McStoic:


This too shall pass. E don tay wey we dey see your type. YOUR ATHEISM HAS GOT NOTHING ON THE TRUTH. YOU ARE ONLY FULFILLING THE SCRIPTURE WHICH GOES THUS: "A FOOL SAYS THERE IS NO GOD IN HIS HEART".

spongeisback:


Actually christianity too shall pass, they were other religions before your Christianity which was plagiarized from other religions, so no scripture is being fulfilled. If I throw mud to a wall there's a chance that one must stick that's all your "fulfilled scripture" is. If your god is as great as you claim he wouldn't need you to defend him and writing in caps and using a storybook to defend your claim like the OP struck a nerve. Oh and by the way.......

There's no God.

originalking1:
In other words what are you saying
I didn't get any thing here

LordReed:
@francis247

Something interesting you should read: https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201812/how-introverts-can-make-it-in-extraverted-world

UyaiIncomparabl:


Ok. But we ain't mates.

budaatum:
Good. I expected you to say you had, despite calling it meaningless. So tell, why think reason and behave like the "African, afraid of the yet to be known", "addicted to antediluvian ideas and beliefs, stuck on boot loop", allowing "religious leaders, the pulpit bandits, practically use your brains to mop the floor week in week out", when you have knowledge of a superior alternative? Why has all your study not given you a Japanese mind, or a Chinese mind? Are you afraid of what you now know? Still allowing your brain to mop the floor? Or just addicted to antediluvian ideas and beliefs that you are a product of your environment and can't do anything about it?

Have you just not accepted all you have learnt into your life perhaps and think where you are, limits your mind to working like an "average or majority African mind" ?

Yes, by the way, I am aware of African movies though I hardly ever watch them. Afterall, as a person thinketh, so a person is, and what one fills one's mind with is how one thinketh. I see no reason to fill my mind with junk culture, arts, music, movies, language, value system, when there's superior nutrients (C.f. buda from the east), to fill my mind and develop the "ability to separate reason and rationality from emotions etc". Not that I'm agreeing that all African culture is junk, having this week sent money for a week long Oro ritual in the Orolu Kingdom. Thieves are disturbing us there, and the fear of being caught by Oro keeps them off the streets at night, especially as the Oro is said to be an excuse to capture people to sacrifice, or so we tell them. And you'd find the junk version in Japanese and Chinese culture, and even people from those places who think and reason like your "average or majority African"!

Indeed, "It takes great depth in intellectual strength and bravery to be not only completely open minded to the reception of new ideas, beliefs and and practices but also to go in search of them". The only thing you are saying in this thread of yours is that you might not have such strength, and bravery, afterall. And we are going to give you some, whether you want it or not!

budaatum:

And you know this how? Have you studied "their immaterial culture, arts, music, movies, language, value system, their innate ability to separate reason and rationality from emotions etc", things you said were "all meaningless" ?

budaatum:

You say the Japanese and Chinese "manifest" an "innate ability". Shows how much you know of their historical development. What took them thousands of years to learn - their "ability to separate reason and rationality from emotions" - you call "innate" as if they were born with it which conforms with your false notion that we are products of our environment and have no say in the matter.

And half emptying your glass, their say in the matter, the method by which they propagate the "culture, arts, music, movies, language, value system", which is how they ensure everyone learns and acquires the "intellectual and psychological strength" to "separate reason and rationality from emotions"; you call "manifest", disregarding the effort involved in using teaching aids to improve their people!


Propensity? As in Africans have the inclination or natural tendency to be religious? I'm on episode 100 of The History of China on podcast. Episode 1 free download is here.

I can assure you that if anyone had a "propensity" for religion, it's the Chinese. And I doubt I need to list religious "propensities" of the Japanese.


