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Adaobi12:
Not all men, but majority of them are selfish and mean.
One offered to pay me what my manager pays me every month where am doing a part time job as a student. if only i will quit the job. i accepted his offer, because to him its a harmless offer, he is a chief and a married one with kids. only for him to pay me for 4 months, the next one he started telling me how much he loves my body structure, and how he can take care of me if only i will be his mistress.
I told him, chief am just 21, and am meant to be a wife, one and only wife and not a mistress. tge man picked offence telling me how ungrateful i am. how many girls will jump at the offer. i maintained my stand because, i can't see myself playing a second fiddle, Chukwu aju!!! He stopped paying me, i got another job. Any time he sees me, he calls me madam First and only wife.
There are still good ones around, just that they are rare.

Sister thank you jare, some are selfish like witch. People are of the opinion I Begged him money whereas he was the one who bluntly told me to he wants to help cos I'm a student, I'm stressing myself bla bla bla.

He has the money to spend and he knows it so he uses it as bait. People dont get what I'm trying to say. Why would a man disguise himself as a helping angel when he's evil at heart?

kayswag726:
Are u for real u just met a man and u indirectly ask him for money,or how did he know the challenges u ar facing,he is not even ur friend yet,a total stranger and u gave his card to ur friend for what?,ur friend now go ahead and cajole him to send money to u which u ar against,by doing this he assumed u two want to turn him to maga,since u have portray urself as a loose girl with no class,he throw his bait to u
And u are here saying men take advantage of u,what is wrong to ask money from ur girl friend or other family BT I can ask from guys,Girl U have no self esteem,had it been he gave u d money without telling u to date him, am sure u will heap all ur money problem on him

Lol , I didn't beg him for any money. Infact, he wanted to take me outing but I refused. I didn't choke his neck and ask him to give me money. He gave me on his free will, you can't believe eh. He said he likes helping people and he's cheerful giver. I wonder why he turned the opposite. Lol . you dont have to be rude to make a comment. Bye!

He looks good, short or not he's a human being like us.

May stray bullet not be our potion in Jesus name Amen!

Na means say my own don pass deliverance. I press my phone at any give opportunity.

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmjjmjmmm

Teempakguy:
And how the _fuck do you expect us to know that?

Seconded

He looks fine

I sleep open yansh yesterday, I was on heat

cyprus000:
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The embolded. why? if I may ask.
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He was never there for me emotionally when I needed him the most, but its cool though cos I've turned out fine without him.

cyprus000:
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Now, It is reflex going by this your narrative. I opined base on what you initially asserted, which didn't give indepth knowledge on the actual scenario.

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That's all in the past, we're not on talking terms anymore.

ratchy:
this ur own no be reflex ooooo. I hope is not what am thinking

You dont know what happened that day my dear, my father wanted to leave a mark on me but he didn't succeeded.

cyprus000:
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Yours is beyond reflex.
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He was about hitting my head hard on the ground in fact, he did but my reflex was what saved me and I mistakenly held his shirt at the collar and it torn, I should have sat down there like a ram?

egopersonified:
How can you tell a stranger your problems bearly 24 hours after the first meeting. The day we start to have some self esteem is the day we would earn anyone's respect.

Please and WHO said I DID miss?

I used q7, the one with the almond oil. It was nice, my complexion so smooth and creamy but it gave me black spots on my face. Lots of it. I had to stopped it when I bought a fake one and I got green vein. Q7 and Que+ are nice products if only you can get the original.

I'm currently using E45 cream and tracia lighting soap.I'm loving my complexion, no black spot, green vein or rubbish but smooth soft and shiny skin. Its worth it jare!

Is it really necessary to post a pix with you in your bra


I dont get this, are you showing us your styles or you showing us your half unclad pictures You gat to be specific babe cos I ain't buying it.

Annie is looking gorgeous

ronald4lif:
The problem is with some women have cultivated the habit of depending on men for their every needs and with some assuming a false sense of entitlement on a man's money.

There are some ladies who thinks it's their birth right to ask a guy for money and have no shame while doing so. And the funny thing is that they have no chumminess and rapport existing between them before begging for money from these 'Samaritan' men.

Based on your narrative, there was no friendship and goodwill between you and this man but you already besieged him with your problems. Why not relax until you've developed a strong friendship before besetting him with your personal issues?

The demand was too speedy and he may have thought you're also trying to take advantage of him. Thus wanted some quick hanky-panky to compensate for his kind gesture.

The growing false sense of entitlement of some women and unceasing dependence on men for their needs has even made it difficult to render any assistance to women lately. Especially the tone in which they use in making their request.

And I'm wondering why it's easier for women to beg a guy for money than their fellow women? It's not in men' habit to beg for money from women but from fellow guys so why should women be different?

