, we must rebuild the reason behind the bow:

✅ Families that raise children (boys and girls) with honesty, empathy, self-discipline.
✅ Parents who model ìwà pẹ̀lẹ́ (gentle character) daily, not just demand it at weddings.
✅ Recognition that modern challenges — autonomy, trauma, sexuality — must be faced with compassion, not denial.
✅ Mutual honour between both families: humility from the groom, integrity from the bride’s people.

In short: the bow must be gratitude for moral effort, not entitlement for ceremony.

🔹 8. Conclusion

As the Yorùbá say:

“Ìwà l’ẹwà obìnrin” — Character is a woman’s beauty.

The real beauty of Yorùbá culture isn’t in the bow or the white cloth —
it’s in the ìwà rere (good character) that once made those symbols meaningful.

Until families rebuild that foundation — through moral teaching, communal care, and honesty —
the bow will remain just a gesture,
not gratitude.

Culture should not be costume.
It should be character.

References (for those who like receipts) 📚

Owolabi, C. S. (2014). Changing Child-Rearing Practices Among Yorùbá Parents in Ibadan, Nigeria. University of Ibadan Repository.

Aládesanmí, Á. & Ògúnjìnmí, I. B. (2019). Yorùbá Thoughts and Beliefs in Child Birth and Child Moral Upbringing. Advances in Applied Sociology, 9.

UNICEF & Nigerian Ministry of Women Affairs (2021–2024). National Data on Sexual Abuse in Nigeria: roughly 25% of girls abused before 18.

BMC Public Health (2020). Ethnicity, Religious Affiliation and Girl-Child Marriage in Nigeria.

Thought you'd like some truth for once.

lawani:
The Benin empire was a Yoruba empire thorough and thorough. The Yoruba language was used as lingua franca during the days of the empire before it declined in the 18th century. The people of ugbodu in delta state migrated from the Benin empire according to their history and they still speak a Yoruba dialect today. Benin empire was a sister state to Ijesa, Ijebu and etc, they spoke the same language. The Benin palace was a sprawling complex home to over 50 thousand people and all those people spoke Yoruba as mother tongue. It was in the 19th century that edo people from the suburbs overwhelmed the palace. Nowadays some edo revisionist try so hard to rewrite the history as an edo empire but this is far from the truth.

When the Bow Outlives the Ground: Yorùbá Prostration, the “White-Cloth” Rite & The Hidden Crisis in Raising Daughters

In Yorùbá culture, marriage used to be much more than just a union of two people.
It was a covenant between lineages, ancestors, and moral systems.

But today, a serious question needs asking 👇🏾

Why do many Yorùbá families still demand the old rituals of honour — like the groom’s full prostration (dobálẹ̀) — when the structures that once justified those rituals have almost disappeared?

And with 1 in 4 Nigerian girls sexually assaulted before 18, what happens to the old ideas of purity, discipline, and honour that those rituals were built on?

🔹 1. What the rituals actually meant

Back in the day, two linked traditions gave the groom’s bow its moral meaning:

▪ Aṣọ funfun (the white-cloth rite):
A white cloth was laid on the bridal bed. The next morning, the blood stain showed the bride’s virginity — proof that her family raised her under strict discipline and moral guidance.

▪ Dobálẹ̀ (prostration):
The groom prostrated fully before the bride’s parents to say:

“I acknowledge the labour of your upbringing. You raised a woman of ìwà (character), restraint, and dignity.”

The bow was not a formality — it was earned respect.
The family had proven their moral training through their daughter’s behaviour and reputation.

🔹 2. What families had to do to “qualify” for that respect

In ancestral Yorùbá society, a family only qualified for honour if they fulfilled three sacred duties:

Àbọ̀ ọmọ (Protection & Discipline):
Parents and the extended family guarded their daughter’s conduct and protected her dignity.

Ìkọ́ ìwà (Teaching of Character):
Daughters were trained daily in patience, humility, and self-control.

Ìmọ̀ ìbáṣepọ̀ (Social & Ritual Education):
They were taught family protocols, respect for elders, and spiritual cleanliness.

When these were done, the groom’s bow — the dobálẹ̀ — was not just culture.
It was a certificate of gratitude for moral labour already proven.

💬 Now here’s the hard truth

Historically, when a man married into a Yorùbá home,
he wasn’t just getting a wife — he was inheriting a moral legacy.

He got purity,
he got honesty,
he got a woman whose life had never belonged to another man,
and the family was publicly honoured for producing her.

But today?
Let’s be honest — many families still demand the same Bentley-level honour,
while offering a reality that’s far from what the ancestors meant.

It’s like paying the price of a brand-new Bentley,
only to receive a used Honda Civic with 200,000 kilometres on it —
and then being told you must still bow, thank the seller,
and pretend it’s the same standard of value.

The analogy isn’t about money or shame —
it’s about truth and fairness.
If the old rites were built on moral proof,
and that proof no longer exists,
why should the full ancestral honours still be demanded unchanged?

🔹 3. What exactly qualifies a family today?

If modern parents don’t guide, mentor, or uphold communal discipline,
can they still claim the same cultural credit as those who did?
If the community no longer guards its daughters with the same vigilance,
and if trauma, exploitation, and broken values now shape many young lives,
shouldn’t the rituals adjust to the new reality — instead of pretending the old one still exists?

That’s not disrespect —
that’s cultural honesty.

🔹 4. Why that old moral ground has disappeared

Modern life has changed everything. Evidence backs it up:

✅ Erosion of traditional parenting:
A 2014 study from the University of Ibadan (Changing Child-Rearing Practices Among Yorùbá Parents) found that 74% of families now use liberal or mixed methods, and over 78% admit respect values and greetings have weakened.

✅ Loss of moral apprenticeship:
Research from Advances in Applied Sociology (2019) confirms that the extended family mentorship system that trained daughters in discipline has largely collapsed.

✅ Urbanisation & social media:
Modern schooling and city life replaced communal parenting with independence — less supervision, less shared moral training.

✅ And the biggest crisis — sexual violence:
National data from UNICEF and Nigeria’s Ministry of Women Affairs show that about 25% of Nigerian girls experience sexual abuse before age 18, and many are assaulted multiple times, even in marriage.

The Yorùbá make up about 15% of Nigeria’s population, so the daily number of assaulted Yorùbá girls is heartbreakingly high.

That reality alone destroys the old assumption that a bride’s “purity” reflects perfect upbringing.
It often reflects a lack of protection instead.

🔹 5. The numbers that tell the truth

If we’re honest, very few Yorùbá families today still qualify — by ancestral standards — for those old ceremonial honours.

Studies and sociological observations suggest that only:

5–10% of families still maintain strong moral and character-based parenting (àbọ̀ ọmọ).

10–15% still actively teach ìwà pẹ̀lẹ́ (gentle character) as a daily family value.

And fewer than 5% still practise traditional etiquette, rituals, or mentorship of girls in the old form.

In essence, maybe 1 in 10 families truly continue the moral practices that once justified the groom’s prostration.

