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banmee:
Bros, the truth is, most people all over the world don't know how to apply for jobs, especially in Nigeria. It does not matter what degree you have. Employers, even in Nigeria, are mostly interested in what you can do. Just like the OP, i graduated with a pass. And to make it worse, i graduated with a HD degree. The difference between a HD and HND is that when you graduate, you will not be allowed to serve in the NYSC. I got a pass not because i was dull but i just was not interested in the way the academic system is set up in Nigeria. My first passion was football which i was extremely good at. I was actually called up twice to screen for the under 16 and 21, but alas i did not make it. Back in the day, if you played for Abuede/Osjack youth teams, you most likely would get a call up. Anyway, what made me stand out was my love for things that most Nigerians at the time were not interested in. The way people communicate with one another and languages. I also loved comic books, video games, movies, novels etc. Armed with all these tiny skills and experiences, i could hold a highly intellectual conversation with almost anyone. My first job after school was in a marketing firm. I do not have a marketing degree. The HR rep liked my vocabulary and the way i presented my arguments. We talked forever and mostly not about the job. I could tell he was at odds with the fact that i had a pass and did not have an NYSC certificate. They gave me a chance anyway and i've never looked back since. Part of my job was mainly to interact with high end potential clients, especially expatriates. In no time, i was already a supervisor and later a manager. I didn't realize it then, but employers don't really care that much about your degree. They care about you, your experiences and what you can bring to the table. Most people in Nigeria are as dull as a blunt knife. They cannot hold a conversation even if it is to save their lives. Have you ever had a conversation with a Nollywood addict? O'boy, it can be very exasperating. What am i even saying? Have you read some of the comments here on Nairaland? With a pass, i've worked with BAT Nigeria, NBC, Insight communications, etc Focusing on degrees is half the battle. Develop yourself and the sky is the limit.

where you able to get a degree Later?

LordKO:
Constancy of change is only applicable to innate things. So to your question, the answer is yes and no, depending on one's ethical leanings - no apologies:

* Egoist - No amount of change can permanently stop an egoist from being greedy. One that belongs here will always mete out pernicious acts towards people around him/her - irrespective of the depth of emotional connection s/he shares with one. Emotional and material abuses are inevitable here. Sycophancy, perfidiousness and pretense (talk about a slow poison) are some of their major hallmarks.

* Narcissist - No amount of change can permanently stop a narcissist from being selfish and hypocritical. One who belongs here will always mete out both emotional and psychological abuses towards anyone s/he shares close relationship with. Sanctimoniousness and insatiableness are their major hallmarks.

* Egotist - No amount of change can permanently stop an egotist from being hypocritically disingenuous. One who belongs here will always mete out sly and self-centered acts while cockily voicing against them, and will always be contentious because of his/her conceitedness. Wannabe alpha males and wannabe female feminists/termagants belong here. Both psychological, emotional and material abuses are inevitable here.

* An altruistic and conscientious person is the only one that can permanently change from bad to good, because thoughtfulness/selflessness is his/her attribute - attribute is innate but attitude isn't.

So, yes, I can marry a lady who's of the altruistic and conscientious ethical leanings, irrespective of her present and past behaviors.

are there books I can read about all these things

Nnamz:
Good day. I want to visit my girlfriend in June. I would be staying for two months. She goes to Lead City University in Ibadan. She doesn't have her own place so I need help finding a place to stay, maybe a self contain or something that I can rent for two months. Any recommendations would be great. You can email me nnamdiumahi@yahoo.com. Thank you.

you might get scammed this way.

why don't you go to jiji to check , get the contacts of the ones you like and ask your girl to be there in person to speak with the landlord and sign papers for you

MissRaine69:
There is is nothing progressive when two females cannot reach a consensus. I am not here to insult you or argue with you, it was meant to be a discussion not an argument.
Have a nice weekend.

lool

whether its a discussion or not what matters is respect for the other party's opinion even when you don't agree with them

You know why - perspective

we all see things from different perspective. when you have an open mind even if you don't agree with the other person you can learn a thing or two from their point of view.

A lovely weekend to you too.

1kBabyShoesNG:
Good evening.

what can it carry?

1kBabyShoesNG:
Good evening.

what can it carry?

GAZZUZZ:
The 1989 accord, popularly called halla.

