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Completely agree

stacyadams:
The best and only way to know a woman well and see her true colours is buy living under the same roof with her for a period of time and the man is unemployed and broke

Comrade we need to send a rescue team.

Pharaohny:
Man down
Man down
Do you copy

Bravo! Bravo!!

prettyem:
Many people enter into marriage with loads of impossible expectations they themselves cannot fulfill or submit to forgetting they are getting married to a flesh and blood like them. SMH

I am still single by the way and getting quite a lot of knowledge about marriage, homemaking and childbearing/upbringing...my mentors have deep-rooted, blessed and stable homes plus I don't believe in 'marriage na scam or every man is a cheat' societal hymn because I know I will get whatever I believe and expect even in marriage

To those having issues now, how many books about having a successful marriage, how to raise kids and all about family life did you read/see/learn from before you committed to your spouse? Did you submit to marriage counseling or you knew it all?

You went to school for at least 4years or learnt a trade for some years/months but enter into marriage with NO knowledge and you expect magic to happen bah? You ignore red flags, base your calculations on financial or societal status, human connections and other shallow values... I am not saying all of these are bad yeah? But shouldn't be the core of your marital commitment because Nothing lasts forever. Ask right questions during courtship, MBA nnu, that's when you want to learn different sex styles

For instance, babe was a drunk before you married her and you feel she will change after marriage? Or an intentional lazy, entitled bloke that procrastinates even his next breathe but you are a go-getter babe, what you expect?

For me o, according to The Word of the Lord, Marriage is Good and Honorable...Blessed is the man who finds and marries me because I carry the Favor of God, husband-man will sure enjoy Divine favors through me

I am learning
I am leaning and trusting God as I wait
I am ready

So OP, change your mindset about marriage sort your issues with your partner, seek counseling and be refreshed

Longin:
So allow me make I enjoy life
Cos problem no dey finish oh wey
Everyday different wahala
Problem no dey finish oh wey

Nice one

Stop this thinking @ the bolded.

Fo therein lies a chunk of the problem.

wunmi590:
I bring and she brings willingly, without being force, because as a man I should be able to shoulder my responsibilities....

Oh nice.

I see u point

Uzomarrr12345:
My point is , you can’t know a lady too well until you spend more time with her or even live with her

The other guy is making it look like , he has the magic wand to know a lady in and out from day 1 … lol

Try and get my point pls !

But you can during dating if she is selfish and financially unreasonable - in terms of her demand.

Uzomarrr12345:
Mr relationship expert , I have a question for you

when you meet a pretty woman for the first time , how can you tell she’s stingy ?

Is it written somewhere on her body or face ?

You don date before at all self

You won’t have all these experience until you live with the woman under same roof for a period of time

The silence of men is really a problem.

Uzomarrr12345:
I really find this topic interesting coz just last week , I was having this sort of discussion with a friend

my friend is so fed up of accommodating his wife younger brother in his house , the guy is behaving badly, to the point he had the guts to bring a female to sleep over

just imagine , but as usual, he doesn’t have the guts to send the boy packing coz he doesn’t want to look like a bad in-law

See plenty annoying tins dey inside this marriage thing , some guys nor just wan Dey talk too much

This is a reality.
Women are unappreciative.

They are instrinsically selfish

They can never be pleased.

HarunaWest:
Some women turn out to be jerks and stupid even when they are treated well.

Wise words.
Right on point

Uzomarrr12345:
My only problem I have with our Nigeria ladies is , they simply don’t like bringing to the table except it becomes an issue , I am talking about financial aspect

everything is left for the man, school fees , house rent , even your wife shop rent , this is the case of many Nigeria men but ego won’t let them complain coz society demand dey have to even die to provide for the house

Submissive is not all about sex alone , there’s also the financial aspect of it, as a woman , even if your husband has a decent job, that doesn’t mean you can’t still contribute

remember he has families back home to fend for , in some cases , husbands even extend the love and finances to the wife’s family too, e no easy !

Men speak out !
Don’t die in silence !!

Good question

Uzomarrr12345:
How do you handle the billing aspect ?

Do you provide all ?
Or she brings as well

Be honest

ITbomb:
Of course, just 3 years plus

Ok. Cool

Speaking about beauty, I really don't think Nigerian ladies are pretty.

Just make up effects.

Nigerian ladies are very ugly.

