Richy4:


We all know that she needs to take responsibilities, but is now the best time to hammer that on her head?..

Is there a tiny possibilities that U might be doing an honourable job of telling her what to do at the wrong time? that's just my argument..

No one is says she shouldn't be responsible...Myself, I was shocked at what she was saying... It was as if I was reading a post of a woman from 1950's.. but again, she is young and pregnant, please excuse that..

when next you see her post in 3 months time, u are free to say whatsoever, she might reason with you then..

Kobojunkie:
She is not herself? Is that a joke? So pregnant female politicians, doctors, nurses, teachers, etc., out there, many of who work even through their pregnancies, some even til minutes before delivery do all while not being themselves?

Richy4:

Again, the way that the body systems and hormonal changes of Miss A is different from Miss B..
U should know by now that body systems are not the same...I am not trying to be the devil's advocate here but people should give her a little time to breathe... She is young and going through some rough patches already which she created by herself... Scolding her at her present condition makes no sense to me..

Kobojunkie:
All the pregnant women out there working through their pregnancies are Miss A- types whereas OP specifically informed you that she is a Miss B-type but she is able to get online to post a complaint and even insult those who do not see her situation in the way that please her?

Thanks for your contributions, goodbye

ahnie:

Yu don't know me.and u would never know me.
So ogbeni just rest

Sirqt5:
u are still making excuses for her . before u know it she go open another thread about another pregnancy , or a third baby Daddy . she's technically not married to this guy , she go soon find another man . that she's pregnant is no reason to not tell her he truth . more reason to tell her now sef , before she gets belle for him again , or another man entirely . she's a sex freak n stubborn goat , she go still do wat she wants to do , no thoughts of d consequences .
she was warned on the other thread before she got pregnant for him . Saintmary n others warned her to not sleep with the man , to use protection . she no listen . she come born one kid for him , now another is on the way . she seems to think trapping men wit pregnancies go make them love n provide for her . 3 kids she no learn , u come dey say no tell her d truth . if she wasn't bringing innocent kids into d world i wouldn't care . it's them i feel sorry for

Saintmary:
I had to go back to the thread and what I posted to see the timeless advice I gave this woman.
In the space of 2 years she has proven herself to be stubborn and insistent on her own way.
She doesn't need advice, she will learn the hard way.

Franciscabless:
He met me with 1 child who is 3 years 10 months we only did introduction ,I have 1 child for him 1 years 5 months and I am pregnant with another one, he is working but he won't provide for me and our children I am tired of begging my mum everyday for foods and money she doesn't have much but she is trying her best to provide for me and my children she is paying for my first daughter school fee which it is not her duty to do so. I am tired of the marriage and I want to leave him please I need advice no insult if you insult me I will insult you back

OloYeOfEgbE:


I wish your confidence was right madam single mom

Saintmary:




I had to go back to the thread and what I posted to see the timeless advice I gave this woman.



In the space of 2 years she has proven herself to be stubborn and insistent on her own way.


She doesn't need advice, she will learn the hard way.

Jashub:
You better get yourself a job and stop being a lazy bìtch waiting for a man's money

rickpat:
introduction is NOT MARRIAGE...

if you want to leave,it's easy..just walk away..you ain't married to him...which advise do you need?...if you can take care of yourself and kids...move on... INTRODUCTION IS NO MARRIAGE...

if some married people are going through hell in their marriage...YOU THAT IS NOT MARRIED, THAT'S "DOING BOYFRIEND AND GIRLFRIEND" WILL BE GOING THROUGH HELL TOO.... INTRODUCTION IS NOTHING...move on before you born pikin full house with been legally married

pansophist:
The comments I am seeing from men here kind of break my heart. Is this the extent of how useless many (hopefully only on nairaland) have become? Most of you probably have fathers that stood by you and your mum when she was pregnant for you until you grew up, literate enough to know how to read and write. If he abandoned you, will you give him a round of applause?

I believe that answer is no, so why does the privilege you enjoyed in your infant not applicable to this lady and her babies? If her kids grow up to become criminals tormenting you, you would probably blame their parents. But somehow, are justifying a deadbeat man not taking care of his child?

I mean can one of you idiots quote me and justify how exactly not providing for your kids makes a man good? I would have quoted one of you urchins but you are too many, that it seems like good conscience has been fumigated from your heart.

Victoria938:
What gave u the audacity to get pregnant again for him without being properly married to him, women are the cause of their own problems Aunty carry ur cross

ahnie:
Nice comeback n analysis.
You're a very reasonable man

Jesslove:
A stingy man is more deadly than someone having cancer

libertyfather:
You are a bitter woman , see ur post...if you insult me I will insult you

eyinjuege:
1.Get an abortion if you're not too far gone
2. Move out of his home to your mum's place
3. Find a job to support yourself and your 2 children
4. You can also report their fathers to relevant authorities to get you some financial support for the children.

pansophist:
The old rule of getting married before being pregnant will save lots of women from problems like this. Usually, if a man decides to marry you, then he is most likely committed to providing for the family. Even if I blame him for not providing, are you not smart enough to be pregnant for such a man? and to be pregnant the second time?

Most humans when I analyze their case, they are the architect of their own problems.

pansophist:


Another urchin.

I wished someone gave your mother that advice when she was pregnant of you. Wasted fart.

Kobojunkie:
The children are the ones likely to suffer the most.

Victoria938:
What gave u the audacity to get pregnant again for him without being properly married to him, women are the cause of their own problems Aunty carry ur cross

Sirqt5:
Right . Peeps are only wasting time advising her . U gave her several very good advice on there 2 yrs ago . It was as if u could see into the future , tried to warn her . U , Freelane33 , Justbehave , Pmoye , n several others advised her on d thread well . Somebody on there said she will get pregnant and pregnant and pregnant again if she's not careful .All of u tried warning her . She didn't heed , insulted someone on there. She will open another thread end of next year , by then she b pregnant wit 5th child . 3rd or 4th baby Daddy loading

Dimples2022:
These children have a grandmother that is happy to fill the gap and a young mum. People just make up conclusions that suits their narrative! Some psycho even advised op to ‘$ell’ her children! Who the f…k comes to nl for input?

Op! Everything is fine! Just calm down give birth, go home and raise all 3 of your children with your family! Let your mum and your brothers support you while you nurture and work for your childrens schooling and future. Being right isn’t going to make these men take responsibility so pull your socks up, team up with your family and support your family and children! You’re 21 so you have all the time in the world to undo your mess.

Just don’t add more! Stop and retrace your steps! Best wishes

pansophist:



And you are a stupid man. Oya come insult me, leave that woman alone. For woman, you get mouth. Come and yab me. Idiot.