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halfricanadian:
Love is an illusion

Its not real it doesnt exist

go to sleep; do you know the meaning of love?sorry your heart got broken; you will find love someday honey; don't give up too soon

halfricanadian:
Op i'm with you 100% love is fake and an illusion love is not real bt a means to destroy others

Love is evil demonic devilish and its fake it will ruin u love is selfish nd its a new device to destroy humanity

Love is a very bitter word its an illusion

go get a life beautiful and stop displaying ignorance here

Omotayor123:
You are my BFF - Best Friend Forever

with your tribal mark like you fight with a tiger; who you come fit friendzone sef; na guyz go dae fit keep you for friendzone.

KashyBaby:
so guilty of these...but I didn't mean to..those words are juz came out of nowhere..

you are mean sha; I can only be friendzoned if I agree too; except I am not into you so much or I will just flee.

Vinshu:
Good thing my man doesn't like big asses

#TeamSkinny

he is a liar. End time skinny .

I like your humorous way of narrating your story,sounds pretty much fascinating.You need to have faith and keep the fire burning;learn to persevere and avoid giving up early on some of the things you pursue.May God bless your hustle and put big smiles on your face.Stay blessed!

mamagee3:
[color=deeppink]Hi all, my male neighbor who usually ignore me but secretly follow me comes out of his house the minute he sees me drive into my driveway especially when he changed his hairstyle.

What could this mean?[/color]

which kind tokumbor do u drive; desperate slut

lurlah2014:
THIS WILL NOT GIVE YOU A PASS MARK WITH ME

and who are u?? Smh

you keep collecting people's email and never send book

FTC.I agree ,plan B means you are not sure of plan A

alphabah2008@gmail.com

alphabah2008@gmail.com

And you are fat too. Lol

The mindset of mediocre. Smh

she is only alone when sleeping or else she will find someone to visit or somewhere to go

funkyglitz:
I dnt get d phrase "she don't lyk staying alone" is she suffering frm konjimaniac.....lolzzzz actuality no word lyk DAT exist but truth be told hw cn a grown up lady nt be independent or u Folo am for womb cm? wetin go cm hapn if una mistakenly hapn ad u cm dey into al dis offshore biz wey fit carry u comot house? if u truly luv her u cn hlp her out by visiting very wknd ad wif tym u reduce it to mabi twice in a month den wif tym she wil adapt.

my friend will be relocating to another city;and as such he has to leave her girl friend where they used to stay because she is still in school there; the problem is she naturally detest being alone;she just like to be with a company or someone even a friend;but never alone.So my friend is worried that there is high likelihood that she will cheat or behave stupid;because she hates being lonely and never want to be alone even for a day.He called me to tell me and want an advice. Advice plzz

Ok.. FTC.

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Related: How Successful People Overcome Toxic Bosses

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Bringing it all together
If you want your best people to stay, you need to think carefully about how you treat them. While good employees are as tough as nails, their talent gives them an abundance of options. You need to make them want to work for you.

Liar

Estharfabian:
I've lost count, really..... Five times?? perhaps ten times a day?

I am baffled you still come here for advise; when the signs are overwhelmingly glaring. I know it's painful and hard but that's life. Learn from the experience , move on and u will be a better and happy person. Best wishes in life.

Like u lol

Alocia:
I wish God gives sense to all the senseless people on nairaland

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U sounds so empty; it's not late to get a proper education. Idiot! uote author=missyadorable post=40061882]
Look at this one..i thought chasing every woman is the occupation of all men.Always bragging about who they chased,who they bleeped,are bleeping and will bleep...How women are cheap,falling for money.

Only a nonentity man is bothered over one woman
when he can go to the market and buy a new woman/women(as his money can get him)[/quote]

Your comment is childish and arrogant; it doesn't mean because there are many women out there then u should be chasing everyone.twwww

missyadorable:
Any man who is psychologically down because of one woman when they brag women are too numerous,cheap and desperate is a disgrace to manhood

Thanks for your advise;I will let him read all this on my page

halfrica:
Your friend shd giv her space cos if u love someone nd dey wana leave u let them go if they come bck to u it was meant to be

It hurts bt change is d only constant thing

Let ur frnd understand dis

U meet to part u part to meet!!!!!!!!!

Is really strange she is just not willing to talk to my friend and she is keeping distance

boxer022:
I believe that the problem she us facing and not will to let your friend know is a matter if the heart. I suspect that she has someone else be was in live with her before they met and she does not know how to tell him that. I believe she loves him but needs to take a decision on who she wants to be with. He should make her know that he understands what she is passing through and assure her that all will be fine.

Yeah my friend is no longer desperate to know;the problem remains she seems to be finding excuses to distance him;so their relationship is somehow affected

halfrica:
He can do dat if he desperately want to kno cos ur frnd sounds like he really wana kno like dis next min


If he is nt bothered he shd let it go shikena

U cant eat ur cake nd av it wen ur frnd is nt kim k

It doesn't matter;you are just helping another if your contribution is worthwhile

yomi007k:
I will comment on the issue wen I hear directly from ur friend.

Thanks man

niggi4life:
Rule number 1. Dont ever ask a girl twice what the problem is. The chances that it is money related is almost 100%, Na so i dey worry my woman some days ago, Honey whats the problem, u look moody and sad, talk to me whats the problem na, she didnt answer, she was just looking gloomy, i go siddon near am again, tickled her, oya talk na, whats the problem, na so she look me for eye tell me say she needs 200K for some business, Na so i tell am, i think you should continue to remain sad ooo, sorry i intruded into ur private life.

Learn from mistakes man, when time reach she go talk, if she no talk, bone am