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The mistake u made was to return the goods. U for manage am.
I was expecting that he didn't send the goods in the first place.
But he did and you returned it.
Fear business men
Refunding is a problem in business.

Communication is the key to a lasting relationship.
Distance relationship easily dies off when the communication power is low..
This occurs when the relationship starts to get bored.
Spice it up with activities
That attracts the interest of ur partner.

Magickhands:
Loving your life is different from being selfish.

It all boils down to self centeredness..

Medianna:
That's why I like Zeeworld.
The man will save the woman sharply and they will find their way out TOGETHER.

Chai..
Zeeworld don finish u.

Botking:
Na wow oh, why will you chose an animal over a human being

We only value ourselves and selfish interest.
I like ur comment.

OLOKOESHIN:
What's this has to do with religion now as in your brain don shift

U dey ment?
U no know Saudi is a religious country.

LadyRosa:
Yes my brother.
Ashawo sef dey marry oo.
E still dey surprise me sef.

Lol.
Yes, the ones that wants to settle down.

LadyRosa:
She bi you get mouth.
Come follow me _fuck my husband.

Ok
U r married?
Congrats dear

LadyRosa:
Not for me.
He is a little rat for me.

My brother apart from say I stubborn and fearless, I no get Shame ooo.

I'm as old as nairaland on here,so to me na small rat e be.

Ok..
But be calm.

LadyRosa:
Yes I'm.
It's my stubbornness and fearlessness that's keeping two of my siblings alive today.

Because I was ready to do anything to keep them alive.I made sure one of their enemies is in the grave.

Please don't be desperate to do anything for survival.
Life na jeje.

etrouble:
I get you my Nigga. I know what you desire. You want her to become full time Olosho, I don't mind too. The more they are, the cheaper the price. My Nigga, I gats you.

She already is
I just wanted to calm her tempo and pressure

LadyRosa:
You didn't make any sense.

I swear.
That dude is a crappy trouble.

LadyRosa:
I dont want all my children to be calm.
A stubborn, fearless and smart child is acceptable by me.

Ok.
U r quite bold.
I love that.
Kudos and welcome to the month of September

Islam is a religion of peace.
She was convicted for trying to tear apart the social fabric in the kingdom.
Ndi-ara.
Modified
Fati2001,
Can you believe, I was banned 2hours for this comment..

LadyRosa:
Even many pastor daughters in secondary schools are already hoeing before university attainment.

Na sense them dey take follow female children,no be gra gra.The hand wey parents dey take follow onyinye shouldn't be same with nkechi or bolanle.

My dad is a very stubborn man who birthed a very stubborn daughter,so the house gats to dey hot.Goay no dey born fowl.

Must you be stubborn?
Please calm down nah.
I guess u would not want your children to be stubborn.
Please stop giving ur dad BP.
Some kids are smarter than sense!!
So na only gra gra fit calm their pressure.

Just quit.

Let them flex.
They are minor

Onitemhi:
One big colobian weed for you gee

I add one Canadian loud.

This your moniker is funny.
Registered today.
Hope u no find gullible clients for here.
Nairaland no get mugu.
Must you tell us
You travelled to Canada.
So that prospective nairalanders
Who wants to travel abroad will mention you and ask for assistance in visa application.
Then u will introduce them to your fraudulent agent, which is still u
And reap them off their hard earned money!
No kind scam
Wey I no know.
Starting from the storyline.
I Know your matter.
Ewu,

Best advice:
Focus on wetin carry u go Canada.
Leave Nigerian girls.

Op stop spreading confusion and propaganda using falsehood as a mantra

Ghana hoe.
Pvssy go sweet and fresh

NemoDatQuod:
Hi.
I am sorry that your Dad speaks to you that way. It is not right. But it is because he does not know any better. He was not taught how to have respectful conversations with everyone including his own children. Majority of Nigerian parents do not have the skills with which to raise well adjusted children. Your father's on-going behaviour will have a negative impact on your perception of life. But all hope is not lost.

Regardless of your age, there are a number of things you can do that may make things better, if your father is one of the few Nigerian parents who are able to listen to their children calmly:

1. You can seek to have a one on one conversation with him in private. Respectfully tell him how the way he speaks to you and treats you make you feel. Remind him that he is your first teacher in life and that how he treats you is setting an example for how you treat others and how you will treat your own kids in the future.

