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Bayonle10:
where you see poor self.... Leave the poor boy, free the poor girl when you don't even know the person.

prettythicksme:
I did not

prettythicksme:
U think

ronald4lif:
Little or big assistance is a choice not a requirement. And even as a choice giving mustn't be lopsided and must involve all parties. So, if it should be required that a man should assist his woman financially then it should also be same too for women. Or is it only men who earn money?

MRBrownJ:
bro,make up your mind once and for all... now you are saying that men shouldnt "always" assist their gf, while in your initial post you clearly stated that "if a man has money, he MUST spend on his gf". so which one is it?



well, at least it will stop this lady from begging her bf for money...but pls, do educate us all by telling us what is a MAN's role in a r/ship?!

mamagee3:
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MRBrownJ:
there is a very BIG difference between assistance, and paying a gf (for whatever she demands).
why dont you ASSIST her by getting her a JOB, or ASSIST her by helping her manage her finances better, or better yet ASSIST her by teaching her how to live within her MEANS?! why does your "assistance" must always be in MONETARY form?! giving a woman money/gifts for no damn reason doesnt solve anything. you need to evaluate the problem and solve the issue maturely. if your gf always requires monetary help then SHE has a problem that is bigger than money and therefore seek for the root of the issue instead of foolishly throwing money at her, because guess what? you aint solving anything, you are just turning into a very foolish ATM.

a man should ONLY offer a gift, when HE believes that his partner DESERVES one. the minute it is a requirement in order to stay in that r/ship then you have FAILED!!!!

desire222:
For u

ronald4lif:
Bruv, you didn't address any of his points but just beating around the bush here. I expected you to come up with a robust antithesis argument to dismiss Mr. Brown irreproachable points. But I can guarantee you that you've got none.

Your suggestion of spending on girlfriends as a requirement is preposterous and frivolous to say the least. Spending is a choice not mandatory. And choice is voluntary not through coercion like your post is implicitly suggesting.

And what did you mean by if she's a sex tool? I find that laughable, really. For the likes of you, sex is a compensation to your monetary assistance towards women. But that is not to be so, as sex shouldn't come with any clause or proviso.

Like I have habitually stated, I have no problem assisting my woman, financially and I think MrBrownJ doesn't have a problem with that either. However, what I detest and won't accept is the enactment and doctrinism of spending as a requirement or requisite of conserving a relationship. Makes no sense

wizzycanaan:
Okay, my nigga was so in love with this girl, they were the sweetest couple and out of d blue, she started acting funny, she broke up with him, he got sad and angry and vowed not to love any girl again, nw he is changing girls like clothes, is it his fault or the girl that made him a flirt?

MRBrownJ:
i dont follow you... can you please give us a MATURE INTELLIGENT CONCRETE reason why a man "must" spend his money on his gf, whether he desires to do so or not?!



it seems like "spending on a gf" is a big part of the type of r/ship you seek in life... by all means to each their own, but pls dont automatically assume that we all want such miserable r/ship for ourselves (where spending on a gf is a necessity/requirement)



so, if i understand you correctly, what you are claiming is that: spending on a gf means you "love" her, and if you dont spend the money on her then it means you "dont love" her!?!?!?!?!



you mean, this is the reality that you have LOWERED yourself to live by, where you need to constantly reward a woman for her to continue being with you, as if to pay her for her services, like a prostitutes.



for men like you, who CANT attract a woman other than with money, yes!



and here, ladies and gentlemen, is where we understand why men like the OP will always fail in r/ship (and why their low self esteem self need to pay women to be by their sides)
what has the above reply (in bold) got to do with your gf turning men down?! this is what she is SUPPOSE to do whether you can help her or not. if you believe that your woman MUST be rewarded because she is doing what any "proper" respectful woman in a r/ship should do, then we can all understand why paying is a requirement in your r/ship. this lady isnt turning men down because of YOU, she is turning them down because thats what women in r/ship SHOULD do, whether you are broke or a billionaire, duh!

have some damn RESPECT for yourself instead of dating broke ass desperate begging goldigging animals, thinking thats the way of life!
with all due respect, men like you who give ANY money/gift to women as a requirement in their r/ship, are MUMUs, and they deserve to be taken for a ride by these broke aass criminals.

judey1992:
what gives you the guarantee that she is gonna stay till the end?

austine4real:
B4 i go give any gal 1k i go don fvck her toto tired wey be say, her nxt b4 go dey curse me sey her condemn her toto

gabinogem:
Being freehanded is one thing, being stingy is another thing & being broke is also a thing... the mentality of some guys, most guys in africa revolves round ladies. Such guys do anything just to please ladies whether they are slutty or not.


Such men define happiness as the act of having various ladies at their beck & call, thus, they do anything to achieve such goal even to the extent of betraying their own male friends.


Being generous to ur girlfriend is never a bad thing... but it is essential to know who u are befriending.

There are some ladies that sees relationship as a "poverty alleviation scheme", hence they go about it the demanding way & they see it as a must u provide for every of their needs.


It all boils down to how well we(both male & female) see/define relationship. This however speaks on our lives in a relationship.

prettythicksme:
wen was dat?

lawrenzi:
Can somebody welcome me to Nairaland.... i love this Romance session, I am ready to take this session on a love voyage

wordbank:
Toto

tosyne2much:
As for me, no matter how much I love a lady, I can never give her ordinary N50... It's not that I'm stingy or something.. If she wants to dump me let her dump me


*nobody should quote me*

Maxi112:
I see noting wrong in spending on ur babe except u r broke!

prettythicksme:
gbam!

ojun50:
Clap for yr self

FlawlessRebirth2:
CHAI.......GAWD


GIVE DAH GUY TWO PACKS OF CONDOM

Cutehector:

jamex93:
Bros u have d money tank God for your own


Make I go hustle my own

Just spend your money well

Am not saying its wrong to spend on your gf

Just spend am well

dharay99:

a big N0 for me.

Nturguy1122:
There's this girl that i like so much we've been talking well since last year july bt i am yet to ask her out...Sometimes last week we were together and i was joking with her with the bad result she had and immediately she just hissed and walked out on me ...I felt stupid for some minutes cos i actually went to meet her where she was, I didn't call and msg her since last week and she hasn't also...i feel she disrespected me by walking out and if she doesn't apologise i am going to call it a quit...pls my romancelander family am i taking this too far or should i just talk to her and let things return to normal

Burnnotice:
hypocrite!! you love lesbians but hate gay!!!

koife:
Tnx man....

koife:
I am going through what I'd call a very trying time of my life.
I can't eat.
Sleep.
Can't concentrate.
Thoughts of her keep flooding my mind.
I love this lady with the whole of me. We were engaged to be married later this year. We had a little misunderstanding which was partly her fault, it made her breakup our engagement. I am devasted,v tried couple of dating but my heart still beats her way. The ladies I meet kinda irritate me esp wen they try to impress me. I have begged, asked her mom to help, friends, my sibling, her sister to intervene...all to no avail, she even openly told me she has found someone she love...in just five days. I can't hold myself and the tears. Insults are welcomed.
Pls honest advise please, am loading my mind!