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troy20: sneer all you want at it but mediocrity can have the loftiest of ambitions.it just an example of threshold on which the country is being run generaly.mediocrity always has alot 2 prove (if u let it), while you glide in d contentment of simply having intellect.i'v neva seen any wer where things so poor, so low force dia ways unto positions and they rule.wat a CUNTry

Rossikk: There is an ongoing nationwide digitalization programme to cover all broadcasting, and this is due for launching in 2014 or so. The infrastructural work has been ongoing for about three years now. When its done, ALL our channels WILL be 'like CNN'. Right now we use the old analogue systems in broadcasting which accounts for the low quality nature of the feeds across all stations including the so-called 'good' ones like Channels TV.

DailyNews: Hello OP, I understand how you feel because I have once had female relations who had it all financially and beauty-wise, but were unable to find suitor, and I will tell you some truths here, pls don’t take it as an insult, just use it to liberate your mind.

The truth is that your problem started the very day you landed that job in a blue chip company, which I know already to be an oil firm (NLNG, Chev or Mob). As k me why I said that? As an African woman, you are wired to become- pompous, arrogant, prideful, disrespectful, etc to men who earn lesser than you once you are earning a big income, that’s a proven fact, and all African men crave for respect from their women, reason why most Nigerian guys find it difficult to consider single ladies earning big income for marriage except you guys had been dating before you got the job and you remained loyal and humble, and didn’t turn unruly and wayward like most single ladies in Nigeria that earn high income.

Remember, reasonable men don’t care about how much you have or how many countries you have visited before they consider you to be their wife; all they care for is- humility, respect, homeliness, decency, and generally good character, do you have those qualities or have you thrown them away in the midst of living glossy life and hoping that your fat pocket and widely travelled status would secure you a husband? If so, you need to work on your character and pray fervently to God for the grace of humility and moral uprightness.

From your words (pls forgive me if I sound harsh, just trying to help you see certain truths), you have intentionally blacklisted certain group of guys who are obviously your best bet in this situation. I know that deep down your heart, you want a man that’s earning higher than you, who must also be widely exposed like you, and that maybe your mistake number one because not every lady will marry a very rich guy, and not every lady will have a good-paying job that you already have, so you see God might have given you that good job for you to build your own family, for you to help your husband to be to stand, while you are busy complaining and waiting for Dangote’s younger son to come marry you, pls wake up.

Another painful truth is this: most men earning higher than you wouldn’t want to marry a lady who is earning big income because they wouldn’t want disrespect from their woman and they do want a homely woman who would respect them and have time to take care of their kids (not all, but most, talking from male perspective though), and that’s why you see such men going to marry ladies with peanut job, or those that are still serving in NYSC or unemployed and with no or less exposure like you have.

Real men don’t marry a woman because of where she works, how much she earns, where she lives or family she comes from, they marry for love, good character and person. In order words, if you want to increase your chances of finding a husband, please consider guys who are still working towards becoming financially free and work diligently and prayerfully with them to build your own home, but if you like, ignore this, you might still find your fantasy husband as God permits.

I am not saying you should go and sponsor a man, nope, but there are average guys looking for working class ladies like you, consider them, and stop complaining that they are unsettled, blah, blah, blah, and waiting for those that are earning higher than you cos it may not be God’s plan for you.

Try and be visiting home (village I mean) during Easter and Christmas. One of my friends that was born and brought up here in Nigeria met his wife in the village during Xmas, and guess what? The girl returned from United States to celebrate xmas in the village too, and FYI, her dad happened to be a very wealthy doctor in the states, and yet, she couldn’t find a husband in New York until she came to the village. They are living so happily married in the states right now.

One of my cousins met his wife in the village during xmas, and another of my close friend who wedded last Easter met his wife in the village during xmas and the girl returned from Abuja too. Guys no longer go to churches to search for wife because churches have been infiltrated by bad girls desperate for husband, reason you see guys going back home. School is another good environment, and if you must consider church, then you must be truly committed to not just Sunday activities, but weekly activities, can you?

So don’t just think that you will only meet your husband in the city- UK, Germany, etc….he maybe waiting for you in the village. But most importantly, change your mindset- money is nothing, and when I say nothing, I mean NOTHING, so remove money and status from your search and look for men with vision and creativity, and stop seeing yourself as too big for certain kinds of men cos your God destined husband might be amongst those class of men you had been snaring at, be wise, life doesn’t always work as we wish and plan it to.

Good luck.

dasparrow: @Post

This is a very touching piece. God bless you Stella for appreciating your mom. Some of us wish we were brought into the world by a loving, caring mother like you have. Please continue to cherish your Amazon queen.

supaeagles: Nice, but wasn't Mother's day on March 10 ??

king arizona: Am new on nairaland, how do I comment

konn: this man should let by gone be by gone he should thank God he was not in the house the day the incidence happened if not he will not be here talking of compesation today

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I am a newly registered nairalander! Una no go welcome me again

scribble: am i d second to comment...Jesus is Lord

Ejiné: Sorry dude, my fiancee is way hotter. But then again, you're talking about the girls on Nairaland, so you may be right.

Abrantie: So he wrote a letter on a cake, big deal. All those who think that is creative don't have a speck of creativity in them.

eazysally: ...i get job already

So na to be the 1st to comment dey hungry u since

eazysally: 1sssssssssstttttttt

Na first to comment go give u d job??