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babajeje123:
I totally disagree with you. My wife is some months older and we have been married for 6 years. It has never been an issue that she is older. Numerically she might be, but I'm the head, the alpha and omega of my home. I really don't know why people are some much concerned about outlook. Let me leave you with the word of a wise king 'Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised'.

How old are you? If I may ask...

SmellingAnus:
truth is that I expect less from a woman... Not that it will not hurt but I am prepared for it.. no woman can take my heart by surprise... Infact I can forgive a cheating woman... Lol...

That’s a good mindset to have. You can only trust yourself on this planet, humans are always unpredictable.

calex9496:
Neva beat up a lady, no matter wat... silence is a slow killer.

never implied that sir. My advice to you is to not put 100% trust in her. Humans are unpredictable and expectations are bound to bring disappointment. Expect the worst just in case and prepare for the storm.

SmellingAnus:
even when ring is put on the finger they still have high tendencies to cheat... I know the number of married women on my case within the last six months... Not that their husbands even travelled...

well then at that point you have the right to be angry and cause a scene. But if she’s not married to you, you have no right.

Men who focus too much of their life on women and sex at a young age, always regret it later on in life. Your mental and physical strength decreases as you age, focus on your purpose whilst you’re young and able. The women and sex will come, but at 38 if you’re only just starting to focus on your purpose it will be very hard to reach your full potential. Just a word.

As long as you have not put a ring on her finger, or showed very serious actions about making her your wife, she owes no loyalty to you. Love is a cheap word, if you want her all to yourself, you know what to do.

CAPSLOCKED:

THE GIRL IS A YEAR OLDER.
BUT IT DOESN'T MEAN ANYTHING CUS SHE TREATS ME LIKE A KING, LIKE SHE'LL TREAT THE FATHER OF HER FATHER. NO ISSUES, NO PROBLEMS.. JUST STEADY SANITY, PEACE, MEMES AND SERENITY.

AGE IS NOT A PROBLEM. EXCEPT YOU WANT AN EXCUSE TO LEAVE SOMEONE.

Don’t worry, it’s not a problem now because you’re both still in young. In 5-10 years let’s see if you’re saying the same thing.

It absolutely matters. I’ve been married for 8 years plus, I can’t speak from experience. Women age faster than men, after she has given birth to two kids, she’ll look like your mother. Young man when you hit 35-40, you’ll start feeling the urge to feel young again. You’ll feel more of an attraction towards 20 something year olds, that’s where the problems will begin. I married a man who is 12 years older than I am, best decision of my life. Good day!

Any woman that dates a man who is younger than her is foolish. When you should be heading for a man at least 8 years older than you are, you are looking beneath you. Some ladies are the cause of their own downfall.

Lalasticlala

ubunja:
good luck to yourself im telling you.

thanks for the luck sir, I accept it and you shall also receive it

ubunja:
good luck to yourself. we dont use it.

Thank you. Nethertheless, good luck. Have a wonderful day.

ubunja:
we dont need luck. thats for losers.

Good luck sir.

ubunja:
you just inspired the next Miseducation:
HOW TO EMOTIONALLY MANIPULATE WOMEN FOR SEX & MONEY

Okay sir. Good luck.

Message to the young man. Particularly 18-29.

One thing that sincerely concerns me today about today’s youth especially young men is their unhealthy drive for sex and women.
Going through this forum, browsing the romance section, it’s very clear that these young men are doomed. It’s very sad.

Young men today wake up in the morning, check their phones to browse Instagram to look at what? Women. Young men today wake up in the morning to strategise how they’ll approach who? Women. Young men today go to bed at night thinking about who? Women. 80% of your day are thoughts based on what? Women and sex. Even after studying alpha males and misogynistic men, most of their posts and speech revolve around who? Women.

As a young hustling man you NEED to prioritize your life around money.99% money and 1% on other things. Young men, please do not get angry when women flock towards things that are naturally attractive to them. As a hustling young man that shouldn’t be your main focus, money should be your motive on everything. Men with money are seen as more masculine, a provider, a father figure, a leader and more powerful. The feminine energy that women have automically searches for a masculine companionship. The less masculine you are, the less desirable you are to women, hence why men with money are literally chased by women.