The rest — even with good intentions — are performing the ceremony, not preserving its spirit.

🔹 6. What this means in real life

When families demand big “traditional” weddings, expensive lists, and the groom’s bow —
but no longer practise the discipline, mentoring, or communal protection of old —
three things happen:

Ritual becomes form, not function.
The prostration is just a cultural identity badge — not earned honour.

Entitlement replaces effort.
Families expect respect without having done the moral work to deserve it.

Cultural dissonance grows.
Young people feel the rituals are hollow; elders feel insulted.
In truth, both are right — the ritual has lost its soul.

🔹 7. What would earn prostration today

If Yorùbá culture wants to keep its dignity, we must rebuild the reason behind the bow:

✅ Families that raise children (boys and girls) with honesty, empathy, self-discipline.
✅ Parents who model ìwà pẹ̀lẹ́ (gentle character) daily, not just demand it at weddings.
✅ Recognition that modern challenges — autonomy, trauma, sexuality — must be faced with compassion, not denial.
✅ Mutual honour between both families: humility from the groom, integrity from the bride’s people.

In short: the bow must be gratitude for moral effort, not entitlement for ceremony.

🔹 8. Conclusion

As the Yorùbá say:

“Ìwà l’ẹwà obìnrin” — Character is a woman’s beauty.

The real beauty of Yorùbá culture isn’t in the bow or the white cloth —
it’s in the ìwà rere (good character) that once made those symbols meaningful.

Until families rebuild that foundation — through moral teaching, communal care, and honesty —
the bow will remain just a gesture,
not gratitude.

Culture should not be costume.
It should be character.

References (for those who like receipts) 📚

Owolabi, C. S. (2014). Changing Child-Rearing Practices Among Yorùbá Parents in Ibadan, Nigeria. University of Ibadan Repository.

Aládesanmí, Á. & Ògúnjìnmí, I. B. (2019). Yorùbá Thoughts and Beliefs in Child Birth and Child Moral Upbringing. Advances in Applied Sociology, 9.

UNICEF & Nigerian Ministry of Women Affairs (2021–2024). National Data on Sexual Abuse in Nigeria: roughly 25% of girls abused before 18.

BMC Public Health (2020). Ethnicity, Religious Affiliation and Girl-Child Marriage in Nigeria.

Naijalegal:
Buying land that is the subject of a court case is extremely risky because your ownership rights depend entirely on how the court ultimately decides the matter.

For example, if two parties are in court over ownership of a piece of land, and one of them—who happens to be in possession, living on it, or farming it—sells it to you, your right to the land will still be affected by whatever decision the court reaches in that case. The most dangerous part is that you might not even know that a case exists, yet your purchase will still be bound by its outcome.

This situation is governed by a legal principle known as the Doctrine of Lis Pendens. Under this doctrine, once a piece of land is the subject of ongoing litigation, any sale, transfer, or transaction made by any of the parties to the suit during the pendency of the case is invalid, even if the purchaser bought the land without notice of the ongoing dispute. In other words, nobody has the right to sell land that is being contested in court until the case is fully resolved.

Furthermore, this restriction does not end at the High Court level. If there is an appeal—whether at the Court of Appeal or the Supreme Court—the rule still applies. A person who buys land that is under appeal buys at great risk, because if the other party eventually wins at a higher court, ownership of the land automatically reverts to them, regardless of any structures or developments you may have made.

For instance, someone might approach you to buy a plot of land, show you a High Court or even a Court of Appeal judgment in their favor, and assure you that everything is in order. However, if the opposing party later appeals to the Supreme Court and wins, the land will belong to them—not you—despite the documents you have. In such a situation, you would have to vacate the property, even if you have already built on it.

In Nigeria, the Supreme Court is the final court of appeal. Until a case has been completely decided at the Supreme Court, the matter is not conclusively settled. Therefore, if a land case is still under appeal, it is unwise to buy, develop, or build on the property, because any actions you take could be nullified by a later judgment or court order.

You’re right that buying land under litigation is risky, but a few points need clearing up.

The Doctrine of Lis Pendens doesn’t automatically make every sale “invalid.” What it means is that any transaction made while a court case over the same land is pending is subject to whatever judgment the court eventually gives.

So, if the seller wins the case, the buyer’s title stands. If the seller loses, the buyer loses too — simple as that.

The rule only applies when the case actually involves ownership or title to that specific land, and the sale happens while the case (or its appeal) is still ongoing. It doesn’t freeze every piece of property in the country just because someone once went to court.

Also, Nigeria doesn’t have a public system for registering a lis pendens, so you can’t always know a case exists. That’s why serious buyers do proper searches — in court records and at the land registry — before touching any deal.

Bottom line: the post is right about the risk, but wrong to call all such sales “invalid.” They’re not void; they’re conditional on the final outcome of the case. That’s the actual law.

Naijalegal:
BEFORE YOU BUY THAT LAND, READ THIS — IT COULD BELONG TO SOMEONE ELSE TOMORROW!

Let me tell you something most land buyers in Nigeria don’t know.

You see that land that someone is rushing you to buy — “my brother, just pay now before another person brings money”?
If that land is a subject of a court case, my dear, you are walking straight into wahala!

There’s a law called the Doctrine of Lis Pendens.
It simply means that once land is being dragged in court, nobody — I repeat, nobody — has the right to sell it until the case is completely finished.

Even if the seller is in possession, farming on it, or living there, that sale means nothing once the matter is still in court.
And the worst part? You might not even know a case exists — but the judgment will still affect you!

Let’s say Mr. A and Mr. B are fighting over a land.
Mr. A is in possession and sells to you.
You build, you fence, you move in.
Then one day you wake up to see a judgment that gives that same land to Mr. B.
Guess what?
You have to move out — even if you already built a mansion there!

Even if there’s a High Court or Appeal Court judgment, you still can’t rest.
Until the Supreme Court gives the final say, that land is still under lis pendens (pending case).

So if someone shows you a High Court judgment and says, “Don’t worry, I’ve won already,” please shine your eyes!
If the other party appeals and wins at the Supreme Court, all your money, sweat, and building go down the drain.

Moral of the story:
Before you buy any land in Nigeria, do thorough investigations.
Ask your lawyer to check if there’s any pending case on it.
Because once it’s under litigation, any sale is automatically invalid — no matter how innocent you are.

Don’t let “urgent sales” turn to “urgent regret.”
Knowledge is power. Share this post and save someone from losing everything.

⚖️ Quick Legal Reality Check (For Anyone Buying Land in Nigeria):

The Doctrine of Lis Pendens is real — but not exactly how this post makes it sound.
Under Nigerian law, if land is being fought over in court, anyone who buys it during that fight does so at their own risk.
You don’t lose the land automatically — but if the seller eventually loses in court, your ownership falls with theirs.
That’s the real meaning of lis pendens: you buy the risk along with the land.

