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sexybash: abi may be they not hard the preaching of Ojugbani, i know pple who after so long of dating cannot stand themselves in marriage Op what ever works for you

yes man, I just need a relationship without any marriage plans

Ujujoan: It's really heartbreaking Efe, youths of these days have no atom of morality in them.
Imagine someone defending an obvious wrong, he sees nothing wrong in his actions!
I'm scared for my lil child, I don't know the kind of world I brought her into!
I shudder to think that someone like him may meet my daughter someday . . . Poor Cynthia!

I never said my action wasn't wrong, my problem is my friend leaking my wrong action to my dad which didn't help me in any way

naijababe: You can tell a lot about a person by the company they keep! Your friend slept with his brother's fiancee, you stole and sold your mother's jewelry without her knowledge and you come to an public forum to boast about how good you are at keeping secrets?! You are an unrepentant fool, your dad has seen through you and that's why he is the way he is with you.

girl I never claimed to be nice, I keep bad company for sure, I stole my mum's jewelry, if I claimed being nice I wouldn't have said it, I said about my friend that slept with his elder brother's fiancée, is that a leaked secret? Of course its not because I didn't say his name and my own name nor pic isn't on nairaland so how will anyone know who am talking about?

Ujujoan: YES!
It will teach her to own up to her wrongs and face the repercussion, and not take the easy way out.
Life is hard as it is already without having to complicate it by keeping secrets!

ok that means if I see any girl that has once committed abortion I should rush and tell the parents and whoever wants to marry her?

Ujujoan: @ poster Just in case there's still some hope left in you. . . .

If I happen to be in such a position (which of course is not possible), I'll confide in my parents first, rather than abort the pregnancy.
The end does not justify the means. Aborting a pregnancy doesn't erase the mistake, it only makes it worse.
That's how to be honest and decent and truly repentant of your offence . . . not aborting the pregnancy and praying your parents don't find out!
In your case young man, even if you went ahead with the new course, you would have lived all your life lying to your parents because they will still be under the impression that you are in UNICAL studying the initial course.
Even if you eventually tell them, they'll still be mad at you for lying in the first place.
How long do you think before it gets out
Eventually, and I tell you, eventually, they will find out. And it'll be much worse than it is now!
So don't blame your friends for telling, he did you a favor by making it open early enough.
You lie and steal and then claim it was 'mistaken' . . . nothing is done mistakenly.
I admonish you to change your ways before you cause a heart attack for your poor father.
It's kids like you that 'mistakenly' raped and killed poor Cynthia . . . people like you 'mistakenly' steal and rob their fellow human beings.
Your Judgement day is around the corner . . . repent while it's still early.
I rest my case!

you didn't answer my question, if a friend leak a secret of a friend that aborted a pregnancy, did he/she do him/her any good?

busolayemi: Wen u kip a girl for 2yrs wit nothin to show at d end of d day...who suffers d shame...na yeye dey wori u

lol... Must we date to get married?

Ujujoan: That's the problem . . . his friend didn't destroy his relationship with his father, HE DID by perpetuating such a lie in the first place . . .
It's like blaming someone for leaking to the police that you are a kidnapper.
Nobody asked him to lie to his father, he did all that on his own. He should bear the responsibilities for his actions, not his friend!
I think you kids of now a days should realize that there's nothing to be gained by being untruthful. The world will be a better place for us all if you do.

let me ask you a question and I want you to answer sincerely, if you mistakenly got pregnant and abort it while in your parents house and your friend quickly rush and tell your father and the man that wants 2 marry you, did he/she do you any good? For crying out loud a lot of people did and still doing what I did and they corrected their mistake successfully

You said I lied to my father that I should bear the responsibilities not my friend, did I ask him to tell my father? If he didn't what would ve happened to me? If he didn't would the sch expelled me? If he didn't would my father ever know such thing ever took place? If he didn't would he die? How was what I did became his problem?

Listen I have a close friend who 4uc.k.e.d his elder brother fiancée and the elder brother still got married to her? What happened? If I leak the secret what would it change? Now that it remain a secret what happened? Did it cause any harm?

Some women know the true biological father of their children but they keep it secret, what will it change if they reveal it?