BiggyB242:
They know you go after the wrong ones. Most of you go after beauty and ignore other important aspects.

Nice perspective.

Ishilove:
Don't mind them. They will run after physical looks and ignore red flags during courtship, and when their fantasy woman begins to show them pepper, they come here to disturb us with their lamentations.

Are you married dude?

ITbomb:
Marriage no hard, na you go marry slay queen

So sad ���.

womenareapess:
this is what you get when marrying those useless piece of shiit called naija

Marriage is lovely when you married a foreigner but reverse is the case with those female black baboons

Flexherbal:
I wan go buy popcorn

Nice one

Unusual experience.
Hmmm

wunmi590:


I've never had reasons to regret walking down the aisle with the love of my life, that is why I took my time before settling down....

I married the best woman in the world, I don't know about others sha

Nice one.

MrAnele:
Make i go bring chair

Congratulations! You have finally settled down.
No more worries over what to eat, drink, clothing and a roof over your head- you have finally secured a life-long ATM.

The kids (even that of another man) get to be the responsibility of your husband.

All you do is say a word and the money arrives.

The benefits are endless and exciting.

Pls share some with us.

Thanks

Obviously, marriage is a horrible affliction upon men.

The huge financial demand, the promiscuous wife and shameless character of the wife are just a few of the sad tale.

However, many single dudes are unaware of all these.

So, bro, share your painful experience for enlightenment.
Thanks

Obviously not

God1000:
Is he doing well in Edo state? I mean providing good governance and dividends of democracy

Right on point dude

Nyascobar1414:
Lmaoo...
They are already stooping low(crushin)..
But I turn them down..
Cos when I think about all the shii that comes with females, they dont worth me care...
I take them as trash..

frozen70:
Continue till you see yourself inside bottle

This is really a threat, you know?

sayittome:
This is why i agree with the OP when he says that Woman Love is Conditional

Ok. Nice one

I have notice some erratic pattern with him/her.

S/he comes across as someone with very little intelligence.

Kolena:
I've been seeing your comments on almost every thread in this section, but haven't just felt like commenting. You always feel you're savage, but you're not. It's guys like you that make women exhibit nasty behaviours. I've met your type, and it always ends in tears for them. If you like, say it's paining me. I've made my point.

FERNANDEZISBACK:
If you ain't getting married or don't believe in love good for you..stop busting everywhere with your misogynistic attitude..

U misunderstood the message bro

Das1mama:
Wow, i remember this song.... 'the fact say e no work for Mr A no mean say e no go work for Mr B' ....... Op Every Mallam with his kettle so speak for yourself.

I don't think you understand what I wrote.
Also, I will appreciate if you put u comment into perspective cos I don't understand what u are saying.

Women are intrinsically selfish.
Worse still, they are incapable of love.

teddybarz:
Not my story thou.



A lot of nigerian relationship re just men indirectly paying their girlfriend to stay wit them.
I connected my friend who is a mason nd a bricklayer to a biq excavation contract work to do in abuja kubwa where NNPC are to build a gas station. he asked to borrow 70k for fliqht ( to ensure safety cus of d country's insecurities) i loaned out d money ( actually gave 50k)
his babe played dis manipulative game on him using school tactics.. Baba disbursed his fliqht money to d girl nd decided to travel by land via GOD IS GOOD.
..i didn't hear frm him for a week, d link dat told me about the job informed me dat he missed it.
when he chatted me again, it happened to be dat baba & other passenger escaped unknown gun men ambush. Cos of a girl, he nearly lost his life.

cos of a girl he put his comfort & job opportunity in jeopardy.

cos of a girl he missed out on a job that could pay him 500k at worse

WOMEN dnt care wht u re going thru, Or what u have to prioritize or not

MEN NEVA LEARN

Now u see my point.
Do women really love their men?

sayittome:
can you imagine?
so u cant give money to someone u claim to love?

The OP is actually right.

Women are intrinsically self.

Thandiubani:
UN, AU and ECOWAS na nonsense organizations. Na only mouth dem sabi. This is time to rise up against dictatorship instead of issuing watery statements. What happened in Mali, Sudan and Myanmar? Abegi!

I agree with you

Military will be worse of

Massiveglory:
While we all call of democracy, we can't blame the military atimes for their intervention.

When you see how weak and corrupt many so called democracy leaders are. Killings are going on unabated, atimes supported by the government in power.

Atimes military intervention is highly needed.