The sale itself isn’t “illegal” — it’s just defeasible (can be defeated).
So, yes, you can buy it, fence it, even build on it — but the court’s final judgment decides if you keep it or lose it.
Once the litigation ends (and no appeal follows), the restriction disappears.

The smart move isn’t panic — it’s due diligence.
Before paying a naira, let your lawyer check:

Land Registry → Who really owns it

Court Registry → Any pending case or appeal

Surveyor-General → Any government acquisition

Land doesn’t reward the fastest buyer — it rewards the most careful one.
Buy with your lawyer, not your emotions.

Naijalegal:
A family property remains a family property and no matter how much you invest in a family property it will never become a private property. The law is that when you renovate or improve your family house that will not give you any special right over the property because you are just doing your obligations and nothing extra ordinary.

There have been some cases where a member of a family have renovated a family house and then tried using that as an excuse to kick out their siblings and take over the house as their own or demand for repayment. The law is that the family property will always remain so no matter what any member of the family has personally spent on it, that would not give them any special right over other members of the family.

If anyone tries to oppress you based on the fact that they have spent money on renovating the family house you should remind them that the law is simply that every member of the family has equal rights over the family house and that spending private funds on the family house will not convert it to a private house.

This post is a perfect example of how people mix up customary practice with actual Nigerian property law and end up spreading half-truths. The claim that “a family property will always remain a family property, no matter what” sounds absolute — but the law itself isn’t that simplistic.

Let’s look at this carefully and set the record straight.

1️⃣ What really makes something ‘family property’ — (Half true)

Under customary law, family land or a family house is jointly owned by all recognized members, usually managed by the family head. That’s fine — but it doesn’t mean every house lived in by your relatives qualifies as “family property.”

To legally qualify as such, the property must have:

Been inherited from an ancestor, and

Never been partitioned or transferred into individual names.

If one person bought the house or developed it with personal funds and only allowed relatives to live there, it remains private property unless that person clearly dedicated it to the family.

Courts have consistently drawn this line — see Ekpendu v. Erika (1959) and Sogunle v. Akerele (1967). Those cases make it clear: inheritance and intention matter, not assumptions.

2️⃣ On renovations and “no special rights” — (Incorrect as stated)

It’s simply not accurate to claim that spending on renovations gives you no rights whatsoever.

While improving a family house won’t make it legally “yours,” Nigerian courts recognise equitable principles like unjust enrichment and contribution. If you invest significant personal funds with the family’s knowledge or consent, you can be entitled to reimbursement or fair adjustment later.

In plain terms: no, you don’t become the owner. But yes, the law can protect you from being unfairly taken advantage of. Pretending otherwise ignores how equity actually works.

3️⃣ Equal rights and family control — (Context matters)

True — all members have equal beneficial rights. But decision-making usually sits with the family head and key elders. If you go ahead with major work without their approval, it may count as voluntary spending.

Still, if the family consented or everyone benefited from your renovation, pretending your contribution is worthless doesn’t stand up to scrutiny. Equity doesn’t reward bad faith.

4️⃣ Oversight in your argument

You’re presenting customary law as a single, fixed rulebook — it isn’t. Customary law varies widely between regions and ethnic groups. Yoruba family property customs differ from Igbo, Benin, or Tiv traditions.

And today, Nigerian courts no longer apply custom in isolation — they blend custom, statute, and equity to reach fair outcomes. Simplifying that into “family property is family property forever” ignores how dynamic the law actually is.

⚖️ The reality

✅ Renovating family property doesn’t make it private — correct.
❌ But claiming it gives no rights at all is legally wrong.
✅ Customary ownership depends on inheritance and consent.
❌ And not all family houses qualify as “family property.”

So before turning this kind of half-baked summary into legal gospel, it might be worth revisiting how customary law and equity really interact — or, honestly, heading back to law school for a refresher on property and trust law.

lawani:
The Benin empire was a Yoruba empire thorough and thorough. The Yoruba language was used as lingua franca during the days of the empire before it declined in the 18th century. The people of ugbodu in delta state migrated from the Benin empire according to their history and they still speak a Yoruba dialect today. Benin empire was a sister state to Ijesa, Ijebu and etc, they spoke the same language. The Benin palace was a sprawling complex home to over 50 thousand people and all those people spoke Yoruba as mother tongue. It was in the 19th century that edo people from the suburbs overwhelmed the palace. Nowadays some edo revisionist try so hard to rewrite the history as an edo empire but this is far from the truth.

🏛️ The Real Story of the Benin Empire: Facts, Myths, and Historical Evidence

Lately, there’s been growing debate online about the origins of the Benin Empire — with some claiming it was originally a Yoruba-speaking state, or that the Edo identity was a later invention.

To set the record straight, let’s look carefully at verifiable historical, linguistic, and archaeological sources — not online myths — to understand what’s fact and what’s fiction.

1️⃣ The True Ethnic and Linguistic Identity of Benin

Verdict: Fiction

The idea that the Benin Empire was Yoruba is completely false.

Benin was founded and ruled by people who spoke Edo, the language of the Edo (or Bini) ethnic group. Edo belongs to the Edoid branch of the Niger–Congo family, while Yoruba belongs to the Volta–Niger branch. These two are related but separate — distant linguistic cousins, not the same people or tongue.

Evidence:

R. E. Bradbury, The Benin Kingdom and the Edo-Speaking Peoples of South-Western Nigeria (1957)

Kay Williamson & Roger Blench, Niger–Congo Overview (1998)

Jacob Egharevba, A Short History of Benin (1933, rev. 1960s)

When the Portuguese visited Benin from the 15th century onward, they consistently referred to “the language of Benin.” There is not a single record of Yoruba being spoken or used as a lingua franca.

2️⃣ The Ife–Benin Connection Explained

Verdict: Partly Fact, Often Misunderstood

Yes, there was a historical relationship between Ile-Ife and Benin, but it’s often exaggerated.

According to Benin oral history, after the fall of the Ogiso dynasty, the Benin chiefs invited a prince from Ife — Oranmiyan — to become ruler. Oranmiyan returned to Ife but left behind his son Eweka I, who became the first Oba of Benin.

This marked a dynastic link, not a Yoruba conquest or cultural takeover. The Benin civilization had already existed long before this, with its own language, traditions, and kingship system.

Evidence:

Jacob Egharevba, A Short History of Benin

Philip Igbafe, Benin Under British Administration (1979)

Paula Girshick Ben-Amos, The Art of Benin (1999)

Even Samuel Johnson, the Yoruba historian, wrote in The History of the Yorubas (1921) that Oranmiyan “could not understand their language” — a clear indication that the people of Benin were not Yoruba speakers.

3️⃣ The Language of the Empire and the Palace

Verdict: Fact — It Was Edo, Not Yoruba

Every credible historical record confirms that Edo was the official and spoken language of the Benin Empire.

The royal court, craft guilds, and administrative institutions used Edo exclusively. The famous Benin bronzes carry Edo inscriptions and titles; Yoruba words are entirely absent.

When Portuguese emissaries arrived in the 1400s, they relied on interpreters fluent in the Benin language, not Yoruba.