I once mistakenly sold my mum's gold #400 thinking it was ordinary abandoned chain, I kept it secret, what would it change if I had confessed? It won't change anything but would only bring hatred on me

My dear, if my friend didn't do that I would ve still graduated peacefully because my dad would've know nothing about my lies.

kpolli: What are you guys talking about? Saved who's life? To me the OP messed up by snitching but the revenge was overboard.... It's like telling like using a sledge hammer to beat ur son for spilling milk, the revenge was too much.. The guy has destroyed a father-son relationship your talking about him saving a life.... Trust that myt never be gotten back.... When u have this kinda relationship with ur dad, you would know how it feels

Which fool's paradise? If the OP wanted to live in wonder land, it didn't concern the other dude...

thanks bro, and the most painful thing is the content of the text message that he sent which my father didn't show me but I know he must ve written so many things that made my dad this mean

Anyway, I just pray you are reading all this, if you are, look up to my previous posts you will see my 2go I'd, add me and let's take it off here or send me your bb pin

kpolli: You need to network settings, put off data services then restart the phone... But doing this, you won't be able to browse... So best advice, is to get an alternate way of checking ur balance

thanks

[quote author=Efemena_xy]No? So what are you then?

Born-again Christian?

What did you mean by "Aye" greeting then??!!



I'll do no such thing!

Na you I dey ask.[/quote]am signing off from this thread, mike, uyime said you are an active nairalander, I hope you will see this thread, I wanted to post it in romance section so you must see it but mods would redirect it here so no need,apology to you all that I insulted, am not suppose to bring this issue on a public forum but I did because that's the only place I can reach the person am looking for

[quote author=Efemena_xy]^^ Ah!

So @poster, despite all your forming, you be cultist??

Mtcheew![/quote]and who mentioned cultism here?

[quote author=Efemena_xy]But that's just it! You don't sound fine, man...

Now abeg forget all these people who don't really "understand English" or where you're coming from. Ignore them jare...

But er, maybe you fit help me out here...wetin be "Aye" greeting?? [/quote]go ask nigga raw,eedris abdulkareem or that small boy yung 6ix,

PHIPEX: First I will like to know how u graduated in 2011 and is about to go for Service in 2013 (2 yrs after u said you graduated)?

Check all the advice you've gotten so far and ask yourself how come everybody is against your line of thinking, it's either all of them are wrong or your line of thought seems foolish. If I were you, I would've have looked for that friend to appreciate him specially because (like Joseph's brethren) he thought evil against you but God turned around for your good. You don't sound like a nice person because after you hurt your friend (first and probably never asked for forgiveness) for making him lose the trust of his girlfriend you came here and want to play the victim for losing the trust of your father. Threatening him online and making his name public will probably do you more harm in the future because if anything happens to him henceforth, he can hold it against you even legally using this your "epistle" as evidence. "Plenty words are not enough for a foolish person"...be wise.

did you sch in nigeria? If you do you will know the possibilities of graduating in 2011 and serve in 2013(am even lucky) go 2 political science department in unical and investigate

Anyway I wish michael ekanem is reading this

lumideezle: Mumu wetin dem dey read again to understand. Elders are telling you the truth you are speaking swahili. Mchew.

Lemi tell u, micheal saved you from yourself, because you got addmitted eventually does not mean anything, don't you know what they call transcripts, the lie would have eventually come out. Imagine you trying to apply for a masters degree and your transcript reaches them, mainwhile your dad had said you started school in 05 how would you explain the 2year gap, even at a job interview how would you defend the two years you lost. Lies like those keep hunting you and could actually destroy you when the stakes are high. Anyways thank that your friend 4 saving you from your own stupidity. The fact that u went to join cult and you come here making it so obvious tells me the type of fool and pus5y you are.
I can also bet that since you finished in 2011 you havnt done anything resornable with your life, like a Job or business if not you won't be looking for someone to blame for your lazyness, stupidity and obvious lack of commonsense.
My opinion live with it.

its obvious that you are an illiterate,after reading what I wrote you still couldn't understand , your comment is off point, for your information my problem is the disconnection between me and my dad, if its about what I do with my life, guy am doing just fine

coogar: may amadioha impregnate you with bow-legged albino midgets.....
you ruined my relationship with that cesspit you called a mouth by exposing my secrets to my sweetheart - you dug your own grave so quit yapping and whining all over the place. my original plan was to have you disowned by your dad - same way as my girlfriend left me 8 yrs ago. however, i am working towards your dad striking your name out of his will cos you have been a bad son.

if na mike he for 1st holla , anyway you Are not

ubong560: Now without talking much, do the expensive analysis and drop the answer.

