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Tunagee:
My wife started behaving strangely immediately I lost my job in April 2017. She leaves home to her mum at the slightest disagreement without even communicating or making to express her feelings; and to worsen it, her mum gives her a great welcome with a room and parlour for her to stay, without even calling me to discuss what the problem. Whatever her daughter says is always the final, and she concludes on that.

My wife literarily destroyed my image before my in-laws to such an extent that I can't even visit them again. She tells them i insult her and her parents, and i make negative remarks about them, that i abuse her verbally at the slightest provocation. Several lies against me that I did not allow her travel out, I don't give her money, I told her not to have another kid, that I told her not to work, her mother has decided to keep her with her as I speak without even calling me to discuss, even despite all my appeals. She has been with her mum now for almost ten months(my wife is a fully grown legally married faithful woman of almost 40 years)

All these disrespect, probably cos I lost my job two years ago of which I fulfilled all responsibilities to the home. i don't drink, i don't smoke, don't womanise(even till now) I have never beaten her, I never another child out of my matrimonial home, and never impregnated another woman.

Rather than resolve her marital problem by discussing with her husband, she takes it to her family claiming emotional abuse. Fine, I agree I get provoked cos of her persistent shortcomings, and of course, frustration which leads to unguided vocal utterances towards her, but this could have been resolved easily without having to involve her whole family. Now what she keeps telling my family is that her family said she should still hold on at her mum's place. This is the 10th month since October 2018.

The last time my mum went to her mum's house precisely June last month, she was asked if she was still interested in her marriage, and she said yes, that she does not intend leaving her marriage; but we should give her time. Her mother practically told me to go and do something meaningful, and that there is time to marry, separate, reunite and hustle. Her mum is the one controlling her movements and everything about her for now; not even giving her room to give me audience.

Pls advise on what to do.

We are legally married.

Are you guys feeding properly in your house? Is the economic situation in your house making staying together a bit uncomfortable? Despite her staying staying away against your will, do you think your wife and kid (if you have any) are better off in terms of living standard where they are without you?

If the answers to the above questions are yes, then you should realize you married a materialistic woman. Dont misunderstand me, what i mean is your wife is the type of woman that has low tolerance for inconvenience. She might be a good woman but las las na woman she still be. She needs to be taken care of.
Not every woman can stick with a man through thick and thin. Some men love those kind of women thou. As long as they are representing well as the man of the house financially then they have her loyalty and respect and it kind of drives the man to achieve more because he knows he will be disrespected by her if he fails. but fail and subject her to inconvinience as a result and she starts giving you attitude.

That said. Judging from your account, you cant entirely blame your mother in law because according to you your wife has been feeding her lies. naturally mothers will side with their daughters talkless of when your wife is turning her mother against you.

Now here comes the bitter truth.
Women dont like effeminate men. If i were you. I would stop bitching around. I will call her and tell her that even thou i am down temporarily i will still rise again stronger. I would tell her that her actions now is what would determine her place in my heart when i stand again. I would tell her she should come home now that i need her. Then i would take my mind off her matter and concentrate all my energy on pulling myself back up. If she comes back great. If she doesnt, i'll be pained but atleast i'll have known the type of woman i married.
But whether she comes back or not. I'll stop whining about losing my job and how things were when things were good and i will put all my energy into getting out of my present predicament.

One last thing.
Brother even if you are 56 you are still a young man and can be with any woman yo desire. Your wife at 40 would be lucky to get a decent man.

Just look at what this one is saying. This is really embarrassing.

richmind2019:
Very soon we go see republic of biafra

Amen

Infinityk:
If u want to argue with any Yorubas person,argue with me
Lagos, at least 70 % belongs to Yorubas
Egba awori ijebu ilaje lands is more than 70% of lagos
Oba of lagos is just a mere title
Just like saying alaafin of Oyo owns all of Oyo state,where as it's a small particular town in oyo state
Ikorodu is ijebu remo land epe is ilaje Land
Abule egba is egba land and so on
We have oba of elegushi oba of ikorodu akran of badagry And numerous obas in Lagos state
The oba of Lagos is just a figure head,he has no control other than lagos island
The Lagos that Benin own is very small
All other part is owned by other Yoruba tribes and egun ppl
That's why Yorubas have the largest percentage in the state
Even some lands in Ogun state were added to lagos state
Please,know history before acting stupid on d internet
The oba of Lagos is nothing more than a tout
He doesn't have any respect in Yoruba land

Lolz, sorry you got hurt. That was not my intention. Truth is bitter they say. However no matter how you try to twist it, history is history you cant change it.

You can continue arguing with your keyboard sha aaa.

MetaPhysical:
It had better not be in Lagos. You are where you are now because we did not put foot down and cure your insanity when it first erupted with Eze ndigbo. Now you want to erupt with biafran rag....in Lagos!
Anumkpam!

Wow! A xenophobic dunce. Thats a pitiful combo.
Now here is Food for thought:
Do you know your history? Do you know that Lagos belongs to the Edo's? Do you know why half of yorubas are muslims and half christians?