My point is that stop spending your chicken change on women for a temporary satisfaction. She will leave you for a man who can provide more for her, and you’ll be left with nothing apart from a few good rounds of sex.



Prioritize your life on money. Read books on investments, train yourself financially to save, ask questions, hang around men who are doing well for themselves. Manifest wealth into your life, speak it into existence. Unfortunately, nobody likes a poor man. Young alpha males/misogynists please teach men how to make money, stop educating men on manipulation tricks and lies all to get sex in the end, it’s not worth it, women will ‘worship’ you and do even more when you have money. You won’t need to play games or do anything out of your comfort zone to get the highest class babe out there. If you put sex on such a high pedestal now, that’s all you’ll get out of life. If you spend your days thinking and worrying about this woman and that woman and having sex with this other lady, that will sincerely be the story of your life, and nothing more to it.


No matter how you detest it young men, women will always flock towards providers, manly figures and men with financial power. Work on your purpose, use your youth on getting money.

Don’t waste time, as you get older your physical and mental strength decreases making it more difficult to reach your full potential. Don’t wait until you are 38 to pursue your purpose, start now. All the successful men around you started their journey in their teens/ very early 20s. When you have reached your full potential, you can sit back and relax and enjoy everything that comes with life. Women, peace, sex, you name it....Cut out the drinking and smoking, live your best life and reach your full potential. It starts today.

Good day my people!

Good day young women.

I have some tips that I would like to share to you young ladies especially those from 18 -28, women who are in their prime, Relationship and lifestyle tips as this takes a large percentage of your life. As a woman who has lived for quite of number of years and experienced things in life, I would like young women especially to wisen up, prepare for the future because you will not be young forever.

I was once like you, thought and believed I was untouchable until age and time hit me, I’m blessed and I have not experienced great regret however, many women my age have lived to regret their decisions made in the past.

1. Marry a man 10-15 years older than yourself.

Women who marry within their age bracket will most likely regret it, we age faster than men, you will not be 20 something forever. Once that man hits 40-50, he starts going through his mid life crisis. He wants to feel young again, if you’re his age mate, he’ll feel old around you and physically you’ll look like his mother not wife. If he doesn’t leave you for a younger woman he’ll cheat on you severely.

2. You are not bob the builder.

Young women please stop taking out huge loans to help your man start a business or whatever the issue may be. Stop giving him huge amounts of money to build his life please please please. Men like to feel like men, he knows you will always take credit for his success and that takes away from his manhood. He will take your money and leave you for another lady that he can impress. So many young women make this mistake of helping a man succeed and end up with nothing tangible in the end apart from debts, children and a broken heart. Women be wise.

3. You owe unconditional to your children, ONLY.


Men do not love you unconditionally, if your vagina cannot make them ejaculate, you cannot prepare their favourite meal, you do not look appealing or cannot produce children for them you are useless to them. They will never love you for ‘who you are’ without additional bonuses. Yet you young women are made to feel bad about wanting a man that can provide for yourself and family. That can provide a lifestyle of luxury. Young women please be smart, and stay focused on what you can benefit from a marriage. Unconditional love is not existent in a marriage my dear.

4. Keep up with your looks and do not let yourself go.
Stop listening to your boyfriend that tells you to reduce the amount of makeup. Stop listening to him when he says he doesn’t like Brazilian hair, it’s a trap. Men like to protect their territory, if he can stop other men from looking at you, his job as a boyfriend/husband will be much much easier my dear. He won’t have to spend as much on you, make as much effort because he knows you’re not going anywhere. Invest in your looks and let that man be scared to lose you, always, please! Regardless of your age.

5.
Stop splitting the bills. Young Women please, let that man be a man I beg una! Stop contributing huge amounts of money in the house. You’re making life extremely harder for yourself and easier for him. He is there to take care of you, that is his Job. Whilst you are helping him pay the bills and also doing 80% of the household chores and childcare, he will spend his extra money and time on a younger prettier lady who will do absolutely nothing for him. Let him take care of the bills and all finances in the house as MAN. Stack your personal/extra money away for rainy days. Be smart oh, I use God beg all of you.

This brings me to my other point. Have something going on for yourself young women. Just because you’re beautiful, that doesn’t mean you should sit on your bottom all day and be unproductive, its not wise at all. Have something going on for yourself, even if it’s small, don’t be lazy This will also help you with rainy days, and you will always have something to fall back on. Wealthier men also like women who have something going on, even if it’s small. I met my husband at 23 I was schooling and had a small hair business on the side. That attracted him more to me as he knew that i had a life outside of our relationship. Quality attracts quality.

