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na so e easy? wht if ur spouse i snot loving u d way u love her/him? Keep enduring?

am still looking forward to the time the blacks will realize they are not low lives, its the govt that are really messing us up, its time to revolutionarise, we are gr8 pple, lets show these arabs they stink.

am still looking forward to the time the blacks will realize they are not low lives, its the govt that are really messing us up, its time to revolutionarise, we are gr8 pple, lets show these arabs they stinks.

@Poster, now ure been more realistic. But my advice to you is not to negotiage or pay for any property until youre here to physically examine the property and as well make proper and adequate investigation as to the true owner of the property, which we can do for you, the verification of the documents and engaging an experienced lawyer to perfect the legal part of the transaction. So please do some alone at first to make sure you get the best and real property after which you can move in your family.
Secondly, I dont know how long youve stayed abroad, becos dt also determines the environment you can live in. See? More reason why you should come in and see for yourself.

ok, i will tell him that, thanks!

@advocator, this banning stuff, how can one get unbanned if banned. My friend has been banned and was told to send his username to antispam@nairaland.com he did and has remained banned for three weeks now. Please advice.

House for N2m, or u meant an apartment? I hope ure not planning to live in a swamp? Be realistic!

N2m? I hope ure not planning to live in a swamp? Be realistic!

@Idi-Amin, you've said it all.

@oluwabamis, when some1 decides to keep mum about a situation, its either one is guilty of it or one is totally exonerated, but the latter action is peculiar to men, women will rather explode and get to the peak of their voice to megaphone their innocence.
Mind you, most of these females are very gullible and after reading through, they will start seeing their weakness and get remorse. Especially seeing all the biblical quotes that backs ds point in a divine angle. If they dont even respond by replying lets have it in mind that they are learning their mistakes or rather they are waiting for the pastor to tell them what response to give. Lets wait til after Sunday service.

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I will appreciate contributions from married people with not less than 5yrs experience. Pls be matured in your replies.

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1st identify ur reasons for lying, is it to avoid trouble to deny guilt or to boost your ego.  If its to avoid trouble, so many people does that, so dont get too worried about that, if its to deny guilt, you need to move closer to God, build up your faith, that way you will be guided to avoid doing more wrongs than good, consequently you will have less need to lye. Now if its to boost your ego which is the worst and most stupid and foolish one, you need to build a mind set that you cannot fool everybody all the time and what happens to those that didnt fall for your lies, they laugh at your back and you will even loose the little respect they had for you before you decided to lie in attempt to make them see you as a better person. PERIOD!

because they are d most gullible and foolish specie, am sorry to say. This is an issue that annoys me most about religion. The funny thing is that, if these so called pastors are real, it wont hurt me.
I rest my case!

@Jason123, what do u mean by the poster deceiving himself? I need you to clarify this before I comment on it.

PLEASE TAKE TIME AND READ THROUGH

This topic is gradually turning to an argument of religion, which is the right and which is the wrong, which is darkness and which is light, whose God should be referred with small "g" and which with big "G". I so much appreciate Missy, contribution except where she used small g for muslims, but I guess and want to believe it was a typo error, cos she has spoken too well and well enlightened.
Now let me try and advice that even though there's no way we wont touch the religious difference because her case is a religious sensitive issue. But lets take it this way, remove the religion she belongs to and bear in mind according to her that she wants to be faithful to her religion, now look deep into what the religion she belongs to sees about her marrying someone from the other religion, and I guess you cannot do that without being vast on her religion or rather investigate maybe via goggle about what her religion stands for in inter religious marriages.
This way we will not have to argue religion, which itself is a sin, cos no one will accept that his/her own religion is not the true one. So lets not start a religious war on NL, lets try help this woman make her decision that's all she requires of us. I am a Christian, but I love some parts of the Islamic religion and I respect those of them that are matured in their belief. My half brother whom I grew up with is a Muslim, a core one and I have learnt so many things from him, my Aunties and maternal family cos they are muslims. Yet I believe so strongly in my faith cos its working for me.
THANKS AND GOD BLESS!
@Poster, please we need frequent response from you as well and please when you decide, lets know your decision.

I have used NL to solve my matrimonial issue and it worked just well for me. Now I am having the best marriage has never given me. God will see you through, just have a good sense of judgement from what pple have been saying here, pick up the good, reasonable ones and make your decisions out of it. Note popular opinion always matters. Goodluck.

