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Optional09:
Good writeups, but guess what? It’s no longer about Nigeria we are going back to regional government. Let every region be independent and let’s see who will really get on after 10year. These marriage in over!

Thank you. I hope not. Nigeria still has many chances to correct the wrongs.

So social media was on fire yesterday after Fela Durotoye released his video asking people to donate towards his securing a presidential nomination form in Alliance for New Nigeria (ANN). People said all manner of things; "doesn't he have the money?", "I thought he was rich", "If he can't afford a form, then what is he doing running for presidency?", "why is he begging?", blah blah blah...

This is Nigeria guys! People will always talk! We have been talking since, and look where we are today. Now somebody decided to take the bull by the horn, and we are there mocking. Nigeria is an interesting place I must tell you.

Just writing about this gives me goose pimples. It's a very interesting time in Nigeria and so many people still don't understand the times and seasons Nigeria is currently going through.

So why is Fela Durotoye doing what he is doing? This is my personal memo to all the naysayers in Nigeria, people who have refused to be a part of the solution but rather have chosen to remain a part of the problem. I hope you copy this!

So again, why is Fela Durotoye doing what he is doing?

Because that is the process a right leadership process should follow. It does not only allow him to understand the enormity of his mandate to serve, but it gives the people a stake and a sense of ownership of the process and eventually the government.

The philosophy behind why Fela Durotoye is doing things the way he is doing right now is because you can’t engender true change doing things the wrong way. In other words, even though he is a competent candidate and someone who has what it takes to bring the needed change to Nigeria in collaboration with people of like minds, he cannot navigate his way there using the wrong route. If he must get it right there, he must get it right now.

You must also understand that this is who Fela Durotoye is as a person. He is a person of excellence, integrity, and accountability. He believes that if the people can trust him enough with their money, then they have the right to know where their money is going to, and he believes it is a debt he owes us to remain accountable to us since he’s only an ambassador representing the interest of everyone.

Running for a New Nigeria is not just a slang guys, Fela Durotoye embodies this philosophy in his personal life and it's necessary that you see how the New Nigeria will look like merely by observing his campaign. What better way could there be to have a glimpse of what Nigeria's future will look like? Guys, if you can't see this much, I wonder how else to prove it to you.

Fela Durotoye is not only doing what has never been done before in Nigeria’s polity, he is starting a new narrative—that indeed anyone who has a dream or desires to run for any office in government can do so without having godfathers, godmothers or cabals behind them. That if your dream is valid, valuable and viable, then it will necessarily attract people and resources to it.

You need to see beyond Fela Durotoye and see the change that his decision to run for the highest office as an ordinary citizen like you and me is birthing. His intention, beyond the destiny of Nigeria, is to give courage and belief to every good and credible citizen out there that if he could do it, they too can. It is common knowledge that if we have enough good people in government, Nigeria will change but it is not common practice—Fela Durotoye is leading that movement.

Guys, what Fela Durotoye is doing takes guts, and rather than sit down there and make disparaging remarks, you should marvel that Nigeria still has people like him in this generation—people who have not allowed Nigeria to influence them negatively but who have fought to keep their values intact irrespective of the invading culture of insincerity, mediocrity and corruption.

If you ask me, instead of criticism, people like Fela Durotoye deserve some accolades. Yeah, you can take that to the bank. They deserve our support in whatever capacity we can show that. They deserve our prayers, they deserve our donations, and they deserve to know that we are proud that Nigeria still has hope because people like them are alive and willing to sacrifice their time, resources, and their family just so that Nigeria can be great again.

Let's be fair with ourselves, all Fela Durotoye has been doing is making a statement that this is what the New Nigeria will look like and he's busy painting that picture with his words, decisions, and actions. If anything, we need to give him the needed support as he champions the cause of the New Nigeria—his dream, my dream, your dream, and our dream.

Guys, don't get the narrative twisted, it's all about the New Nigeria we all seek.

God bless you and God bless the Federal Republic of Nigeria.

Effiong Edentekhe
The Word Carpenter
The New Nigeria Series

micolaj:
I love how you passionately convey your views about the birthing of a changed nation- a new Nigeria.

Thank you.

It pains me that as citizens of this country, we have grown a thick skin to bad leadership and mediocrity. Our problem as a people is that we easily adapt to failures. And as long as we accept things the way they are, we will never be able to change it.

Things happen and it's all over social media. We talk about it, we share it, we rave about it for a week or two and then all the energy wanes, dies and disappears. Then we resume our normal lives again as if nothing ever happened.

