Taribizy: What does the man mean "she is just my baby mama?" They both have a child together and he hopes to just walk away like he doesn't know he is supposed to take care of his daughter? Truth be told the new wife may be laughing now but will be crying soon enough. Baby mama my foot.
Advice to young ladies will be marry first before giving birth to children to reduce headache and stress.
Advice to young guys is if you cannot marry her pls leave her as you met her to live long and avoid curses
Where did you read that he's not taking care of his daughter??
Seun: I would like to address the allegations on Twitter about tribalism on Nairaland or that I am some kind of tribalist, because I was told that not addressing them means that they are true.
The more extreme variants of that claim are being pushed primarily by south-eastern tribalists who feel that south-western tribalists have the upper hand on Nairaland in their battles with each other.
Whenever they are banned after breaking rule 2 of Nairaland, they will go back to Twitter to lament about how Nairaland is against their tribe and how I'm personally working against them.
I urge you to disregard any accusation against me or against Nairaland if the accusers cannot prevent hard evidence to support their claims. These people make things up, and people just believe them.
For avoidance of doubt, I have always been a supporter and admirer of south-eastern people. I will never have any tribalistic bone in my body. I am a human who views people as humans first.
The micro-kernel of truth in the mountain of lies is that Nairaland is under-staffed. The staff I have do not moderate as efficiently as I want them to. They also struggle with following my instructions.
So if you go to Nairaland looking for tribalism, you will find it in certain areas, just as you will if you search Twitter for tribalism, because of people whose main business online is tribal trolling.
However, I want Nairaland to be better than Twitter. I want to improve the consistency of moderation on Nairaland. For this reason, I am in the process of recruiting more people to help.
Your moderators, not necessarily you, are the problems.
This particular guy Mynd44 is heavily biased in favour of the yoruba tribalists.
He turns a blind eye to trabalistic posts made by his tribesmen but will quickly ban southeastern commenters who respond to the post(s).
All it tells me is that you can probably read and write, but it is no predictor of job performance.
I'd advice you to take out time to review this video below till the end.
Towards the middle, the crew speak about getting a job despite studying useless courses like horticulture, mass comm, business admin, microbiology, and the strategies people have used to secure new jobs.
BarristerWumi: Ever experienced a setback ? Did you move forward towards a next direction that’s even better or you went back to correct a mistake .
I was on a rigorous postgrad Legal course here in the States, it’s one of those course that seems long and daring but if you’re halfway you thank God but you can never imagine failing and repeating because that’s just too distressful. For example, my course is not just read, pass & move to stage 2. It’s a host of legal work placement in different states, those internships are beyond stressful, far & expensive due to transport & accommodations.
One day on the legal placement I just decided I can’t carry on and I quit! because the senior staffs are just evil! I was getting pressure on every side and couldn’t take it anymore. Looking back, if I could just persevere more I would be half way now. When I quit, I had a 4 weeks cooling period by the board as they are also aware that the course is pressure. So of course within those 4 weeks I was ready to go back and manage things better but now i’m starting at the beginning again My mates are practically half way and I’m in stage 1 again. Still have to do same work placement that I’ve nearly completed again from the start. I feel as if I fell down flat 💔
What really demotivated me to even quit easily was that before I enrolled, I had an option of running my own firm & being self employed. Altho risky, with proper planning it’s a fantastic move & even more profitable
..The loss was too much for me to bear and I don’t know if I should move on with my initial plan of running my own legal firm alongside a freelance contracts with big firms like many do or go back to repeat such rigorous experience.
The program is a rare federal official opportunity with very low completion rate. However, the pay is not even a lot, it’s good as an achievement though but the challenge I described above can destroy someone cos I do I begin again ??
Nigerians don't quit, as long as there's a trophy to be won at the end.
FanRong: I'm sorry, this post is going to be a long one. But you're saving a soul if you read through and advice candidly.
My story We've dated for 6months and we've lived together for the 6months.
On our 3rd month, I found her interesting and told her I'll like to marry her. She accepted but no engagement ring or anything to show. We just accepted by word of mouth.
Since then, I've worked towards it. I've told her to call her mum and eldest brother(dad is late) to relate my idea and understand their feeling since it won't be that easy to marry. (same state, but my people and her people are highly selective in marriage)
After several persuasion, and threat that I'll throw her out if she doesn't relate the circumstances to her family, she called the mum. And again I had to force her to call the eldest brother. She claimed she did. And that's enough. I'm ok.