No historical, archaeological, or linguistic evidence supports the idea that Yoruba was used in Benin.

4️⃣ Benin’s Population and Palace Complex

Verdict: Partly Fact, but Misrepresented

There’s no doubt that Benin City was one of Africa’s most impressive pre-colonial capitals. Early European visitors like Olfert Dapper (1668) and Captain Philip (1821) described it as a vast, well-planned city with an enormous royal palace complex. Estimates suggest a population between 30 000 and 50 000 people.

But the claim that “50 000 Yoruba speakers lived in the palace” is fiction. Those inhabitants were Edo-speaking citizens of the Benin Kingdom. The palace was the ceremonial and administrative heart of an Edo-speaking empire.

Evidence:

Olfert Dapper, Description of Africa (1668)

Alan Ryder, Benin and the Europeans 1485–1897 (1969)

5️⃣ Migration Stories: Ugbodu and Delta North

Verdict: Partly Fact

Many communities in Delta North and parts of western Igboland — such as Ugbodu, Idumuje-Ugboko, Onicha-Ugbo, and others — trace their ancestry to migrations from Benin.

This is largely true. Benin influence extended far beyond present-day Edo State. However, this does not mean those migrants were Yoruba. Over time, some of these groups came into contact with Yoruba-speaking neighbors (like Owo and Akoko), which explains why certain Yoruba-like dialects appeared later in those regions.

Evidence:

N. A. Forde, Benin Studies (1951)

P. Igbafe, Western Igboland Under Benin Influence (1971)

6️⃣ The “Edo Revisionism” Claim

Verdict: Fiction

The notion that Edo historians “rewrote” history in the 19th or 20th century to hide Yoruba roots is a modern internet myth.

The earliest Benin histories, especially those by Chief Jacob Egharevba (1933), were drawn from indigenous Edo oral traditions that pre-date colonialism. These traditions were later supported by independent studies from European and Yoruba scholars alike.

Evidence:

Jacob Egharevba, A Short History of Benin

Samuel Johnson, The History of the Yorubas (1921)

Even Yoruba accounts confirm that Oranmiyan’s involvement in Benin was short-lived and limited to a royal link — not an ethnic transformation.

🏁 Conclusion

The Benin Empire was an Edo-speaking civilization, one of Africa’s greatest pre-colonial powers — not a Yoruba state.

Though there were dynastic and spiritual exchanges with Ile-Ife, the Edo people preserved their own language, identity, and system of governance. The empire’s achievements — from its masterful bronzes to its sophisticated city planning and early diplomacy with Portugal — were the fruits of Edo ingenuity.

History is strongest when it is told truthfully. The genuine story of Benin stands on its own without embellishment or borrowed glory.

And as we discuss these histories, perhaps the real question is this: why do some historians and enthusiasts keep trying to fold every other Nigerian civilization into one cultural narrative, instead of allowing each people’s achievements to shine in their own right?

gregyboy:
Lol, you're sleeping


Go sleep

I just remembered you.
Here’s clear proof that many Yoruba individuals misrepresent their customs, particularly regarding prostration, culture, and the relationship between federal law, state law, and the limitations of customary law.
Read it carefully — and please stop spreading misinformation in the future.

LEGAL RIGHT TO MARRY FREELY IN NIGERIA
(Applies equally to Nigerians and Foreigners)
1️⃣ The Constitution of the Federal Republic of Nigeria (1999, as amended)
Section 34(1): Dignity of Human Person

“Every individual is entitled to respect for the dignity of his person…”

Explanation:
No one may be forced into marriage or compelled to perform any traditional, cultural, or religious rite. Forcing a person to comply with customs (like bride price or family approval) violates dignity and autonomy.

Section 35(1): Right to Personal Liberty

“Every person shall be entitled to his personal liberty…”

Explanation:
Marriage is a matter of free personal choice. Neither families nor communities have lawful power to impose cultural or religious obligations on adults who freely consent to marry.

Section 37: Right to Private and Family Life

“The privacy of citizens, their homes… is hereby guaranteed and protected.”

Explanation:
Marriage decisions are private matters. Family or cultural intrusion in the couple’s private marital decisions is unconstitutional.

Section 38(1): Freedom of Thought, Conscience and Religion

“Every person shall be entitled to freedom of thought, conscience and religion…”

Explanation:
A couple may freely decide to marry under religion, custom, the statutory (civil) system, or a combination — or to reject all religious and traditional rites entirely.

Section 42(1): Freedom from Discrimination

“A citizen of Nigeria… shall not… be subjected to any form of discrimination…”

Explanation:
Families, communities, or institutions cannot impose traditions or rites based on tribe, gender, or religion as a condition for marriage. The same protection extends to foreign spouses through the equality and human-rights provisions.

2️⃣ The Marriage Act (Cap M6 LFN 2004)
Section 7 — Notice of Marriage

“Whenever any persons desire to marry, one of the parties shall sign and give to the registrar…”

Explanation:
Marriage under the Act begins solely by the couple’s own decision. The Act does not require family consent, traditional introductions, or any cultural rite.

Section 11(1) — Conditions for Certificate

“The registrar shall issue his certificate… upon being satisfied that each party is of full age and has freely consented…”

Explanation:
The only required consent is the couple’s. Once both are of full age, no family or traditional approval is legally necessary.

Section 34 — Legal Validity of Marriage

“All marriages celebrated under this Act shall be good and valid in law to all intents and purposes.”

Explanation:
Once the statutory process is completed, the marriage is fully valid nationwide — even if no traditional rites were done.

Section 41 — Preventing Marriage Under False Pretence

“Whoever endeavours to prevent a marriage by pretence that his consent is required by law… shall be guilty of an offence.”

Explanation:
Families or community members who try to stop a lawful marriage by claiming their consent or cultural approval is required are breaking the law.

3️⃣ Customary Law and Its Limitations
Recognition under Section 35 of the Marriage Act

“Nothing in this Act shall affect the validity of any marriage contracted under or in accordance with any customary law…”

Explanation:
Customary marriages are valid only if voluntarily entered into and consistent with the Constitution. Coercive or discriminatory customs are void.

Evidence Act 2011, Section 18(3) — Repugnancy Clause

“In any judicial proceeding where a custom is relied upon, it shall not be enforced if it is repugnant to natural justice, equity, and good conscience, or incompatible… with any law for the time being in force.”

Explanation:
No custom that violates equality, liberty, or dignity can be enforced — including customs that force bride price, introductions, or family control.

🔹 3B. Bride Price, Introduction, and Family Consent — Not Legally Required
(a) Statutory Freedom to Marry Without Tradition

The Marriage Act governs statutory (civil and church) marriages. It makes no reference to bride price, introduction, or family approval.

Under Section 34, once the statutory procedure is followed, the marriage is “good and valid in law.”

Therefore, even if no bride price is paid, no family introduction held, or the families disapprove, the marriage remains fully legal.

(b) Constitutional and Human-Rights Protection

Sections 34, 35, and 38 of the Constitution guarantee dignity, liberty, and freedom of conscience.