I grew up in the north and have owned and used every model of accord from 1986-2009. Lovely rides.

so why do people condemn accord?
apart from the fact that it isn't floodwater friendly what are the benefits of buying a Honda car?

lekbel09:
How can you speak like this, if it were you would want your nudes out in the public, two wrongs don't make a right

loool

I don't send my nudes to people and I'm not a slut.

MissRaine69:
So if this was a professional setting, you would throw your dummy out of the pram and refuse to engage just because we differ?
How about being objective?
Or is that mission impossible?

loool

Madam you sha wan argue?

I don't have to go back and forth on my opinion
I stated my opinion and you failed to convince me with yours
so wetin you want again?

chenzen:
the bastárd is a monster

do you know him personally? I mean the creator of this thread

chenzen:
the bastárd is a monster

do you know him personally? I mean the creator of this thread

MissRaine69:
Works both ways, your as a woman are also responsible of what goes in and out of your body. Many women are far too quick to have a kid by men they barely know. Why are you content in being a babymomma?

Yes , a woman should be careful whom she frolics with because she bears the pains of being a babymama more than the man.

However when a child is involved both are to ensure they give 100% to their kids well being.

You can't just take to your heels and after a few years return as if nothing happened. You don't even do anything to pacify the hurt woman all we hear is ' I want my son ' ' I want my daughter '

Pray Tell me, why is it that those rich Nigerian men who marry more than one wives don't have kids who resent them.

Because they know they are smart enough to put systems down in place to cater for these kids and their mums before the kids are even born.


A man will bring gala, Chin chin and coke once in a month and say he has rights.
thunder fire rights.

I won't discuss on this issue again. its clear we both have different views based on different experiences.

MissRaine69:
What you do for the child should be in the child’s best interest not because you want to get even. If he wants to be involved despite your past dramas with him, the child comes first.
This is why I struggle with some women, sometimes their inability to be objective.
The majority of women deny access out of spite not because the man has done anything murderously wrong just to “fix him”.

Finally don’t call him dead beat just because he is not doing what you want. You lay with him, he was dead beat then, you just opted not to see that.

I read through the thread and saw that your brother was involved in this

of course you can't call your brother a bad person ( no one will) and even at that the fact that he got the child at the end with the help of the court says a lot about the mother.

You never answers my first two questions
If you have never personally been in these women's shoes , I mean the ones who have kids for dead beat father's don't judge them

some men think that by bringing lacasera and gala once in months they have a right to that child.
some will even default in paying their share of the bills and have to be pursued around with phone calls before the "drop something"

why not just disappear instead of giving another mans daughter headache.

funmistiqueen already stated what full involvement should be like ( except for the chauffeur ish lol) if he can't provide let him just waka go

Being a dad is more than depositing semen and coming after 18 years to claim a grown up.

As long as there are men who think they can eat their cake and have it there will always be bitter women.

That's a fact.

I believe you live abroad? you should see what single mothers and some married women with kids go through in this lawless misogynistic country.
Then maybe you would still say a mother after suffering being broken and battered should be thrown in jail.

MissRaine69:
It should be a crime punishable by law for women to keep their children from their fathers after a separation. Married or not. You lay with him why is he “ a jobless idiot after the fact?” If the father of the children does not hurt them, wants to be involved don't fight him using the kids.

We think that we are hurting the man but really it's the kids who suffer. Kids need their father as much as they need their mother. Ladies please keep that in mind when fighting these proxy wars with exes. Kids are for life.

lol

Babe have you had a child?
have you had a child with a demon in disguise?

saying its bad is one thing but saying it should be a crime is another

so a woman would be knocked up, left high and dry to cater for her kids and still go to jail after being betrayed

Its truly a mans world mehn

you don't expect a woman to tell her kids "your daddy is an angel " when even Satan knows the man is his brother.

Me I'm just talking from a place of emphaty

I've seen what useless men have done to young ladies with their lies and deceit.

Forgetting they might have power over that girl while she's a fool and loves him but women always have power when it comes to their kids.

Men should learn to thread carefully to.
Also deadbeat fathers should be thrown in jail.

kushercain:
You have a point but as the mother you should endeavor not to sway your child's emotion against the father because no matter what he is the father. Let the child grow up and come to the conclusion that the father is a deadbeat by him/herself. This is where most women get it wrong, they set it to a battle line, me and my kids against the man. No matter the unspeakable things done by the father mothers should be guided against this.