To me, a lady is more expensive the a car. I know how much i spend on the two so am a living testimony.

is this not the question asked this afternoon on NTA @ contact magazine?

@ topic , a car is more expensive to maintain because I don't even believe in spending money on a woman

ojofu: I think u should thank him for revealing ur secret because after 2yr in the uni, u were still not a student until ur parents knew abt it. Do u think you would have graduated in 2011 if this ur "secret" still remains a secret by 2011? U may think that he backstabbed u by revealing ur secret but his action made u a student and now a graduate. If i were u, i will thank him and move on. Sorry abt ur Mum. By the way, why u reveal him own secret?

read my post again, if he didn't I would've graduated in 2009

coogar: let me ask for his forgiveness - before i get stabbed on my sternum!



the fubbyy dude is obviously a numbskull.....
has he actually thought he might have denied his friend a good wife material by leaking the secrets of the ekaette affair to the girlfriend? he's hurt of his relationship with his dad - who knows how heartbroken his friend was or still is?

sharrap, read my post again and you will understand

Morayo747: You started it mate. Why did you tell his GF what was supposed to be a secret between you both too?? Seriously coming here to play the victim just makes you look like a foolish unjust person.

read my post again and you will comprehend

Now I know some people can't just understand english language, for all of you saying he did me good by bringing me back by telling my father, does it mean you all didn't see where I said I got another admission(better course) before he did that, anyway this thread is not actually for nairalanders, I only put it here to reach michael because I was told he's here

Caracta: Why the grudge? It's been a long time. Grow up and move on with your life. Stop acting like a child. Betrayal is a common thing, no big deal. If many of us tell you what our friends have done to us, you'd appreciate what this Mike guy did to/for you.

With the way your friend's name is on this thread, you obviously can't keep a secret. You need to heed to your own advice too.

if I can get his facebook,2go,pin,whatsapp,phone number or e mail address I wouldn't have open this thread but I did this because this is the only narrow way to reach him, mike if you are here add me on 2go jumbo138

[quote author=Efemena_xy]@Poster, I can't help but ask: Now that all of this has happened, what is it that you want? I mean what do you hope to gain from this?

Eight ( 8 ) years is a very long time to hold a grudge against someone and it shows you've got a very unforgiving spirit! How can you hope to progress in life, yet at the same time wishing the worst fate ever on your fellow man? Your one time best "friend"?

People learn from their mistakes, but it seems you haven't. You're here advising the whole world to keep their secrets to themselves, yet you're here broadcasting to all and sundry the ins-and-outs of your life.

You need to sit up and let bygones be bygones. Like a few of the posters have already pointed out, your friend did really do you a favour by alerting your dad to your deception. You had 2 good years to come clean but never did. I too doubt if you ever would have. And even then, if you'd succeeded in securing the second admission you mentioned, without telling your dad, do you honestly think that would have made everything allright? It still wouldn't have changed the fact that you more or less swindled your dad for 2 years as a "pretend" student. However which way you look at it, it was 2 years worth of money down the drain.

Your late mother (bless her), saw fit to give you a second chance. A truly good woman who looked past your deception, forgave you and helped you start afresh. Shouldn't you learn something from her here? If she was willing to give you a second chance, then who are you to deny that to others (moreso your ex-best friend)? People like you give Christianity a bad name. I'm sorry but you really are coming across as a hypocrite.

Now, to your dad. You can't blame him for not trusting you. Come on, 2 years? But even then, look at it this way...It's an opportunity to prove to him, while he's still around, that you...his son, are not a lost cause. Prove to him, not by your words (talk afterall is cheap) - but by your actions that you've turned a new leaf, are worthy to be called his son and would do everything within your power to righten the wrongs.