Meanwhile, there's this guy(her ex) she claims helped her when she came to Lagos. It was when I started accommodating her that I found out in her chats that she was living with this guy, but lied to me she was living with her Aunt and the aunt's husband was harassing her sexually and she wants to leave. She later told me the guy, though provides for him but has never had sex with her, even when she was living in his house. These stories doesn't move me since everyone, who is not a virgin has an ex. So I forgave all that and we moved on.
She wasn't everything I need in a women, but I told myself I could train her the way I want. We continued adjusting to each others likes and dislikes.
I feed her this 6 months, provide comfortable shelter, buy her things she needs,(not want). Told her I'll do more and open a shop for her, if we get married, but she still confronts me asking why should I wait till after marriage? . I didn't allow the words move me cos Its my decision and my money and also, I'm used to gold diggers.
A good number of times, I see her as being selfish. If things doesn't benefit her, she'll not get bothered even if I'm involved.
Just this week, It became obvious to me that she argues everything I request her to do. From 24th Dec, we've been on holiday, we're always at home. 1. I'll wake her up at 9 and ask her to prepare breakfast for the family, she'll prefer to roll on the bed than do it. I'll finally have to do it myself so I can get things done and get busy.
2. I detest girls on eye lashes. I've repeatedly told her how I dislike it, but when she went to fix herself for the Christmas, she fixed the eyelashes, Contrary to my demand.
3. I got her some sneakers to upgrade her fashion style and look smarter, instead of the usual slippers and sandals she wears. When we prepared to go to the beach few days ago, I requested her to put on the sneakers to look more fashionable, but she refused buttressing that she must wear what she wants, sandals.
4. Few days ago, we had a heated argument and she said that if I'm not happy that she's living with me, that she can go, afterall, she has somewhere to stay. I asked her to go and she immediately called that her ex bf to come to my house. I immediately swung into action, took all her belongings out, before the ex will arrive, at the same time, retrieving the items I gifted her. While she was struggling to have her gifted items back, our neighbours heard the struggle and had to come and settle for us. She apologized and I forgave her. we were back into the house.
5. Just yesterday , we left home together, and I locked the door and I took the keys with me. We walked down the street together to the Busstop, I have almost no friend and seldomly greet. But there's this my ex girlfriend by the roadside, she saw me and yelled my name, I went to greet her and my Fiancée picked offence, left me without waiting for me. After that I chased her and told her it's nothing because I've told her everything about this ex. Before we could get to the Busstop, she demanded for the house keys and I gave her since she might come back earlier than me. We couldn't say bye. The anger was clear on her face and we parted ways.
After about 15mins, I got to where I wanted to make payment for the items I picked only to notice I am not with my transaction phone. I was confused where could I have kept it, the seller insisted I may not have come to his shop with the phone, and the phone rang as I called with my second phone. so I had to call my Fiancée for assistance since she's with the keys. At first, she said she was still around the Busstop but when I told her I needed her to go home and confirm my phones whereabout, she said she can't go back that she has gone far, shouted on me and hung the phone.
I called and called and called, but she didn't pick. Many thoughts ran into me. Who took this phone? My money? , my phone? , my sim card? . I had to find my way and trekked back about 4km to the house since I had no cash with me. And finally saw the phone ringing in my house. I was relieved.
The way she shouted to me on the phone got me unbalanced, I felt she would be fire if I get this girl as a wife.
We finally traveled to our home state today and I paid the bills for the traveling. My major plan of traveling was to see her people and do the needful before I mistakenly get her pregnant. But I'm seriously contemplating of canceling this plan and throw her out come January. I need peace.
Dear nairalanders, I'm really in the middle of the deep blue sea and the devil.
I need mature and candid advice please. Should I continue with the marriage plans or the redflags are obvious?
End this yeye friendship, abeg, and never allow it progress to marriage. A stitch in time saves nine.
haphizz57: Hi nairalanders, pls i need ur sincere advice on this. Should i build my first house in my Home Town or in the City. I have land in the both side. Which one should i start first. Pls be mature no insult
There are no rules guiding these things, and i hate it when a few people make rules for everyone to follow.
Your action/choice at every particular point in time should depend on your personal circumstances, and not on what other people did or are doing.
For me, i first built in my village because my father's house is already old/old-fashioned and doesn't look befitting to my current status.
Someone else with a different personal circumstances would be justified to make a different decision.
As is typical of me, i follow my own rules, not anyone else's
ElSudani: Palm oil is healthy, you have to basically drink it every morning to produce any negative effect on you. It is better than many other oil and that is why you will find it in one way or the other in almost all processed food in the supermarkets all over the world.
