₦airaland Forum

Acidosis:
On the other hand, I don't think you're prepared for marriage. Trust me, if you love someone you wouldn't mind whether they live in your house for a year or less.

There is absolutely no difference between the life you both live and the life an average married man lives. In fact married men even spend more; school fees, bride price, wedding, feeding the whole world in the name of reception, etc. but you don't see them crying over expenses. It is called love!

It shows you don't love this girl and you see no future in your relationship with her. I don't see the point in dating someone you don't love enough to consider for marriage. It is a waste of time and resources and a waste of mental and emotional strength.

I don't agree with you about love being the determinant factor here.

some married men are comfortable with a wife that's not working but trust me that was their choice from day one and in most cases she makes up for it by taking care of the kids and the home


however if he is someone that believes in a having a working spouse , whether or not he loves her , whether or not they are marries he would get tired sooner or later of being the sole provider.

personally I can't be the sole provider for any woman if I were a man no matter how Mich I love her.

loool
hymen = hi men
I laugh in Swahili , there is nothing I will not see on nairaland

etl available

still available

plot twist

Linda is paying kemi to keep on talking

the more kemi talks the more people visit laura and Linda's pages for hot info about the family.

DeBrain045:
A bitch is a bitch weither married or not, a prostitute can never get enough sex from marriage as far as am concerned.


See let me tell you a story while outing with one of my married friend male though.

We went to an hotel to chill our self on an evening i it was either sunday or friday, while chilling two prostitute came and met this guy, he took one inside about some minutes he came out and told the other one to relax that he his tired, lo and behold this bitches were his customers before he got married and even after marriage they still remain his customers.

you are very biased you know. what do you mean by bi.tch reffering to women and then you go on to give me a story about a man who cheats.

in your story the women weren't the ones married but the man

so the man should be the one called a male prostitute


yes

there are men who will always cheat

however if you read some stories here and on Instagram about the way some wives drive their husbands crazy based on refusing sex or being boring sexually , you might not blame the man.Especially when these days oloshos are very bold to ask men out and seduce them especially when the man is very rich and powerful

the richer a man is except for discipline and gods grace the harder it will be for him to remain faithful

These oloshos use all means to get men
including lies, blackmail, juju etc

Dollarship:
I got him

what's his monicker

DeBrain045:
Lol my friend married last year and i know what you are talking about i know marriage is made strong by sex but if you marry a woman because of sex only, that means it just a matter of months to for you to divorce the following matters to sustain a good marriage.
1 love
2 Character ( you attract your kind)
3 sex
4 Home background
5 others not so important

So i understand all what you are saying




BTW Most if not all divorce cases is concerned with character not sex

lol at your last paragraph do you really think so

in court they will complain of the character but deep down they know its sex

many men and women cheat in marriage becuaee their partner dosent satisfy them

KOPT33:
The money really isn't an issue. I spend more on night-outs with my guys.

The main issue I had is the complete lack of tact. Like, she didn't even feel the need to put up a good impression for me.

Many girls have something to offer, but finding them means that one must go through all these hoops.

lol
and that was how chisom lost a good guy

I like your maturity. I like how you handled the issue and didn't see it as a mean to desecrate chisoms vagina like most immature nairaland guys boast about.

it was a short and easy method of testing her and she failed woefully

some girls see going out on a date with a generous guy as a means of taking revenge for those guys who slept with them without them receiving any benefit

just like guys take getting a girl to sleep with them for what they spend is a way to be paid back for what they lost

like you said, this is a small price to pay to find your Queen.

I remember the story of your ex you posted on nairaland. personally I feel she was a rare gem. finding such a lady again in Nigeria will take the grace of God. Even me can't do some of the things she did.


a quick advice; try not to put any chick you meet on the same pedestal as your ex. everybody can't be the same.

cruchenutii:
You mean students that went for MSC or just on hustle basis, which one?

both

cruchenutii:
Ah ok, which means you're earning well in Nigeria then yeah? or you just like being here

my plans will see me earning very well in the nearest future.

I was just thinking about him.

A lot of naira landers reverted that guy


the last thread I saw his comment on wasn't funny. A lot of people insulted him for an opinion he gave which seemed harsh but was the truth

cruchenutii:
You know what women usually say na, relationship btw Nigerian & Abroad is more closer than Abuja to Lagos relationship

I'm not freaked by the abroad mentality
I know many people who stay abroad that still depend on their family members in Nigeria.

cruchenutii:
Do you also have plans towards that direction?

