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Brachaa:
Hmm..
I'm going to be very very blunt here.

In as much as I do not support his non-chalant attitude towards his employment status, I think you'r being inconsiderate and irrational in your decision to want to quit this marriage because of a phase you're going through.

When he still got his bearing and was taking a "wrong" decision from his family, why didn't you quit then? Prolly because the money was still there. Now, the money is gone, you want to quit?? No way! Marriage is for better for worse. This is the time to go on your knees as a help meet and pray to God to bring you out of the mess you find yourselves. Not to abandon him.

We all know the situation of the country and how the system favors the female folk more than the males when it comes to getting a job. So, you can't really say your hubby is comfortable in his present condition. Should he kill himself? At least you knew him before now that he was a hard working man. Why see him now as a loser due to circumstances beyond him? Who's not facing the current heat postpandemic? Free him abeg!

What do you people even mean when you say you love that someone? You think marriage is all about when the going is good, you stay or for the riches? Marriage is all about SACRIFICES!! . Anyone who cannot sacrifice their last penny, comfort, choices, pride, temper and ego for their spouse should not think of going into marriage!

This clearly shows why you went into that marriage in the first place. SMH

Thank you very much.

amalder:
pray a woman never feed you, for only one week in your whole life time.

Guy one week is too much for a woman to feed you

Chinnybaby190:
Any job would do please

where do you guys stay? What skills does he have?

Goal keeper wey dey score own goal

For saying this, for acknowledging Igbos superiority over you and for truthfully admiting that you are playing catch up to us, we will endorse you for second term, Aketichukwu.

For saying this, for acknowledging Igbos superiority and that you're playing catch up to us, we will endorse you for second term Aketichukwu

Prechgold1180:
Confused what is. The meaning of unity schools
Are tertiary institutions part of unity schools

federal secondary schools. Some are boarding. Mostly boarding. But if ASUU calls off their strike universities too would resume.

Vanzetti:
I would keep you updated. I'm supposed to start by this month. But I would march down to her parents place.

Fantastic

Deicide:
Naso cars day come pick girls from school in the night

I swear

gigante:
All of you telling him to quit the girl and forego the job are lowkey wereys. Do you know what Oil job means. And some jobless 18 year olds are busy telling you to leave the potential millions from the oil job because of an unfaithful girl.

Omo, secure that job first, Nigeria is hard oh, don't go and lose a golden ticket because of some infidelity issue.

Instead, after securing the job, you can then leave if you still wish to. As for now, prioritise that job over anything.

Don't say i didn't warn you.

Money can't buy happiness oh. And mind of peace.

Vanzetti:
Okay. What happens if she goes on to bear more children for me. I love the girl so much and she has been in tears since.

I just need an answer, what if she bears more children for me. Do I still stand at a disadvantage?

For the fact that I'm not the father, the other guy has right if he eventually knows because he was on no account confronted. He can come later and fight the child out from me.

Look, if you want this to sail smoothly then everybody has got to come out clean. How do I mean? Open the window, let the smoke out from the kitchen.



SHOW THE LITTLE GIRL'S GRANDFATHER THE DNA TEST FOR HIM TO SEE YOU WERE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR THE CHILD. HE CAN TAKE YOU BOTH TO HIS RELIABLE HOSPITAL TO RE-CONDUCT THE TEST. ALSO SHOW THE TEST RESULT TO YOUR OWN FAMILY SO THEY CAN STOP LIVING IN FOOL'S PARADISE.

AFTER THE REALIZATION AND THE STORM CALMS DOWN. YOU AND THE GIRL CAN GO ON SELF-ASSESSMENT TO ASSESS IF YOU CAN STILL CONTINUE WITH YOUR RELATIONSHIP AND MARRIAGE PLANS. BECAUSE FOR ALL WE KNOW IT MAY EVEN COLLAPSE AFTER ALL THIS REALIZATIONS BECAUSE HER PARENTS NO LONGER SEE HER SAME WAY AGAIN.

Vanzetti:
You are indeed wise. I thank you so much.
I grad with a 2.1 chemical eng. I believe I can get good job elsewhere with the help of God.

You will and that kind of job will be worth it because it came with clean hands and decent history and from God. Not with a shoddy history that you will keep living with fear and paranoia and haunted mind, that you will always be wanting vacation everytime.

Skmoda360:
This is the truth......he still think he can get away with it

To Even think he can live comfortably with this secret for all of his miserable life. OP you're just being selfish. Your own family even thinks they already have a grand daughter. Where as it is a false daughter and not truly their blood and you deliberately keep making them live in denial. Shame on you.

