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Gabry dear, there is really little to do that will make it go away. i understand exactly how you feel. been away from my man for 2 months now, last week i broke down and cried so badly my friends were scared. you need to stop being a vegeterian, it won't help at all sweetheart.

what you need to do is engage yourself in things that would not always remind you of him, things like reading other peoples' posts and trying to help them or chatting with your girl friends (it works for me).

dont lock yourself up at home trying to get any piece of him that you can even if its his lovely smell (done that lots of time and it drives you crazy). its really good to pray for him, its selfish to wallow in self pity (i know you can't help it).

think of it as a time when you have to prepare to see him, get your nails done, exercise to keep your shape, do your hair, all these take your time and you will find out that when next you see him, he will be loving your look. use this time to get as beautiful as you can for him (thats what i do and it works). sometimes i still lapse in to the self-pity part but then i cry and i feel fine. you will be ok dear (lots of hugs), stay strong. quit eating only veggies!

what would you advice a guy to do to your sister or daughter? do the same.

if you care about her so much i will advice that you take her away from the house even if it is by force. i have 2 aunts that have died as a result of a violent husband. the first was beat by her husband till he broke her rib cage, she was taken to the hospital. the doctors didn't know because no x-ray was carried out, she died a month after. the second was beat till she took a knife and injured him, he in turn stabbed her to death. he is in prison now. the best you can do is get her out of there and fast! her children should come along with her.

stop dating and try to look at your life and see if you are happy with the way it is. if you are happy, continue with it. if you are not, don't break the hearts of other girls. you have had your heart broken, you know how it feels. what happiness can you gain from hurting others when they are not the ones that hurt you?

my man does every time!

@x-factor, your husband is wonderful!

I am presently in the United States and my man is in Nigeria. its difficult to have a long distance relationship, yes, but it is not impossible. we communicate by phone and email. we love ourselves enough to wait till we see each other. the only factor that can withstand a long distance relationship is love. its good if the man or woman is worth it, if they are not, what are you waiting for?

yes! its gets the weight of you chest and if you are already going out with that person it strengthens the relationship. i was friends with a guy for years(still friends), we were really good friends purely platonic. i am presently engaged to a guy and he tells me he has loved me ever since. why didn't he tell me all these years? there was a time my heart was broken and i ran to him and cried, he had the chance but didn't. now i am in love with another guy and want to marry him, he tells me about this. it makes me feel terrible, he had his chance but have lost it.

who else would have written such except a male? i am not surprised! they obviously do not know women, is that what you call secrets?

I am a very beautiful lady and my man is, my friends and family think he is not good enough for me cause he is not handsome. i totally love the way he looks, its funny to remember that when i was in college modelling and winning beauty awards, i always dreamed and thought that i would end up with a drop dead gorgeous man. i met a man not so drop dead gorgeous and honestly, i prefare him to all the handsome men in the world combined into one. i love him SO much its almost obsessive. people stare where ever we go, i admire him a lot cause it doesn't even bother him. why did i end up with him? lol, i found my true love. if God had crated him handsome, he would have been a perfect man and that would have intimidated me. he is wonderful as he is. didn't answer your question right?

if this were a court i would plead guilty to all three and more. i have been going out with my man for ages and we are still together. i fart in front of him and he does to. he helps me shave (everywhere!) and he always knows when i am on my period. the first time when we were into the relationship for a year he was bothered that i was still being conscious around him. i am a very beautiful lady and always behave ladylike around everybody, but with him, i can be as razz as it gets.

men have humongous Egos!

ebony21, i understand what you mean girl. i would advise that you stick to your man. its really a privilege to have a relationship that is going smoothly particularly in this kind of century we are in. its not worth it to lose your man over some silly crush. you will regret it later dear. forget about him and stick to your boo. its difficult but deal with it, never see the other guy again or it will be more difficult. try and communicate more with your guy, you can even discuss how you feel with him. i have been away from my man for 3 months and talking to him about it worked for me. An advice from experience.

i think its really a question of their self esteem. i am beautiful and know that i do not have to expose my body to get a man. some women do not have a pretty face but nice body and feel that if they expose it they will get the kind of attention that prettier women get. men also add to it; if a very pretty girl and a plain girl walk into a room the men will stare at the prettier girl. if a very pretty girl walks into a room with a plain girl that is almost naked, the men will stare more at the almost naked girl. see? they want men's attention so much that they are willing to get it in anyway. its not really their fault but that of a low self esteem.

