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Dontaskme:
Hello folks, this obviously isnt my real account.I love my privacy,but I just need to talk to someone.
I have been dating this girl (lets call her patience-not her real name),for about a year and half.It has been hell on earth but no doubt there are sweet moments.I promise to keep this short and not getting you bored with irrelevant epistles.I just need advice.

Let me quickly tell you about me, I am an introvert,very very reserved and quiet person.I don't get angry easily,when I do then it most have been a serious torment that lead to it.Even when I am angry the worst I would do is shout and sometimes cry after.I am a freelancer so i dont need to go out of the house, I work from home.I have being heart broken and dumped twice by ladies I was completely faithful and honest to.On the average i earn like 70-100k in a month.

Patience works salary job .We are both in our mid twenties, she is 3 months older(but it doesnt bother me) .Before we met I made a decision not to date anyone else due to my past experiences .When I met her first I kind of liked her,the first time me met she didn't have transport fare, she approached me and I paid for her(thats how we met).All i needed was a friend because as i said earlier I wasm very reserved,we exchanged numbers and we got talking.I fell in love with her asked her out,she turned me down.To avoid thinking of her too much,I cut off communication,after a while she started calling me and showing interest at that point I had lost interest and just wanted to prevent another heart break.

I went to regrettable lengths of asking her to leave my house, just to avoid somebody breaking up with me again, i always felt remorseful,i had to train myself to forget past experiences and give her a chance.I genuinely fell in love with her again.Its pertinent to note that she has also gone through the emotional trauma that I have gone through.

Fastforward.. I have great respect for women which is sometimes seen as weakness by some people, so even when she comes visiting i do all my chores myself including cooking,she always complains i dont allow her do anything.I had to bow to pressure and arguments (where the arguments started) to allow her assist.

Fastforward...I had an issue with my apartment,my friends and i did a kind of handover ,and you know how lagos Landlords are, he wanted to collect agreement and commission all over again from me, which i couldn't afford.

Just before the whole apartment saga, patience started behaving somehow ,she is always scared, insecure being afraid that i would leave her like the other guys.Then she started complaining about how tribalistic her parents are (which is true,you need to see how her mum was just giving pretentious smiles when i am around her family-even though she thinks we are just friends,but she suspects something is going on ) and how they wouldn't accept me,she is igbo and i am from the middle belt.She started going of and on, tell me she is breaking up with me today, come back tommorow,and she did it countless times.There was a particular long interval and i had given up on her already after trying to get her back.I started being free with other females making friends and I had sex with one of them (my first and only sexual experience-i was honestly waiting for marriage).She came back again and I told her of what happened ,she started ranting that I cheated on her, there and then she started becoming over protective .Checking my calls ,chats which doesnt bother me.

Back to the apartment saga,she opted to help get a new place and pay for me, which I was strongly against and she was like "if you dont take it then I am no longer your girlfriend".I had to take the offer and we agreed I was going to pay back.

She took her trouble to the next level when she saw my chat with other girls after a very long time and this chats took place during the periods of her fluctuations.Because she insists on spending a night sometimes this girl wont allow me sleep she would shout at the top of her voice in the house that I am a womanizer.

She would complain that I dont help her with chores(I started helping out, bear in mind she forced me to let her do it) , she would complain that I dont do anything for her, she would complain that I procastinate (she was right about this, so I adjusted and got a timetable for my activities).She lost her job briefly so i was supporting her and got her a new job through a friend. Now all she does is nag, gets me upset and when we have an argument all she does is scream about how she "picked me up when I had nothing and rented a house for me ",and she repeats it all the time. Bear in mind that I got her a new phone (after plenty abuse)I have been supporting both of us and given her transport to work everyday thats why i havent been able to pay her back her money.She would even go to the length of embarrassing me shouting that i should pay her money that she wants to leave my life.She talks anyhow and doesnt even mind the words that come out of her mouth, she sometimes curses me.She dropped a bomb recently saying that all the love she has been giving me from the beginning is just "eye service".With all this I would forgive her without hassles when ever she calms down and says she is sorry, but she repeats this rubbish all the time.When I try to report her to her friends to talk to her its another fight i am causing.She has once told me she would slap me and there is nothing i can do about it, she is right because all i do is shout and sometimes push her away when she starts all this rubbish.Trusts me what she does is more than what i wrote here.