Then men too should be more responsible and plan ahead before knocking up someone's daughter

Except she is a bad person no woman would destroy her baby daddies image if he supports her through the pregnancy and while the child grows.

They pains that come with being a babymama/babypapa is more than the enjoyment of twenty minutes sex

It is important to loom beyond love and infatuation when choosing your partner. choose someone who can be a partner in raising your kids and not a demon.


You don't expect a woman to tell her child the father is a saint when he treated her badly knowing she was pregnant.

It might seem harsh coming from me but every dead beat father deserves to be seen as a what he is - a deadbeat father

yes let him work hard to clear his image because while he was flexing the woman was going through physical , emotional and financial pains to raise a child

If you are not a woman who has had a baby on her own don't judge them.

Many men think they can just eat their cake and have it right?

deposit your seeds , run and then come back to free hugs.

kingkakaone:
A man who can control his sexual urge has 50% of life's problems solved.

When a lady discover that sex and their gimmicks can't move you, they call you all sort of names.
I know names I've been called just because I always want to think through all possible angles before anything.

One recently told me that I'm a robot who doesn't have the ability to understand how humans feel. She wants me to include emotions in everything but I told her I'd rather use my brain than to use my heart.

Is it that you can control your sexual urge or you don't really like sex.

Its two different things

If you have a high libido but have self control then kudos

If its the other one, well

some very religious men see sex as a chore. Na their wives dey suffer am.

barbwire2:
Still on this Story. Am going to expose this girl and her Facebook contact and a few of the nudes. Coz am so vexed right now

why would you do that when you allowed yourself to be played by her not once but four times
you even sponsored her birthday after she messed up

to think there are good women out there but its this snakes who provide fun you all want

I'm much more worried about your new girlfriend who is been threatened

This slut should be arrested and detained for some days before she kills someone's daughter.

Anyways if you choose to reveal her nudes make sure you are anonymous as possible. Send it to a blogger or download a VPN set up a twitter account as anonymous and post. Don't go and be shouting like mumu that you are her boyfriend o.

FunnyDude:
But she is.

I know what I'm saying.

She is coded olosho, you pay and get her cunt.

That's what I did.

I ordered her like uber for a service.

Till she saw how composed and educated I was.

I guess she's looking for serious relationship. Nah. Not me.

Even though I guffed big time but you know the flesh is weak against temptation.

We all mortals

She isn't my standard you know I'm trying to dodge her so that my family should not know about this.

Give me advice biko.

How are you doing with your freelance writing business?

so why don't you just tell her not to expect marriage or serious relationship from you


Seems you are an easy going guy. You can smile at someone you dislike because you don't want to seem rude

Just tell her maybe over WhatsApp that you can't marry her.
Most ladies at the mention of this will turn around.

Also you can reduce her visits by giving excuses anytime she wants to come. tell her you travelled , are working at your friend's house etc.

If she's smart she will get the message

If she's a runs girl like you described then she obviously knows what she's doing

Being straightforward with her will solve future complications

Except you want to kill her , put her into a sack and throw her into a river

na joke oooo no say I tell you

greatnaija01:
dude to be able to know U were wrong and OWN up to it, mehn... YOU BE REAL MAN. I salute you.

BUT the issue is complex a little.
QUESTIONS that may make her not want to "try again" with u

1) Have you dealt with your insecurites and issues OR you miss her because she had a better way of COPING with you?

2) In the last two months, HAVE U MATURED psychologically? HAVE U stopped reacting childishly to things?

3) IF SHE GIVES YOU A SECOND CHANCE, what would you do differently that will ensure the FIRST break up does not repeat itself again?

4) Are you dating her with plans for the future or just to "KIP KIP" and see how it goes?

5) In what way would you help her HEAL and MOVE ON from the hurt you have caused her?

BRO, if you can critically answer these questions in YOUR HEART... you will get her back quickly.

SECURITY is very important to ladies in relationship o.

you seem to have a deep understanding about life and women generally

FunnyDude:
There was a lady that's really disturbing my life now with s**. She is a girl of easy virtue. I used that means to bring her home one night like that, afterwards she started getting attached seriously.

Maybe how I rapport with her struck her emotion.

Hence, we bleeped for straight a week back to back.

Now she is blocking the way for the good ones to come into my life. I just came into the new territory.

How do I chase her away.

I'm tired of her, she is a girl of easy virtue.

Atimes she comes at midnight.

Advise needed bruv!!!

chai
That same lady on opened a thread for before?


