₦airaland Forum

Persephone1:
Who's trying to soothe you? Why are you just as deluded as your friend?

I have made my point and I stand by it! help and move on. If you can't discuss terms and conditions with the family!

Leave the kids out of your repayment plan! Should I repeat myself slower?

And I still stand on my point you twisting two faced snake. stop using your student cos your dad rendered help.

move on madam. nor build your business with someone's sweat. wolf in sheep clothing that is calling kettle black but her yansh black pass kettle.

Persephone1:
Lol you are comparing apples and oranges Kids and a grown man? Demanded proceeds and not demanded proceeds, Involuntary repay and voluntary one ,conditional help and unconditional one.

Well if you believe so, I'd still maintain let the family be if they must pay back or better still discuss terms and conditions with them.

see as you dey defend your own crime but you want brand person crime to be evil.

The main point is you said let go when you have helped someone. whether voluntary or not, you shouldn't use your student information to build your business since your dad helped the student in the past.

hypocrisy is a disease. see as she's going round to paint a perfect excuse for her crime yet want me to accept her hypocrisy.

Persephone1:
Okay... It's like you are coming down a bit...

First that post wasn't for you, I don't accuse you of maltreating the kids. The post is for your overzealous friend who accused me of being like your friend. Lol Why would I be ungrateful when I recently sent a thank you message and gift to those who helped me when I was down? Would I have done this if they had made me paid in a way immediately they helped? No. With i accept a help that comes with a detrimental request? No. I don't call you wicked i call your friend that she sounds like one.

You are human, you can be offended when your expectations aren't met. Nevertheless you wouldn't have been hurt if you had not expected in return. You wouldn't hurt either if you had thought of how your friend feels each time you send for her kids. You wouldn't have hurt if you had rendered your help "wisely".

I know it seems like all blame is on you but the truth remains you didn't handle it well. While I don't believe in Nollywood tales of someone who was treated badly became rich at last, I believe in humanity. Treat everyone the way you want to be treated. See ehn ... You may not get anything for helping, you may. But just help the way you can and move on. That way you will save yourself lots of heartaches.

Now, I really don't know how you got to that point. But what I implied is you may not get the reward of your assistance or goodness immediately or the same way it was rendered. Please just let it go.

Your smooth words don't move me, you have been running your mouth accusing me of being evil but I've refrained till I pointed out your hypocrisy to your face and you're changing post to soften your landing and make me the centre of the conversation.

what would you have told David ? called him evil names same way you have called me too. David took Jonathan's son (mephiboseth) when he was totally forgotten to be eating at his table, when the sons of Saul were requested to be killed to appeased the gibeontites who Saul unjustly murdered. David spared mephiboseth's life.

I know if David was alive today, you lots would have crucified him with curses and branded him wicked and evil. you will even say they didn't put a gun to David's head to help.

it's lots like you hypocrites that making people with good heart change to a wicked soul. This is the world we live in now when you give and commanded to keep your emotions in , don't say a word when you get hurt.

I see through you. Hypocrisy is not a nice outfit on you. stop using your student.

Persephone1:
It's obvious you don't read to comprehend. The students were of a university in our town, Dad housed them without any gain years later I met one of them, we reconnect and offered to help my business. Do you understand or do I need to get crayons ?

Very different things but you are too narrow minded to figure it out. I have noticed you have comprehension issues now it's clear you do.

No need for back and forth, if you need a nanny, employ one. Leave your friends kids out of it. That's my point and I maintain it!

it is similar o. you're enjoying the proceeds from help. whether you met them years later or now, the main point is that your dad helped them and you're now using the reconnection to fuel your business.

it's similar as you said i should not send my friend's kids errands due to my helping them. am I not liable same way to tell you to stop using the student due to your dad helping them?

Same exploitation you ferociously accused me of, you have commited. if yours is right in your eyes then mine should be right.