This is my problem, your problem, and Nigeria's problem and that is why we are where we are as a country—the culture of indifference. Because the evils of this nation hasn't knocked on our doors or hasn't directly affected us, we seem not to understand why a New Nigeria is critical and why it has to be now or never.

Many of us refused to register for our PVCs ignorantly with irrelevant excuses. Many of us will still not bother with collecting the PVCs because of lack of understanding. A lot more will collect their PVCs and choose rather to stay at home and watch TV than to participate in the elections.

I think the lack of understanding why a New Nigeria is critical is the reason behind our self-sabotaging behaviours.

You will not understand why we need to have a New Nigeria because you haven't lost a loved one or friend to fake drugs. If you bought a fake drug for your sick relative and they died from it, you will fight NAFDAC with all your being and do whatever it takes to birth the New Nigeria.

You will not understand why we need a New Nigeria because you haven't lost your spouse, a loved one or a close friend in a ghastly motor accident because of bad roads with potholes. If you were the only survivor from such an unnecessary accident, you will understand why we need to fight so we can establish a government that puts the lives and security of its citizens first in everything they do.

You will not understand why we need a New Nigeria because you haven't lost a spouse or loved one to the menace of terrorist attacks by Boko Haram and the latest Fulani herdsmen invasion. Imagine that you were one of the people who escaped the Nyanya bomb blast, or that your village was invaded by the herdsmen and you lost a relative to the event, you will understand why we must fight for a New Nigeria where security of the life of citizens and their properties is a priority to its administration.

You will not understand why we need a New Nigeria because you haven't lost all your investments that was tied up in your market store at Alaba International market razed down by fire started by electricity and couldn't be fought instantly because we do not have an effective fire fighting service in Nigeria. If you have a relative who has lost that much to this evil incidence, you will understand why a New Nigeria is non-negotiable where every establishment and institution works efficiently.

You will not understand how important the birthing of a New Nigeria is because you haven't lost a relative or loved one to the carelessness of Doctors, lack of life supporting machines, and inefficient medical care and processes. If you have had the experience of seeing your loved one loose their life under your watch, you will realise the need to give in your all and do all it takes to overthrow the corrupt political system and install a New Nigeria where Health Care Institutions do not only have competent health care workers and state-of-the-art facilities, but more importantly, a system that human compassion and a high regard for human lives drives their services.

You will not understand why we critically need a New Nigeria if you haven't lost a spouse, relative or loved one to an unnecessary plane crash because of the company's carelessness in maintaining their flights to make sure the lives of passengers are not gambled with. If you were the husband to Pastor Bimbo Odukoya or the father, brother or sister of any of the children who died in the Sosoliso plane crash, you will fight our current Nigeria and be a major player in ensuring we have a New Nigeria where every Air Carrier is committed to making the lives of her passengers a priority and implementing best global practices in the offer of her transport services.

You will not understand why a New Nigeria is important at such a time because your child is somewhere in one of the best schools in town with trained teachers or maybe in one of the private schools or even abroad where there is no threats of strike. If you or your dependants lost 2years to unnecessary university strike, you will understand why the birth of a New Nigeria is pertinent.

You will not understand why a New Nigeria is important because all you can see is today and how much you have gathered to sustain yourself till you die. You will not understand because you are not the next generation, who, if we don't birth a New Nigeria, will inherit poverty, chaos and war. If you cared for your great grand children, you will understand why we so critically deserve to fight for the realization of a New Nigeria.

This is not the time to pretend that the challenges of Nigeria do not concern us. This is not the time to sit down, do nothing but complain about how bad Nigeria has become. This is not the time to forget that the lack of unity, peace, prosperity and progress of Nigeria affects your quality of life, your family's welfare and your business negatively.

This is the time to rebuild the walls of Nigeria with one hand and fight against all anti-New-Nigeria syndrome with the other hand by being responsible and taking positive action towards the New Nigeria.

Enough of the excuses, enough of petty talks here and there, enough of sitting on the fence of indecision...let's together take action for the birthing of the Nigeria of our dreams.

This is the time, and we must deliver the New Nigeria.

God bless you and God bless the Federal Republic of Nigeria.

Effiong Edentekhe
The Word Carpenter
The New Nigeria Series

Does the bid prices on the fund manager's site tell anything about the interest rates?

And which of the mutual funds has the highest ROI please?