Whoever says fate supercede faith should have a re-think, especially if youre a christian. Your faith determines your fate. Take it or leave it. @Murphy G, I guess ure a muslim, if I'm right, then I can reason with why you advice her that way. My mum was a muslim, while my dad was a devoted Christian, I dont see anything wrong in a Muslim, but I guess we should look from her angle, claiming to be battling between her faith and marriage, in other words her religious view tomarrying a muslim. Marrying a muslim is one thing, but marrying an Imam, she should 4get her faith. So a truly dedicated christian wont gamble her faith.
Jesus' fate on earth was to be crucified after he has proven the capability of God, but His eventual desire was to avoid the cross, being in the human form, he was tempted to negotiate his faith with fate, he prayed that the cup should pass over him, but instantly he realized his faith is more important and said "Thy will be done".
Woman if you must marry the Imam, then marry him and win his soul to your faith, Jesus dined with the tax collector to win him over, if you married him and loose your faith for him, then dont consider yourself a christian any more, bear it in mind that you have chosen another way of religion. You cant eat your cake and have it.

Our faith should superceed our human desires and desperation, unless you want to dump your faith. Faith is total submission to your belief, meaning you are prepared to uphold and obey every rule in your faith, however, we have instances where some christians have married muslims and still keep to their faith and it never affected the marriage, but in the case of marrying a to-be Imam? Hmnnn!!! Think twice.
There are lots of divorcees and single Christians, just associate more with the singles programme and you will get the right person. Also I see a little rigidity in you, have this in mind, you can never get a perfect man for yourself, just look for one whose lapses or faults you can endure in marriage and 4get about being choosy.

This is interesting and true. Unfortunately I am one of those that comes from Badagry but cannot really speak the language except for the few I learnt from people around me. I was born and brought up in the municipal of lagos and my Dad though takes me home at times but not enough to learn the language cos we hardly spend 2 days at home. I think its a responsibility our parents had ignored, especially the ones that were busy in the Lagos metropolis, carried away with the challenges of career. But dts not enough excuse, look at the Igbos, my wife is partly Itsekiri and Asaba, I realize dt these ethnic group, Igbos speak the language to their wards weather they are in the village or abroad. Tht is wht our parents didnt do, take it or leave it, u are able to speak the language because u grew up in the village, has it been that ur parents were one of those who came to the metropolis for greener pastures ull be facing wht am facing.
Been proud of our root is another problem we have with our people in the Metropolis, reason been that some people take it as fun to make fun of u when u say ure"EGUN" this is a reason bore out of the way some people from cotonou who are also known as Egun live within the lagos Metropolis, some go without bra, "half nude", so they are seen as uncivilized. I lived in Makoko during my bachelorhood and had to face many of this stigma, but I was always proud to be an Egun, in fact they dont believe me, thinking I was joking about it. Its time we stand out and let them knw that we are not what they think we are, we are better off than most of these tribes. I started a family group on FB (FACEBOOK) to gather my family members together and do u knw that we speak Egun freely on the walls of each other? Gone are the days that we feel inferior, have i ever even felt inferior? No! I guess some of us are weak and not proud of their root. Check out this my family group link on FB, cut and paste this link in your browser address bar. http://www.facebook.com/?ref=home#!/group.php?gid=69157623424

These have been going on for so long in the churches. One of the reason why I prefer not to associate with the members of the church than to worship together and leave immediately. I dont even like my wife staying behind for any programme because I can trust anyone in the church with my wife.
The problem is that we dont have real dedicated christians in our churches today, most of the worshippers are there for one thing or the other that has no spiritual purpose. The churches are even the worst place to pick a spouse these days because that is where the prostitutes who are fighting with one sickness or the other, or who have wasted the precious time of their lives and finding where to pinch their tent, or men whop has been roaming the streets and cant just find their bearing but to resort into deceit and take advantage of the innocent ones in the church.
Am sorry to say, but I think these days when our kids says they hav activities in the church, we should not leave them unchecked because its a guaranteed way to do and undo.
I happen to share my office building with a church, and you wont believe that they keep condoms at strategic corners of the building. We were doing a general cleaning when we found out these. Would yo believe that during the night vigils some male and females take time to the corridors at midnight to have sex? B4 I got married when I was yet a dedicated christian, my girlfriend who is an Ursher in the church was having affair with her pastor. I have so many live experiences about this that I may go on and on.
In a nutshell, I will say the pastors are busy preaching prosperity than touching the conscience of the congregatoins.