Persephone1:
I'm defending the woman because I know people like you who take advantage of other people's vulnerabilities. People like you would will maltreat the poor and needy because you are privileged enough to have more than them. People like you who turn themselves to almighty because they are able to render little help. I defend the woman because people like you will turn her kids to maids and maltreat them because you believe you own them.

Op couldn't even talk to the woman to confront her, she blocked means of communication and possible reconciliation just to come to Nl to rant of her goodness. And mumu you saw no wrong in that. How does this make sense?

Op you do whatever with her stipend, no one cares. We wouldn't know if she doesn't bring it here. If you need a nanny, employ one! It's very very simple!

you dey cap nonsense. if those kids were mistreated they would never come closed let alone be bringing their friends to my house.

I'm not a wicked hypocrite like you.

David that gave out Jonathan's son inheritance to his slave what do you call David? imagine a king felt hurt, how much me ? I'm only human.

you give but when you ask some help you're branded evil.

You're using someone your dad helped to build your business yet I'm the evil one cos your crime is less than mine as long as it suit your hypocritical brain?

SAMBARRY:
shebi I told you

If they cannot see anything to justify their parasitic behaviour after calling them to accountability, insults Will follow.this is so typical of fly monkeys.

Like Nigerians like their leaders.a lot of Nigerians are as wicked as their leaders.

Yes o but we move

Persephone1:
Says the person who have been calling God's name like tomorrow no dey Now you mock selflessness and expect me to take you seriously?

Nahhhh when I help i move on, I will not be expecting the person and his or her generations to serve my lineage . Help and move on, no turn Mario there. It's that simple! Later una go dey complain of how unkind people are or how they make everything about money and favour. Una go complain of being objectified because you need help. Nah like this everything dey start.

Palapala iwa apala

says madam righteousness who is reaping her student based on the help her father gave.

she's building her business from someone's sweat of information and sees nothing wrong from enjoying the proceeds.

Kettle calling pot black.
let go of the business Information that your student is giving you. stop exploiting based on your father's help.

Clear the river from your eyes first before telling me to clear drops from my eyes. 🎤

Persephone1:
Was I the one who helped the students? is how low your brain capacity is? Was that the only thing you could get from the story? Anything to justify yourself I guess! . If I had requested he washed our plates or sing abusive songs like someone like you would have would he be of help to me years later? Your problem is delayed gratification, you can't just wait! You believe because someone did it to you it is the right and single way to go about life. You have tried so much to justify yourself on this thread that i doubt if your intentions were pure from the beginning! Na your type dey show up on outreach day to snap pictures and carry volunteer label while you do nothing! Lol see me ooo I dey help my poor friend with her 6 kids . Where's the hypocrisy in what I wrote, you just wan talk.

Aunty if you want to break the friendship with your friend, go on. Your grouse is with the mother not the kids! Leave the kids out of your repayment plan, you fit send their mama go market if you like!

She said exploit like she's my secretary and she sees us talk business You do have a creative imagination . Anyways... okay no ways... I owe you no explanation . So kinds running errands for you is your priority? The best gain you can ever get.

Bottom line is leave the kids out of your repayment plan. Move on.

hahaha you're shifting post o. see person who is saying her dad taught her to help and let go, why didn't you follow the instruction of letting go of your student's knowledge.

Why abuse the fact cos your dad helped him it meant you would now exploit his knowledge to grow your business? isn't it the same thing you're accusing me of doing to my friend's kids? the similarity is glaring.

look at how you perfectly made excuse for yourself that it wasn't you who helped your student so it justified you using the student to build your business cos of your dad's help?

if we go by the narrative here , you're as guilty as you charged me. same similarity of reaping off from help rendered.

You should have let go of receiving the help, I guessed your high hypocritical brain refused to follow what you preached about.

it's nice to see a good wannabe christain who calls others black while she is a shadow of darkness herself preaching what she couldn't practice.

Davidoff2000:
You are a very stewpeed woman..ashweaer to God..i hv never seen someone as dumb as you.

May God protect us all from gettimg help from a devil like you.