I am just doing you a favour by making you put your docile brain to work. At least you'ld be an apprized numskull.

Now carry on with your silliness like the aggressive tw*at you are. Bye.

MetaPhysical:
Bloody Onitsha tout!

But Why are you pained?

Biafra. The light of Africa

What do you mean vote for oshoala? The essence of the whole thing is for everyone to vote for their preffered goal. So that the most famous goal wins. But people like you will always turn it to another thing.

The current president is a disaster.

it warms my heart to know that there are still courageous men fighting for the emancipation of the masses.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cd5Jmm9grWA

XXLDICK:
[s]The phrase "Chukwu Okike Abiama" became overly pronounced especially by the IPOB group of recent. Many people including Igbos have no idea of its meaning. I asked my kinsmen but they had no idea too definitely because we aren't from Arochukwu.

Contrary to recent believe, Chukwu Abiama is a pagan God and not what many of us believe it is. Chukwu Abiama was the name given to the central God of the Arochukwu people.

Chukwu Abiama which means the God that reveals truth was very instrumental during slave trade because the shrine which housed the God was more like a supreme court in Arochukwu, anybody whom was found guilty was either dedicated to the gods (Osu) or sold to the whites as a slave.

Igbos that claim to be Jews claimed Chukwu Abiama means God of Abraham, that Abiama is a distorted pronunciation of the word Abraham


It's funny to find many Christians now using the phrase Chukwu Okike Abiama, if only they knew which God they are calling.

The claim that Chukwu Abiama means God of Abraham is just another attempt by some low self-esteem Igbos to rewrite the Igbo history and solidify their irrational claim of Jewish ancestry which I see as an insult to the great Igbo tribe because the Igbo tribe predates Adam.[/s]

It baffles me how somebody called "extra large di*ck"will confidently sit down to write trash and the tribalistic and religiously biased owner of this forum and his moderators will quickly push it to front page. meanwhile hundreds of educative, motivational and financial empowering topics languish in the sea of topics on this forum. Seun, Money made at the expense of the morality of a people is dirty money and one way or another it will comeback to bite you.

For starters XXLDICK you don't even think, if you did you would know that that your god you think is the true one was imposed on you by foreigners, again if you really used your head you would understand that using a derogatory term like "pagan" to describe something you dont believe in is actually foolish, since you do not even know what you are condemning, the only religion you know is the one you are practising, you have no idea about the countless others yet you condemn them isnt that myopic and foolish? besides do you know that word "pagan" was originated by the early christians at a time when they were still tying people to stakes and burning them because they thought science was witchcraft. at a time when they were extremely intolerant of any other religion and would wage wars. yet here you are in 2019 and you are still reasoning like a glorified chimpanzee.

I dont believe in chukwu okike abiama but i dont condemn people that believe in him. i wont talk about the followership because i do not know it. but i will say what i do know.
fact is that the igbos have a strong genetic link with the hebrews; igbo is one of the lost and scattered tribes of the biblical hebrews. This has been proven. This is fact and The country with the largest concentration of hebrews in a geographical area which is Israel know this fact.

[quote author= post=79916236]The troublemaking IndecentStar master has reacted at last.
The same pig who described to us all on video how he used to suck his babe puna and how she always licked his smelling bleached anus.

Cownu on the beatz!

Tufiakwa![/quote]Ewu gambia. Fulani ass licker. Tueh!!

Nonsense. Anyway they only suceeded in shooting themselves in the foot because now the awareness of the fulani agenda has amplified.

Not that expensive. My dream ride. Just a matter of time thou.

[quote author= post=79878789]No, we are the Parents of the King of your village fool buster![/quote]Fulani wanna be. Shame on you. You are an embarassment.

[quote author= post=79878368]Welcome back home.......[/quote]Which home? Are you from daura?

Oshe!! Sai baba till 2027. This next level sweet die.

Amakavula:
So we Abuja residents came out emass yesterday and stood up to the COZA pastor, even with his security thugs just to protest his treatment of women. And stand with Mrs Dakolo !

Here are some of the images from that protest, and yours truly, Amaka baby was there in flesh, can you spot me ?

I know its all these evening newspapers go carry am for head. They are just angry at everybody especially men for nothing.
Someone spinned a story and some people swallowed the whole thing hook, line and sinker like a bunch of idiots without thinking it through. Una sorry ooo

If you believe this. You are a mo*ron

Buhari said the terror perpetrated by the fulani herdsmen are not from them but from foreigners. He mentioned militants from libya.

Why then is he allocating huge chunks of lands to herdsmen of fulani extraction?

Some states and its indigenes have fiercely kicked against it, still the FG is bent on aquiring lands for fulani herdsmen, does that not defeat its purpose of brokering peace between fulani herdsmen and indigenes?

Why is this ruga settlement so important to the FG that it is trying to force it on states?

drealcivilceno:
I read the 5 pages back to back and unlike you I take lessons back with me to see how I can better something.. Like I said I have been burnt so so so many times and the last one na laptop case sef. I didn't rant on the guy but....

