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jplay:
sexy wish i was there 2 wipe d tears from ur pretty face

Have you seen her before to know if she's sexy? You just saw (f) attached to her and next is sexy. I tire for our guys.

* spreads mat

FynBabe:
You are the same as Fxwarrior. The same person with two different monikers talking thrash.

You sound so pathetic. Seriously this is all you can reason out. You don't impress me at all.

Fynbabe is representing Nairaland women well.

FynBabe:
You are the dumbest man ever! Na only you sabi calculate? Didn't you say somewhere that she should buy 200 naira fish and cook it? Are we not discussing monthly expenses? Or maybe you think I have a very short memory like you. Pleasse, don't quote me again. We obviously don't reason alike. My very first post you quoted was not even directed @ you, you took over it because you feel you are the only man who knows the prices of all food items in the market. Stay in your lane, biko.

Is it even realistic or sensible to cook something lasting for 1 month? Highest it should last is 1 week and is usually soup put in freezer to keep it fresh.

FynBabe:
Here!

You are not that intelligent. So where did I say it will last for 1 month? Does it even look sensible to you that 200naira fish will last for 1 month?

Fxwarrior:
A kilo of chicken is now 800 naira. If you buy it, you can put it in freezer. It can last for 2 weeks. As in party tins.

Its even cheaper than meat or is it eggs? 1 egg is 30 naira.
These things are not costly

Very soon fynbabe will talk I said they should share 1 egg for 1 month.

FynBabe:
You are the dumbest man ever! Na only you sabi calculate? Didn't you say somewhere that she should buy 200 naira fish and cook it? Are we not discussing monthly expenses? Or maybe you think I have a very short memory like you. Pleasse, don't quote me again. We obviously don't reason alike. My very first post you quoted was not even directed @ you, you took over it because you feel you are the only man who knows the prices of all food items in the market. Stay in your lane, biko.

Better quote me where I said 200naira fish is enough for 1 month.

Fxwarrior:
Are you aware you can cook sweet soup lasting 1 week with 1k?
See you ladies should bring this to men who don't know much about food, cooking and home management to get a chance to open office on top their head not well bred men that know everything.

This is where the 200 naira fish came in. Some people will just cut in the middle without understanding.

Fxwarrior:
Are you aware you can cook sweet soup lasting 1 week with 1k?
See you ladies should bring this to men who don't know much about food, cooking and home management to get a chance to open office on top their head not well bred men that know everything.

This is where the 200 naira fish came in.

Do you know you can take a girl to the eatery with just 1k and still have change? It doesn't mean that somebody else will not go there and blow away 10k.

Did you go to the same eatery? Yes
Did you enjoy yourselves? Yes

A kilo of chicken is now 800 naira. If you buy it, you can put it in freezer. It can last for 2 weeks. As in party tins.

Its even cheaper than meat or is it eggs? 1 egg is 30 naira.
These things are not costly

FynBabe:
My dear, we are calculating on monthly basis and he said 200 naira fish. Haba! Is that realistic to you? Na wa o!

Are you this dumb?

You and who were calculating 200 naira fish for 1 month? Better go and pack your clothes where you spread it.

Thank God everything I wrote is still available for scrutiny.

egopersonified:
A man who borrows for a wedding ceremony would soon start borrowing to feed his family.

This is the most sensible post by a woman I have ever read in recent times.

5minsmadness:
Seconded pls.

Okay. I will do that at my convenience although it would have been more proactive if I work on and finetune an already prepared budget. That way it will not be like am giving her an entirely new lifestyle.

Sophyrocks:
That kind of man hides money to count it first when he wants to give you and will ask you for change. He must quarrel b4 he releases money o. He will count all the foodstuffs and calculate how long it will last for a month cup by cup.

Are you referring to me? I don't have time to do all these things you outlined. Am just a practical and reaalistic person.

She's comnplaining about 50k not being enough. By the time the husband stops sending anything she will know that 5k will be enough.

Jahblessme:
Mr Warrior,
It's not just about the 50kg bag of rice but your seeming inflexibility and alternatives which may not be palatable.
For me,any man who does market surveys and knows the price of yam and fish down to their sizes
Odikwa risky!
Kerosene price and how long it will last.If it doesn't nko?firewood?
Fried yam for snacks..one day yeah but a couple of times? Come on! Kids may want biscuits,occasional yogurt etc.
That's carrying shrewdness to a whole new level.
I can only advocate such measures in poverty situations.
No insult intended but if you are married,I wonder how your wife copes.She won't even be able to buy something she likes.Maybe 2/pairs of shoes for 10/years or till the heel is torn to shreds.

Women work ooo or do biz by the side to avoid these sort of stories.

I De fear men like u abeg.

If you were attentive you will see I made provisions for a carton of biscuit. How much do you think a carton of biscuit is? Not even that costly to be considered.

Start from the beginning and read my posts. Not jumping midway like the other lady I mistook for a bat.

5minsmadness:
12.5kg gas lasts a family of four for a month. And its currently N3200 where I am. Its not that expensive.

Thank you for that. I was even thinking of asking someone on it. Its almost the same as kerosene.3k kerosene will last for a month.

They are just clutching at nothing in particular.

FynBabe:
@fxwarrior, how about refilling gas or buying kerosine? Abi you go enter forest go fetch firewood for them .

So you have finally left the borehole water issue?I expected you to continue arguing about how drinking borehole water is punishment.

As for kerosene how much is a litre of kerosene? I think 150naira. 3k naira kerosene is more than enough for 1 month.

All these things you are bringing are not even costly.

One thing I forgot to mention is that the husband will not leave the house empty. I know he must have left one or 2 bags here and there.