@ just wise, blue spice, crude oil; i will sit and talk to him when he comes by this weekend, 10ks.
@ *shentz*; he has always being this way.
@ vizzy09; yeah, i know he totally loves me.
@ hacking is fun; am totally lucky, he's the best. he hasn't got info from a wrong source, its just the way he is.
@ money rule; 10ks, i'll never cheat on him, its not even an option.
@ omega 25red, diva1; lol, i am 110% sure he is not cheating on me. he tries to get me to act as he does, only i perfectly trust him.
@ ladydee; he has never laid his hands on me. he's soo calm that he can't even shout when mad. all he does when mad is sit with a scowl on his face, tell you what you have done and not talk to you. he doesn't abuse me in any way. if anything he treats me like a queen.

thanks all of you, you are the best!

hello naija,
i have being going out with my man for some time now, we are getting married next year. our families are aware and have given their full surport. i love him very much and he loves me too. the problem is he is excessively jealous. i am a very beautiful lady, nice shape and all. he is tall, with a great body but not particularly handsome. he always checks my phone, if he sees any male contact that is not family, he deletes it. if he sees missed calles from unknown numbers or numbers not registered on my phone, he assumes its a guy. he has the password to my yahoo, facebook accounts and any other site i log into. i am not allowed to keep guys as friends on face book, i can not go out with my friends if a guy is part of the team. he calls every night by 2.00am - 4.00am at least twice to make sure am alone. i am not allowed to attend even birthday parties. when we go out he gets angry if guys approach me. i am 24, he is my first and only boyfriend, i have never cheated on him, why would i start now. it got worse when he was posted to a different state with better pay and opportunities. he calls all day with 'where are you? whats that noise at the background? why do you sound different?' i had a radio on in my room on night when he called and he assumed i was at a club, when i turned the radio off to prove my innocence, he said i had left the vacinity and shouldn't take him for a fool. i love him very much, but its beginning to get on my nerves. i can only imagine what would happen if we get married. what can i do? please.

J4,

now that i know you are a guy, i will give you a few tips. i cant give you the stores now cos we probably live in different parts of the country. these guidelines if followed wisely would lead to optimum satisfaction, no matter what store you shop in.

- men's blazers; it can be worn on a pair of jeans, or with a neutral coloured pair of trousers.
- assessories; designer belts, wallets, cuff links, watches, and ties to add a touch of colour and elegance.
- trousers; plain and dark coloured (black, chocolate, grey, blue), stripes are out!
- shrits; plain and bright coloured (white, pink, light blue, sea green, cream,, you understand!)
- socks; yeah socks! that match with your clothes. its really unsophisticated to wear covered shoes without them.
- sneakers; goes well on jeans, plain coloured shirt and blazer.
pay attention to colours, you don't want to riot.
never, repeat never wear pattern on pattern.
go for quality instead of quantity.
sit back and enjoy the compliments.

lol,
FierceDiva.

j4,
its really not about the where to buy the clothes. the most important thing is knowing what suits you, whats current, and whats fashionable. dont know if you are a guy or chic, so i will give you a bit of both ways. for chics, high waist skirt, satin tops in bright colours, bogus belts, gaint bags, corsets etc. for guys, tailoured shirts to fit body profile, white shirts, belts that make a statement, play down a suit jacket with designer jeans e.t.c you are looking for something along the prices of 2k and 4k, my advice is, avoid the boutiques they are quite expensive. get the basic requirements and hit the market, be ready to waka!

always,
FierceDiva.