Better not to

Your stupidity is an embarrassment to sloths which are the most stupid animals.

shut up your rubbish mouth and go to bed. you're mistaking everyone to be stupid as you.

Davidoff2000:
Dont mind the useless entitled woman maswurading as helper.

Very entitled woman..may we never be in a postion to accept help from that ginaz woman.

Tufiakwah

Tufiakwah on your head. it's people like you will criticise king David who took Jonathan's son from nothing to be eating at his table but when he found out Jonathan's son didn't accompany him to flee from his son Absalom he gave his inheritance to his servant.

what do you have to say about what David did? If Its in this modern world I know you will say David is wicked and abused him. you people don't care about nobody apart from what you gain from them. it's only about your needs and wants, never mind if the giver is hurt.

Una go open mouth waaaa, begin talk rubbish. you that is talking can't put 5 kids at once in your house to feed for 2days let alone 4weeks.

Tufia on your mango head.

Persephone1:
Don't mind these people, they think life is all black and white... Balance is required in everything one does in this life, as you think of yourself rendering assistance also think of way of doing in a non offensive or belittling way. It's very simple. Going through the thread from Op's responses I realize she's not giving with humility and if she's a Christian like her friend has been calling God's name everywhere she should know how that is bad and dangerous.
Give and let go.... Very simple!

My dad taught me this and I enjoyed benefits of his good deeds years after. He would house students back then without requesting for a dime. Sometimes strangers we don't know, some with chop and carry bumbum without looking back but that didn't stopped him. Guess what, one of those students is my business partner and he has really helped me with building my business. That is life.

If you can't help, no one is holding you for it but don't help and siddon there! Phew!

your hypocrisy is very disgusting. why didn't you stop one of those students from helping you With your business ? why are you enjoying his inputs rather than letting go or cover your ears when he tells you all the juicy details you needed to know? so how is your so called christainity different from mine since you also have enjoyed from the proceeds of kindness you gave out?

remove the forest from your eyes before you point at the grass in mine. it's you who show is showing humility right? are you not exploiting the student cos he's giving out info you should have paid for.

he's building your business and its sweeting you, but mine is not good based on your twisted way of reasoning right?

9icetoo:
Sometimes, it is better to keep silent and be thought to be wise than to open the mouth waaaaa and dismiss all doubts.

Carry on ma. You and sambarry can do all you wish to people's kids just cos you are fortunate enough to give them hot meals every once in a while.

This life sha.

you dey wise how your life don go?

SAMBARRY:
Na them.im not surprised.

Wherever you see narcissist,fly monkeys must dey around.wherever you see people encouraging ungrateful and entitled people,you must see their kind

Op this is exactly why I said stop responding to every post because the more you respond the more they label you.this is a typical example

I don stop now.
thanks for standing with me o. I nor fit shout. I've heard all you have said.

SAMBARRY:
misery loves company.so you want her to be like her friend Abi? Or she should just fling open her legs for any pen1s that comes around? Abi children Na toy wey you just dey get? You no go plan for their arrival?


No wonder poor single mothers don full everywhere with dysfunctional children.tuehh.when you see some posts you just wonder whether some people even had home training at all or they grew under the bridge.

Tuehh

They will curse you if you're a baby mama and constantly remind you how you're a second hand item which has lost its value.

atleast I nor dey worry about wenti my pikin go chop for this wicked economy. Make i enjoy the ignorance of not having a child yet.

JOHNFBOSCO:
Anty, do you ve to reply to all the post here omo...you no dey tire ni. You would ve just read through and pick the points that interest you.

There is a statement you made about how the kid has not eaten fried egg, tea and bread before he or she met you, please madam how did you know that..also how old is the kid per say.

Another thing is, you said ur so called frd is your childhood frd right And she has 6 kids already, abeg make I asked you...you never reach to born your own pikin, say shame no dey catch you like this 😒

Mehn I tire for you, I was supporting you right from onset, but the way u were just lambasting the whole thing is something else, I'm out of this shi^^t...close thread dahmmmm

The child told me herself which made me prepared the fried eggs foher along with tea as a treat.

