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meobizy:
They want her to marry from her tribe. Her plan is to bring one of “those filthy things” home. E be like her village people don find her frequency.

Filthy things... Okay o
Like say if u see one demon propose to you you no go do testimony for next Sunday

Aunty be codedly saying 'I need man'

Maybe you are too flamboyant in your dressing
Maybe you dress to impress
Maybe you draw unnecessary attention
Maybe you show that you are ladies guy
Maybe you try often to pick ladies they are jealous about.

I have that air around me too... But I usually intentionally tone certain part of me down just to avoid those low life street boys... Cos they like to associate with such personality like a parasite

So, Oga live a low profile.
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Then you don't have to greet them. When you spot they are cultist , why then do you give them face... Why?
Learn to act formal
You don't have to act friendly to everyone.
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I can stay in a place and nobody will know my package because I carry myself with purpose and seriousness...

You can't even expect me to greet u, na you go greet me.... Which I will answer formally. These are what I do when I sense peoples roving eyes and inability to mind their business... ... Cos Nigerians can be so unreasonably jealous and evil at heart....

othermen:
Not about Osimhen though.

Yesterday, I opened this platform in a conference, and a psychiatrist who sat beside me had a brief conversation with me about the platform. Nairaland was his avenue to get a position for his senior residency over a decade ago…and he spoke about a litter of forums that were on the page designed to encourage critical reflection, dialogue, and shared critique around news events too. But he spoke in such a manner that this was no longer so.

I mentioned that there were other forums that cultivate that habit, but most users are unwilling to engage. They just want the forum on the front page. Then we got into, giving back to the platform by sharing opportunities and other resourceful ideas… but he said the platform has become a garbage of “Performative Engagement.” and other things about overly tribal sentiments … that I struggled to disagree with in the face of evidence.


The conversation got me thinking about deeper psychological undercurrents that shapes user (our) behavior.

I agreed with him that increasingly the platform has become a theater which he described as ‘a place where users chase visibility through shock value and speed, rather than insight.’

Outrageous news stories, often unverified and sensationalized, are uploaded not to inform or analyze, but to bait attention. And with these deteriorated content quality, most viewers don’t even have the patient to engage reasoned comments which get drowned out by reactive posts and one-liners. He argues the forum has cease to serve its intellectual or civic function, and that he left, because he feared he is not immune from such needs, which if not met, can cause him to be disillusioned, and to compensate, he has to respond quickly without thoughts, impairing his cognitive function.

So he spoke about the race and scramble to be the first to comment. Not to contribute depth, but simply to be ‘seen’.

This performative urgency “first to comment,” “front/first page,” “top reply” … he emphasized was some sort of echo or a kind of low-stakes celebrity, and a microdose of relevance in the users of the platform.

“But relevance to whom?” I asked. “Do you know most users remain anonymous, cloaked behind pseudonyms? And that’s there are no tangible rewards, no compensation, no credits, no career gains?” I persisted.

He said such behavior spoke to something deeper than boredom or habit and that it speaks to the increasingly fragile ways in which people seek validation online. The desire to be seen, to be early, to be reacted to…even without name or face. He points out that it offers a fleeting sense of identity which is hollowed out of real connection. He said, privately, users might measure their worth by comparing how they stack up against others, but that dangerously, the users become clouded in stacking up, that their metric isn’t insight or empathy but rather, what becomes prioritized is timing, provocation, and numbers, which in reality creeps into their normal functioning, as people are mostly what they are, indoors.



I didn’t know when I kept nodding as he said that Nairaland has become an extreme echo chamber of digital desperation. He added that it is not simply the platform problem although Reddit didn’t reward such behavior, allowing comments that appears to be based on ranking; but he say, all of our cultural anxiety from using social media is spurred by a fear that we nurse of not being heard in a world where everyone is speaking.

I left, saying, well, I will be less reactive , and not necessarily address the forum topic, rather, there will be an intention going forward, and a realization that attention is not connection. Noise is not relevance. And racing to be first is rarely the path to wisdom. That way, I contribute to the platform devolving away from a space where performance trumps substance, and virality trumps value.

The density of the diction here though... Looks like show off.. But the points are valid

When thieves takesover the money making machine of Nigeria economy..... It's a straight ATM with password

Only 2 million? From billion they make monthly from gambling addiction and hope illusion of frustrated Nigerians?
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Kai

SamuraiXXX:
This one don go copy ChatGPT

Very disgusting thing to do.. And most Nairlander gave him likes... Shows the level of I. Q and awareness of people on this forum

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:
The problem outlined by the OP is the treatment that decent married men who don't cheat and whose wives know will never cheat suffer. A man whose wife is behaving that way should dress well, go out and come back looking happy, hold his phone up and be fidgeting with the phone smiling. If possible, put a password on your phone and don't ask her for sex. Provide always and act like her sex means nothing to you. She will come back to you. Most women don't like peace, if you are not quick to create chaos, she will create it for you and torment your life.