Omoawoke: I am trying not to swear for you destiny. I’m holding myself really hard not to curse the shit out of your father and mother. People are dying bro, what matters to you is Tinubu vs Obi argument? Can you for once leave this out of the argument and save it for another topic. I’m surprised that you seem to derive pleasure in this, same plateau that voted for your messiah Peter Obi. What kind of animal are you? If you can’t do yourself a favor and browse the Fulani crisis that has been going on for years before you were born, then don’t blame me for your stupidity in 2023
You're very stupid for bringing my parents into this. Despicable, hypocritical and cunning creatures!
You took a useless decision that has put people's lives into jeopardy and you still haven't been able to link it with what's happening to the Christian minorities in the north today. That shows you either have no brains or you're a hypocr!te as you guys have always been.
What was the frequency of these attacks when Jonathan, a Christian, was there?? Compare that with what was obtainable under the jihadic Buhari and now under the present m-m ticket.
If you were a member of an Islamic terror group in the Nigeria(let me assume you're not one), and the president is a muslim, Vp muslim, NSA muslim, Minister of interior muslim, Chief of army staff muslim, IGP muslim, DSS boss muslim, Civil defense boss muslim, CJN muslim, AGF muslim, Foreign minister muslim, UN representative muslim, etc, etc, etc, wouldn't you be emboldened to carry out more acts of terrorism knowing fully well you would be protected and there would be no justice for your non-muslim victims?? Who would punish you considering how naturally biased muslims are when dealing with nkn members? Who would give your non muslim victims justice? The AGF who's a muslim, the CJN who's also a muslim, same as the perpetrators??
You idiots can keep running away from the truth, but know that it won't help anyone, including you. There's no developed country with these levels of primitive religiously motivated attacks and massacres. And there's also no developed country where there's total absence of justice. All of us will be tied down in this non progressive, undeveloped entity with no clear victor, in case you don't know.
Omoawoke: Yes I am Yoruba, and I am sure you are Igbo. You people always find a way to celebrate evil and bring politics into it. We are all condemning an evil attack and questioning our government on why this has not been solved over the years. The Fulani killers have been operating for decades not just today. So tell me what Yoruba has got to do with it?
Your m-m ticket emboldens Islamic jihadists, just like Buhari's government did to them.
What's happening there is a religious war which can only be successfully addressed when this ugly truth is accepted and faced squarely
You can't run away from the truth just to defend your kinsman or your evil ticket, which is an anomaly and a recipe for disaster, in a multi religious and fragile country like Nigeria.
No one is celebrating any evil; we're only reminding you of the evil consequences of that ticket which we hitherto warned you of, and which tribalism and religious bigotry didn't allow you accept.
nnachukz: Until the community start serious retaliation not minding who among the Fulanis are involved or not, this will not stop. Those we call innocent Fulanis or ordinary herders are their informants and sometimes they hide them after they are done killing their host communities. That is why I hardly comment on the armed people in SE who kill these people inside bushes. You never can tell what these lanky, malnourished looking devils are planning.
There's no such things as innocent Fulanis or innocent muslims.
An "innocent Fulani" is not a real fulani, and an "innocent muslim" is not actually a muslim.
Righteousness2: You can give her the cash but tell her that you are not happy that she could not come to visit you after your birth. Make sure you tell her your grievance.
@madridguy: Learn from Righteousness and stop commenting rubbish
I have been having this back and forth debate with my wife regarding cooking soup with groundnut oil as against red oil but she is on the negative. I had cooked Egusi soup with groundnut oil and it taste really nice. I had also done same with okra sea food and its really nice. The reason why I want to do away with red oil is because I have been advised on my cholesterol level and the odour from palm (red) oil doesn't sit well with me these days.
I want to serve my visitors Egusi soup prepared with groundnut oil but she's declined because she's not sure how it will be received....lol
Does anyone have experiences with cooking soups with only groundnut oil and how does it taste. okra, bitterleaf, oha, vegetable, edikaikong, egusi, etc
You can use any of the vegetable oils(groundnut oil, olive oil, etc) in place of palm oil for any food you want to prepare.
In fact, that's what's is being used abroad. No one uses palm oil, except Nigerians who traveled with it because of their traditional link with it.
Palm oil is has a high content of palmitic acid(saturated fat) and is less healthy compared to groundnut and olive oils(which have high concentrations of monounsaturated and polyunsaturated fats).
As you are concerned about your cholesterol levels, you need to avoid it as much as you can. Don't listen to these unenlightened Nigerians who prefer to use olive oil for miracles instead of cooking for which it's primarily meant for.
Iceberg3: Oga leave this matter for madam,nahhh,haba!!!! Biko,leave that kitchen with madam and busy yaself with something else,2024 is here already!
He's talking about reducing his cholesterol level, which is very high in palm oil because of its hight content of palmitic acid, and you're talking about him getting busy with something else. What is that something that's more important that his health??
