₦airaland Forum

Vergovert:
The parents that told her to go back to where she slept last night were only trying to correct the lady.

They were expecting the lady to sober up and apologize especially when she didn't take permission to spend the night elsewhere.

So going back to the guy's place is a red flag already.


She would leave your place to another man's house anytime there's a little quarrel.

If she cannot show humility and respect for her parents, same treatment is surely coming to you very soon.

Will you go and beg her parents? It's one of options, or you sent her away?

Samantha125:
I'm married to a fully proud African man... ... There's a difference between practicing polygamy and cheating.

A man who intends to practice polygamy would open up to his woman during the early stages of their relationship before tying the knot so that the woman can make a choice to either prepare herself or leave.

You don't just go around cheating and brining a woman in the house out of nowhere.

Every polygamous started from cheating, you hardly see a second wife brought home, without "something" going on between them prior to introduction to first wife, even among Muslims which the custom is expressly stated.

Samantha125:
I'd gladly welcome her as a second wife, but he better make sure that his funeral policy is up-to-date, because one thing about life is that accidents happen all the time.

Anyway, I don't know if you married an Africa man, because in Africa, polygamous is part of our life.

Any wife whose her husband is economical viable should endeavor to allow husband to marry more wives.

Unmarried single ladies just too many on the street and it's desire of every woman to have kids and husband.

Macphenson:
Even Buhari is more democratic than PBAT.

..by far....


Yoruba would say, if someone too intelligent, it would definitely affect the fellow.

Tinubu claimed to be master of strategy in Nigeria's politics, now, party is collapsing on him gradually, if his daughter could come out publicly to criticize. Just imagine millions of unreported nonsense that would have exchanged hands.

manmade:
if you are still day dreaming at your age then there is no way to help you. Peter obi and ATIKU knew that they were no match for Tinubu, this is not their first time of loosing election and they will loose again.

Hope they will increase your alawi on data if he wins again, at least, to come back to faceless forum and be able to troll for additional 4 years.

You will understand how your life battexteed in the hands of politicians at evening.

If a young lady comes back to meet you and tells you, her mom told her, she should go back to where she slept last night.

Open door for her and start cohabitating with her. (Single guys)

Go and meet her parents to apologize.

Take her to your home and introduce her as second wife.(Married men)

Send her away.

This energy and vigour, you are supposed to have channelled them to your fellow woman, "when they are still at teenagers". That's foundation of successful marriages. Advise them to start focusing in their future, in other to be able to stand on their feet when the time comes, you should endeavor to remind them, not to set too high standards and they should be careful, the way they use their body at that prime time.

Little experience I have about inability to get married, is not during 30s and above, but started at teenagers.

The way relationship advice

Academy advice.

Health advice.

And other advice can be wrong to you.


If you want to do something important to your life, go to experts who are trained and knowledgeable in that field and which can also measure risk assessment, before you embark on it.

More reason, I pity those who come online to seek or take advice about their personal life.

In next ten years marriage will be destroyed more by online advice, most especially TikTok, than infidelity or other factors.

franchasofficia:
Even if they amend the bill and make electronic transmission compulsory, Tinubu will never sign it into law because his only hope of coming close to winning or a rerun is if the results are manually collated so that he can use corrupt state officials and thugs to rewrite the result to his favor

Have you heard of national assembly overide the veto power of the president?

Did you know it has happened in this 4th republic?

NATIONAL ASSEMBLY HAS ENORMOUS POWER, ITS THEIR LEADERSHIP AND IN PARTNERSHIP WITH ALL MEMBERS, TURNING THEMSELVES TO MUMU FOR PRESIDENT, MOST ESPECIALLY UNDERSTAND GIGOLO MAN.

Sccarrr:
🤔🤔Why is Nairaland helping to promote hate?

Some moderators are also secretly banning people because certain opinions do not align with their own biases. When members of a particular group (you all know who they are) make derogatory comments about other tribes, nothing happens. But if you reply to them or question why they would even make such remarks, the moderators who often happen to be from the same group,ban you instead while leaving the offensive comments untouched.

I hope Seun looks into this issue. That is, if this comment itself is not deleted by the very people responsible.

Meanwhile, you are promoting extremism , if someone refuses to follow your religion, God or prophet, leave him or her.

If this, is to be Arab or northern Nigeria? Blood would have been flowed. HONOUR KILLING!