Brother funnydude congrats you don get wife lol



maybe you should use broom or cele water.

However calling a woman you are sexing a woman of easy virtue isn't nice at all.

After all you are Also having sex with her , so what name should we call you?
don't know if there are things she has told you that made you think that way.

However, this babe really likes you from the way I see it. She would be hurt if she sees the way you described her.

When a woman is really into a man she becomes a beast sexually.

It doesn't mean those that seem sexually timid are more virtuous than her.

Don't let what's on the surface fool you.

Virginity is a virtue. Every man or woman should remain one .

However I know two guys who can't seem to get over the pain caused girls who they deflowered and gave their all to only for the girls to begin screwing other men when their eye tear.

Quality20:
As a man u feel comfortable with a lady who feels she owes u everything , but how can a man feel comfortable when he feels indebted to a lady he calls his wife or girlfriend. Presently im in such a relationship, with a girl from a rich family and I'm not really comfortable, I can't dump her but yet wish she leaves for a man from with a silver spoon

you are very correct.

stop receiving favours from her and end the relationship



You don't have to lead her on with " I love you " " you stood by me when I was down" etc

I have learnt that no matter how much a woman does for a man in a relationship if he isn't the one doing more he will find a lady that he will spend his small change and who will treat him like her saviour .

women don't understand this trick and thus treat their boyfriends like their sons

The last thing a man wants is a girlfriend that acts like his parents. Reminding him every time of what she has done for him and how he owes her.

how does one do online transfer of over 1million with first bank ?
dingbang

COURVOISier:
Hi sis,
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The names of the guys i mentioned are doing affiliate marketing, i mentioned them as a refrence to the original poster. .

thank you

na dia type dey cheat pass

All I see is a spoilt and misunderstood rich brat



Like mike Tyson and some of the greatest people all he needs is a mentor that will understand him and teach him how to use this energy for positive things.

I don't believe this.

They can say anything to discredit herbal medicine that has been a source of wellness for years.

If I may ask what exactly in the agbo causes kidney damage?

I took agbo iba as a child to combat malaria and nothing happened to me.

An average traditional Yoruba family drinks agbo like they drink coke.
If it were true there would be higher percentage of kidney failure among them ( plus their kids) than anywhere in naija

Looool

Im sure he never wanted to attend the school in the first place but was forced by his parents

Truth is his stubbornness can be put either into good or bad use depending on the group he finds himself around.

Sometimes people like this don't need force they just need understanding and for people to stop telling them they are bad repeatedly.

example: Jamie lannister in game of thrones

starring:
e go don pass 20 sef and I'm sure per fvck go be more than 2 rounds..

please don't let this incident turn you into a bad person

I assure you there are still very decent and faithful girls out there .

You just have to commit your search into God's hands.

NaijaOlosho:
Many of you don't understand this thing......the pain is too deep and you may not know so or be in blackface's shoe until uve been robbed of what would have made you great in life and in return, the person doesn't properly settle you...

It's not just a song.....it was actually an exchange of destiny...Tuface is so so wicked to not have settled with blackface till this very moment...

For those of you saying why has blackface not been able to blow with another song, i hope u know that some artists are just destined to make it to the world wt jst one song?? And dat song alone will gv dem all dey want in life and with that eye, many songs can be honored..imagine someone stealing dah song and has cared less abt u? Most times u may have 15 songs in an album but na only one go blow, does that mean d person doesn't know how to sing?

Make ona free this man jor

trust me , if black face had sang that song it wouldn't have been a hit

people like 2baba, wizkid, Chris brown etc just have an xfactor .

Shibaraba:
Reminds me of one elohor that year
The girl kaka na bakassi peninsula
I sha dey browse her steady
As I see say she love my IP address I come say make I milk her small
Dey use her funds dey use carry other okpos
The day wey she find out I think say na that day I go see my ancestors.
Na that day I know say yansh wey we dey see so dem dey use am do weapon
Me wey I legelege like sugar cane.
She use the yansh pin me on top bed come dey interrogate me.
I no fit move left or right,I no fit breathe, I just dey beg.
After much begging she chop another set of lies
Come release me.
I just do like say nothing happen ,use style say I wan go buy cigar
Japa season two.
Me and she never see till date.
Fear girls, fear delta girls more

hahahaha

what an interesting story

but how are we so sure you didn't add sugar to your story since na so you dey lie give elohor?