₦airaland Forum

Firstpage:
Are you calling igbos slaves? Because the guy you quoted is Igbo.

who cares

Fahdiga:
We the Yorubas prefers to live with peaceful Fulani herdsmen than terrorists IPOB

slaves

how did these people cross our borders

Yujin:
Last month I wrote down here on nairaland that the government will give vehicles to fulani terrorists publicly and I know that many glossed over that post. Today I've been vindicated. They're now arming their terrorist militia while foolish southerners are still undecided on how to protect themselves. I asked once again; are you all under a spell that you can't connect the dots?
This Commander most likely was killed by a fellow Nigerian soldier (sniper). The position the bullet impacted on him shows it's possible was done by a pro.
We are watching.

yes exactly...this commander was assassinated, he's a southerner..the jihad has begun

kill him and tell the press the bandicts killed him,am not a fool like the shit southerners who have no balls...spits!!

Vevejoy:
Plesse forget the errors and focus on the content.

So here's my issue.

I've been married for 6yrs and it's been a blissful journey- of course with minor issues here and there but nothing to worry about until May 5th 2020 when I'd say things turned upside down.

We live abroad and struggled to have kids but God finally blessed us with a beautiful daughter in Sept 2019. Child care being super expensive here, we wanted one of our moms to come help us with the baby when I return to work after my maternity leave. So on the eve of our wedding anniversary which was the 4th of May last year, I asked my husband for the say 10th time about beginning the procedure of bringing a mom over to help since I'll be returning to work. He asked which mom and I said in my exact words; "of course my mom" because I know that when a woman gives birth, her mom usually go to help her. Did that change our story? My God, marriage has been one hell of a thing since that day.

My husband said I am selfish, disrespectful, and want to dominate him. He said things will never be the same again and since then, my marriage has been a stress zone.

My husband is numb to my feelings. He's been ignoring me, I've been a nag I'll admit since tue incident last year. I now talk alot and mostly complain about everything whenever we are together. It's sad and I've actually had conversations with myself to ignore him and stop nagging but I continue to do it, I need help on how to shut up and observe.

I can cry from now to die kingdom come and this man wouldn't be moved. He cannot shift his stance because of me at all. He does whatever he likes and disregard everything I say. E.g before this crisis, we had an appointment to see our Dr to start trying for baby number two because the Dr's advised that since we just had a baby, it's best to try for another soonest given that we had challenges conceiving the first one. This man cancelled the appointment with our Dr and has blatantly refused to start trying for a baby right now. He says when the time comes he'll let me know. Up till now the time has not come despite the fact that delaying may impact our chance of conceiving again. What a life!� � �.

Also, he has decided that no parent will come and I'm back to work already. My poor baby who use to sleep till 9am now suffer in this winter getting up at 6am to be dropped off at daycare all because her father is angry and want to make sure he doesn't do anything that will make his wife smile. He'll rather spend thorns of money paying for daycare even after I've told him that I don't mind his mom coming. Mind u, I have a very good relationship with my inlaws, especially my mom inlaw so it's not an inlaw fight.

The worst of them all is that despite living abroad for 17yrs, this man believes so much in native doctors to the extend that I can't even explain. Infact it's something that I've always fought him about and talked against. I've even complained about it to his family. And guess what, when I talk against, he tells his native drs who of course has ignited the fire in our home. Can you believe that in this chaos this man took me on a vacation in August last year that he wanted to clear his mind so we can start a new chapter and be happy again only to tell me that I have been trying to use a charm on him in the past months thats why things got rough. He said the 3 women I am using appeared to him but he is stronger ����. I am laughing because I felt pity and ashamed for him. How can a grown man be this vulnerable to suitsayers? I have never in my entire life visited a native doctor for myself not to talk of going to take a charmI didn'tvisit the native drs when I was strugglingto have a baby and this man thinks I'llvisit one now to charm him. Wondering y he will even believe such a thing. Infact I don't even know any native doctor. So when he said that, I told him that if I had known that his change of attitude is because of this stupid reason, I would not have fought for my marriage like I did. Of course I got so mad and told him a piece of my mind. I am even ashamed of telling people that despite this man's exposure he consults native Dr's in Africa more than even the people in Africa. Infact if they say yes that's what he listens to. He has even paid a flight from here to Africa because a native Dr told him that his dad who raised him to be the man he is today is trying to kill him and he should come for protection.