Forcing or coercing a couple to perform cultural rites, or to pay a bride price, violates these rights.

The African Charter (Cap A9 LFN 2004), enforceable in Nigeria, also prohibits discrimination based on national origin or culture in matters of marriage (Articles 2, 6, and 18(3)).

(c) Customary Law and the Repugnancy Test

Courts recognise that bride price and “handing-over” are typical proof elements in customary marriages (e.g., Obi v. Bosah (2019)), but only when the couple choose customary marriage.

When a couple marry under the Marriage Act, none of those customary elements are required.

Even within customary law, any rule that forces a bride price or family approval can be struck down under Section 18(3) of the Evidence Act as “repugnant to natural justice.”

(d) Judicial Confirmation of Freedom and Consent

Osamwonyi v. Osamwonyi (1972) – Consent is the foundation of all marriages.

Agbeja v. Agbeja (1985) – Customary marriage must be voluntary.

Mojekwu v. Mojekwu (1997) – Discriminatory or oppressive customs are void.

Obi v. Bosah (2019) – Bride price and handing-over define a customary marriage, not a legal or mandatory one.

(e) Legal Result

Bride price, introduction, or family consent are purely cultural — never legal — requirements.
Couples may lawfully reject them and marry under the Marriage Act or any other voluntary system.
Any person who attempts to compel them commits an offence under Section 41 of the Marriage Act and violates the Constitution.

(f) Even in Traditional Marriages, Specific Rituals Like Prostration or Kneeling Can Be Rejected

Relevant Laws and Principles:

Constitution Section 34(1) — Dignity of the Human Person

Any act that humiliates or degrades either spouse (e.g., forced prostration, kneeling, or other imposed gestures) violates this constitutional right.

Courts recognise that dignity and personal autonomy cannot be surrendered to culture.

Evidence Act Section 18(3) — Repugnancy Clause

Customs that compel a person to perform physical acts of submission or humiliation are repugnant to natural justice, equity, and good conscience and therefore unenforceable.

Even where a couple opt for a customary wedding, they may lawfully omit any ritual they find offensive or inconsistent with their beliefs.

Constitution Section 38(1) — Freedom of Conscience and Religion

A couple may object on conscience or religious grounds to any ritual gesture. Their decision is legally protected, and no family can lawfully insist otherwise.

Case Law Support

Mojekwu v. Mojekwu (1997) – Any custom that degrades or discriminates is unconstitutional.

Meribe v. Egwu (1976) – Consent, not ritual formality, determines validity.

Agbeja v. Agbeja (1985) – Customary marriages stand only where all acts are voluntary.

Practical Effect:

Even in a voluntary traditional marriage, no family, elder, or community leader has the legal power to compel a bride or groom to prostrate, kneel, bow, or perform any symbolic act against their will.
Refusal to perform such a gesture does not invalidate the marriage under any Nigerian law.
The essence of both statutory and customary marriage is mutual consent, not ritual form.

4️⃣ International Human Rights and Equality for All Persons
African Charter on Human and Peoples’ Rights (Cap A9 LFN 2004)

Article 2: Equal rights without distinction of race, national origin, or religion.

Article 6: Right to liberty and security of the person.

Article 18(3): State must eliminate discrimination and protect family rights.

Explanation:
Marriage freedom and equality extend to all persons within Nigeria, including foreigners. No one can be treated differently because of nationality or ethnicity.

5️⃣ Judicial Principles Supporting Freedom to Marry
Case Legal Rule Meaning
Osamwonyi v. Osamwonyi (1972) Consent is fundamental Marriage without free consent is void
Agbeja v. Agbeja (1985) Customary marriage must be voluntary No coercion or forced customs allowed
Mojekwu v. Mojekwu (1997) Discriminatory customs invalid Oppressive customs have no force
Obi v. Bosah (2019) Bride price/handing-over define customary marriage only Optional and cultural, not universal requirement
6️⃣ Summary — What the Law Means in Practice
Legal Source Applies To Legal Effect
Constitution (ss.34–38, 42) All persons Freedom, dignity, equality; no coercion or discrimination
Marriage Act (ss.7–41) All persons Marriage valid solely on couple’s consent; no tradition required
Evidence Act (s.18(3)) All customs Voids coercive or discriminatory traditions
African Charter (Cap A9) All persons in Nigeria Protects equality and freedom to marry
Case law All marriages Upholds consent; voids forced or oppressive customs
✅ FINAL LEGAL CONCLUSION

Under Nigerian law —
for all persons, whether both Nigerians or one foreign and one Nigerian:

Marriage is purely voluntary — only the couple’s consent matters.

The couple may freely choose the form (statutory, religious, customary, or combination).

Bride price, family introduction, and traditional rites are optional, not compulsory.

Even where a traditional ceremony is chosen, any specific ritual (such as prostration, kneeling, or symbolic acts) may be lawfully refused without invalidating the marriage.

No one (family, culture, or religion) may impose extra conditions or coercion.

Any attempt to force compliance with cultural or religious rites violates the Constitution (ss. 34–38), the Marriage Act (ss. 7–41), and the Evidence Act (s. 18(3)).

All couples — Nigerian or mixed nationality — share equal protection under law and international human-rights treaties.

wrong person

This intended for the topic poster Lawani

It needs to be addressed that one individual — who has openly admitted to making multiple replacement accounts, including Tello916 and Tello619 — continues to evade bans and stir up conflict here.

This isn’t ordinary trolling; it’s a clear case of ban evasion and targeted harassment. The same person keeps returning under new names to provoke arguments, spread false claims, and derail discussions, showing complete disregard for the rules and moderation.

When someone can openly brag about creating new profiles after every ban, it makes moderation meaningless and discourages genuine members from engaging. It’s disruptive, manipulative, and corrosive to the entire community.

Stronger action is needed against repeat offenders — including link checks for related accounts and stricter verification for new sign-ups — so this cycle of harassment and account-hopping finally stops.

A fair community can’t function if the same banned person keeps reappearing under a different name to antagonize others. It’s time to enforce bans that actually stick.

Naijalegal:
I take serious exception to being accused of distorting facts and you always conflict yourself. I only reduced my writing to simpler words for ease of reading by my audience. I did not intend to write any law essay for [peer review by a panel of academic lawyers to debate, I wanted to write something the average man on the streets can connect to but I guarantee you that all the principles I mentioned were distilled from real cases. You have even confirmed my point that even legitimacy does not give automatic right to inheritance which is confirming what I meant when I said that it is harder when the man married under the statute. We may say the same things differently but it does not mean that I am distorting the facts. You are the one who is distorting and confusing the facts. You also said that legitimacy is a threshold issue which also confirms what I said in my first post. There have been many reported cases where the court refused to order a party to go through DNA test when they challenged it for being against their constitutional rights. I could have easily cited it for you but you act as if you know everything so I don't want to enlighten you unnecessarily. Keep living in a bubble and kindly send me your grandfather's address and I will go to oshodi under bridge and pack all the homeless boys to his house to come and claim that they were born by him and back it up with all your arguments here that anyone can show up without being acknowledged as a child by a man and obtain a share of the inheritance of the man because the constitution gave them that right. Using that your argument then anyone can easily go to the government house or Aso rock to be allowed to live there just because the constitution gave them the right of equality. The constitutional right of equality does not exist in a vacuum. You don't expect me to come to nairaland and expect me to write as if I am writing for the Harvard law report. The platform is what it is. You have to consider your audience when writing anything.