She is now practically staying permanently in my apartment because she claims her parents are maltreating her, i cant send her away cos i still lover despite all she does and also because I am still owing her .
She has changed me, I now get provoked easily ,she has messed my Pysychology up, i recently got so angry that i tore her bag, this is me who couldnt hurt a fly before .one thing i have never done is to raise my hands on her. I am just tired i dont know what to do again.

Two attitudes i abhor in igbo girls....


Tribalism and sauciness.

Cos the average nigerian girl loves to hear lies...

skarlett:
Uniport denied you admission countless times abi

Lol, why taking it personal nau?...got lotsa friends that have graduated and ma kid bro is a student there...btw, are you the hoe the op was referring to cos i don't understand.

A certified golddigger.

OKUCHI11:
ur evidence of this claim

Go back to genesis, that's if you are a christian and not an atheist.

Papiikush:
No point showing em bro... Passed that stage already

I wan see am victor

TrapHedges:
Lol bro.. So today i was fuckinnng tired (fucck school) so i got home,, chilling..these hoe hit my hot line tat she bouta cum around.. Am cool with tat.. Few mins later she got here.. She a side chick so i was giving her no chill lol...bitcch said she wants ta wash her hair.. Told her to go tell her bf..she like she telling me nua..lol long story short

she wanted to use the bathroom, she finished and left,,i was still in my bed..few mins later i hit the bathroom and my shampoo is gone..lol my boy aint around and shampoo was right there in the morning


why most of yall girls forming porsh, lowkey theives?


Same thing happened to my man primo lol

Fvck it, you sounding like a uniport student cos you guys can form rubbish

Papiikush:
Nice one...

So, you dey here?, where the pool party pix?

So, make we iron canda?

desmondneke:
But slim and broke is cool....thats discrinination

On your own part, do you like girls with potbelly?

stanliwise:
OK o, You mean .....May I no just talk

Vomit it already

Ironi:
Word!

In effect if your wife was not a virgin when you married her, then you have a loving prostitute on your hand because he was fcked by a couple of guys before you. If your girlfriend was not a virgin when you met her, then you are fcking a prostitute and same goes for women too.

At the end of the day if you are not married, chances are you will be married to a prostitute because their former boy friends had to maintain them by giving them money and gifts else the relation was over. That is not any different from money na hand back na ground.

You go live long pass methuselah

uche77zero:
See a port Harcourt boy speaking Mr sweet tinz

You sef sabi there, omo, i hail

beautiful232:

The way i'm looking at you and with that your ass on your dp, you go sabi talk lie

beautiful232:
How will I know ? cause men these days lie alot

And women talk true alot ba?

Any girl that has slept with a guy before is NO differend from the girl who stands at Mr Sweet.


So, he later enter fp...

Oya Modified before some ferrocious "prostitutes" will start quoting my mum and siblings cos i know say nairalanders get bad mouth.


1.My mum was not born in this era....in her days according to her, you stay in your fathers house until a man completes paying your bribe price, so, she's exempted…


2.My sisters, i single handedly watched them grow to adulthood, so, they have their choice of life to live...all i can do now is give them advice, but so far they 've been impressive both with guys and their studies.....N:B, with guys i mean they don't bleep around .

I knew you can never hide the truth for so long....all those bail conditions na wash.

Make we sidon fold hand dey look

Ask that your friend what's going between him and the girl, if his answer is in a compromising order then tell your bro to just ignore her and back out but if your friend has nothing serious with the said girl then let him not just rush into any relationship with the girl yet until she proves to your brother that she ain't the hoe she has portrayed herself to be.



As for her calls, pick it and pretend asif nothing happened....whatever explanation she gives you still keep her at bay and never say anything partaining what you saw but do as i have directed you above for your own brother's good...except you don't wanna be your brother's keeper.