2. Suggest that you are happy for him to give you regular feedback on anything you are not doing well. The feedback should be a one on one between both of you. Suggest that he should give that feedback in a respectful manner, without raising his voice, let alone shouting at you. Suggest also that it will be helpful to you if he is to take time to explain to you the benefits of any feedback he gives you on anything he thinks you are not doing right or well. If possible, agree to meet one on one, maybe once or twice a week, where he can give you this on-going feedback.
3. Tell him that he is actually damaging you psychologically by shouting at you and humiliating you in front of other members of the family. That damage may end up determining the level and extent of your success in life, because those who are brought up in families where they are treated with respect and taught how to have respectful conversations(especially when things go wrong), have a more than 95% chance of living successful lives than kids brought up with shouting, humiliation and other negative traits. If your Dad still has some element of reasonableness in him, you will begin to notice changes immediately. But be prepared. He may be one of the millions of Nigerian/African Dads who are already far gone in the madness that they call discipline and insubordination and he may end up beating you up for "having the effrontery" to make a suggestion to him, since he will believe that he knows it all. Even if that happens, do not despair for you would have done the right thing.

4. If you are older than 18 years of age and still living at home, respectfully remind your father that you are considered an adult under the laws of Nigeria and hence able to make decisions on what you wear and other decisions concerning you. However, as you still live at home, you are happy to hear his suggestions. Remind him that it does not necessarily mean you will accept every one of his suggestions. His legally acknowledged parental responsibility over you end when you turn 18 years old.

Remember, this should be a one on one conversation with your Dad out of earshot of any other person, including your mum. Also, you must not disclose this conversation with anyone else. Part of the art of effective conversation is never to reveal details of conversations you've had with others.

Do not forget to apologize genuinely to him for the way you reacted when he counselled you the last time.

You also need to do some stuff that will help you, not just now, but all through life.

1. You must learn how to have a conversation even when you are angry. Giving it to your Dad or anyone else as you stated, is self defeating and may end up turning you into the aggressor instead of the victim which you rightfully are. There are different suggestions on how to give effective feedback, or have difficult conversations, or develop emotional intelligence. All you have to do is google them and you can read these over and over as you journey through life and implement them.

2. Remember this is about you and your future. African parents spend too much time harping on Intelligence Quotient(IQ) to their children (you must get A in Maths, A+ in Physics, etc) and do not spend any time at all teaching them Emotional Intelligence ( this is how to have a conversation, this is how to react when things go wrong, this is how to speak to others, etc). Unfortunately, Emotional Intelligence (EQ) is the greater skill required to be successful in our generation.

3. You must now begin to learn to "take insults lightly". That is if you want to succeed in life. There will be those who will insult you even when they are the ones at fault. When you learn the art of effective feedback and conversation, you will be able to put your ego in check and address the issue that led to the insult, while you temporarily ignore the insult. Afterwards, you can have a one on one meeting with the insulting party and tell him how the insult made you feel, if you think it will be worth it at all. Insults do not demean us. They demean the person doing the insulting as it shows onlookers the person's level of knowledge and experience in life.

I wish you well.

From my little experience in the academic world, some friends would see and take some one for a fool just because he takes insults lightly.
I used have a friend then .
Am older than the dude.
On a faithful day, he rebelled me
Despite the fact that I sustained him financially..
When I reported him to our lodge guys.
We were told to explain individually what was the issue.
I listened attentively while he mumbled and cooked up his version.
But the dude no allow me explain myself when it was my turn to talk....
Instead he told me that he will bled me!!
Just imagine that kind of words.
I got infuriated and gave him the beating of his life!!
He couldn't believe that I was physically strong
Because I was always cool and nice
And always sealloed insults thrown at me..
Since after that day till date, we don't relate anymore.
Though I occasionally dash him Money
Just to prove my seniority over him.
Bottom line: don't let people undermine your integrity.
Always fight for ya right.

etrouble:
Her father is preventing her from becoming a full time Asewo, that is why she is angry.

Simple.
U nailed it.

LadyRosa:
Some parents need to be careful with their extreme ways of addressing issues in the house.

I remember when my dad was doing all those tough bullshiite on me, immediately I got admitted in the university,I stopped coming home during the hols.

And turned into a hoe!!
Werrin go make a disciplined lady not go home after school?
Only God knows the amount of BP
U caused ya parents.

etrouble:
Go help her beat her Papa nah, so that you can finally run mad just like those before you.

Your comment depicts the level of your exposure socially.
You need to grow up
And think [color=#ff4700]^{outside the box}[/color]