You just said

You’ve said that I “conflict myself” — yet your own words now confirm every single distinction I made from the start. You’ve admitted that legitimacy does not automatically create inheritance rights, that acknowledgment alone is not conclusive, and that constitutional protection operates within the framework of property law. That, in essence, is precisely what I explained.
What you call “simplification for the average man” is not wrong in intent — it’s wrong in execution. Law simplified is not law distorted; and when simplification leads to false equivalence, the duty of anyone trained in the field is to correct it.

Let’s be precise one last time:

Legitimacy is an evidential status.

Inheritance is a proprietary consequence.

Equality under Section 42 is a constitutional safeguard.
Each operates in sequence, not in substitution.

That isn’t contradiction — it’s structure.
And when the law demands structure, rhetoric cannot replace it.

You can’t claim “I meant the same thing differently” while also accusing the clarification of confusion. Meaning and phrasing are not the same — especially in law, where a single word can change an entire outcome.
If the goal is education, accuracy is not optional. If the goal is applause, then it’s not law.

As for your “Oshodi under bridge” metaphor — every exaggeration in it simply reinforces the point: the law protects against chaos by requiring proof, not by dismissing principle. Proof is precisely why legitimacy and inheritance are not matters of casual acknowledgment.

You say you “could have cited cases but chose not to.” That is not confidence; that is avoidance.
In legal discourse, withholding precedent is not a sign of strength — it’s the surest evidence that the argument stands on assumption, not authority.

Now let us end this the way the law itself would end a proceeding — with clarity, not noise.

“What is spoken by many, argued by few, but decided only by the written word?”
— The law.

“When truth and ego meet in public, which survives when silence enters the room?”
— Truth.

“Between noise and knowledge, which one leaves evidence behind?”
— Knowledge.

The record is closed.

Naijalegal:
Let me set out the exact words of the statutte in S.15(2)(b) which states that: Since the marriage the Respondent has committed adultery and the Petitioner finds it intolerable to live with the Respondent.

Under Common Law, adultery alone was enough to ground a divorce but the statute has modified that position by adding another extra condition to it by stating that the petitioner must also have found it intolerable to live with the petitioner as a consequence. By this, the statute has cured a defect in the common law position. There are many decided cases in the UK and Nigeria based on this points. I would have as usual not given you the decided cases on this point but out of the kindness of my large heart, let me enlighten and teach you for free so that you can learn and be liberated from your confusion and feel happy to learn legal technicalities because I understand your pain, childhood trauma and confusion of not being able to practice the tough career of law. If you had informed me earlier that I was arguing with a non-Nigeria cut and join mixture of national and continental confusion I would not have wasted so much energy and intellectual capacity arguing with you in all my previous post which has recently obviously caught your obsession or OCD.

To educate your mind on the current statutory position of the law kindly read the cases of Goodrich V. Goodrich, Cleary V. Cleary then compare it with the case of Roper V. Roper and tell me the difference. Then you should read the Nigerian cases of Megwalu V. Megwalu and the case of Anagbado V. Anagbado. When reading all the cases and the statutes you must bear in mind the relevant rule of interpretation applied when a statute is made to cure a defect in a common law position. Since you want to do the hard work of being a lawyer I will be happy to engage with you and show you that Nigerian lawyers are better trained than all those foreign trained philosophers. Like I said in my other post every principle I have written about was distilled from decided cases, I only summarized it in a way that the common man will be able to grasp. You don't expect me to write in Nairaland as if I am writing for the Harvard Law Review. Anyway, I would appreciate if you would stop calling me out unnecessarily, you can engage with my post with more respect and we can exchange ideas but you must stop making me look like a liar. Any idea can be expressed in more than one way but that does not make one person a liar. You are not the first Nigerian to be born abroad or to obtain a PHD abroad, Nigerians have been doing it even before the independence.

⚖️ THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN ARGUMENT AND INSECURITY

You finally quoted the statute — good. It says exactly what I cited from the start:

“Since the marriage, the respondent has committed adultery and the petitioner finds it intolerable to live with the respondent.”
That is Section 15(2)(b) of the Matrimonial Causes Act, verbatim.
So there is — and never was — any disagreement on the text or the dual requirement of adultery + intolerability.

The problem is not the section; it’s your earlier public claim that “sleeping with your spouse once after discovering adultery cancels your right to divorce.”
That statement is false in law, as both statute and case law show. You have now quietly abandoned that position — and in doing so, conceded the very correction you ridiculed.

As for your attempt to turn this into a contest of personal history, nationality, or psychology:
No competent lawyer trained in advocacy substitutes evidence with insult.
The Rules of Professional Conduct (Rules 30, 32 & 55) require lawyers to maintain candour, courtesy, and respect in all public and professional exchanges.
When someone claiming to be a lawyer resorts instead to personal attacks, emotional diagnosis, and nationalist boasting, it signals not confidence but deficiency.
If you truly are a lawyer, you’ve just written a case study in conduct the Legal Practitioners Disciplinary Committee could cite under “bringing the profession into disrepute.”
If you’re not a lawyer, then you’ve publicly impersonated one — which is worse.

Either way, the record now stands as follows:

1️⃣ The statutory wording has been correctly stated.
2️⃣ The case law you mentioned supports — not contradicts — my explanation.
3️⃣ You have conceded, through your own quotation, the very point you called “confused.”
4️⃣ Your personal remarks have no bearing on law and only diminish your credibility.

You cannot reverse those four facts by replying, rephrasing, or reaching for new insults.
Law is not performance — it’s precision, and the written evidence here is permanent.

What is spoken by many, argued by few, but decided only by the written word?
The law.

When truth and ego meet in public, which survives when silence enters the room?
Truth.

Between noise and knowledge, which one leaves evidence behind?
Knowledge.

The statute has spoken. The authorities have spoken. The record is closed.

Pupanchie:
I can't blame them and the reason is that you might think they don't want to reply your chat but busy due to time difference and again the working hours in other for them to get paid, so l won't blame them if they didn't reply your chat and when they r less busy, they might be too tired to reply you, I've lot of friends outside country but the funniest part is that l don't talk to most of them neither do I chat them but that I'm financially ok but it's just my own way of doing things, most of them will ask some of my friends to give me their digits so l can or text them, mind you, l don't still text or call

Its 1 hour difference at the moment
Because of daylight saving time but half the year its the same time because its the same time zone

Fenrir:
The Hypocrisy of Selective Tradition in Modern Yoruba Culture

In today’s world, the Yoruba people often proudly describe themselves as “traditional,” invoking the importance of culture, respect, and humility. Yet, the reality of modern Yoruba life reveals a deep contradiction: very little about the way they live today is truly traditional. The culture they defend so fiercely has been reshaped by modernity, education, religion, and global human rights. What remains of “tradition” is often selective — used as a moral weapon to demand obedience or reinforce hierarchy, rather than as a living system of mutual respect and shared values.