I never born cos I don't want to have a dysfunctional family. I need to be ready for motherhood. nobody is given award for childbirth, when my time to give birth is near, I will do so.

I reply messages due to the misconceptions being paraded, I had to say my mind too.

tollyboy5:
That's begging not entitlement. If you say "no" nobody will crucify you. Stop saying i hate you when i don't even know you.

it's begging right? Calling me everytime asking if i have food is begging.

I like how you're selective with your opinion. me calling her child to help me buy fish is entitlement while hers is perfectly fine cos it's begging and i have options of saying no as nobody will crucify me.

just listen to yourself. but you're quick to brand your girlfriends "entitlement mentality when they ask for money to buy food.

You are very selective of your opinion.

Exceed15:
See ehn u v done ur bit as it is now just end it make everybody dey on their own Biko else bigger issue will arise.

Yes o. na me dey avoid like this but the children still dey come my house. how do i drive them without being horrible ?

okewumi:
I love communication alot. It is childish to ghost her. Have a discussion with her on why she corrupt the mind of her children towards u

Click page 6 to see how me and the mother settled it

tollyboy5:
You can ask the children to wash plate or buy ingredient when they're with you (But personally i dont do that). But calling her to send her daughter to you is not cool.
You getting too entitled

but she calls me on phone to ask me if i have food at home that she's sending her child to me.

what do we call that? entitlement or not?

tollyboy5:
She might not be smart in many aspect of life. On the fight issue she was smart and such lady will be good at avoiding fight.

I exaggerated just because of the op

how will you not exaggerate when you're blind and hateful in your conclusion?

She dey avoid fight? lolz. same person who badmouthed the lady I had a fight with then goes to the lady's front and be acting nice.

omo life ehn

trust only yourself. I nor fit talk it all.

.

ultraviolet27:
This Idiot is a real Junkie I swear always talking off point, unrealistic and unreasonable So that Shim can be viewed as a Deviant/non conformist or be seeing as Woke!!this is an Idiot who may have never giving 500 to a needy Person before in His/Her life!!Shim too dey come online to Spew Garbage!!

So it's only the Rich that must help the Less privileged at all times they can't also repay by helping when they can?? Or you think giving aid is only financially? Your time and energy can also be used to render help So her staying with His Wife just for 2 days to assist is bad but She can dump Her lives Problems with this Man and He wouldn't hesitate

You are nuisance and you make me angry I swear na your type the Yorubas call asodi always facing the left if others face right like a Psycho

Even the very wealthy requires even little gifts as appreciation for what they do for you too it doesn't have to be eqiuavalent of what was gifted you though!! If not it will look one sided and ripped off and they may stop doing

Why does even God require us to show appreciations by thanking Him giving our lives in service to Him giving 10 percent to Him as tithe?? Even though He is an all provider ? It is to show that their should be reciprocity in relationships

Only Moronic leeches take and take without reciprocating!!

exactly. They think it's only those who have much to give should be helping. as soon as you are down they will run from you and say you're exploiting and using them for selfish gains.

life is wicked. one has to becareful

IjebuWarrior:
Madam, didn't mean to brag... I personally donate >N5M annually to orphanages and widow(ers). It's my calling and my responsibility towards humanity.

Cuz you dey give ur poor friend's kids cheap rice and stew, we no go rest again, ba?

Madam, you no well, I swear. 🤬

abeg you dey madd. you never sabi where your madness dey start. why you nor carry the orphanage children for your house and feed them with that money if e sure for you?

you think it's by giving money? your mate nor dey get orphanage homes? You dey mad? you think it's easy to care for children and show them love? that money you put, I dey give orphanage money too.

carry children for your house and cook for them, wash plates and buy ingredients to cook for them. simple!

oga you dey mad but you're too stupid to see.🚫

Fountainofyouth:
Bolded shows you clearly do not understand the bible which says love your neighbour as yourself not help, Bible also says you shall get in return meaning your reward is in heaven not getting a return from whom you helped, don't twist the bible to suit your narrative.