The only reasonable comment. Everyone else is saying rubbish

iLearner:
We have been using 4.0 for almost 9 years now

My God... How time flies.... E don really tay I comot da school o

obiekunie01:
See his beautiful peaceful wife with clean soul and he still went outside look for serpent with beautiful face and brought her into his homes.

If you want to wife another woman int your home, look very deep to make sure u r not bringing in a poisonous snake into your home! otherwise, na you go hear am!

This him second wife? NA JEZEBEL! She will surely mess him up!

That's the first thing my gut/ instinct told me on seeing the pics of the second wife

APC and PDP element of doom have infiltrated LP with their dirty politics. LP now stinking out and looking like mirror image of APC.

Lyon looks decent and in form
Lyon to win

A real man should not reveal in public whatever edge or advantage his woman has over him. That's cooking up and revealing your weak point by yourself.
Which man reveals his Achilles heel by himself.
You should not even tell ur wife cos she will always use it against you. Men these days don't know how to behave like the leader and head over their woman.
Even if she's an ogbanje or a witch with a magic wand to control her husband fortune, the man still should not say it in public or acknowledge it to her wife otherwise he will end up losing ur voice and authority to that woman... Davido still a boy.. He should grow up.. Marriage is not talking carelessly for clout

PDPdestroyer:
When did UI revert to 4.0 from the 7.0 CGPA system?

Me sef shock
Bloggers ehn

Dem carry same destiny come this world.
Congratulations to their parents..
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I hope they won't marry same woman sha

b0rn2fuck:
They are about to promote this song

Mumu people... People wey no geh sense...
I dey go YouTube after typing this comment to go and feel the song.. Cos I never even see am

My gender dey fvck up sha when it comes to lack of self control.

Mumu man.... Na who u one deceive.
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You gave out your daughter for free in Aso Rock cos of connection, while codedly warming the bed of powerful politician so as to get close to power and opportunity. You are here deceiving us...
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Can you tell us how many contract she got and opportunity she got through that access to the bed of powerful men in Aso Rock... Are you saying she has not benefitted from the connection that free job gave her till today? Why not allow your neighbors daughter or niece to have that access since it has no benefit
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Can you also tell us the juicy contracts and deals you get during the time of Buhari.... why not pay ur daughter from the one u looted.. Must ur daughter also loot Aso rock?
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U people love to form morals when you have none.

Huge loss
Though I don't know any of them

Same thing I have said ... Only ozuor will be deceived by the antics and selfish ambition of Elrufai
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Only mumu and religious or ethnic bigot will think anything good can come can come out of Elrufai.

This is what's is said previously:

https://www.nairaland.com/8367872/prefer-tinubu-till-2050-than

https://www.nairaland.com/8367911/el-rufai-not-fit-govern-multi

The fear of election is the beginning of wisdom

Imagine passing the test.
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Sad that many reading this comment actually passed the test and think they are in a relationship

Tinubu is just destabilizing any state that is not ruled by APC governor.
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Tinubu is a disaster to our peaceful coexistence

God1000:
The double standard is mind boggling. This is how democracy dies and dictatorship is born

If Obama did any of this, it would be a different outcome, and much more outrage, reason being that he's a black man, the same africans worshipping Donald trump today would have labelled him a typical blackman.

8 good years in office without a single scandal


The hatred and racism is real in America

Will u shut the fvvck up with ur scam democracies that turn Africa to a poverty prison and America to woke country without direction

Oyinbo is million years away from us
Tell us how a medical students taught Anatomy using this anatomy suit won't pass and have postional understanding of anatomy....
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In Nigeria some foolish anatomy lecturers will be caught dictating anterior, posterior, inferior, caudal nonsense, something that requires video and pictorial demonstration. Black may be cursed to not use their reasoning anyway

Letmecum:
Try go hang yourself and allow us rest. Because nobody cares

U guys are too mean... Is it frustration? Someone is trying to stay happy... U are worsening her case.. Too bad for you lots

Ilamina:
I don't know which side I should hang out with

I like to hang out with black people because they are my people but they end up hurting me

When I hang out with white people, the differences in culture is too much for me

At the end I have no one too run too
I feel so hopeless

The only black people I like is Abuja, lagos and montessori people.. They are much considerate

I am going through all this because I am ugly and uneducated

If I was prettier and went too school, it wldnt be a problem

If u are uneducated, how come you speak/write better than 90% of Nairalander , does it mean most Nairalander are not educated or you are the one just making up things in your head

Abure finally destroyed this party with his greed

Otamendi99:
Kee urself, no one cares.

Ori e gbale

Kharol1234:
No be only you since tinubu entered this man just change face , then because of Babajide I dont miss journalist hangout

Really crazy

Islam is Anti Christ