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Hamachi:
From DM

I went to a bachelor’s eve party thinking it was just going to be a normal night with the boys.

Music, drinks, jokes, and everybody catching cruise before the wedding.

At some point during the night, some of the guys decided to bring a few escorts to the party. I wasn't involved in the arrangement, and honestly, I wasn't comfortable with how the night was suddenly going.

Then something happened that I still haven't been able to process.

One of the ladies walked in.

I looked at her.

She looked at me.

And my heart literally stopped.

It was my fiancée.

Not my girlfriend.

My fiancée. The woman I was planning to marry.

For a few seconds, neither of us could say anything. She looked just as shocked as I was.

I didn't ask questions. I didn't cause a scene. I didn't even wait to understand what was happening.

I just walked out.

Since then, my phone hasn't stopped ringing.

She's been calling me all day. Our friends have been calling too. Some have been begging me to at least hear her out before making any decision.

But honestly, I'm struggling.

I keep asking myself: What exactly was she doing there? How did she end up at that party? Was this some terrible coincidence? Was there something she wasn't telling me?

And the hardest part is that this isn't just about a girlfriend anymore.

This is the woman I was supposed to build a life with.

I haven't answered her calls yet because I know that if I pick up while I'm still angry and confused, I might say something I'll regret.

Maybe there is an explanation.

Maybe there isn't.

But one thing I know for sure...

Trust is easy to break and incredibly difficult to rebuild.

Right now, I don't know whether I need to hear her explanation, walk away completely, or simply take some time to process what happened.

If you were in my shoes, would you hear your fiancée out before making any decision?

If your story not figment, the type of pic you put on your profile says a lot about your personality, and the annoying things about you guys character is that,you would use your hands to select bad market, and come back to rant and lamenting, blaming all women.

A lady who is into Olosho or even wayward, her waywardness would be visible even to the blind man, but wen a guy reasoning through boobs, ass and yanch, he would continue meeting his type.

Below is the pic on your profile, possibly your so-called fiancee.

Emmamay10:
it is a misplaced priority that needs to stop. I remember a banny that was constantly billing me for financial support, even though we are not into any relationships. She was just a church member. At times she would asked me for money to feed and to transport herself to work.

Suddenly, this lady bought an iPhone. I just shake my head. This is me that was using "a company phone".

After she bought the iPhone, the billing still continue. Well, i am happy i have systematically stop the billing for now.

If it's me, I would tell her directly, I can't foot any of her bill again, because she is now using phone belongs to big girls and big girls don't use to beg for urgent 2k.


On more serious note, this is reason women are very easy to dig, if you are a guy who knows how to play along, .....they too freak towards worldly things...

Just position yourself that you are capable, she would open red sea for you to swim.

Coder2Client:
I’m someone who isn’t ashamed of being single.

I’m 36, and I’ll be 37 in December.

The honest truth is that I’m single. I’m not currently dating anyone. It’s not because I don’t ask women out—I do. But I’m not someone who enjoys talking too much, and sometimes the thought of having to constantly communicate, explain myself, and maintain a relationship feels stressful to me. Maybe that is one of the reasons I have remained single for this long.

My lifestyle is also very regimented. I have a routine that is so predictable that someone can almost tell when I’m at home and when I’m not.

Money is another major issue.

I currently earn ₦200,000 a month before tax, and I don’t have a side hustle at the moment. Sometimes I look at my income and wonder how I’m supposed to build the kind of life people expect from someone approaching 40.

I have even lied about being in a relationship when I know I’m not.

I’ve told people I have two children, even though I have never had children. I did it because I wanted people to stop asking questions and putting pressure on me. But ironically, while trying to escape other people’s expectations, I think I have ended up putting even more pressure on myself.

For a long time, I genuinely enjoyed being single.

The peace was beautiful.

No relationship drama. No constant explanations. No arguments. No pressure.

But lately, that peace is beginning to feel like loneliness.

I miss having someone.

And that is difficult for me to admit.

Another thing about me is that I give up easily on relationships. I can enter a relationship today and, a month later, lose interest and walk away without even properly explaining to the woman why I’m leaving.

I know that isn't a good quality.

My life has also been somewhat of a slow journey.

I started school at 11. I finished secondary school at 22. I completed tertiary education at 32. I started my teaching job earning ₦20,000 a month, and today, at 36, I earn ₦200,000.

You would think that increasing my income would make life easier.