6.Put yourself first, Always.
Never Compromise yourself for any man, not even your husband. Always remember that he can leave you and you will be left with nothing if you give your ALL. It should always be a give and take, not give give give. My dear, you must secure a future for yourself and children before anything.

As an older lady, I have witnessed multiple women crying to me about heartbreaks, their husbands cheating or leaving them, they have nothing even though they helped the man to where he is today. It’s always the same story and I always tell them the same thing. Get into a relationship/marriage with a GOAL not expectation. Expectations = disappointment, goals are made to be met. Stop marrying for love, get this silly fairytale illusion out of your head because it’s non existent. Love is secondary but your livelihood is more important. I’m not expecting everybody to understand, however in 10 years you will look back and regret. A word is enough for the wise. Good day my people! I

No. When you’re 35+ you’ll desire a woman in her 20s. Mark my words. Men should marry atleast 8 years younger, your woman will always be desirable to you.

ubunja:
do you know why 9ja men lick my dirty ass? coz i love them. and i also lick their dirty ass. im kind and understanding to them. how can you expect men to love you when you all about hate and anger? im sorry but the way you hate men here its a miracle men still talk to you. so much hatred of men in nairaland

Sorry sir are you gay? I’ve also read somewhere that you’re a chronic masturbator? I’ve nothing against homosexuals just asking.

Looks very youthful. Good on him

ubunja:
when a woman is bitter check her profile, she's ugly.
when a man is bitter check his profile he's broke.
but atleast a job can solve the man's problem. a woman will be bitter till she's buried even if she is rich. even plastic surgery cant turn 100% ugly to 100% pretty.it improves on whats already there.

Unfortunately money is not easy to find, that’s why most if not all men remain in the same financial bracket from their 20s till death. It’s much easier for an ugly woman to turn beautiful than a broke man to be get money, it’s normally a mentality. That it very obvious young man. You seem to have this nasty attitude towards females, it’s quite distasteful.

Good day young women.

I have some tips that I would like to share to you young ladies especially those from 18 -28, women who are in their prime, Relationship and lifestyle tips as this takes a large percentage of your life. As a woman who has lived for quite of number of years and experienced things in life, I would like young women especially to wisen up, prepare for the future because you will not be young forever.

I was once like you, thought and believed I was untouchable until age and time hit me, I’m blessed and I have not experienced great regret however, many women my age have lived to regret their decisions made in the past.

1. Marry a man 10-15 years older than yourself.

Women who marry within their age bracket will most likely regret it, we age faster than men, you will not be 20 something forever. Once that man hits 40-50, he starts going through his mid life crisis. He wants to feel young again, if you’re his age mate, he’ll feel old around you and physically you’ll look like his mother not wife. If he doesn’t leave you for a younger woman he’ll cheat on you severely.

2. You are not bob the builder.

Young women please stop taking out huge loans to help your man start a business or whatever the issue may be. Stop giving him huge amounts of money to build his life please please please. Men like to feel like men, he knows you will always take credit for his success and that takes away from his manhood. He will take your money and leave you for another lady that he can impress. So many young women make this mistake of helping a man succeed and end up with nothing tangible in the end apart from debts, children and a broken heart. Women be wise.

3. You owe unconditional to your children, ONLY.


Men do not love you unconditionally, if your vagina cannot make them ejaculate, you cannot prepare their favourite meal, you do not look appealing or cannot produce children for them you are useless to them. They will never love you for ‘who you are’ without additional bonuses. Yet you young women are made to feel bad about wanting a man that can provide for yourself and family. That can provide a lifestyle of luxury. Young women please be smart, and stay focused on what you can benefit from a marriage. Unconditional love is not existent in a marriage my dear.

4. Keep up with your looks and do not let yourself go.
Stop listening to your boyfriend that tells you to reduce the amount of makeup. Stop listening to him when he says he doesn’t like Brazilian hair, it’s a trap. Men like to protect their territory, if he can stop other men from looking at you, his job as a boyfriend/husband will be much much easier my dear. He won’t have to spend as much on you, make as much effort because he knows you’re not going anywhere. Invest in your looks and let that man be scared to lose you, always, please! Regardless of your age.

