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Acidosis:
He is not your husband. That is the first reality you need to accept. However, your kids are entitled to some form of child support.

Yes I know that, no need to remind me

This state called Ogun I don wash my hands commot from anything concern them

E go reduce the price of rice ? na my own concern be that

No plans yet

Now everyone knows

Calabar

Every disappointment is a blessing

Death is not your portion you will live to rule Nigeria to a better nation

Where were her family members for a whole year. May her soul rest in peace

How to apply?

I like her courage

Leaf

Happy blessed birthday

They shame is too much but suicide wasn’t the best

Russia

So painful

Dimples2022:
These children have a grandmother that is happy to fill the gap and a young mum. People just make up conclusions that suits their narrative! Some psycho even advised op to ‘$ell’ her children! Who the f…k comes to nl for input?

Op! Everything is fine! Just calm down give birth, go home and raise all 3 of your children with your family! Let your mum and your brothers support you while you nurture and work for your childrens schooling and future. Being right isn’t going to make these men take responsibility so pull your socks up, team up with your family and support your family and children! You’re 21 so you have all the time in the world to undo your mess.

Just don’t add more! Stop and retrace your steps! Best wishes

Thanks, God bless you

GboyegaD:
If your father bore 99% of your financial responsibility,you wouldn't be this bitter. A man isn't a poverty alleviation program. Know this and know peace.

My dad was a responsible man he provided 1000% for my mother and all his 5 children sadly death snatch him from us. I thank God for blessing me with 4 responsible brothers. If me and my brothers weren't related and I was a baby mama to one of them my life would have been so much better plus having a mother in law like my mother is a blessing.

Mindlog:
You read my post and self-classified yourself as irresponsible.

If you care enough you can open a centre and accommodate all these children with bad quality of life God will bless you more . I am not talking about my children because their quality of life is good by God's grace

Mindlog:
Re-read the highlighted, no take pikin brag is a wise counsel.

Not everyone will birth children, either by choice or health reasons but that does not give you the right to demean another human being who struggles with infertility be it male or female (not even the person who you quoted, who I don't even know whether she is a parent or not).

I don't have interest in how many children someone gave birth to, my focus is what is the quality of life these children are exposed to in a country where 133 million Nigerians live in poverty and are reproducing irresponsibly while risking the lives of the children.

Have you ever seen me before at your doorstep or a message of me in your inbox begging you to give me the money to feed my children? You were born and raised in nigeria going to Cambridge or whatever you call it doesn't give you the right to call me irresponsible if you have nothing better to say please keep quiet Mr or madam Cambridge

GboyegaD:
Worst is you aren't even catering for the children since your mom is the one taking care of them. That said, the father doesn't need take care of 99% responsibility because the child is birthed by both of you. You both should take responsibility.

Dem go soon knack your type another belle. Dey run mouth anyhow meanwhile, sense you no get.

My mum and I are 1 if she's catering for us it is the same thing as me doing it because she is my mum not his mother , even if I was working I can only bring 1% on the table and he must bring 99% whether you like it or not that's how it should be. but a irresponsible person like you will never understand because you are destined to be irresponsible all your life you ain't worth the MB am wasting on you

GboyegaD:
Motherhood isn't about just birthing children it involves catering for them. Stop insulting those who might not have had any for reasons best known to them.

Stfu Irresponsible fool, fatherhood is not also about pouring sperm inside vagina and abandoning the child for the mother to cater for alone. it is about taking 99% responsibility not wonder you were raised by single mother who didn't her right to take your father to welfare that's why you think the child responsibility belong to the mother and not to the father

BRATISLAVA:
He should take care of them. You aren't entitled for wanting him to take up his responsibility. After all, you didn't make the child by yourself.

But in the event that he doesn't want to be a man, you will just have to pick up his slack. Don't put your hopes on a man that wants to live without you, especially if you've tried talking to him about it.