Last Bullet: Op simply tell your friend to make a budget on expenditure of the 50k ahead of the next allowance. Scrutinize it with her and make adjustments.

Outline the needs and want column. Draw a scale of preference.
I have a shoe and a slip on. I want a sandal but I don't need it.

I have 2 shoes. I want a third shoe Italian shoe but I don't need it.

FynBabe:
@fxwarrior, how about refilling gas or buying kerosine? Abi you go enter forest go fetch firewood for them .

So you have finally left the borehole water issue?I expected you to continue arguing about how drinking borehole water is punishment.

As for kerosene how much is a litre of kerosene? I think 150naira. 3k naira kerosene is more than enough for 1 month.

All these things you are bringing are not even costly.

One thing I forgot to mention is that the husband will not leave the house empty. I know he must have left one or 2 bags here and there.

Last Bullet: Op simply tell your friend to make a budget on expenditure of the 50k

Jahblessme:
@Fynbabe,
I'm just a bit shocked at all the extreme rationing.
So let's say a bag of rice is to last 1 month,they have to eat a particular amount per day. If by mistake d kid wants extra nko?
No mother would be this stingy to her child if not forced to by poverty.

Hope people marry people who reason like them if not ehhhh the home will be wrestling ground.

Have you seen a 50kg bag of rice that you said they will finish within a month, a mother and her child cos the baby won't eat it and ocasional guests?

I made enough provisions for eat as you want in my reasoning. Am not that stingy abeg.

kendraloops:
Oga, seems you're forgetting she has a baby. Wont s/he eat?? Abi the baby sef go follow dey eat yam, eba, beans just like that? The transition to these kinda foods dont just happen overnight for babied except in extreme cases.

Diapers nko? Milk, little little mende mende for the older kid nko? Mummy, our teacher say we should bring 5k for excursion nko( you'll say he shouldn't go, right, cos na una poor pass), i want to go to Paul's byday tmrw mummy, etc etc. Its not all about food most times, other 'miscallenousities' can crop up n you don't wanna be caught napping.


I for one, know n still remember certain painful bits of my childhood cos of yeye manage manage where it wasnt even necessary. I know how it affected my self esteem, so pls cut the woman some slack.


She herself has to forgo a lot i.e creams (vaseline/ori dey market), perfume (buy body spray for now like Sure, they gat good fragrances). Though i suspect she's living based on "what will pple say"

You seemed to have started reading my posts from the middle. Where did I say they should give the baby yam?

Besides you contradicted yourself by saying you suspect she's living based on what people will say.

Why are you suspecting again? Since the beginning I have been saying she's not speaking the whole truth on how she squanders 50k in a month. You are contradicting me only to take my stand all along. Are you a bat?

FynBabe:
His mentality is not something I can cope with @ all. I pray he gets a wife that understands him. A wife that would drink borehole water without complaining.

Jesus! What is wrong with borehole? You don't know the purewater you buy is borehole water repackaged with Nafdac number?

You need more exposure.

babeline:
@fxwarrior do u have kids?? Do u know how much it costs to maintain ones kids? There is no way 50k can be OK for 3 people in this present economy we live in. Everything is over priced and expensive and many parents want to give their kids d best they can give

So you live in this present economy while I live in the moon abi?

Some people keep mentioning toiletries.. If I give them 2big jumbo size tissue paper costing 400 naira. Can they finish it in 1 month?
Is it soap, vaseline or cream, perfume etc 1k is more than enough for 1 month on them.

kendraloops:
as per your friend maintaining a car from the allowance, tell am say she never ready!! mechanic go chop him own inside too o. She should look for a trusted fellow n turn the car to a taxi kind of. the poshness or otherwise of the car will determin the target clients. she doesnt av to paint it in taxi colours so she can still go out with it without feeling too conscious.

if she go that MMA route, chai, she don hammer. i took a cab frm the airport there to iyana-ipaja, i paid 3k. i nearly cried, just say i carry heavy load, if not.....

so, imagine how much she'll make from "owo deliver"

You are the type of woman that we tag wifey material. You are a solution provider not a problem giver. A helpmate.

Yes for now
I went on market survey
2k naira yam will last them for 1 month seriously.1 big yam like that was 350 naira. I know it will be reduced if she's buying in bulk.

20 litres vegetable oil is 4200naira
25 litres palm oil is 6k
20k is enough for rice, beans, garri lasting 2months.

These may be highly reduced depending on her location.

You think you are the one raising these kids? Na lie, they are raising you.

The Bible even said folly is bound in the heart of a child but the rod(cain) of correction drives it away.

Imagine some of them women here mentioned how you will prepare rice for a kid of 4 years and they ll say, mummy I don't want rice I want plantain. So you will enter market and buy plantain abi?

Another scenario you are walking to the supermarket with him and he sees a toy of 15k and starts crying, mummy I want this toy. To avoid embarrassment you buy it for him abi? Only to come and create thread.

The only time I will believe 50k is not enough is when they enter university not now.

Some women have friends that are a disaster waiting to happen. They will not discuss how you will earn money but will rather explore and expose different avenues for you to spend what you have and being influenced they will dip hands into the 50k and bring out 35k remaining 15k its actually the 15k that they complain isn't enough.

FynBabe:
Don't mind him! How can that money be enough for three people in a month? It's not even like the husband sens some mojor things down for them. From major to minor, she has to work around 50k. I don't even want to argue further.

I still promised to get back to you on prices of those foodstuffs you mentioned.

I presume you are yet to learn the difference between want and need. Besides a sensible lady here mentioned that some ladies are prone to impulse buying and materialism.