Kulkid is at the receiving edge here and something he bought he would want to take care of it, Psychology 101, and he spent a whole day waiting for whether he called you or not and also slept in your house. I'm not d standard but mmmm... Why will he want to spoil the battery.

See guy, in this business, fake or no fake, image is better than money... Once your name is on, many people backing you or not, will not intentionally do business with after this kinda thing has happened.

P.S: Again I read it 3 times b4 I judged...

I wish you are the best in all endeavors and more power to your elbow and please clear your name for your own sake

Why are you sounding as if the seller is a robot. He is human just like you and also have feelings. Even large coperations fall out with there customers from time to time talkless of a oneman business/side hustle.

There is a manner of approach to everything. Kulkid simply do not have a good manner of approach especially considering that this transaction in question has deviated from the normal strictly formal seller customer professional interaction.
When you consider all the favours granted Kulkid by themonk. You will understand that if kulkid had calmly explained the situation to the monk with humility and gratitude and made him see and understand the situation i am sure they would have found a solution but i bet kulkid was banking on coming here to ruin themonk reputation if anything goes wrong(he always had it at the back of his mind).
Now Considering all the pestering themonk had to endure for days over this one deal. I can imagine his reaction when kulkid came up again with another battery story. He is only human, who knows maybe you would have reacted worse. But kulkid seems like the cocky type with his warri mentality and thus here we are.

PS: they both are at the receiving edge. Do you know how it feels and the damage that will be done to your business to be labelled a fraudster(right or wrong) for whole world to see?

As a matter of fact if that battery is charging and can hold a charge but is indicating that its not original then in all honesty kulkid went overboard with this.
My dell charger got burnt. I bought another charger it charges the battery but it reminds me from time to time that it is not an original dell charger and 2 out of ten times when i plug to charge it says "battery not charging", meanwhile seller swore that it is an original at the point of purchase and i parted with 6k. You dont see me opening a thread to brand seller a fraudster.

now ask yourself. This money i am collecting is it really worth it?

alobright17:
One day just one day you will cry out for justice the only thing that will answer you will be Nairaland likes and shares . I don't know why it is wrong for someone to speak out her ordeal in the hands of so called pastors . tufiakwa to you .

Oga shut up. I will never have something against someone for over 20 years especially if its something as trivial as rape. I'll forgive whomever it is, free myself and move on.

It is your type that will carry a grudge to your grave.

I used to think abike was smart. How can you just hurriedly pick a side. So what if this matter goes to court and the pastor is innocent.

Timi dakolo and his wife should just go and sit down joo ooo

CAPSLOCKED:
A THOUSAND LIKES FROM MEN MOSTLY, I KNOW, BUT FOR WHAT EXACTLY?

THE NUMBER OF IDĮOTS PARADING AS MEN IN OUR SOCIETY HAVE SPIRALLED OUT OF CONTROL.

You got that right.

She should be forgiven. I am sure it was unintentional. Hot temper is a weakness. Living with the guilt is enough torment.

Is it just me or why would a whole bank put up 20k as prize money. I know someone won a million, even that is small but manageable but 20k as consolation? C'mon.
I mean how much was even used to print that giant cheque.

Kulkid i understand life is currently throwing challenges at you but you can not overcome them by being so hateful and vile.
Despite all the goodwill, patience, endurance and assistance demonstrated by themonk you still rushed here to tarnish his image and hurt his source of livelihood. You forgot all that in a haste. I think i see a glimpse of your character and possibly why you are having issues with your uncle and he wants you out of his house. Why are you this selfish? What do you hope to achieve by tarnishing the themonks image? I think its wicked man. Did it ever occur to you he can still help you tomorrow? What is it sef with you people and this warri no dey carry last mentality? Whats your business if he sells the battery to you for 100k did he force you to pay? Why are you so greedy? So a seller can not make reasonable profit on his wares again, especially considering all he did for you; he even let you sleep in his house.
After threatening him with native doctors and some other bulshit you still rushed here to mouth off. Haba fear God na aaa.

Themonk i dont understand why the original battery of the laptop was changed in the first place. And why you held on to it. Was it part of the deal?

tempex88:
Let's educate him small here
The least clearing cost for a car 2005 down is NGN390,000
The least shipping cost for USA roro is Usd900 approx NGN 325,000.

That's already 700k constant without factoring cost to buy, fixing cost (if salavged), trucking to port, sellers margin etc.

You wont see those cockroaches again, they have all crawled back to their holes.
What insecticide is to roaches is what knowledge is to those twats. Anyone of them with any grey matter would have thanked you for the knowledge and apologised to the Op.

Chai!! You caught your wife ontop another man. After reasoning the thing, You decided to hang and kill your two kids abruptly ending their future; who knows they might have even been the ones to treat your wife's f*ck up later on.
Then you proceeded to hang yourself also.
When the whole thing blows over usually in a couple of weeks, your wife will go ahead to give her lover another new style. Maybe on that matrimonial bed you bought.
Oga wetin you come gain now.