Skmoda360:
You better wise up and make a head start with whatever is going on in your head, don't ever rush to marry her because you might think it will be smooth ride now but it ain't gonna be at the end and to think the child ain't yours is enough for you to bolt and exit the relationship.

Forget Eket job, that girl ain't faithful it's enough for you to quit and go look for your own unless you want his father's national cake.

he is running after a job. Forgetting that girl may keep on cheating inside marriage, and that one day the no nonsense father in law could even find out that his grand daughter doesn't even belong to this so called nigger standing before him and working for him eating fat from his salary.

Imagine crises.


OP walk away now

Vanzetti:
Bro I was a student in my final year and I was dealing with projects. what did you expect me to do. Considering the stress I had gone through because of this child.
I had my doubts but I could not do it or request for the DNA of the child. What if it eventually turned out to be mine. Besides no money to even do a thing like that. I decided to take it slowly.

As for the work, I have moved my things down to start work this month.
I still appreciate your contribution.

He's right. When that father comes for his child, he will take all the claims. And when your father in law dare finds out you were not the real father yet enjoyed all the benefits and worse off, knew before you got the job, he's gonna hate you.

I don't know why people like to get themselves into complicated things instead of just walking away.

Goodluck to you. Don't say you were not warned to walk away.

Vanzetti:
Thanks I thought the same man. Maybe she has no choice because she us afraid of lifting the child alone.
I had moved my things down already to start work this month to enable me pay for the bride price by next year.

The parents dont know I'm not the father. I can walk out of their life. The heaviness I feli in my final year and sleepless night during my project is still making me think. Passing through such problems at the end I walk away.

Bro, marriage is an eternal affair. Never enter into it for the wrong reasons of intimidation with false child and enslavement.

Worst person to work under is your father in law. You will be subjugated and enslaved and he will dictate the terms of your family including the sex position you use for your wife. No respect. Please don't go into that marriage. It is all shades of the wrong reason. Don't worry about the harsh job climate outside. God of Oyedepo and Adeboye are there for you. If you're smart, intelligent and network well you'll eventually find a job after a while.

Vanzetti:
I would make this short as possible .I met my girlfriend when I was in my 300 level. I am her first. I met her when she was 18 years old, seeking admission. She is young and beautiful no doubt one of the reasons I'm attracted to her.

She gained admission in unilag because the school I studied in didn't offer the course she wanted. She gained admission that year I met her I had known her for about 8 months already. I was already in my 400 level as she resumed 100 level. We had asexual relationship also ( I deflowered her tho..)

She got pregnant for me when I was in my in my final year in school. It happened as she came back from school, she decided to drop at my place to spend the night. I never knew she was going to that and I was not prepared, if not I could have used protection that night.She called me after like 1 month to tell me she was pregnant. I love this girl so much.
She came to my place begging me not to deny her saying her elder sister also got pregnant for someone but was denied this made her parents mad. Her father had threatened that she must provide who was responsible. I later agreed and I followed her. The father (he is very rich' a senior oil worker) had promised to deal with me if I end up leaving his daughter after my schooling.

He had informed my parents and traveled down tho.. Arrangements were made that I would wife his daughter.
I had doubts that I was the father all those while but I couldn't voice out. On several occasions when I was on my IT in Lagos, this girl would deny me visit after work but prefers to visit me at her own time. My work was not far from yaba o, either she visits me at home or I only come at night claiming she is busy.

Even when I was in school I dont do night calls. Even decline video calls. As per guy wey I be, I sabi say bodi no be firewood cos I was also doing some outings on my own end.
I stay in Lagos too so I understand the rush in unilag especially for year 1 considering her beauty and nice body.

FFWD she gave birth to a girl tho. I just had to accept it but still had my doubts. I could not even tell my mom because she knew of our relationship and might tag me stupid. I had made it in mind after my schooling I would do a DNA test.

I saved some money after service and I could have gotten married this year. I took my daughter which I had already lived secretly to the hospital when I was sick claiming that I wanted her to accompany me. My daughter is already 4 years.
The result came out and she is not mine. I ran the test in another hospital same result. I confronted her and she was in tears, she told me that she was confused and didn't know who the father was, that I was the better option. She had a boyfriend in Unilag who was about 18 years and the sane level with her. She had sex with him before coming back and landed in my place and also had with me. She was ignorant.
Her father threatened her that she most provide the person and there us no where for her to go because I was close by. And she thought u should be the one..she wasn't sure.