Thank you.

A MUST Read Guys...

A day would not come in the world when there will be no challenges. In life, it is like the air we breathe. Without it, we begin to die in one way or the other. America, United Kingdom and the likes with their developed economies still face many challenges even today.

From inception, our birth was a challenge, weaning us was a challenge, crawling and walking was indeed a challenge, writing the entrance examination was not easy either. Secondary school, especially for those that boarded was definitely a challenge, writing and passing WAEC was a tough call. What about JAMB? My friends would say “do not go there”.

The university was the climax of it all especially when faced with some lecturers who engage in victimizing students. And finally, initiating, completing and defending a project for the very first time in the final year. What would you call all of these that you have gone through in life? Fun?

Whether it is your family life, social life, academic life, emotional life, physical life or spiritual life, one thing is common and it is challenges. In essence, human existence is characterized by challenges. Therefore, with this understanding, you would agree with me that in any endeavour, it would be considered unhealthy for one not to expect challenges.

You are not to celebrate the challenges but position yourself to overcome them by the grace of God. One of such endeavours where challenges are certain is our one year compulsory service to this great nation and some of the challenges that you may likely face include...

An excerpt from the book, NYSC:IT'S NOT ABOUT ME.

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The management of the National Youth Service Corps (NYSC) has announced date for 2017 Batch B, stream 2 Corps members.

The orientation course will hold between Tuesday 16th January 2018, to Monday 5th February 2018.

This information was contained on the recently updated NYSC Mobilization Time-Table For 2017 Batch B corps members.

Below is the full NYSC Mobilization Time-Table For 2017 Batch B corps members as posted on the NYSC official portal:

1. Briefing/Sensitization of Final year students/prospective corps Members. 12th Oct – 10th Nov 2017

2. Display of list of all approved programmes for institutions on NYSC portal for cross checking and feedback. 12th – 15th Oct. 2017

3. Collation of Prospective Corps Members’ Data by Corps Producing Institutions CPIs. 12th – 15th Oct. 2017

4. Submission/Uploading of Senate/Academic Board Approved Results for Full/Part-Time Graduates and Revalidation Lists by CPIs. 16th – 21st Oct. 2017

5. On-line Registration by Foreign and locally Trained Nigerian Graduates. 23rd October to 12th November 2017

6. Entertainment of complaints from Prospective Corps Members by the state Deployment and Relocation officers and NYSC Help Lines/Desks officers. 23rd October to 12th November 2017

7. Forwarding of Complaints to Mobilisation Dept by State Deployment and Relocation officers. 23rd October to 12th November 2017

8. Deployment and Printing of Call-up Letters by ICT Department. 13th – 17th Nov, 2017

9. Notification/On-line Printing of Call-up Letters/Delivery of Call-up letters to Institutions (stream I). 17th – 20th Nov, 2017

10. On-line Printing of Deployment Disposition by Corps Producing Institutions (CPIs). 18th – 21st Nov, 2017

11. 2017 Batch ‘B’ Orientation Course (Stream II). 16th January to 5th February 2018

Source: dailypost.ng

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Good evening guys, hope you had a great day.

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ebonflexy:
It's not the ONLY purpose, but it IS important.
Stop all that binary thinking Nigerians are known for.

Absolutely.

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ebonflexy:
All these people who talk about marriage not being a sexual help thing are talking BS.

In fact if anything, that is the main thing!
Look, let's be real...if you are a bachelor or bachelorette, IN THIS CENTURY, you are automatically living in sin. Automatically.
Because as a guy what do you do when your balls are full of seed? Bursting at the seams building up extreme, uncomfortable, distracting pressure. That thing needs to be expelled!
And there is apparently no way to do that that is not some sort of sin....so there. Same applies to the pucci.

So marriage for the most part, is a sin-free way of expelling that load.

Interesting narrative. Lol!

TemmyWon:
Being single is embarrassing, every tom and eve make it a point to advise me about my inexistent love life every weekend. that's why. there. said it

There's time for everything. Don't force it but nurture great relationships with the opposite sex while you wait. When you are finally ready to settle down, it might be easier to find someone to walk the aisle, that's if they aren't all married by then.

serenegroup:
the most important 'why' in my own opinion is sex without feeling guilty since its only approved in the marriage context and companionship. All else can be obtained elsewhere.

Your opinion is very valid. Especially in this generation, it is better to marry than to burn like the Bible instructs.