They used to be harmless and cool animals like the domestic ones around us not until satan and sin sets in....man and animals like lions, snakes and other ferrocious animals used to dwell together not until adam sinned...before the fall of man the entire creatures used to dread man but today a man will see a lion or snake and start running....cc...@ozoebuka1

The good old days.

xxxtedyxxx:
hhahaha

That's diabetic na

[quote author=xxxtedyxxx post=55878222][/quote]Sorry, i don't do alcohol .

Mtcheeew.

Only reward her when she deserves it, hmmmm, i think i gotta take this home .

loswhite:
you are so dumb. Marriage doesn't guarantee childbirth Incase if u don't ppl give birth to children with or without marriage. The God said that marriage is compulsory? Why did Jesus not get married? You are the one that is foolish and cannot understand simple English. MARRIAGE guarantees nothing.

Lol, why the rage?...if marriage guarantees nothing why are you even in existence huh....from this your blind and dumb mindset i can conclude that you are a product of an un-stable and broken home, well, sorry about that sha...


Note the following for your own good so you won't continue to wallow in foolery and ignorance(that's if you are a christian in the first place) .


1. For this purpose a man shall leave his father and mother and cleev to his wife and the both shall become one flesh....Gen 2:24....


2. He who finds a wife finds a GOOD THING and obtains FAVOUR from the lord....so, from the above statement one of the things you are guaranteed of is "favour" and "good thing"....



The no 1 point God said in the garden of eden that "it's not good for the man to be alone, HE created the woman eve after HE made adam to fall into a deep sleep and when the man woke up he looked at the woman and said, "indeed this is the bone of my bone and the flesh of my flesh, and he called her "WOMAN"....this is were the statement emanated from, for this purpose a man shall leave his father and mother and shall hold unto his wife and the two shall become one....i took out time to spare you this knowledge to show you that GODHIMSELF Instituted and approved marriage....lest i forget, the woman is "supposed" to be a helpmeet for the man but because people like you and maybe the people and family you 've surrounded yourself with made a mistake while chosing a wife and today the effect is taking a negative toll on you and left you with the mindset and believe that marriage guarantees nothing....so, i believe you won't make mistake why chosen a life partner in jesus name....amen .


At the no 2 point....Marriage guarantees you not just good thing and favour but all round blessings dependind also the kinda woman you marry....still have alot to write but go home with this and next time be mindful of the kinda words you use on people....


Have a nice day .

loswhite:
lol... you love old days maybe u should get a donkey or a horse to ride on. marriage guarantees nothing. What works for u may not work for someone else. My advice to lady follow your instinct. You can say I am taken and u get to the Alter with that guy on the other hand u can keep your options open and still not get to the Alter afterall most of the guys that wishing u keep options open are actually selfish some feel they can just buy a woman. Trust your instinct.
I for one if you keep your options open I will also keep my options open so don't expect high level commitment chikena

Marriage guarantees nothing and you fell from the sky abi?...the way some of you think eh, @times i just feel like giving up(this one weak me)....so, God that instituted it was foolish?, smh....marry the right person and for the right reason and your mentality about marriage will change.

AreaFada2:
Girls already know this and many are playing it accordingly.

This year alone, I know 6 girls who have married almost suddenly. Only one of them I even knew had a boyfriend, not even fiance.

One just plastered her social media wall with marriage pics last Saturday. Her bf pic appeared on her wall just a week ago. Methinks the must have been dating for at least months if not years.

The advice the OP suggests have negative consequences. Like girls keeping several "insurance" side dudes. The keep them tagging along, she'd grant occasional sexual favours. Maybe once a month or so.

That may contribute to the already high rate of firstborn kids belonging to another man outside. Since she might keep doing it until just before marriage. A baby born 9 months later can belong to anyone.

What you have just pasted is almost same as what i wrote.

johnydon22:
His bank account of course, where else. Your house?

Oooh for God sake who is talking about that shiit



so?

- does this change the fact that he didnt say anything new as this post carries

- or that he is raking in millions everyday?

Ya lots are just blinded by the god of this world that has given you a reprobate mind.

The bitter and hard truth.