I can't quite place my finger on it, but something in your post tells me that you're a very dependant person and you blame others if you don't get the "help" you feel you deserved. Start by manning up and taking responsibility for your actions, for what you want in life, for what you want to achieve. Just because your dad's unwilling to sponsor you on a Masters programme abroad doesn't mean the world's going to come to an end. There would always be other opportunities to do it. You never say NEVER unless you're six feet under. (As long as you're alive, there IS always hope to achieve what you want).

Naming and "shaming" someone publicly on an online public forum won't change things for you. If anything, it reeks of immaturity. Start by modifying your post and take your friend's name out. Learn to forgive, forget and move on. Your mother (bless her) did it, so be her son and follow her example.[/quote]first of all, my primary reason of writing this here is not just to advice people to hold their secrets but because I was told by som1 that mike is an active nairalander so I did this with hope that he will read to know that what he did 8years back is dealing with me now,I know he must ve forgotten but I want him to remember

2ndly, I did forgive him that period but the issue has risen again and cost me a lot and I've withdrawn my forgiveness,

Mike ekanem aka aye malinga(I hope you are here) didn't do me any favour by telling my dad, if he didn't I would've continue with my new admission which I gained successfully and I would still be the son I was to my dad, if you cheat on your partner and your friend snitch on you by telling your soul mate, of course the snitch might stop you from cheating but do you think the friend has done well by spying and snitching? Hell no

Mike, even my father knows that you are not a good friend despite you did a good job,he said it and he was annoyed with you because of the text content (which I didn't see) anyway, I pray that you are an active nairalander like uyime said, guy you must collect from me o, I swear

Ujujoan: So what? The ends justifies the means
No YOU destroyed you life by lying to your parents in the first place.
Why can't you take responsibilities for your actions
Is that what you'll teach your children? That it's ok to lie as afar as you eventually get it right
You would have maybe perpetuated that lie till date but because of your friend, you were free from that bondage.
Staying at home for two years was the price you had to pay for your lies, too bad it didn't teach you that lesson

does it mean that you guys don't understand english language or what? I said I got the admission the same year but the text he sent to my dad ruined it

Ujujoan: fooooooooooool!
Instead of your kneel down and thank him from saving you from impending doom, you are here blabbing!
I really pity you.
Man up and take responsibilities for your actions.
Did your friend ask you to lie and steal from your parents That was all YOU!
So quit being a cry baby and find a way to EARN back your father's trust!
Olodo!

you are a bigger fooool for reading and not understanding what you read, I said I gained the admission but his text to my dad ruined it for me, mumu

blank: So you are not happy that you finally got admission? You would have continued like that and ended up as no future ambition. Your mum got to know of the admission problem and helped you yet you are holding on to your grudges. You even blended sef. Sorry for you.

pls read my 2nd comment above

greateros: the guy saved your life mor0n!

If not for him exposing you to your dad, you would av still be living in fools paradise and before you know it, 15 years would av pass you bye while others are graduating!

As for your dad mistrusting you, you should know that trust is earned and not bestowed - do your very best to earn your dad's trust again by being sincere and honest in all your dealings with him - that is, if you can!

anyway there are things I didn't write here, before he did that I had already applied for another Admission which I got but it was too late because no1 believed in me anymore, so I had to stay @ home for another 2years before mum came 4 my rescue

Mike didn't save my life but he destroyed it, dad not supporting my msc program abroad is out of that incident

I went to unical in 2005,the year aptitude test was introduced, after the exam and the money spent,I lost the admission,no way to travel back to my house because I have already told people that I've gotten the admission and no way to tell my parents the truth after all the money and the trust they spent on me

So I decided to stay back in school and wait for another admission, I started attending lectures,no one knew that I wasn't a student,it was my toughest secret,my dad gave me school fees,accommodation fee and other things to ensure that I have a quality education

One day I met this guy(he's a nairalander and that's why I opened this thread so he can read and see what he has caused me) we became the best of friends,I used to wear his clothes and he wear mine, we could die for each other, because of the excitement I taught I should tell him my secret

I told him,he promised to keep it secret,few months later we had a problem,I exposed all his lies to his girlfriend concerning his affair with the landlord's maid, he felt I have exposed him and decided to revenge by stealing my father's number from my phone and text him that I wasn't a student