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THERE'S NOTHING LOVE CANNOT DO

I'm sure we all are not ignorant of the argument these days surrounding the roles of a man and a woman in marriage. Calistus says, "I will never have anything to do with cooking or any form of domestic chore when am married. My responsibility is simply to provide, and that's all." Ngozi, a career lady, says, "I am working, he's working, why should I be the only one to do the cooking and domestic chores around the house? After all, my money is also entering into the family's expenses. We must share all the responsibilities, otherwise..." The argument is hot, don't let us even start. You know it all.

Now, my question is, where did all that argument emanate from? Did it come from a place of competition? Did it come from a place of equality? What is the basis for the argument, and where are we drawing our conclusions from and where are we going with it? And more importantly, which is obviously the reason for this article, where is love in all of that? And if I may add, where is God in all of it?

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I am not interested in any form of argument, neither do I have any intention of stirring up any. I come in peace, and my aim is to bring a solution if it might by any means help our homes.
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There's absolutely nothing love cannot do. God tried reconciling the world back to Himself with all the strategies in His arsenal, but nothing worked until He used love. Love brought the King of kings down to earth to walk like an ordinary man. Love caused the Creator of all things, a personality beyond mortality, to die like a mere animal—a death common to all. Only love could have pulled that stunt on that cross that Jesus died—only love could have done it. Ladies and gentlemen, there is no force on earth that is greater than the force of love. If you are a Christian, I assume you know that already.

On that love foundation my brothers and sisters is the foundation of all marriages based. Why then do we have all the arguments in our marriages today? Because we've taken our eyes away from the cross, away from the foundation, away from His word, away from the beginning, away from love!

Love isn't careful about gender inequality. If love turned God into a man, then love can turn a man into a woman. If love made God switch roles from being God to being a man because it was necessary, then a man can do what a woman is "supposed to do" when it's necessary—and of course, a woman can do what a man is "supposed to do" when it is necessary. To stretch it even further, if love could "kill" God, then we can die to self that the marriage may progress. Necessity, they say, is the mother of invention; if it is necessary, don't argue, instead invent yourself and move on!

In the end, God is still God today, man still remains a man, and they all function well in their capacities. Be comfortable with who you've been created to be, let the word of God be the basis for every decision that you take concerning your marriage. This new world philosophies won't take your marriage anywhere. It's the same old rugged cross that brings men salvation today. In the same vein, that ancient love, the unconditional love, is what you need for a successful marriage.

In the words of Paul the Apostle as inspired by the Holy Spirit, "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonour others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres." This kind of love can do anything, and it is this love that I recommend to you today.

I hope you accept it, I hope you put it to work for you, and I seriously hope it ends all the arguments.

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Fan your thoughts into flames and let the world feel the heat.

Effiong Edentekhe,
The Word Carpenter™

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GET THAT UNCLEAR RELATIONSHIP DEFINED

The sun was just setting in the crowded city of Port Harcourt. It was about 5pm in the evening and most people were just rushing home from their offices. Drivers blared their horns desperately out of impatience from the slow moving traffic jam, and many pedestrians were trying to make their way from one side of the road to another.

Tom, a banker, apparently exhausted from the day's work, was famished, tired and frustrated having spent two hours already trying to get home. As usual, he had no clue of what he was going to eat when he gets home, as he was still single. While moving forward, and at the same time trying to make up his mind on what to eat, he heard a loud sound behind his car and could have been thrown out of his seat but for his seatbelt.

"Oh no! Not now! Not again!" Tom mumbled under his breath. He stopped the car and yanked his door open in rage. He walked briskly to the car behind him and just as he opened his mouth to spit venom on the defaulting driver, he sees this ravishingly beautiful blond seated across the driver's seat. He swallowed the air and chewed his words.
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It was the beginning of a beautiful relationship.
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Her name was Jennifer. They became very close to each other. They saw each other often. They talked often on the phone. They both enjoyed each other's company and they were headlong into each other emotionally. But the relationship was neither platonic nor intimate. And that was because Tom had still not said anything worthwhile. And Jennifer lacked the courage to ask him the relevant questions.

Many singles are involved in relationships very similar to that of Tom and Jennifer today. Unknown to them, they have been ignoring a very dangerous relationship red flag.
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When two mature adults are involved in a relationship, and such a relationship has gone way past a platonic relationship, has become very emotional, with the two parties very fond of themselves and no one, especially the lady, seems to know where the relationship is headed or what the terminal point or destination of the relationship is, then they are both courting a disaster soon to happen.