Don't get involved in these you don't understand or care about.
Do you know what cholesterol is? Do you know its relationship with heart attack and other cardiovascular diseases? Have you ever checked your own before? Typical ignorant Nigerian.
michlins: the hate people like you habour is what is currently destroying the Igbo land. You people used hate rhetorics and propaganda to make Igbo people kill themselves in the name of fighting invaders.
But I trust my people, we're the most logical and analytical mind around. Soon many more will see beyond this hate and chase you people away. Peace will return to this land and not this fear.
As i earlier said, i thank God we don't gullible and ignorant people like you in large numbers, otherwise, the land would have become desolate or taken over by useless Fulani jihadists.
Difrent: Na LIE. From river to the sea : The phrase was popularised in the 1960s as part of a wider call for Palestinian liberation creating a democratic state freeing Palestinians from living within Israeli as well as from other Arab regimes such as Jordan and Egypt.
But you want Palestinians to keep quiet in the face of all they have been going through in the hands of Israel this past 70years? You be hypocrite
Tell that to your fellow jihadists
That's a phrase that summarises their hatred for Israel/the jews(a hatred started by Mohammad) and their desire to destroy and replace them.
What have they been going through? So, you think you can terrorize the Israelis with your jihad as you do in Nigeria and they won't retaliate? If the Palestinians discard their useless Islamic jihadic mindset and desire peace, there will be peace.
The Israelis just want peace and security for their people, while your fellow terrorists just want destruction, oppression, dominance, wars, as you always do wherever you are, like in Nigeria, Somalia, Mali, CAR, Mozambique, Sudan, Yemen, Syria, Lebanon, Iraq, Iran, Afghanistan, Pakistan, etc.
You hate peace. That's why the Indians cage you in Kashmir, Chinese cage you in Uighurs, Russians cage you in Chechnya, and Myanmar expelled you from Rohingya.
DomPerignon: Ignore Zionist voodoo luciferian heathen Satanist threads/posts promoting the ongoing genocide of the original Semites .
The IPOB/Ibo shills promoting the ongoing genocide are not Israelites as much as their khazar imposters are Jews.
They are the eternal slaves of Judas descended directly from Ham .
We must draw the line and understand that fraudsters and criminals of the race of cain are bent to claim what they are not .
Besides, the new covenant knows no race nor nationality.
This is a war between the true seed of Adam Vs the seed of Lucifer aka Cain.
The new covenant is in Christ and those who uphold Him as the one and only Messiah and son of God.
The eternal slaves of Judas who post here for Judas are mostly of the slave caste of Ohu, Osu and ume whom their slave masters promote to with fake Zionism.
Hold on to your humanity.
They are not Christians and definitely are not of the old Mosiac Judaism
They are an abhorrent impostor creed of phillistine Cainanites with no history , herritage or culture.
Christ is King and remeber that our lord said every human on earth is of God's creation (except for the caininite Jew rats).
Do not fall for IPOB cheap propaganda .
Nothing concerns Christ with Islamic terrorists, you jihadist
The life he preached is totally different from the chaotic teaching mohammad brought to destabilise the world.
How could God have visited someone and made him a prophet at the age of 40 when he had already seen life and was corrupt?? Pure nonsense. Previous prophets started their journey at the early stages of their lives. The only group a street guy/Agbero can form at the age of 40 is a cult or terror group, not a religion.
Difrent: Is it not christian nations that are the backbone of Israel? They are as complicit as Israel in this massacre.
People like you need to be educated. This is not a war between Islam and Jews..... It's a war between Israel and Hamas who used to work together. Please don't just go about behaving like like a dunce instead of seeking information
That those Christian nations are not doing what israel is doing just goes to show that what Israel is doing (collective punishment of Gaza people because of Hamas crime) is wrong.
You're the dunce here who goes around with rubbish information trying to mask the truth, either intentionally or out of ignorance.
The Christian nations are not doing what Israel is doing because they don't have Islamic terrorists at their border who constantly threaten to exterminate them and establish an Islamic territory.
Do you know what the Palestinians mean when they say "from the river to the sea"?
Id!ot, that's an expression to show their desire to destroy the Israelis and replace them.
No country will face what the Israelis are facing and do nothing.
If the Palestinians think they're innocent and want peace, then they should take on the Haram terrorists and expel them. You can't be assisting terrorists, celebrate their 'wins' and still be claiming innocent.
Racoon: May the same climate change happen to you before you feel and understand the pain of those hapless killed by fanatic Islamic terrorists who are hell bent on a well known annihilation agenda with backing of the government
Amen to this great prayer point against that j!hadist
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