The bone of contention here is I already like my daughter and my girlfriend though I'm still very bad. But i have been with her after most if the times after she had given birth. She is in her fathers house.
The father has plans already and I to start work at Mobil in Eket. Following arrangements to marry his daughter he has only two girks and doesn't want them to carry children both without fathers .
I still dont know what to do, should I cancel everything and tell the father? considering the trauma I faced as a students and inconveniences I had while in school.
Will she be a faithful person in future? Will she use it against me?
Do I get her pregnant and speed up with the marriage procedures?
I dont want to regret at the end. My mother won't like it if she knows that the girl is not mine and won't consider ger as her grandchild.

Bro, don't mess your future just because of promises of job assurance by your father in law.

Left for me, your father in law is a no nonsense type. He will use you, control you and emasculate you for being the one who bequeathed wealth to you. Especially for impregnating his daughter and knowing her the wrong way. It doesnt even seem like the girl truly loves you because all the while you never truly mentioned in real terms the depth of her love for you.

You are being tied and blindfolded into this marriage with false child and promises of a job. It will end in tears and frustration. Better to walk into a destination with my ego, pride and eyes wide open than my eyes blindfolded and ego in someone else's hands.

kingui:
After a video of an unknown man made the rounds last night saying that schools are to open on 5th Oct 2020.
The federal government has finally declared that schools should open.
The question now is
1 is ASSU still on strick?
2 what will the new time table look like
And finally ?
As a student what's your reaction to the news and plans to come back to your school. ?

1. ASUU is still on strike. FG has to go into private meeting with them alongside polytechnics and colleges of education in order to resolve the cause of their strike so that they can resume too.

2. The new time table will be unique according to school. No general time table. Each academic institution or school management is to conduct a meeting and formulate their own unique calendar for the new session and time table for following lectures.

3. My reaction? I'm elated. Can't wait to return to classrooms.

flyingpig:
Omo leave matter for Matthias. Akwa ibomites are impoverished. Only know how to drive keke and argue politics on Monday morning by 9am in groups. Number of keke in uyo is even higher than number of personal vehicles to show you the level of poverty because large population of the people can't afford personal vehicles unlike in lagos and PH. Or delta or other cities. Big roads and hungry people.

chai that's deplorable

flyingpig:
itu road, ikpa road, ikomimah, ikot ekpene road, udoette jesus christ, omo that entire uniuyo area na off key. Pit toilet still dey there till today. Pit toilet bro.

wow

Hunchogee:
Ooh really... Let me ask do we have squalors in PH, Abuja, lagos and your state?

Omo leave matter for Matthias. Akwa ibomites are impoverished. Only know how to drive keke and argue politics on Monday morning by 9am in groups. Number of keke in uyo is even higher than number of personal vehicles to show you the level of poverty because large population of the people can't afford personal vehicles unlike in lagos and PH. Or delta or other cities. Big roads and hungry people.

Cocao:
[s]The toxic masculinity in Nigeria, via social media platform is downright disgusting.

Do not believe everything you read online and do not frame your perception based on another's meaning.

I don't want to generalize, but a large sample of the men on front page are psychologically flawed. It is irritating to read.

What worries me the most is that these are the men that would raise other men and women.

What exactly would you teach your kids? To be so irritable that one stroke makes you flame up or erupt, prematurely? (pun intended)[/s]

Toxic feminity nko as seen in the USA, UK, Canada. Rubbish.

Buhari goes Hay-wire indeed. Craze man

Gerrard59:
There are squalors na especially around Uniuyo and Mbiabong areas. There are squalors everywhere in the world, what differs is the level of development but saying there are no squalors in Uyo is a lie.

itu road, ikpa road, ikot ekpene road, udoette jesus christ, omo that entire uniuyo area na off key. Pit toilet still dey there till today. Pit toilet bro.

criuze:
ask the born to rule

born to pay

MajesticKris:
The depth has been paid for on the Cross...

savage

Lambo

Yes o

This is Nigeria, you can treat us how you like and settle the court or police and go Scott free. Fûck Buhari.

Rolexjerry:
Bros. I was born in Uyo and I've lived here all my life. I know almost everywhere in Uyo.
Just name that place where u saw squalors in . Haba

na why you no recognize say squalors full uyo you never see housing schemes for other developed states

Hunchogee:
[s]My..nd44 banned this troll from my thread[/s] oo

shut up

You didn't add kano