But every time my income increases, inflation seems to move the goalpost.

What used to feel like enough no longer feels like enough.

And then there is friendship.

I have always struggled with keeping friends. Even as a child, I realised I didn't really have a flair for friendship. Today, I honestly don't have anyone I can confidently call my close friend.

I even remember a time when I would give people money just so they would play with me.

Looking back, that hurts.

I don't drink. I don't smoke. I don't party. I don't womanise.

At work, I joke around, interact with people and eat good food. From the outside, I probably look like someone who is doing just fine.

But deep down, there is a part of me that genuinely misses being in a relationship.

I can go an entire month without making or receiving a personal phone call. Most of the calls I receive or make are work-related because I’m one of the leaders at my workplace.

Sometimes I wonder how I got here.

I don't think I’m a bad person.

I don't think I’m unattractive.

I don't think I’m incapable of loving someone.

Maybe I just became too comfortable being alone.

Maybe I have built such a structured and independent life that making room for another person now feels difficult.

Or maybe I simply haven't figured out how to balance my personality, finances, career, friendships and relationships.

I don't know.

But lately, being single doesn't feel as peaceful as it used to.

It is starting to feel a little boring.

So I’m genuinely asking:

Are there other men who are like this?

Men in their 30s who don't drink, smoke, party or womanise.

Men who have very few or no close friends.

Men who have become so comfortable being alone that they don't know how to let someone into their lives.

Men who are not necessarily unhappy, but deep down, still miss having someone to come home to.

I’d really like to hear from you.

Evening paper full every corner in Nigeria, instead for them to accept reality about their hopelessness,they put all blames on women...... claiming they do too much shakara, reason why they single ladies at 30.

Guys who cannot feed only his mouth, how will he able to feed wife and kids.


Tomorrow now, hopeless guy would come out and lashes his girlfriend that went to marry another guy or ex, he won't blame himself, for his financial position that necessitated reason why his girlfriend japa, having seen situation going from worse to worst.

Chucks13:
Why? Is Italy or Spain or France disturbing Putin? Ok let him try it first make we see. Thank God I have finally remove my daughter in Moscow to another country so I don't really care what happen to Russia again.

Putin go ahead ok ordinary Ukraine with your 1,000 Ukraine soldiers dead bodies in exchange to 30 Russia dead body yet you couldn't over run Ukrain till date and you want to add other countries to your woes ba? Go ahead, dem nor dey telli pesin..

Wen you want to kill rat and for meal and you see the hindrance you are expected not big as you taught, your next move would be antelope, which is bigger.

Russia is indirectly fighting USA, which her main adversary, but the foolish man on the throne, refused to acknowledge that, instead hobnobbing with his enemy.

Now that main enemy appears to be weak before Putin, he is moving towards bigger adversary(Spain & Italy) until he gets to the biggest.

It would surely end up in USA soil, since the mad man you people installed as leader doesn't know, battle he is supposed to fight and the one he is supposed to ignore.

Why giving them Intel in first instance, leave Europe alone as you always attack, let them fight their battle own pls.

What about a journalist who said, PDP is "gbewudani" on national TV?

What is good for goose is also good for gander........

We must do every needful if indeed we want to clean society.

Countries that are not plunged into insecurities, they are banning it, but country full of insurgency and banditry, they are encouraging it.

When you always reasoning through the lenses of religion and tribe, you are doom to fail.

The reason people cannot sit down quietly and reason......1.If women don't wear veil, can it stop them not to enter aljana(paradise).

2. Is only by hijab can women dress modestly?

If the two answer above is no, but you still hell bent of wearing hijab in a sunny environment and full of insecurities, such a person need urgent medical attention.

Eyimba of Aba, whose ex Nigeria international, Kanu is leading, that has plunged into crises, 3 games 3 loses and from police station to stadium and back to police cell, which you guys are supposed to post on front page, you didn't, but posting unknown club with little interest on front page.

You way you people have appetite to irrelevant stories is worrisome.

The day power will eventually move to south east, I imagine how you people will feel

TheStoriesOfMan:
Even the regulatory bodies, are they doing their part?

Everything all stems from action and consequences.

If a fraudster or the owners of a fraudulent app anywhere on the country's internet space are caught, stiff punishments must follow. That will send the right message to others.

Chin caught and arrested a hacker who sold private CCTV hacks. That was quite a long time time. I doubt if any citizen can try such again.