For instance, when Jennifer's friends began to enquire about what's up with her and Tom. She responded "I just like him, he's my male best friend." The thing is, when you are both single and you allow a man get that close to you, your emotions will eventually get involved, and then it becomes really risky and dangerous. If you are currently experiencing this, you need to press the pause button on that relationship now and ask the man what exactly his purpose in your life is. Otherwise, you stand a chance of being heartbroken sooner or later.

Any relationship where two people are really fond of themselves, really close to themselves, and see themselves very regularly, they need to sit down and tell themselves where exactly they are going. Not doing this is a major cause of most marital delays in many people's life. It is a recipe for heartbreak because while you are a best friend to somebody, he may actually be planning to marry another person.

If he's so close and he's not saying anything, call him, sit him down and ask him what he wants. Ask him, we are so close, who are we? Get him to define the friendship. If he says "We are just close friends." Ask him, how close are we? If he's still not ready to give you the right answer, tell him "when people are this close, it's usually to marry each other. So what are you saying? Who are you to me?"

I know many ladies will find this very difficult to do because it sounds like you are trying to force the guy to commit to you or something. So the question is, at what point should you ask him questions along this line? When you feel your heart is getting very drawn to him. When you get to that point when you want to sleep, and you can't because you are so engrossed in thinking so much about him. But I must add here that this takes a lot of courage, but you can and must do it for your own good.

It is easy for men to hang around women because they have little or nothing to lose. But it is bad for a woman because she has so much to lose. The biological clock for a man and a woman is very different, they don't hit 12 o'clock at the same time. A lady's clock is much faster.

Many people are unable to see the waving red flags in relationships on time, and this has created many bad marriages. Because of that, most people now wish they can reverse the time and go back to yesterday and be unmarried. Many who are married wish they were never married. Many others are praying that their partners will die so that they can remarry.

In most cases, God was busy shouting "Hey, stop!" He was giving them all the signs, and yet they were unable to recognise it until they tied the knots. And some, even after they have recognised the red flag, still go ahead with the marriage. And in the end, when things turn awry, they begin to point their fingers towards their village, their grandmother, and so on.

Do the needful now if you must avoid pointing accusing fingers. Life is too short to be at the mercy of a bad marriage.

Effiong Edentekhe
The Word Carpenter.
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There's very little most parents know about parenting and many care less about finding out.

The foundation of successful learning for children at school rests more in the hands of their parents than with the schools they attend.

The dynamics of learning for a child is much more than giving them delicious snacks and rushing them off to school and expecting good grades at the end of the term.

There are so many intangibles that parents need to know and ensure their wards do have access to them. If we focus on these Intangibles, we will make learning easier and exciting for our children and reduce the unnecessary faults we push to their teachers and schools.

What are some of these intangibles? You may be asking. Follow my explanation below

The training of a child rises and falls on love; the abundance of it or the lack of it.

This love should not be misconstrued to mean the normal provisions that the parents owe their children like paying school fees, feeding, clothing, outings, etc, for all these are the bare necessities of a child. Most parents stop here.

The weightier love and the intangible but the most important of them all—the emotional needs of our children, are often unknown, underestimated or simply ignored.

A warm and sincere hug every morning as the child leaves for school can improve a child's learning in more ways than any parent can possibly imagine.

Intentionally saying positive and empowering words to the child at every opportunity could do more in helping the child's esteem and in building the child's confidence as it is a much needed ingredient for improving a child's ability to learn.

Identifying your child's love language and focusing on speaking that language with the mixture of the remaining love languages here and there is the climax of these intangibles.

When a child grows in an environment of love, she flourishes naturally whether academically, or socially.

These are but a few of the many intangibles that parents have missed out on that the school cannot compensate for.

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Obsc:
I received the same invitation but haven't been there before, I will be coming from Abia, worried about accommodation

Any idea about the kind of questions one should expect? Have you heard anything about their previous aptitude test?

In Nigeria, many businesses are birth because of the success of people in one business or another. For instance, because somebody is successful at selling pure water, all of a sudden, everybody wants to start selling pure water without first of all considering why the person decided to sell pure water in the first place. If the business doesn't work, one can jump out and try another option. That is great for a business but marriage is neither a business nor a job; you cannot jump into it today and jump out of it tomorrow.

One major reason why businesses fail is not because the business was wrong. Have you ever wondered why some people fail in businesses that others are succeeding in without stress? Why does one building stand for a very long time and another comes crashing down in a short span of time? We all know the answer; the foundation makes all the difference.