The husband clearly stated that she wanted the woman to stay as in sleep over with his wife in the hospital, so where exactly are you getting your assumptions from?

I clearly gave several suggestions and ways the woman can help without sleeping over in the hospital with his wife how can you not see that? Of all the people they know, must that woman be the one to sleep over?

I do not have time for unnecessary back and forth on something mundane that requires basic common sense and sound logic, it's simple, give wholeheartedly and expect nothing in return, let God or posterity reward you, simple.

you don't know the bible so shut up. early christains shared things between themselves and were helpful to each other. na people like you for say "nor touch my things" cos you don't know what compassion is like.

not getting help from who you helped really? you're so dumb.

Fountainofyouth:
Bolded shows you clearly do not understand the bible which says love your neighbour as yourself not help, Bible also says you shall get in return meaning your reward is in heaven not getting a return from whom you helped, don't twist the bible to suit your narrative.

The husband clearly stated that she wanted the woman to stay as in sleep over with his wife in the hospital, so where exactly are you getting your assumptions from?

I clearly gave several suggestions and ways the woman can help without sleeping over in the hospital with his wife how can you not see that? Of all the people they know, must that woman be the one to sleep over?

I do not have time for unnecessary back and forth on something mundane that requires basic common sense and sound logic, it's simple, give wholeheartedly and expect nothing in return, let God or posterity reward you, simple.

it is you who is twisting the bible to suit your narrative. you have no compassion at all.
David took Jonathan's son who was crippled to be eating at his table. when he went to war with his son Absalom , Jonathan son didn't follow him and David felt betrayed and gave his inheritance to his slave. it was when he came back from war he learnt that the salve deceived him.

it's people like you will say David is wicked and heartless cos he helped crippled mephibosheth he don't have any right to demand his loyalty.

What about the priest who was murdered cos of David? David took his son as his own. peoole like you will say David have no right over him despite David sworn to protect him with his life.

you lots are the ones wicked . Thank God David no dey social media una for call am names.

Olumaeme:
Abeg no dey disturb yourself.

Na tit for tat I dey do.

I don't expect anything from anybody, and I don't sacrifice for anybody also, everybody dey he dey.

If I need you, I pay you, if you need me, you pay me, we deal and everybody goes their separate ways.

What is the benefit of me supporting you and you are not supporting me? And from the comments, you can see that most people are ingrates.

The fact that you are nice to people does not mean they will be nice to you.

Na the reality be that.

na so! In fact this thread has opened my eyes. That's why some big rich men don't take boys from the street to learn their business or useful trade anymore. they will start accusing them of exploit and using them selfishly.

Person want teach you how to catch fish, you say he dey command you to hold fish net.

life na per head o. nor kill yourself for anyone cos tomorrow you will be surprised to see your name in the mud.

Olumaeme:
See this one.

Na why I say I no dey help poor people be that, what I do is strictly business.

You come, help me, I pay you, you find your square root.

I have something you want, I sell for you or you GTFO. Nobody is entitled to anybody by so doing Abi? So I don't expect from you, you sef don't expect from me.

You are ignorant because you don't know the whole story. When they had their own last born, na me use my car carry the woman go hospital in the middle of the night, leaving my own family behind. Sebi Lion too fit come chop them, I for leave her to labour till they are able to sort themselves out too nau.

As I talk, I to help poor people na the most stupid thing wey anybody fit ever do, and you sound like a typical poor person.

Kpele.

my brother I wish I'm like you I for nor day this issue. imagine you risking your life to ride her to the hospital but she can't reciprocate even a little for your sick wife.

na so the life just be. Thank heaven it's God who repays good deeds , if it was a human who will repay your good deeds people go die plenty.

IjebuWarrior:
The useless lady is delusional and entitled.

She's very foolish and useless at the same time. She no get commonsense to understand basic life principles. Na frustration and anger go finish am las las.