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IS IT COMPULSORY TO HAVE A STOCKBROKER BEFORE ONE CAN OPEN A CSCS ACCOUNT? In other words, can someone who feels to have known enough in the stock business just walk into the cscs office to convert his shares certificates to cscs account?

Thanks once again, I guess things are back 2 normal between me and my wife. With time I will see how to reconcile with my MIL. I wish you all HAPPY NEW YEAR IN ADVANCE.

THANKS EVERYONE, MY MIL HAS PACKED OUT OF MY HOME TO HER SON'S HOME. BUT I GOT INFO THAT THEY ARE LOOKING FOR APARTMENT AROUND MY HOME. ANYWAY, GOD WILL NOT LET IT HAPPEN, AND IF IT DOES AM RELOCATING MY FAMILY. THANKS, AM HAPPY AND BACK HOME. GOSH MY LIL BABY HAS LOST WEIGHT, I GUESS SHE MISSED ME. MY WIFE IS STILL MAKING FACES AND PUTTING SEVERAL "SIR"S IN EVERY SENTENCE SHE MAKES TO ME. WELL I PRETEND NOT TO NOTICE.

Thanks to all, I called home 2day and my wife told me her mum has packed all her things and only waiting for her son who will be coming today to take her away.
As for my wife, I told her to move with her mum, since she has apparently shown to me that she will rather live with her mum than I, since she cld feel comfortable with me sleeping outside for 9 days now. That its obvious that she doesnt love me anymore or better still never loved me.
Now my sis, frnds and cousin has been pleading that I leave he to remain with my. Am still thinking about that, to be or not to be. She disappointed me seeing me suffering without been moved. I wldnt do dt for her.

I called her eldest bro today, and I was surprise he told me he never heard anything. So I briefed him that I have been having occasional quarel with his mum, and I guess its because of the over familiarity which has degenerated to lack of respect for each other and dt I am sure if he hears thI insult his mum he may not find it funny. So I told him I want the woman out of my home but my wife will not succumb, rather she neglected me. He however said he never heard anything that he will arrange right away for her removal to his home.
Probably by ds night she may have left, I seriously hope so. Thanks to all wise NL. I appreciate evry1s contribution, and pls those dt r insulting each other on ths issue shld pls stop. Evry1 is welcome with his or her own opinion be it married or single. Thanks Again.

Well I didnt wait 5 yrs b4 crying out, we've been on it and my wife has

been promising to move her mum out. There wa a tym I personally threw my

MIL luggages out, my my big sis wont stop crying and she pleaded dt if my

MIL must leave, it shld be on a peaceful note, dt made me to succumb and I

gave my wife 3months so dt the quarell wld hav died down to move her mum.

But rather she came up with story dt her mum will be emotionally broken

down and might die early cos she will miss her grandchildren as other of

her children are yet to hav a baby.


OTHER QTNS:
- My parents were late b4 I married her.
- I didnt do any right so far cos the father died when d arrange started

and the father's siblings are having issues over their fathers property

after their father's death. The fathers siblings sold the only property he

had and gave the last wife money to rent apartment, moenet to get a shop

some money to support her kids in school and held others in ransome to go

build their dads vault b4 getting anything out of their will. Now I dnt

see myself involeved in such pple and talk about rites. secondly when the

father died the mother moved in and eversince my businbess has been dawn

and only sustainable, so God knows am struggling to make my kids get best

education, my wife doesnt support finacially cos she jst cant make

progress in all the biz i hav invested for her.


NOTE: i didnt leave the house because I am weak, nor do I plan to leave my

home 4eav, I left to giv her tym to think and choose between her marriage

and her mum, I blieve if she still loves me, my leaving d house will be

uncomfortable to her and she will definitely do d right thing, however i

hav a mind that if she doesnt, i will sacrifce the xmas and new year out

of my home, i will stay wit my cousing for the xmas and new year and if my

wife hasnt pushed her mum out, I will make it a new year present my

throwing my MIL things out by 2nd Jan 2011.