I decided to tell his mom about the accusation. His mom told me she scolded at him and warned him never to say such nonsense. Well I just pity him and I'm praying for him. But truth is I regret my marriage to him because of these his believes. I just don't believe in divorce and don't even have the heart to move out I would have done so. Mind u, I am 100% independent so it's not an issue of being scared of surviving alone.

Well one Sunday night as usual I talked to him like crazy and he said "all he wants is for our relationship to work and he will put in his best effort with support from me. I said I want same and will put in my best effort with support from him too*. This happened around september and things have been like normal on and off since then.

I have a few worries which I'd like you to advise me on the way forward.
- My husband is heartless. No matter how I lament, cry, beg, approach him nicely. Infact no matter the manner in which I bring up an issue to him, he doesn't get moved at all. He stays on his stance and doesn't care. How am I suppose to live with a man like this. He goes mute when I try having a conversation with him.

- I have a weakness of talking alot which I acknowledge and I'm doing my best to work on it though I'm yet to change completely. But I can say there's a huge improvement. Infact I'm able to walk away now.

Can a marriage really work out out without a compromise from both parties? I feel like I am compromising alot but this man is doing whatever he likes. In all of these he doesn't cheat but has abused me physically 4times in our 6yrs of marriage which I'm still pained about. The worst abuse right now is emotional abuse and I've told him so several times.

We use to be an exemplary and happy couple up till this may 2020. What will you do in a situation like mine With? With a man like my husband who I'd say lacks empathy and a concience how do I deal with him? His mom said she talked to him but I don't see any difference.

I feel miserable right now in my marriage. Since I got married this is our hardest hit and unfortunately it got prolonged probably bc of his native Dr's who told him I am using a charm on him which he believed.


Help me out please

such a woman..
i admire the fact that you said the truth about yourself and your weaknesses ...then your husband has been brainwashed totally that he feeds a Man and his entire household in Africa because he is gullible,again i want to ask if you guys go to church or you are pagans cos you didnt mention that.. cos seeing a pastor will help a great deal

then ..
concentrate on your child and career, make sure you have plenty of fun to keep your mental state in balance,and when you have a chance to sleep with him,shoooot your shot and get pregnant again ASAP..that's all that matters right now..
nor worry,him eyes go soon open,and when it does dont forget to thank me

ogashman:
the presidency is always against any concerted effort made towards nipping the excesses of these herdsmen in the bud.


every Nigerian has the right to live anywhere in any part of the country but that's not ticket for you to torment your host or carry out illegal activities.

your right to settle in any part of the country could be revoke if you are fomenting trouble in that part of the country and sent back to ur region.

now you can see how the presidency is quick to defend the Fulanis,but did little or nothing with kaduna jos and and and

Dong2:
Preferably, call him garbage shame!

right bro.. garbage shame sounds much like his name haha

u dey find husband?

Fahdiga:
Done for Allah's sake

hahahahahaha

MASTAkiLLAh:
Presidency ran 440 like Ben Johnson just to release statement defending fulani terrorists yet keep demonic silence when the terrorists are on rampage

hahaha!!! the government are so quick to counter Ondo government,a sign of the kind of government we have today...
i haven't heard garba shehu talk about the killings in kaduna...

wait a minute..did i hear him say constitution?
Nigeria is already divided, constitution holds no law,if it does then the Sharia law will not stand in some part of the north..
fvck you garba shehu or whatever you call yourself..
you are fool(lolz) of shit no wonder i didn't bother to write your name in CapLetters

seunny4lif:
With all our midfielders, Liverpool dey play us like baby We need matic, Greenwood and Cavani
Fred is off in this match

fred is shaky and scared

seunny4lif:
Ron Keane said it too
He like lindelof

he's scared of bailey commiting a blunder in the eighteen yard box that will cos a Penalty

she's beautiful

Ottyn01:
Religion of Pieces indeed

That's what they are good at doing causing threats.

Terrorists

am always asking this question..

if Christians and Muslims fights in Nigeria,can Muslims beat Christians?