This is a lie! Unless you, francis247, is not "average African" and "cannot handle it". Or were you not religious? Are you average now? Ignorance dims when intelligence shineth. If we can take ignorance away from you - average African francis - we can take it away from anyone we want to, and learning you to to handle it is on par.

vaxx:
You shouild used what or how instead of who. What and how allow the possibility of research and who limit it. The nature is everything that exist around us and has been created in long term processes by very simple elements that evolute in much more complicate organisms. Something much more more pragmatic start the process that created the nature.. "" we nickname it God""

Weak and deasese people exist for a variety of reasons...for example ""genetic reasons"" which is part of the evolutionary process . Remember . It is survival of the fittest where equal chance is given to all.

francis247:
WHY COMMONSENSE?
The ability to think in a practical way and make sensible decisions is the definition given to the term commonsense by the OALD (8TH Edition).

Like water and oil, it's quite amazing that some people still believe in this day and age, that the term has no place when it comes to pure, genuine, profound and sincere love, that if sense and reasoning is very much alive and kicking in the relationship, that the relationship cannot be said to exist based on true love, that true love makes one think, say and do stupid things, like if one isn't making among other wise choices, unreasonable choices, then one is most probably not is love. Because thought and reason tend to give way for the vehicle of love when it's fully in motion to pass through, it is important therefore that one teaches oneself by training the brain to prepare proactively and not reactively to the eventual swift and forceful passage of the vehicle of love in other for the strong emotion of love not to continue to overpower the very essential commonsense when one is in love.

Every living organism no matter how infinitesimal has an organ for reasoning commonly known as the brain. The most vital and most delicate organ in humans, it's role in insects isn't as important in comparison but nevertheless still exists. Why then would anyone under any circumstance want to put this very complex organ that plays very vital roles one of which is the regulation of respiration without which ones life...

SOURCE:
https://francisamie..com/2018/12/rationality-and-commonsense-crucial.html

francis247:



For decades, in the mind of the average Nigerian girl, the understanding of the concept of genuine love between two persons of opposing genders has been on life support. Mind you this assertion is not based on any failed attempt on my part to successfully woo a lady into getting romantically involved with me, no, far from it. As a matter of fact, I've barely made any real attempt of getting anyone romantically involved with me obviously because of my kind of person - a melancholic living with but constantly making efforts to live above SCT alias CDD. As already established before now, on average, a person living with SCT/CDD is more of a spectator than a participant in many facets of life. Now that said, back to the issue at hand. The emergence of this topic is rather resting on the oars of my recent frequent visits to a popular Nigerian forum where I often encounter threads created by one guy or the other lamenting over how one girl or the other with whom he went out on a date took the shape of a leech along with her battalion of friends and bodyguards, literally ordering the entire menu of the eatery leaving Mr. lover boy with two options: Squeal in public the fact that his finances are hanging on a thread or abort mission and flee. The thread I recently stumbled upon just like most of its kind was fraught with similar narrations from other guys bemoaning the the tragic misconception of the concept of love and romance as far as the average Nigerian girl is involved.

The understanding or meaning of genuine and sincere love to the average Nigerian girl is so defective and debilitating that it evokes phrases such as physical, mental and psychological burden bearer, docile load carrier, bovine savior, immaculate philanthropist, hunger combatant, poverty alleviator, aptly put - a trolley in human form.

This has of course seen certain dates between the average Nigerian girl and the average Nigerian guy witness an end that is nothing short of absurd and hilarious. The guy in some cases flees the supposed crime scene in the pretence of going to use an ATM nearby abandoning his date to her possible and probable funeral of shame and embarrassment. In other scenarios where Mr lover boy is courageous or cowardly enough to pay for a crime he didn't commit, the infant relationship more often than not still dies of sudden asphyxiation.

The average Nigerian girl's situation as far as the search for genuine love in romance is concerned can be likened to...

SOURCE:
http://www.wavefinder.com.ng/2018/11/when-average-nigerian-girl-is-searching.html

francis247:
Have you ever expressed a love interest in someone especially at a very young age but got hurt as your feelings were unreciprocated? Did you or do you ever wonder why he or she never liked you romantically despite the efforts you seemed to have made? Are you currently pondering, running simulations after simulations as to why your likeness or love for someone is or was unrequited?