First of all, I didn't beg and until you understand this phrase you will misquote everything. He bluntly told me in no terms that he wants to help in anyway he can. I never opened my mouth to ask him for money please.....I've got myself some respects. This man is just egocentric like all other men out there, they use their money as bait to entice and trick women into sexual acts. But cos you're so quick to judge you can't see that.

they scheme plans to entice. They are countless of women in positions like this, men will come in disguise of bringing a helping hand only to say something else. Ain't we just human being depending on God for favours? This is no gender discrimination here, what's wrong in lending a helping hand to your fellow human being? This is not a issue of birthright and can never be! Is never a birthright to eats someone's hard earned money. Is not a birghtright for the men gender to render a help and expect sexual favour either.

HARDDON:
Yea, he offered to help after u painted him ur gloom story.
Guy u just met, u already told ur life's history.....what happened to decency?
If he had sent the money, it wud hv been d beginning of many more.....n since he aint getting any, hence the maga term

I didn't tell him any life story, he offered on his own

Timbuktou:
But he doesn't know that, does he?

The rest of your post is basically preaching to the choir.

I'm of the opinion that shìt happens and I know for a fact that nothing goes for nothing generally.

That's what is wrong with this generation, nothing goes for nothing.

Olasco93:
I got the OP message. It's never a wrong thing to ask for help from the male folks. Though, all men are not the same, but what she is trying to say is that Some of these men should be matured for once. What's the Big deal in rendering assistance (mostly ladies) without any wrong motive, selfishness or self-centeredness.
#Think before you act.

May God bless you for this my dear, what's wrong in just helping without requesting for favours back?

Timbuktou:
Nobody is entitled to anyone's help. Women hardly help men and men do not whine about women being stingy and mean. Why do women think they deserve help without rendering a service in return? If you cannot show corresponding goodwill kindly try the next man.

Granted, you saved him some money, but how does he know that wasn't an elaborate scheme concocted by you and your friend?

If it was an elaborated scheme to eat his money then why did I turned him down? Some Men are wolves in sheep clothing, they take advantage of vulnerable women to swim in their selfish pleasures. So are you in opinion that goodwill should be exchange for favour?

Chidoks:
Men are generally like that, that's why it's never adviceable to seek financial help from men. It makes one vulnerable. And mothers should inculcate the habit of working in their children especially the girl child.

Nobody was begging money here, he offered to help me in my situation. I never begged him money please get your facts right. He offered me money in returned for sex, that was what happened and I turned both offers down. Pls, dont think this was a case of financial dependency.

Cutehector:
only kids do trade words and lack manners.

Ya, like you did trading words with me, ironically making you a kid

Cutehector:
I neva traded words with u, u knw... phew.

Cute Hector or whatever you call yourself, act classy for once, why do you always like to act and reason like kid?

Cutehector:
well u need to stop depending on men... if u need smth, u ask ur father or work for d money, so all these would stop.

You're just a case study of a senseless rat, what is wrong if a fellow human being helps a fellow being

marshborn:
And women don't take advantage of men too? Who are the people women refer to as mugu? It happens both ways so stop making a big deal out of nothing.

Its a big deal and a disgrace for a man to request sex in exchange of a favour .

Cutehector:
So u wanted to turn him into ur ATM right? Mchew!

I wasn't turning no one into any ATM, at least if I wanted to I would have allowed my friend eat his money. He offered Me a help, not the other way round

Oh yea baby, dont give em whores any chance to thief his sperm

I remembered when I was looking and running up and down for money to pay for my project, I won't lie things were hard at home. I happened to run against a man on my way coming from the market. He initiated a conversation, me being the friendly type I joined in. He gave me his card, I got home and not clearly being interested gave his card to my friend. My friend conspired to dupe this man of his money to which I was clearly against.

I called him that morning not to transfer any money to any bank( he was at the bank when I called ready to transfer 30,000 naira to my friend's account). He was grateful to me and readily requested I asked a favour anytime from him. He offered to send me 20,000 to sort out my project wahala but there was a catch. I should date him!

I was furious and more than disappointed, whatever happens to just helping a fellow being? I've been in this situation more than thrice, why do men behave pervertly ? This happens everyday, they give you money in exchange for your body, can't they help without taking advantage of the situation?

I'm sick and tired of this, why won't they help from their heart? This got me thinking men in power to help are perverts. I know a lot of women are suffering and destroying their lives cos of this

My father almost broke my head and I held his shirt in reflex, all hell broke loose. He said I fought him and torn his shirt, well, the shirt is still in his ward rope since four years now.
He's keeping it and showing everybody that cares to see, I told him to just open a museum and show cast it, that will fetch him money.