This selective traditionalism becomes most visible in settings like traditional weddings, where one side of the family — often the groom’s — is expected to perform exaggerated acts of humility, such as prostrating and offering gifts, all in the name of “respect.” Yet, this same society has long abandoned many authentic Yoruba traditions, calling them outdated, inhumane, or contrary to human rights. If they can rightfully evolve and discard old customs that violate dignity, then it is hypocritical to cling to certain rituals simply for ego or control.

Historically, Yoruba culture included practices that have since been dropped for moral and legal reasons. These include human sacrifice, the killing of twins, and the burial of attendants with kings, all of which were condemned as violations of the right to life. Widowhood rituals that shamed women, child and forced marriages, and caste-based discrimination have been rejected under modern laws and human rights standards. The trial-by-ordeal system and oath-taking rituals have been replaced by modern courts. Property inheritance laws have evolved to include women, and Oro cult restrictions are increasingly criticized for violating freedom of movement.

Each of these changes represents a conscious decision by Yoruba society to modernize — to prioritize human dignity and adapt to contemporary life. Yoruba people now live with electricity, internet, global education, Western clothing, and digital lifestyles. They marry in churches and mosques, study abroad, run tech companies, and use English or Pidgin more often than their native tongues. Every aspect of their lives is shaped by the modern world, not by ancient custom. Yet, when it comes to weddings, respect, or generational hierarchy, many suddenly become “traditionalists,” demanding that others kneel, prostrate, and submit — even when they themselves no longer live by the same standards in other areas.

That is the heart of the hypocrisy. You cannot claim to be traditional only when it benefits your pride or authority. True tradition cannot survive through selective enforcement. If Yoruba people have embraced modernity in how they live, work, and worship, then they must also accept that others have the right to fully reject rituals that no longer align with genuine cultural or moral purpose. The same human-rights logic used to abandon harmful practices should apply to these outdated expectations of humility and submission.

In truth, Yoruba people today are modern human beings, not ancient villagers. They have every right to evolve — but with that right comes honesty. Either one accepts modernity fully, with its emphasis on equality and mutual respect, or one practices tradition wholly, including its old laws, taboos, and sacrifices. But to cherry-pick traditions for convenience is not cultural pride — it is selective nostalgia, disguised as moral authority.

Therefore, everyone within Yoruba society has the right to reject any traditional expectation that no longer serves fairness or authenticity. Respect should be mutual, not one-sided; humility should be genuine, not performative. If modern Yoruba life has already discarded countless customs under the banner of human rights and progress, then demanding blind adherence to “tradition” in weddings or social relations is not culture — it is contradiction.

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The Myth of Tradition: How Modern Yoruba Culture Selectively Forgets Its Past

Modern Yoruba society often prides itself on being “deeply traditional.” From weddings to greetings, people frequently appeal to “culture” and “respect” as moral cornerstones — declarations of ancestral pride. Yet, this devotion to tradition is mostly rhetorical. When we examine the actual history of Yoruba customs, it becomes clear that many of the practices that once defined Yoruba life have either been outlawed, abandoned, or transformed beyond recognition. The result is a culture that has selectively preserved only what flatters its image — while quietly discarding what no longer fits within the moral, religious, and legal frameworks of the modern world.

This selective traditionalism is particularly evident in social interactions like traditional weddings, where families insist on acts such as prostration or kneeling as proof of humility. The irony is that these same families no longer live by most of the ancestral laws they claim to defend. The Yoruba world of today — with its Christianity, Islam, smartphones, and global education — bears almost no resemblance to the precolonial society that once practiced true Yoruba custom. To understand this contradiction, one must look at what has been forgotten, suppressed, or outlawed in the name of progress.

Abandoned Rites and Forbidden Customs
1. Human Sacrifice and Royal Burials

In precolonial Yoruba society, human sacrifice was an accepted part of royal and spiritual life. The most infamous example was the Abobaku, a designated attendant expected to die with the king and serve him in the afterlife. Others were sacrificed to appease deities, purify the land, or protect the kingdom. These acts were not viewed as cruelty but as sacred duty.
Today, such practices are both illegal and morally condemned. Colonial law and modern human-rights standards ended the shedding of human blood in ritual contexts. Modern Yoruba kings still have symbolic attendants — but no one dies with them.

2. Widowhood Rites and Female Humiliation

Traditional widowhood rituals often placed intense burdens on women. Widows were forced into isolation, their heads shaved, their movements restricted, and their innocence tested through humiliating cleansing rites. Some were accused of causing their husbands’ deaths and were publicly shamed.
Today, such practices are legally classified as degrading treatment. Education, religion, and gender equality movements have dismantled them. In most Yoruba communities, widows now mourn privately and with dignity — a dramatic moral shift from ancestral norms.

3. Proof of Virginity and Public Shame

The once-common “white cloth” or handkerchief test was a form of public surveillance over women’s bodies. On the wedding night, the family would expect a blood-stained cloth as proof that the bride was a virgin. A failure to “prove purity” could lead to ridicule, lost bride price, or even rejection.
While this ritual is still remembered by many elders, modern society has largely abandoned it. Medical understanding, women’s rights, and common sense have made it clear that virginity cannot be proven by bleeding. Yet, when convenient, some still use this idea to police women’s morality — another case of selective tradition surviving through rhetoric, not practice.

4. Female Circumcision (FGM)

One of the most painful remnants of ancestral life was female genital cutting — a ritual often performed to “reduce promiscuity” or “prepare a girl for marriage.” Although it was not universal across all Yoruba regions, it was present in several localities and passed down as a mark of purity and discipline.
Modern medicine, activism, and law have exposed the practice as deeply harmful. Nigeria’s federal and state laws now criminalize FGM, and most Yoruba communities have moved away from it. What was once justified as tradition is now condemned as violence.

5. Trial by Ordeal and Divinatory Justice

Before colonial rule, Yoruba justice was rooted in religion. Disputes could be settled through divination, sacred oaths, or physical ordeals — the belief being that the gods themselves would expose the liar. Drinking sacred potions, touching ritual objects, or swearing on a shrine could decide life or death.
Today, these have been replaced by police, courts, and civil law. The idea of proving truth through divine punishment has been replaced by evidence and testimony. The courts, not the oracles, now decide justice.

6. Oro Cult and Gender Exclusion

The Oro cult once exercised powerful control in Yoruba towns. During Oro festivals, non-initiates — especially women — were forbidden from leaving their homes after dark, sometimes under threat of punishment. The cult’s presence was marked by terrifying sounds said to be the voice of Oro himself.
In the modern era, these restrictions have been challenged by both law and public criticism. Many towns have scaled back Oro activities or moved them to secluded areas. Gender-based curfews and threats are increasingly viewed as violations of human rights, not symbols of sacred order.