The solution to this puzzle is quite simple. The reason why the one you like didn't or doesn't seem to like you in return whilst the one or the ones that seem to like you, you barely notice or feel their presence whenever they're around you is pretty obvious - climbing the ladder, looking forward and aiming higher. We all look forward as we move ahead in life. We seldom look backwards to see what's behind us because looking forward is the most essential part of moving forward. Imagine having to look forward while walking or driving on a busy street. even if you have a justifiable reason for doing so. You'll most likely end up creating more problems than solutions for yourself. Also, although we tell ourselves that we do not choose the person with whom we fall in love, it just happens randomly, I never really saw myself liking someone like him or her, etc. The truth is that we do very well choose that person we like, the person with whom we fall in love, subconsciously however and not necessarily consciously. The subconscious act of choosing the person we're attracted to and would like to date is based on our soft spots, opinions, views, ideologies, wants and desires, all of which can be said to be based on our level of wisdom, knowledge, exposure, experiences and enlightenment.

Everyone is looking to...
SOURCE:
https://francisamie..com/2018/11/the-real-cause-of-unrequited-love.html?m=1

MuttleyLaff:
Be humble and in awe.
Too many people are full of opinions, with knowing less than half the facts. SMH.

If its a walk in the park, creating a universe, why dont you create one and lets see how good, pretty and dandy yours will be.

Is there anything He did a rich and good job on?





What a better place it'll be, if us humans naturally have love, compassion and empathy.
It's comforting to know that, in the end,
the universe will be one "tribe", "race", religion, nirvana, utopia, paradise, Eden revisited all rolled into one

vaxx:
it seems you are reading mantra . I will expect you to be more logical and critical.

Nature is reasonably meritocratic,(survival of the fittest) meaning ""equality of opportunity exists to every one "" notions of fairness and equality are human concepts. Nature, when anthropomorphized, is merciless, ruthless & pragmatic. Those organisms that are best adapted to survive & reproduce, will. Those that aren't, are eaten or, in some other way, used to advance the survival & reproduction of a more "fit" organism. That make morw sense to me.

vaxx:

If a lifeform is fit, it will out-perform others. Weak and diseased creatures underperform. This may result to some human concept notion ""inequality"" but each individual gets an equal chance at success.

vaxx:
We can like the world to be equal and moderated , but equality to be fair must be self regulated, not externally mandated. It is up to you to make the world what you expect of it. The mechanism to make the world already is in place

1- Can everyone have a great education? Yes.
2- Can everyone be financially secure? Yes.
3- Can everyone be well fed? Yes.
4- Can everyone be healthy? Yes.
5 -can everyone love themselves? Yes.

I list education first because all else flows from education [i.e]. If you are educated, you can find a job. Then you tailor your lifestyle to your income. With proper budgeting you can also eat well, and maintain your health. With any excess income you can buy luxuries.if all this are achieved, there will be no need for hatred. And love itself will be our main goal.

vaxx:
like what and what. Give us the prototype

johnydon22:

What sort of universe would you prefer?

LordReed:


It just seems like you are not responding to me, maybe to some imaginary friend you are having a conversation with.

MuttleyLaff:


francis, a "Ciao" bad attitude can literally block help, love, blessings and destiny from finding you
that can be part of the reason you don't succeed

MuttleyLaff:

When there seemingly is every reason see the glass as half empty and be negative about life,
think also of all the reasons to see the glass as half full and be positive about that
because afterall, at the end of the day, there is always someone who has it worse than us.

Francis, everyone you know, every nairaland poster, is fighting a battle of some sort, you know nothing about

Just when you think, it can't get worse, it can
and just when you think, it can't get any better, it can

Everything will be OK in the end francis
If its not OK, it not the end then yet.