Prevention is better than cure, Nigeria problem all over the years is to react instead of proactive, it takes whole lots of wastage to react, instead little effect to prevent.

Instead to block it on internet, which is much more easier, than go to long journey of judiciary.

People should push more on executive to do more if indeed we want progress in the country.

TheStoriesOfMan:
Nigerians and their default propensity for crime.

These guys are dragging digital banking backwards, making people feel less comfortable with modern banking trends.

Even the country's judicial system is not helping matters. Make a brutal example of any fraudster and youths will shun crime because they know they will end up in dark gallows with stale beans.

Is it Nigeria judiciary that is supposed to come in or arm of executive.

Nothing stop govt to remove or not even allowed such fake application on playstore or equivalent for downloading, if they could block twitter because of Buhari, how much more financial integrity of a nation.

Telling Nigeria women in which all of them have mindset of dating certain category of man.
Tall
Dark
Six-pack.
Rich dude.


Even if they know it's "chronic", not even ordinary womanizer, all of the women around him must bombard him for relationship, so far he is ticked every traits above, only for them to come back and blame all naija men,when things go south.

Ezeama400:
Davies-Ekwenna led the team that performed Nigeria’s first tele-robotic surgery, remotely operating on a patient in Abuja from Redeemer’s Health Village in Mowe, Ogun State.

When it involves saving of humanity and personal interests,people tend to look for competent hands to save them, but when it comes protecting our National/collective interests, myopic people will start applying tribalism that has kept them in bondage for ages..

Congratulations!

You are exact personality you described above, having seen your tribe man, as the one,who performed the operation, your emotion to think upright changes immediately, believing you have been shortchanged in political arena. The political leaders you people are dying to enthrone today, had being tested in the past and are not different from people you are being labelled as bad, extravagant and corrupt.

Even if she escapes execution, her productive life already shattered.

Close to 50, will she start journey of life afresh?

Will she be looking for job when she is supposed to be preparing for retirement?

Start making babies when she is supposed to be granny.

If you cannot control your emotions,(anger jealousy, love, hatred, bitterness), it would surely send you to where you don't like.

I imagine what would be going on, in the mind Abudumutalub Farouk, son of Nigeria billionaire, servicing life jail in USA's prison now.

What pain me most is the people, who currently occupied the highest office today, they said all sorts of bad things against military, and promised heaven and earth for citizens if they ever get to the office. Even after enthronement of democracy, they kept attacking every govt in power from opposition, telling people every sweet story they wanted to hear, just to endear people to themselves. Only to occupy the position and become tyrant and slave Master.

Anyway, I warned those who were his die-hard supporters them, this type of person you are supporting, would come back to hurt you, lo and behold, he started showing his colors from very first day in office.

I pity whoever will end up in your yard, even description you wrote with your own hands, show you are toxic and would be very difficult to leave it, in addition to covertly narcissist personality.


I won't surprise if you are married and remarried in future, if not end in single father til you grow old.

LUAN1:
Look really matter, look is More important than money as someone who is very short and ugly i can attest to this because i have always been very unfortunate when it comes to relationship, constant rejection is my name, i started full time Simping just to get relationship and maintain it, but still not work, o have spent a lot in relationship just because of my look, note; i have confident very well, but still not working properly for me

If Op can know that, the money women collect from average and ugly guys, it's on handsome dudes they are wasting it on.


If you are handsome, you won't understand agony of billings naija women often placing on men.

Even the producers of AI starts fearing future of human beings, but mad man of America thinking otherwise, America first and not humanity first.


When you use ur hand to vote for lunatic to be your leader, be prepare to accept every foolish decision that would come out from it.

Will these people employ infidel to occupy these positions now.



If humans can know, religion is personal, world would have experienced peace than this.

Sirchiboy:
Men who don't smoke, womanize, watch football, drink or have a woman in their life, what exactly makes you happy or no such man exist?
All of you that are not planning to marry, how are you going to cope at old age?

Gossiping and many of them are extremely toxic in nature.


Only men who extremely preoccupied with job and few who normally gather together to play traditional game (draft, ayo olopon etc)

And if they bill you and you say no, attitude changes to toxic immediately.

A lady that complains she doesn't have data, just sent data of #200 for her, the same girl who cannot afford data of #100, would tag you a broke or stingy guy. Going forward, she starts showing u attitude.


I don't blame rich dudes that thrash them like dogs and rags.

Putting ur life at risk for war/fight that not necessary. If you have made Ukraine your ally, it would have guaranteed his safety than making him your arch enemy.