I don't have plans to travel out of Nigeria except for holiday or if a job demands it.

op
its just a sexual fetish and since he has the money he can try it out

some people are sadomasochists
some are homosexuals
some are peadophiles
Some dream of sleeping with family members.

As a christian all are sexual perversions that are against the laws of humanity and God

good evening

cruchenutii:
My Sunday is great thanks, First of all, do u stay in Lagos? Just checking incase I've been doing InterState toasting

ahahah
yes I stay in Lagos

even if its interstate nko

aren't you planing on going to Canada soon?

cruchenutii:
Yes, because you were expecting fried rice

loool
how is your Sunday?

DeBrain045:
Viginity matters.

Those men you talked about are irresponsible men the reason they married is because of sex and not love

you are not exposed .

get married first then you will know how important sex is in marriage

I doubt you have married people as very close friends if not you will know that bad sex life in a marriage can destroy any feeling of affection they both had for each other


google the biggest cause of break down in marriage and sex is number one even before money

nobody is saying you should be promisscous before marriage . however when you are married make sure you do everything to satisfy your partner sexually.


since you are a virgin you don't ha e to be promiscuous. read about sex and the female organ . ask questions from married people you trust.

if you are close too matured women splendid. the best set of people a man can learn about sex from is a woman or matured women.

most importantly , when you get married ask your wife what makes her satisfied. try out new stuff with her . its important

A sexually satisfied woman will be completely submissive to you even if you don't have money. Even if she chests for money (highly unlikely) she will still come back to you crying and begging.

cruchenutii:
Yes, like Toast Bread

ahh like toast bread ke


maybe that was why I didn't get the signal since

Suzzyyy:
You are too rude, this is 700k we are talking about, my life savings not that I don't wnt to help, I love him so much tht I cnt see him sad, I just want advice to know if Im doing the right thing, dassall.

don't mind that guy he is a misogynist

I want to also believe your guy is seriously indephted and all

but plot twist

him avoiding you and everything was a means to an end. He might have another plan with your money that you don't knownoff
I've heard stories of men who borrowed money from their girlfriends to marry their wives . yep it happens

you can help him but while helping him protect yourself too


whatever amount you choose to borrow him, make sure a legal agreement has been drawn up by your lawyer and signed by all the parties involved . There should be a witness.
your boyfriend will also state how he intends to pay back the money either installmentally or at once. if you want 1naira profit make or non at all make sure it is stated.

in the agreement , it must be clearly stated when the time for payment will elapse and what measures will be taken.
He must be present with his lawyer and one or two guarantors to sign this .( the guarantors must be verified by your lawyer)

take it more like a business deal than a thing done out of love.

protect yourself

if men can make women sign prenuptial agreement before marriage you have every right to do this

if he becomes angry at the suggestion ,then don't do it. its either he has a sinister plan or he doesn't really need the money or take you seriously. because there is no place he will go to for that kind of f cash that they won't tell him to do this.

Don't make anybody make you feel guilty because if you weren't there he will still find a way to bounce back

go straight to your lawyer now and ask for detailed advice on this thing you are about to do.



even if he doesn't have a bad plan and really needs the money for business , knowing he has limited time to pay and trouble awaits him if he doesn't keep to plan will make him sit up and do all he can to pay back

I know many nairalanders will come here and start writing big grammar , like their name is Albert Einstein


op
There is nothing in this life that isn't spiritual

whatever happens in the physical realm, must first be agreed upon in the spiritual realm.
whether good or bad, whether in the second heaven or the third heavens.

The spiritual realm is responsible for everything that has been created. it is responsible for what was, what is ,and what is to come

op even your existence was determined first in the spirit realm. No child is born by accident or mistake. your purpose on the earth has been determined long before you were born Jeremiah 1vs 5


However there is something God gave man because he was created in his image and likeness. God gave man a will ie the ability to choose and he made man begin exercising that will from the garden of eden. unfortunately even after God warned him of the doom he would face after eating the fruit.

So man always has a choice to either remain poor or be rich.

That dosent negate the fact that someones abject poverty can be spiritual authorities in the heavens

Curses and covenants are huge determinants of how easy or difficult it would be to navigate through life .

Because of Abraham's covenant with God , it was easy for them to flourish and take the promised land.

it was also because of the curse God placed on the inhabitants of tyre and Sidon, Babylon , Assyria and Egypt that they not only fell as world powers but 3 out of four of them became desolate lands.