2days later I saw my dad in calabar, asking me to show him my department,it was then I knew that I was finished,I wanted to play him but he was a student 37 years ago,(he knows everything) well I decided to tell him the truth rather than facing the shame in the department,he was disappointed @ me,he left cali on the next flight back to enugu, 2months later my name came out on the 2nd list but it was too late then cause nobody listened 2 me and my dad had already

vowed not to spend a dime on me again,but mum out of the love she had for the son got me another admission in 2007 and saw me through the four years in school(dad contributed but was focusing on his children that was truthful)I graduated 2011,few weeks later after my graduation, I find my mum but couldn't see her,mum is dead

Now its between me and dad, dad has lost his trust on me,whatever thing I do he must get to the root of it to see how genuine it is,he kept referring back to what happened 8 years ago,he's already making plans on following me to nysc camp by next 2 months to see if am actually going to camp

michael ekanem all these are what you have caused me,I just want to let you know that your stupidity last 8 years has haunted and still hurting me till date, I know I shouldn't tell your gf that but you went too far my homie, am writing this because uyime told me you are an active nairalander so I guess you are reading since I couldn't find you on facebook

I don't know where you are now, I pray not to set my eyes on you because korofo no go fit save you, aye no dey kill aye no dey for dis 1, mike you really broke the bond I had with my father, thank you very much

Whoever that is reading this, please learn one thing from my story, which is ... LET YOUR SECRET BE YOUR SECRET... Don't let it out to any1 no matter your closeness,friendship or the love

Thank you..

Since I bought this bb I can't check my account balance nor recharge with the phone, if I press *556# and send it goes as a call and not processing and give me my balance like other phones do

Please how can I ratify this problem

2buff: All Women in the clubs are lesbians. Don't you know?

lol But seriously, for most of them the club is just their only avenue to feel attractive and to amp up their self esteem.
Its always a funny spectacle when even the grotesquely ugly girls dey wan follow fine girls form wetin dem no fit be for this LIFE.

OP, you for still confido give that babe in a funny way sha. She for gree.
Na just "what's your name? What's your name?" you dey ask am.
You for psych am make she laugh, afterwards, she go open give you. All na swag



Correct guy.
I get one question to complete the Tori sha. When you tell the other girl make she leave her seat, she gree? or she tell you make you go chop shite?
Pliss I just need to clarify

why won't she leave? I was the one that called her and gave her the seat

sexybash: some times i wonder why pple worry over marraige issue,

i want to get married but i have learnt never to carry it around like its an issue, infact i dont even like to talk about it,

you meet a girl/Guy they do not even known you the next thing they are talking about is marraige, because they see that you are

financially okay and that why majority of the men you see today are lairs not because they want to but if you dont you wont get the girl. my advise to ladies is to be open to life if marraige comes yes,if it does not come so be it. what about revered sister nko, that why nigerian girls go spreading their LEGS for any guy in the name of marriage, i have never and will never be caught up in this euphoria of marraige when the time is not right, i am currently in the most happiest relationship of my life and dont want to be bothered with this marraige crazy ( i MISS YOU JAREY)
i will rather open my Legs to enjoy sex willingly than been lured to bed because of marriage saga

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kambo: @ op u say you're ready for marraige and will never be (ur planning to stay single for life? ) . Anyway i understand u perfectly, and have had the same wonderment u expressed. Much like doing it for the love of doing it rather than for the destination. On the other hand i thnk ths marraige focused b's will put up artificial behavior accelerate their process as if the relationship isnt to continue in marraige. And this behaviours can be so uninspiring, dull dry and fake. Babe go giv 10 watt smile act so polite but at home she's sth else. Fact is nigerians think typically. I dnt think you'll find some1 who shares this sentiments. Attraction and dating for its own sake that is cultivated and nurtured by two and allowed to ripen without a preset date, that can die without parties pulling daggers but rather shrugging it off shaking hands and remaing friends, i can add where there's no pressure to impress with money as if the guy is buying affection etc but this kind relato exists only among teenagers even some late teens think like u-owe-something cuz i laff with you. Its a shitty crazy crazy world.

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raqueal: I don't know where ya'll keep meeting these kinda of girls .

what are you insinuating?