The 'Why?' of a thing is the most important question one can ever ask before beginning any task. David said "If the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do? Myles Munroe postulated that "If the purpose of a thing is not known, abuse is inevitable." Why do you want to get married? How well we answer this question will go a long way in determining how long our marriages will survive.

God said "It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a help meet for him." The understanding is that God only brings help when we need one. Help is essentially the purpose for getting married. Do you need help? How much help do you need? Why do you need help? What do you need help for?

Understand that the 'help' here is not the help to cure our sexual weaknesses because sexual weaknesses don't get cured in marriage. The help here is not for a man that will pay your school fees because you might never get to finish that school. We must understand that women are not sex machines which you can turn on every time you feel like having sex and men are not Automated Teller Machines (ATMs) with which you can make withdrawals at your convenience.

When a man is truly seeking help, the container will mean nothing to him but the content will mean everything in the world to him. When a man seeks for help, he's on the look out for someone that will complement him. What the person carries on the inside becomes far more important than what the person looks like on the outside.

Jesus made an illustration on how a foundation can affect the outcome of a building. He said two men built their houses; the foundation of one was sand and the other, rock. When the rains, floods and winds came upon both houses, the house on the rock stood solid while the other came crashing down. It didn't just crash, it was a great crash.

So it is with marriage. The basis for your getting married will determine how well your marriage will survive the challenges that will come against it. Will your current reasons for getting married stand the storms and challenges of marriage ahead? Will your present reasons for wanting to get married be able to bear the burdens when the time comes? This is the time to test your 'Why?s' to see if they are strong enough for the battles and uncertainties ahead.

Why do you want to get married? What exactly are your motives for wanting to get married? Is it because you can no longer do without it? Is it because others are getting married and it seems you are getting left behind? Why? Could it be because you think you are not getting any younger? Considering your priorities for now, is marriage really a need or a want?

Back in the days, in my senior year in secondary school, we were taught the order of importance and the difference between a 'want' and a 'need' in Economics. Simply put; if you need something, it means, you cannot do without it. If you want something on the other hand, it means you can do without it. Can you do or can you not do without getting married in the short term? Consider that!

Marry because you need to marry not because you want to marry!

Effiong Edentekhe
The Word Carpenter

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maangel01:
i think this is the first time they are actually doing that. Which position did you apply for

I applied for the post of graduate assistant since am not yet done with my Masters program. Am not sure this is their first time of conducting an aptitude test.

Guys, I woke up to a text this morning from Akwa Ibom State University (AKSU). The text read "You are invited to attend an employment aptitude test on Friday 26/02/16 by 8am. venue is Akwa Ibom State University, Ikot Akpaden campus. (Signed: Registrar)."

Please has anyone gotten this same text? Has anyone here in the house taken AKSU aptitude test before and what do the questions look like? What are the kinds of questions we are likely to see in the test? Do they ask GMats questions or general questions based on your discipline

Please I need your urgent responses, thank you.

NYSC should not be made optional for any reason let alone the thought of scrapping it. Instead Nigeria should go back to her drawing board and address the challenges of the Country that has succeeded in adding to the challenges of the Scheme. The only problem NYSC is facing is the inability of Nigeria to channel the services of these teeming youths in the realization of today's national development needs. As soon as that problem is addressed, all these talks of scrapping or not scrapping, optional or not optional will be jettisoned. Scrapping NYSC or making it optional is a NO NO!

Prospective corps members, check this out please.

A must read for all singles, ladies and gentlemen, husbands and wives.

https://winningyouthsinc./2015/04/10/abigail-the-woman-of-every-mans-dream-pt-1/

Also follow through to Part 2 here
https://winningyouthsinc./2015/04/19/abigail-the-woman-of-every-mans-dream-pt-2/

Have a good read.

Please who can help me with the General Engineering NNPC Past question and specialty in Mechanical Engineering. Pls it's urgent. my email address is figoinc@yahoo.com
Thank you

NYSC is more than a blessing. It is ignorance and the 'Nigerian challenges' that makes it seem like a curse.

For those who are yet to serve, get the book titled "NYSC:It's Not About Me" by Effiong Edentekhe and read. It will give you a whole new perspective on what NYSC is all about and what it takes to have a successful and fun-filled service year.

I love NYSC, I love Nigeria. God bless you all.

Absolutely!