Just follow your mom and help her out, grow your business together. When you can, improve your skills. It will be okay. Use the welfare you mentioned to bring him to order when you can and how you can. Don't let him get off easy then come back after 20 years to tell your children lies about why he left you. Document it.

God bless you dear. He cannot escape from providing for his children as long he's alive he must provide unless he choose to commit suicide then I will not bother him again

Klass99:
Lmao, I can see how you got yourself into this mess.

If I were you, I will look for a childless couple willing to adopt and put up this last child for adoption. I'll ask them to please handle the hospital bills as part of the process, while I negotiate a substantial adoption fee to help me start over in life.

It will be a win-win situation for all parties;

1. Your child will be with responsible individuals capable of caring for him/her. That child won't have to suffer from you and your baby daddy's folly.

2. A childless couple will be blessed and made happy.

3. You will get a chance to clean up your act and enough money to make a fresh start. Hopefully, you'll do better than you've done so far.

Foolish women like you irritate my soul to no end. Critical thinking is usually far from you people and you make poor life choices over and over again.

Shame on you idiot i can see that you are jalous because i am blessed with 3 daughters and you have none. You want me to give them up so i can be barren like you guess what we can never be the same because i know the joy of motherhood something u will never experience in your entire life plus a real mother that am I can never give my baby away not matter how much the suffering. As long as my mum is alive I will not give up any of my children for adoption , am not the cause of to your problem go and ask your ancestors to tell you the reason why you haven't been able to conceive. Barren bitter woman like you irritate my soul to no end too because you can never be happy for people like us who are blessed with children. Stop taking paracetamol on my headaches

GboyegaD:
You are the one who is in misery. You are the one crying and seeking public sympathy. Perhaps, living on nairaland is my job and Seun pays. At least, it is worth something. You can also apply since you have hands to type.

Some were asking why the men left you, hasn't your character shown your kind of person?

Tell yourself the truth first fool. You are a disgrace to manhood. I never asked you to pity me. You are an idiot and the shit you wrote confirmed that.

Klass99:
The Brat .

At the bolded, she shouldn't be having any more kids period. Whether with responsible or irresponsible men.

Motherhood is not for everyone and she clearly lacks the mentality, resources and spine to handle it. It goes beyond fcking and giving birth.

Why do some women sabotage and short-change their lives like this? We need to make better choices with self care and self preservation in mind.

Shut up barren you that have the mentality to be a mother how come you have been barren all your life ? Idiot

dominique:
So according to Nairaland men, a woman is the one to give birth, care for the kids, nurture them and also be the one to financially provide for them. E reach to ask what exactly is the usefulness of the average Nigerian man in this 21st century? Why won't a woman opt for an anonymous sperm donor when she knows she's expected to be both the mother and father to her child? Not one man here has berated the op's irresponsible baby daddy for neglecting his children. They said he's not married to her. So until he marries her, his children should starve and live at the mercy of their grandma? Utter nonsense!

As much as the op is wrong for giving birth without getting her life on track, the man is also wrong for refusing to provide for his children. How can you be living your life knowing that you have children with a mother who is unable to provide for them at the moment? Height of irresponsibility!

@op Franciscabless, don't let these deadbeat apologists discourage you from seeking upkeep for your children from their father. They his responsibility as much as they're yours. Just go about it politely, don't do gragra and appreciate whatever he gives. After this baby you lock up PERMANENTLY!

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All of them are irresponsible men who only knows how to give belle but they don't know how to take care of their offsprings in the name of the child will come looking for me when she or he grows up nonsense . I know the law say every fathers should be responsible for their offsprings and irresponsible man like him should be taking to welfare for child support and I will take him to welfare that's my final decision.

BRATISLAVA:
Lol. This woman, "by fire by force".

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May your God see you through. And don't have any more kids for any other irresponsible men, because you haven't yet learned to assess responsibility. Follow your mother to her business and everything will be alright.

Amen thanks I am not having anymore kids I need to focus on my life and make sure I deal with him well well for child support. Even if we will not be together anymore he should at least be taking care of his offsprings