Likewise the inhabitants of the second heaven(Satan and his cohorts ) have such power to place curses on man and make covenant with man. This ability was giving to them by Adams treason when he ate the forbidden fruit and gave Satan authority over the earth and Adams offspring.


our forefathers made pacts with idols that their generation must follow. breaking those pacts would lead to grave consequences.

most of our parents and grandparents became Christians and broke those pacts. poverty, generational untimely death, generational sicknesses , generational marital woes etc were some of the consequences of our parents decisions but they didn't know and went schooled well enough by the priests and pastors who brought them to Christ. Even those ones didn't know jack about spiritual warfare.

since demons and spirits don't die they have the power to met out the consequences of disobedience to these covenant


There is so much on this issue that can't be explained in just one post .

anyone going through any problem should just know that Jesus is the answer.

whatever issue you are facing has a solution. stop doing what everybody is doing for now and go specifically to God in prayers and ask him to tell you the secret to your problem and the solution. The solution to Mr A's problem is always different from Mr B. You don't have to go to any prophet or pastor. Jesus is in you already.

cruchenutii:
Ok sha, I believe you. Woman of valour, I've been toasting you since you have not said anything. Okay oh!!! This your shakara

you have been toasting me?

good evening

good evening

Colourich:
70% of Nigerian ladies see it as an achievement, you wouldn't blame the though.

actually it is

whether we like it or not as young people apart from going to school and greeting a nice job we also dream of settling down with the right spouse and having kids.


As teens we make a mental list of these things even of its in our heads.

so successfully getting married to a good spouse and staying means you can tick off on your list of things you planned to accomplish as an adult.

now , letting marriage hinder you from achieving other things in life is a different topic on its own.

GAZZUZZ:
How involved where you in the purchase of this vehicle? Did you insist on inspecting what you were paying for? Did you send a mechanic (your mechanic) to ensure what you where paying for was worth every Naira? On this same thread I have warned about Nigerian used cars and low budgets, those two things do not fit in same sentence, In future try to be more involved with your investments, a lot of you where also scammed by the "peugeot" managers previously simply because most of you just sat in the comfort of your homes and transfered hard earned money to complete strangers to buy Nigerian used cars from abuja and kaduna (as if money is picked up on the streets in the north)

To the next person that will soon Get scammed, wake up and get involved in your investment decisions, if a car will be bought, go and see it first, ask questions, if tyres will be bought, buy them your self! And send to the manager, if engine oil will be changed, have it changed in your presence. Do not just assume every one is to be trusted. my father used to say opportunity makes a thief. Minimise the temptation and opportunities, Do things your self sometimes.


Meanwhile this is an allegation, and we are waiting for a robust response from herbewilliams aka fleetdrive.

is it OK to use a Nigerian used car for uber?

cruchenutii:
Boo, I've been reading your Stories on this 'waka' things, the thing dey fear me

lol do not be scared , I don't do it

I'm a practising christian and even though I don't go to church Every other day my church is my conscience

that dosent mean many Nigerians aren't guilty of these things and use church as a covering
my moms aunt and husband were strong Catholics but when the pangs of childlessness was too much you know, you succumb to the advice of one or two people

at the end of the day the child still died at the prime of his life so what was the point of dipping their hands into Satan's things
Satan can never give you he will give what he knows he can collect . its not worth it relying on him.

enjoy your weekend

tintingz:
This fallacy is post hoc ergo propter hoc and appeal to ignorance.

Because he was the only one that died in the accident doesn't mean there's a spiritual cause from his parents, there are cases of a whole family died in an accident and there are cases where no one died, things happen the way it's seen, there is no proof of spiritual causing people's death. Quite being Superstitious, some people just find some imaginary illogical reasons to fill thier ignorance.

You said it took them years for his parents to have him, do you mind telling what they did before they gave birth to him?

I say dey waka you still dey ask me question

don't you know people get children from covens and riverine goddesses .

continue speaking big grammer

many children you see are misbehaving today sometimes its not their choice or fault its what their parents have deeper their hands into.


ask anybody about children gotten from marine world . they are always close to perfect but its either they just die untimely at the peak of their life to cause grief to their parents , or for the lady's they can't get married Or have kids.

I won't argue with you

but I will just ask have you ever had any experience like this ? if not don't argue.


maybe your ancestors served benevolent spirits or your folks are prayerful that's why you can speak big grammer like this