Eriokanmi:
Is Kwakwanso fighting him? Human beings are known for being ungrateful. APC shouldn't even expect any miracle from Kano. Kwakwansiyas are on ground. It's good to invest in Human capital development because one day, it will be rewarding. When Kwakwanso was busy training Kano youths in schools home and abroad with scholarships, they were mocking him whereas, these are the stuffs our leaders ought to be doing...it's the real dividends of democracy that will last and not the 10k with a branded bag of rice. Tinubu really see naija finish .

Sadly, the era of rice politics is gone and someone should tell him

Meanwhile, for Wiked, his own followers come from heavy money is dishing out for elites, judiciary and thugs.

Never hear for once, SCHOLARSHIP or EMPOWERMENT Wiked man did in Rivers or FCT

Baba already seeing the signal that, tyrant in Aso rock won't be able to save him.
If Wiked of Rivers could stop his puppet, let giant man of Kano stops his own dwarf too.

After all, what is good for geese should also good for gander!

Doyou2019:
Little Chelsea.

No one cares.

Irrelevant cares not, but the important cares.

Searching for champion league trophy continues.

Make sure you eat tonight pls.

Doyou2019:
We go again next season.

No shame losing by penalties to the best attacking team in Europe. No shame at all.


So so proud of these lads!

.....and Chelsea continue being the pride of London! Every genuine Chelsea fan is proud of today's result!

But happy citizens struggling to eat 2 square meal.

Happy that insecurities are worsening.

Happy that citizens dying because that can't afford basic medicine to treat ailments.

Foolish category of people, if you are tired of politics, you go back to your initial occupation. Oga jona must be your candidate by fire by force, the same man you tagged clueless few years ago, which you sold out for evil party that came to wreck the ship of the nation.

Dokitto001:
Go to the hospital immediately. This is a. Medical emergency not what you ask on nairaland.

Go to government teaching hospital. Should be cheaper there

Government hospital in which, he may kpai before they attend to him.

Instead to show this on election day, you are doing drama Salah day, the same APC will win overwhelmingly for just 2k bribe on election day.

pocohantas:
I do not have any man I love romantically more than Mine. I say romantically because women have fathers, sons and brothers.

This is only a projection of your reality.

Sorry you couldn't get a woman who can forsake all others for you.

If you keep liking men, calling them bestie, a day is coming, the man you like platonically, will be loved by you romantically,this bitter truth you will never, ever accepted. I have seen several people in serious relationship/marriage from platonic to romantic.

kelechi50:
Take this bitter truth in human relationships, a married woman opened up to me about her marriage and what she is passing through with her husband.

She said if not for her kids, she is done with her husband.

No married woman ever tells you she is enjoying her marriage abi? Becs one married woman told you that, you are making it to generalized all married woman.

essentialone:
According to a recent survey, the average extra marital affair, lasts six months, and can cost about N685,000 a month, or about N4,105,000 in total. The survey broke down the expenses incurred in a typical extra marital fling, such as hotel bills (about N190,000), hang out foods and drinks (about N250,000), gifts (about N85,000), and date activities (movie tickets, about N110,000, and "others," about N60,000.)

I guess this survey is for people in directorate cadre and above in a well paying establishments.

Because, so many extramarital affairs I know, do not even reach 10k/month and some even go for free of charge.

MaziObinnaokija:
Better than d headache Nollywood dey show

Stop hallucinating to make your happy. You are free to like whatever you want and let others like whatever they want.

MaziObinnaokija:
Team action Hollywood/foreign movies.
No time to watch film wey ghost dey eat biscuits,cross road

But you have time to watch film that 10 people will be shooting one person and still escape unhurt.

Film that actor would jump out from racing car of 200 MPH and still come out unhurt.

Film in which they will throw bomb in a building, yet actor will not die.

SmartPolician:
The moment this generation left Nigeria to start their Ghollywood, the nonsense didn't even last for 5 years before it died. Now, they are coming back to act in Nollywood because they've realised they have no movie industry

One can liken this to a child who didn't take his time to learn from his master but thinks he is experienced enough to stand alone only to realise that he knows zilch.