7. Child Marriage and Forced Unions

Like most ancient societies, Yoruba families once arranged marriages at young ages, often without consent, as a means of securing alliances or bridewealth. Girls were valued for obedience, fertility, and family honor rather than choice.
Today, Nigeria’s Child Rights Act prohibits child marriage. Education and women’s empowerment have shifted social expectations. Consent — not family arrangement — is now central to marriage for most Yoruba people.

8. Punitive Rituals for Twins and “Unusual” Births

Although the Yoruba are now famous for celebrating twins (ìbejì), history shows a more complex story. In earlier centuries, twins and abnormal births were sometimes feared as omens in some regions. With time, the culture reversed its view — from fear to veneration. Twins became symbols of divine blessing, their carved effigies honored in shrines and homes.
That shift from rejection to reverence is itself proof that even the Yoruba evolved past their own taboos — choosing compassion over fear.

9. Ritual Servitude and Social Caste

Royal courts once depended on servitude systems that tied individuals to kings and chiefs in life and death. Social mobility was minimal; the lower classes could be bound by hereditary obligations.
Modern law and human-rights frameworks abolished such hierarchies. The Yoruba monarchy now functions symbolically, without coercion. Power is ceremonial, not absolute — a transformation that redefined what leadership means in Yoruba identity.

10. Human and Animal Blood Sacrifice at Scale

Blood sacrifice was central to Yoruba religion — the lifeblood that connected people to the gods. Both animals and, in extreme cases, humans were offered to deities like Sango, Ogun, and Obatala.
While animal sacrifice persists in certain traditional worship settings, the public and political power of such rituals has faded. Today, even traditionalists perform symbolic or minimal sacrifices. The sanctity of life has replaced the need for blood as proof of devotion.

Why It All Changed

These transformations were not accidents. They were deliberate adaptations to new realities:

Colonial law criminalized ritual killings, servitude, and ordeals.

Christianity and Islam redefined moral boundaries and replaced shrines with churches and mosques.

Education and urbanization weakened clan-based authority, allowing individuals to choose their paths.

Human-rights discourse reframed dignity and freedom as universal, not negotiable under custom.

The Yoruba, like all evolving civilizations, redefined themselves to survive. But that evolution came with selective memory.

The Hypocrisy of Selective Tradition

Despite abandoning nearly every major ancestral practice, many modern Yoruba people still wield “tradition” as a weapon — a tool of control disguised as respect. They demand prostration, obedience, and unquestioning reverence, yet reject the blood, bondage, and sacrifice that once made Yoruba tradition complete.
You cannot cherry-pick history. You cannot reject the painful past and still use its authority to demand submission. If modern Yoruba society has chosen progress — and rightly so — it must accept that true tradition is gone, and what remains are fragments adapted for comfort and pride.

Conclusion: Culture or Convenience?

Modern Yoruba people are citizens of a digital world. They wear Western clothes, live under constitutional law, worship in global religions, and navigate social media — not oracles. To insist that a man or woman must obey ancient rituals in marriage or family life is not “culture”; it is nostalgia wrapped in pride.
If the Yoruba truly wish to honor their ancestors, they must do so honestly — not by pretending to live as they once did, but by recognizing the courage it took to evolve. The real legacy of Yoruba tradition is not blind obedience to the past, but the ability to adapt with dignity and wisdom.

That, perhaps, is the most authentic Yoruba tradition of all.

GodisStriking:
As I have said and shall prove to you that homosexuals are the hunters of men from serial killers, serial rapists, serial pedophiles, human traffickers and cult stalkers they are without mercy or empathy. What they never tell you about the cannibal societies that eat humans is that all the men are homosexuals. Those societies that went on slave raids were armies of homosexuals from Canaan to Babylon and everywhere else slave raiding occurred. Homosexuality is the first half of pagan religion and killing is the other half. This is why God would not tolerate it and commanded that a man found with a man then they both should be put to death. Get out of Christianity, Islam and Judaism if you hate the law of Moses because the law was designed to keep the believers in God safe from predators.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E9EQIKivC94?si=RCSY-ffxhjmlaauK

Hypocrite

GodisStriking:
As I have said and shall prove to you that homosexuals are the hunters of men from serial killers, serial rapists, serial pedophiles, human traffickers and cult stalkers they are without mercy or empathy. What they never tell you about the cannibal societies that eat humans is that all the men are homosexuals. Those societies that went on slave raids were armies of homosexuals from Canaan to Babylon and everywhere else slave raiding occurred. Homosexuality is the first half of pagan religion and killing is the other half. This is why God would not tolerate it and commanded that a man found with a man then they both should be put to death. Get out of Christianity, Islam and Judaism if you hate the law of Moses because the law was designed to keep the believers in God safe from predators.

What you wrote is not only false — it’s dangerous. There is no credible evidence linking homosexuality to predatory behaviour, violence, or slavery. None. What you’ve repeated is an old myth built on fear and hate, not facts.

Meanwhile, in the real world, Nigeria is facing a full-blown sexual violence crisis — and it’s not being committed by “homosexuals.” It’s being committed by men who call themselves traditional, religious, and respectable.

Let’s talk about facts, not fantasy:

• 1 in 4 Nigerian girls and 1 in 10 boys experience sexual violence before age 18 (UNICEF & Federal Government Violence Against Children Survey).
• In 2021 alone, NAPTIP recorded over 1,100 reported cases of sexual violence and child trafficking — and those are just the ones that reached their office.
• The Nigeria Police logged 717 rape cases in the first five months of 2020. Imagine how many went unreported.
• Studies across Nigerian universities and communities consistently show 40% or more of young women have experienced some form of sexual assault.
• The majority of perpetrators are known to the victims — fathers, uncles, cousins, neighbours, and yes, so-called “men of God.”

This isn’t Western propaganda. It’s Nigerian data. The rape of minors by relatives, pastors preying on their congregations, gang assaults, and incest cases have reached epidemic levels, and most survivors never see justice because of stigma and corruption.

So before you point your finger at people because of who they love, look at what is happening in your own country. The real threat to Nigerian children and women isn’t homosexuality — it’s the culture of silence and denial that protects abusers while blaming everyone else.

You want to defend morality? Then start by demanding prosecutions, enforcing the VAPP Act, protecting survivors, and cleaning your own house.

Quoting scripture doesn’t hide the numbers. It just shows how easy it is to shout “sin” while ignoring the suffering of innocent people.

🔹 Sources

UNICEF / Federal Government of Nigeria – Violence Against Children Survey (2015)

NAPTIP Data Analysis Report (2021)

Nigeria Police Force Report (2020)

Amnesty International Report on Rape in Nigeria (2021)

Nigeria Demographic and Health Survey (2018)

Academic & NGO studies on gender-based violence in Nigeria (2013–2023)