As you useless so, you think everyone useless and foolish like you? na people like you go watch your neighbour die of hunger but come outside to form saint.

you stupid nor be small.

escapadechuks:
You sound so sure about all you typed about me like you know me. Lol. You're just grasping at straws. You couldn't have been more wrong.


Anyway, truth is I help people when I can. It's not something to brag about. It's just basic human decency. But I don't help them expecting anything in return. . . Unlike you.

It's not too late sha. Change. You're too entitled and arrogant. It's not nice.

Calm down and reflect on yourself. You hate hearing the truth. That's why this post has entered 15pages and counting. If you want to help somebody, help them. If you don't want to help, don't help. You're nobody's God OK? She shouldn't need to turn her children to your nannies because you give them "something" after. Get off your high horse and realize you messed up.

They were surviving before you came along. They'll still survive without you.

Enjoy.

you just dey cap for the internet bro. I know you can never let kids access your house for 2days straight.

nor dey talk as if you get sense cos you don't. it's easier to spot someone being wrong while you can't take half of what they go through.

It's basic human tendency to help and be helped. Even God wants us to follow his rules before he will help us.

you saying they are surviving before me is laughable as I have never played superior to them. I'm not in a competition to see how long they will survive without me.

it's the opppsite as I am terribly fighting for my privacy right now. The kids still come to my house and the mother still calls me for help.

I really wished to be alone.

IjebuWarrior:
Madam, once again...

You're indeed MADDD! 🤬

as you dey madd na so you dey type. You brain never develop well for this your madness and I'm sure you will soon start walking naked for this matter.

continue to dey mad, you just dey start. rubbish.

escapadechuks:
Atleast I don't go about using other people's children as my errand boys and girls. Change.

you have not helped anyone but you have the guts to open your dirty mouth that they are being used.

it's people like you that someone will give their last blood for but you can't reciprocate when they need blood to survive too.

always judgmental about what they can't give.

go and care for 5kids for months and see if you want send them errands. dirty hypocrite

Fountainofyouth:
You really are all up in your head, so I'm not surprised you arrogantly insist your opinion is right.

First off, the bible says do not allow your left hand know what your right hand does, meaning help and expect nothing in return, in fact the bible expects us to help from a distance, without publicity and fanfare.

Secondly, if the sick woman was single I would have excused the other woman on the basis of her not having anyone to help, even at that there is a limit to it because she is a married woman with kids, but this is a sick woman who is married, how exactly will you expect the other woman to leave her household to come stay with someone that has a husband that can care for her? Can't the husband take excuse at work to stay with his wife because there is no job that won't give him sick leave if he requests for it, why can't he do that? Doesn't he have friends around that he can take his daughter to so he can stay with his wife? Hell he can even let his daughter stay with that family to take care of while giving them little stipends for the assistance, that way, the woman can be available for her home at the same time helping them out with their daughter, more like killing two birds with a stone, why can't he do all these things?

Try to be logical in thinking it's not that hard, emotions will not get you anywhere, the highest that family can do is to visit the woman at the hospital if possible everyday and go back home that's all, not sleeping over when she has her family to cater for, wisdom is profitable to direct abeg.

The bible said w should help pur neighbours as ourselves. does it mean its only a giver who will help? so cos a giver as given , when he desperately needs help he should expect nothing in return? is that how it works? didn't the bible say what you give others you shall get in return?

see how you made lots of excuses to back up the other woman who refused to render assistance to a sick person who has made sacrifices even against the wish of her husband to make sure her family is well off but you didn't offer any tangible solution in the least way she could have helped her sick friend.

if she was a good person she would have gone out a bit to assist in any little ways she could. The husband said she rejected every thing they might have suggested.

you are acting as if this is not Nigeria , do you think you can just request leave without meeting the terms of your managements? you want him to get sacked? as for his friends and family they may be too far from the hospital or engaged in something that they couldn't leave immediately to run to the hospital.

That's why people don't help. You lots feel the giver is a stone or has no emotions. some people you will give your last drop water but they will let you die of thirst while holding a jug of water.

becareful of helping people o. The world is a very wicked place.