Christians sabi cut throat and behead ooh

make nobody just annoy me right now

Lyrics269:
Most Nigerian girls are useless

yes they are,and they are everywhere even the married ones

Jesse6:
May God bless the Nigerian Armed forces

but why are they beating us in the streets?

mrkunlex:
you think shey yoruba na coward abi, you shall see

anyway fingers crossed,cos the Fulanis aint scared of the yorubas

aint they banning it soon?

Racoon:
While the lacklustre generals are chilling in Officer's mess or Abuja.The life of a soldier is fraught with odds of these kind, but not in case where senior officers are cashing out of a self inflicted counter insurgency war where these poor souls are being used as pawns in their political chess game.

in the Army there is a difference between a soldier from an officer

Descortes:
Lol. You are in love

the guy dey package her..sure knows what he's doing haha

the old one had an internet mast while the new one doesn't...

fulanis doing vigilante in another man's land,i off

Bossontop:
Mumuric on d beat again oo........chai
And dem talk say d man na prof oo..... Lol

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Professor in Arabic studies,even cow get am for Nigeria,why are you surprised?

incogni2o:
Was just shaking my head for those naive bitter judgemental ones already crucifying the man


Nairaland, lalasticlala or whoever the mod that published that other one

You guys also owe this innocent my a first page publish of this article.

she sounds insane

BabaOwen:
On what basis are foreigners moving around like this all over the country causing problems.

Which kin nonsense be this now. How can a Fulani man from Sokoto be causing problems for Yoruba in Ekiti? Which kin nonsense unity be this bayi

they aint even Nigerians,but the day government have given liverage to enter at will this is the Naija we are in today my broda

slimcassi:
So sometime this afternoon I heard the cry of a chick through my window and the cry was non-stop, I decide to go out and check cos we don't have any new born chick at home, I discovered a carton and in it was this little chicken, immediately I asked wat it was doing in the compound was told my younger brother found it all alone by our fence and he decided to take it in.

Not use to that I told him to quickly return the chick back from where he took it from and he did, now 5mins' later I heard the cry again this tym I was angry cus I tot my younger bro didn't do as I said, so I called on him " didn't I tell u to return the chick back to where u took it from" but I did was his response,... then why am I still hearing it.

We went out to check and there the chick was in the compound roaming about, this tym I took it out myself just to b sure came back inside and closed the gate. Hadn't even settled down in my room to relax wen I heard the chick again 'ah ah wetin come b dis wan now' were my thought went out again and there it was......

To cut the story short I decided to keep it, funny thing now is the chick has bin following me up and down since, if I pick it up it stops crying and if I drop it it start to cry back(you know those sounds they make wen dey don't see their Moda) sometimes I'll drop my hand and it will walk straight into my palm cool and calm. It literally slept in my palm today and looking at it all cute I didn't want to drop it.

So I have decided to keep the chick, it's a native fowl tho. Thinking of a name to give it, can't really say if it's a male or female. Anyways I'll keep u guys posted.

beautiful pet, keep her and make sure she lives and eat healthy

BeeBeeOoh:





My problem is not Shekau being critically ill, my problem now is that if this present Shekau dies which we pray for it won't take his mother 3 days to give birth to another adult Shekau..

2seconds another Shakau will rise,they are legions..

who else didn't read the long story

faithfull18:
Some can be sourced here. My point is the exporting of labour as almost 100% of those who would work on that war ship will be foreigners so the next time they want to build again, it would be contracted out without any Nigerian learning nothing. That's my point.

yeah right

faithfull18:
They keep exporting money that should be used here to other countries. Then, Nigeria pays for other countries labour and keeps them afloat.

When they could have brought in few experts to do the construction here, Nigerians get to understudy them for subsequent builds, they get to spend less on labour that way.

and we have all the raw materials from scratch to finish...by the way why UAE? am fed up with this government buying weapons from the last time it was an outdated war plane from Pakistan and now construction if warship in UAE and Russia is there

yanabasee:
Why destroy it...

why not make better use of it and probably arrest the people involved?



Why are we good at wasting resources like this?

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For those people quoting me....




We blacks barely use our senses....


A visionary leader will make something reasonable from it....


Someone said the foundation of the bridge might not be solid...Yes, but rather than destroying it, renovate it to a better standard and reduce the cost....


Make the place a tourism centre or something... Then have someone publish a touching story about the reserve...

MayDay!! MayDay!!! The Fulanis are advancing...