5.
Stop splitting the bills. Young Women please, let that man be a man I beg una! Stop contributing huge amounts of money in the house. You’re making life extremely harder for yourself and easier for him. He is there to take care of you, that is his Job. Whilst you are helping him pay the bills and also doing 80% of the household chores and childcare, he will spend his extra money and time on a younger prettier lady who will do absolutely nothing for him. Let him take care of the bills and all finances in the house as MAN. Stack your personal/extra money away for rainy days. Be smart oh, I use God beg all of you.

This brings me to my other point. Have something going on for yourself young women. Just because you’re beautiful, that doesn’t mean you should sit on your bottom all day and be unproductive, its not wise at all. Have something going on for yourself, even if it’s small, don’t be lazy This will also help you with rainy days, and you will always have something to fall back on. Wealthier men also like women who have something going on, even if it’s small. I met my husband at 23 I was schooling and had a small hair business on the side. That attracted him more to me as he knew that i had a life outside of our relationship. Quality attracts quality.

6.Put yourself first, Always.
Never Compromise yourself for any man, not even your husband. Always remember that he can leave you and you will be left with nothing if you give your ALL. It should always be a give and take, not give give give. My dear, you must secure a future for yourself and children before anything.

As an older lady, I have witnessed multiple women crying to me about heartbreaks, their husbands cheating or leaving them, they have nothing even though they helped the man to where he is today. It’s always the same story and I always tell them the same thing. Get into a relationship/marriage with a GOAL not expectation. Expectations = disappointment, goals are made to be met. Stop marrying for love, get this silly fairytale illusion out of your head because it’s non existent. Love is secondary but your livelihood is more important. I’m not expecting everybody to understand, however in 10 years you will look back and regret. A word is enough for the wise. Good day my people! I

Men please stop being triggered by this lady’s point, it may come across as harsh but it is the truth. No doubt that problems May arise regardless of money or not however, 60% of your marital problems will be at ease with money. Money is the biggest cause of divorce, the financial stress really comes when you begin to have children. I know what I’m talking about. Young men if you don’t have a stable career and lifestyle, please don’t stress yourself with marriage. Wait until you can take care of a family, you don’t have to be a multi millionaire, Just enough to be financially stable.

Adamummya:
27 ？ for a lady ？
remember most women age faster than men because of childbirth, stress, nature.........
i think 23-24 is okay sha

27 is not too old my dear. 23 is too young, especially in this generation. I got married at 26 about to be 27 and I was emotionally and mentally prepared at that point. At 23 you’re still getting through life and understanding yourself. Your sister is the exception, but for the general public 27 + is more advisable. The pros outweigh the cons.

Men of this generation,think with their penis rather than their God given brain. The worst thing any man can do is cheat on their wife whilst she’s carrying your child. If my husband ever tried that with me, the world would’ve come to an end. God help these men and women.

Happy married life

Advice for you, patience is the key. You’re the woman he is the man, please never switch your roles. Let your husband take care of you, and take care of your children. Don’t take feminism and “miss independent” into your home. Keep up with your appearance and communicate about EVERYTHING. Good luck !

lefulefu:
nope
the number 1 cause that causes a marriage to break is infidelity not money.there are average and even below average married couples still living together
their are okada men,shoemakers with wives and kids.as they hustling outside their wives are also hustling.if there is love ,compassion and understanding b/w couples the marriage go survive.the only time money becomes an issue is if the woman married the man 4 his money.

Infidelity is definitely not the no1 cause of divorce. After 5 years, please come back to me sir.

lefulefu:
nope
the number 1 cause that causes a marriage to break is infidelity not money.there are average and even below average married couples still living together
their are okada men,shoemakers with wives and kids.as they hustling outside their wives are also hustling.if there is love ,compassion and understanding b/w couples the marriage go survive.the only time money becomes an issue is if the woman married the man 4 his money.

Okay, I’m assuming you are not married from the way you are talking. Come back to me in 5 years time. Have a lovely day sir.

lefulefu:
So wealthy couples that get divorced nko na wetin dey cause their divorce?
is it money too?

money is not the only reason for divorce, but it’s the no1 cause. for the average joe, money is important.