Even in his own backyard in st Petersburg, he has so many energy.

seunmsg:
All these unnecessary bad belle. He has been a Senator representing Ogun state since 2023 and you have nothing to say about his performance in office or about his competence to run the affair of the state. All you are ranting about is useless issues about his possible Ekiti ancestry.

Madam, you are a disgrace to Yoruba people all over the world. Yoruba people don't move mad like this. We are a united people.

Yayi is an Awori man with very clear traceable roots. His family members and the entire Ogun west senatorial district have are well aware that he is their son. So, do you know him more than an entire senatorial district? This is just an unfortunate attempt to again deny the people of Ogun west a shot at the governorship office of the state. Yayi is the next governor of Ogun state whether you all Awori haters like it or not.

Since you are boasting you know him more than himself and confirm he is Awori man, try to take the woman to court, because your godfather is panicking to take the woman to court. I wish you watch how the woman boasting unrelentingly yesterday on Arise TV that, she is expecting his court summon or if he can go to court, let him and her come to television stations to proof it.

If you watch the television interview yesterday, you will not only weep for Nigeria, but even weep for yourself.

From very beginning of his life up till now, it's criminal and change of identity from one place to another, the name he is bearing at guardian is different from now. How he left guardian inglorious, is matter for another day

Even in senate, several projects that meant for almajiri ended up in Ogun, is that the leader you want to rule your dear State and Nigeria.

They say Yewa never produced gov, when it's time for them to produce, is it supposed to be alien disguising as indigene?

How can a woman selling roasted corn called, hardworking woman,but the same society called man selling same roasted yam poor man.


Single girl sleeping with married man as financial blessings, but guy sleeping with married woman curse.

When big man came late to church, he is busy, but poor man, he is unserious.

Guy sleeping with various girls as champions, but girl sleeping with various guys as whores/Olosho.

Unmarried 40 years guy as old but, one that died at 40 young.

Mirasteel:
Same way CNN, BBC and FOX news are pro zionist and highly biased filled with propaganda and hasbara.

Keep deceiving yourself, these stations have reported very damaging reporting against Isreal several times, but since people like you, expecting them to always blame Israel, just the way you see any journalist in Nigeria as bias, if he doesn't attack Tinubu or govt of the day 24/7.

Stop reasoning with your emotions but common sense.

Check below and read reportage of CNN on Isreal-palestine war. You can send me if Aljazera has ever reported this type of news against Palestine, even on the day, they first attacked Isreal.

The way these people report news ehn, just like Rufai Oseni of Arise TV.

they are reporting like spokesmen for Hamas.

XtremeConsumer:
Camera man

And if it's CCTV, which the girl doesn't know it's existing in that room.

Besides, if she is conscious of camera indeed, she won't open wet trouser for camera to capture.

faceland:
You want to know something funny?

The Houthis made a deal with USA that as long as USA don't interfere while they fight the Saudis, the Houthis wouldn't block/attack oil ships from passing.


USA abandoned their ally of decades over greed. Only under Trump.

They have done it before sha. Gaddafi sincerely thought Tony Blair and Obama were his personal friends. He looked at Obama like a son (not the country they ruled but the individuals). They both came together to killed him, directed and watch it live as his country was boomed to pieces.

You people should stop changing narrative of story, I imagine how you will be modeling your wife and kids, when everything about you is distorted.

No American president killed Gaddafi, it's his people who said, they don't want him again, he is not God, or even monarch that would rule his county through his life time.

The Arab spring started from Tunisia and went as far as Yemen, the presidents who were not defiant and stubborn left the throne and are still alive today.

Hundreds of thousands of Libyans had died before super powers, (not only USA) stood up to defend poor people.

You should be greatful for what Obama and other did and not the way round.

If you and your family have be casualties, you wouldn't be here and be spreading fallacy.

samwash:
Maybe na first time encounter, the guy still dey calculate,as if na chess he dey play.
Wait ooo!!! Nor be wett this girl wett so, make this guy nor fall my head oo!!

Many of you will start fidgeting, when it gets to this level, you won't know the next step to take.

Nebes:
Some guys are just too slow.

I biliv you won't like to land yourself where you don't like.

Jihadists capital of the world is very weak oooo, ordinary Houthis is giving them 'wotowoto', yet, they are shunning out extremists globally on every second.

They have even gone ahead to beg BB for their rescue.