No one belongs here on earth, more than you
so make bigger efforts at life, not bigger excuses
He that is good at making excuses, is seldom good for anything else

Life is and has always being complicated.
Many of us learn not to focus too much on the negatives.
Otherwise, we won't develop and being that life is short, soon will run out of time living.

You are not alone,
Isaac Newton and Albert Einstein to list just these two, were late bloomers, who made their mark in life.

Thank you PastorAIO and budaatum for your advices, empathy and neighbourly love to francis

budaatum:

It isn't simple, francis. And I'm not gonna tell you it gets easier either. It doesn't. You just get better at handleing it whether it's half full or even empty.

budaatum:
I'm going to address that long post of your's later. You need to be shown the other side of your coin, so don't "Ciao" me. I'm going nowhere, yet.

budaatum:

You are allowing yourself to be limited by you environment and circumstances, and its making you feel despondent - though, your "I do not sadly feel" presents a contraction. Do you really believe you do not "have what it takes to acquire a further sense of purpose beyond that which fulfilling the desires of my parents to procreate gives as well as that which being a member of the society offers"? Well, that's ok. It's not as if you can have fully explored the "sense of purpose which being a member of the society offers". I'll give you an anecdote.

Some long while ago, when I felt like you did, I was in a library one day when I heard the words "buda, I am the lord thy god", which isn't so strange since I was amongst what could best be described as gods to me, except I wasn't in the fashion of hearing voices apart from that of the shower head.

Somewhile later, I moved house, and not finding anywhere for my books, I shipped them all to my home in Nigeria. Then I visited the library in the Orolu Kingdom and found I had more books in storage than the entire kingdom had, so I gave my books to the library. Then I collected more books from my friends and sent them to the library, which started me on a purpose of caring for the library of the Orolu Kindom that has spanned some 15 years.

My point here is, widden your society.


Sluggish cognitive tempo (SCT) is the term for a syndrome that may comprise a novel and distinct attention disorder from ADHD. Symptoms of it include dreaminess, mental fogginess, hypoactivity, sluggishness, staring frequently, inconsistent alertness and a slow working speed.

Look at all those amazing skills! Dreaminess, the ability to move ones mind out of ones physical environment. Mental fogginess, the ability to not get stuck on the little you know. Hypoactivity, energy. Sluggishness, tortoise like, slow and steady, and not like the hare. Staring frequently, as in observing, likely with the mind as opposed to the eyes alone. Inconsistent alertness, able to relax one's mind. Slow working speed, as in, not a russian!

And the point here is widen your amazing skills!

You can more than hope, francis247! With all those skills, you can rest assured that your possibilities would widen in time.

LordReed:


Are you a student or do you work?

budaatum:



Indeed you have no purpose when you are born, except for that of fulfilling the desires of your parents to procreate. As you grow, the society you are born into gives you purpose through "religion, language, culture, tradition, morals, ethics, rules, laws, customs and conventions", to name a few. As you develop, you acquire a further sense of purpose, the ultimate one being to live, and would do everything possible to extend life.

budaatum:

In the beginning was the word (which for the purpose of this thread is "religion, language, culture, tradition, morals, ethics, rules, laws, customs and conventions" ), and with it, you sir, created, purpose. So please don't you dare sell yourself short. In the future, even much more than this would you do!

misspearlz:
There is nothing wrong with it. They are not blood related. Quote me and see me appear at your door step this very minute

IamD18:
They are blood-related.

The said lady is bloodily-related to her mother, the mother is bloodily-related[Raw sex] to her husband, while her husband being the father is bloodily-related to his son. So they are related. You don't expect a man to marry his half-sister.

IamD18:


Do you even know how many times my people have introduced fine matured ladies to me calling them cousin sisters? Do you know the pains I went through seeing such looking ladies as cousin sisters from the mother of my uncle's step brother's biological father of her step son?

E dey pain wella