They are not talented enough to make movies and no big market to make huge profit, hence they must accept second fiddle, but since they see themselves as par and must compete with country that bigger than them in everything, they will keep on meeting their waterloo

He has succeeded in suffocated us in cement, he wants to extend same to Petrol

You set up your refinery and only you taking the profit and want to drain the citizens for your profit.

Solofresh2:
A daughter learns how to be a wife by watching her mother. Not from books. Not from sermons,from observation.You are not marrying a woman. You are marrying her family system. Her mother is the blueprint. The daughter is the copy.A woman can hide her true nature during courtship. Her mother cannot hide hers. Study the mother. That is your preview."If her mother is bitter, the daughter will fight bitterness her whole life — and often lose. If her mother is peaceful, the daughter has a head start.

Exceptions exist. But betting on an exception is like betting on a lottery ticket. Most daughters become their mothers

What did you want to say about a mother who has four daughters, 2 well-behaved and 2 ill-mannered?

The good and the bad, where did they learn the characters, even though from they are from same mother? Abi u never see it before?

For me, I don't need to go to family or spiritual house to know the character of whoever I'm dealing with.
Just a week of continue relationship with him or her, I will know 75% of his or her character. With 75% knowledge of your character, I will use that one to determine your personality and know if I will be able to be your friend or in relationship with you.

Nobody can pretend for me, infact, character cannot be hiding, if you are observant and emotional intelligent, you can know people characters, through his "emotions", (JOKES, ANGER, HER REACTIONS TO ISSUES, CONSISTENCY IN WHAT SHE IS SAYING) among others.

Using someone mother or father behavior to determine his or daughter character, is not a reliable parameter to determine child's character. I have seen mother which is well behaved and in which daughter is something else and vice versa!

JerryQ:
Smiles ....

You need to pick the right person that will not tip you over the edge.

If I get you well, you give 100% love and trust at the beginning of a relationship. Every betrayal reduces this percentage along the way. When it gets to zero, it is hard to get it back up to a significant number.

This is you, you can't really change it. This means you need someone that won't take it to zero. Provided it is not at zero, you are fine. 80% is fine, you can overlook the offence over time , forgive and rebuild love and trust back to 100%. But if the offence looks like an attack and not a mistake, it pushes everything to zero.

So get someone that will not push everything to zero.

You heard her one sided sweet talk and believing it hook, lines and sinkers.

.......can anybody gives 100% love apart from God almighty.

Don't you know that statement says whole lot about her personality, thinking she is perfect individual, who will never offend people, but they are the ones will offend me

duro4chang:
The f00l has gotten how Tinubu helped him to become a governor too. He is not happy simply because he was not given an appointment.

He also said, APC has lost its bearing, you shouldn't skip that area.

Anuoluwa12345:
Good evening, pls I need help on something
I don't even know how to put it well, but I will try my best to explain a little..and I seek sincere advice from matured and experienced ppl on the forum.

I am a type that when I love ppl, I love them wholeheartedly..to the extent that I will give in all my best to them.. be it family members or non. When I tell you I gat your back, then I truly mean it. But the problem now is, when these ppl hurt me. I don't know how to handle it, I don't even know if I will call it unforgiving spirit or maybe cause I remember things alot, I will surely not forget.

It's not as if I won't forgive them o, I will but, to make that relationship between me and that person smooth back.. it's not possible.. the distance will always be there.. tho before I get angry or pick offence it takes long, but once it happens like this! I know I have lost relationship with that soul.

Some of my relatives (extended fam) offended me, and since about 3 yrs now, these ppl have been sending different ppl just to beg me and talk to me etc.. in order to make things back, but it's just not working!. Cuz I know myself.

And I am a type that, once I vex, I don't look back..even if the person has done a lot of things etc.. I have tried my best but it's just not working. And I understand the fact that there is no how there won't be argument among humans, it's not possible.

My greatest fear now is, what if I marry, is this how It will be towards my husband, someone I claim I love? Pls how do I tackle this problem before I reach that stage, pls I need sincere word of wisdom from elders, else why I come to a faceless forum to pour out my mind.

If you don't change, you will gradually isolate yourself from everyone until loneliness comes in and perhaps depression.

Person should develop his/her mind in other to withstand minor offences, because it will keep on coming till the end.

If you start fighting everyone, who will now be your friend?

Besides, this type of your behavior, can be link to inflated ego and a perfectionist personality. (Believing I cannot offend people, but it's only people that can offend me).