₦airaland Forum

Nwaotu10:
It's disheartening when individuals perform acts of kindness, assuming it grants them the authority to use someone's child for errands.

Consider how you'd feel if your own son or daughter were consistently running errands for your friend in a similar situation.

This is why I don't want to be poor, small kindness way people go do for you, dem go expect you to be their slaves perpetually

They're not slaves. you're the one calling them so. I'm sure you will never allow 5kids in your house daily or allow them to enter your kitchen to prepare food to eat for themselves whenever they felt like.

it's easy to criticise but difficult to be kind.

Mom007:
You shut up with your stupid post and comments. You think everyone is so jobless to be reading through all the posts... for what? Your stupidity is evident enough from the original post n first page thank you very much. If you are sure you did well, why bringing the issue here? Wicked and foolish people everywhere! 🙄

you don't have time to read but you can have time to conclude like a lazy goat. people like you won't even accommodate 5 kids at once in your house daily without treating them horribly. hypocrites ! how many of your neighbour's kids have you allowed to play in your house daily or fed?

better shut up your stupid mouth and move along. rubbish goat like you.

nairalee:
You did nothing wrong. This world people will always find a way to twist anything to look bad. Trust me many of them will do worse in your shoes.

My advise for u is to use your tongue to count your teeth. Limit your closeness to the woman but don't cut off entirely. Apply wisdom in ALL your relationships

it's all good. God knows those whose heart are true. I've applied wisdom and also learnt greatly . thanks

lomprico:
You are not a good person, so because you assist her sometimes, she owes you an obligation to release her kids for you to send on errands?
You are not a good person. Pls cut off the relationship, she is better off without you. Don't forget, no condition is permanent!

you must be crazy! where did i ever said their condition is permanent? may God bless them and provide for the children. I nor be God and i will never claim his role.

MarketDispatch:
I know your type...your type is one of those who would have asked your friend to allow one or two of her kids to come stay with you and you'll be sending them to School, but she blew the chance.

May God be praised. my mom used to tell me i trust easily and it will get me in trouble but I always don't listen. I don't know if cos I'm an only child though, I Interact with kids like I'm their age mates and play freely with them.

who would have thought sending my friend's kids to buy ingredients would caused so much issues ?

but that's why life is a classroom. you learn everyday. The mention of using them as slaves was so repulsive to me i had a mental breakdown. I had never nursed such feeling even to my pets.

please y'all should click on page 6 and see the conclusion of the whole matter.

I'm really tired of all these comments. it's no longer necessary and i don't even know why the mods pushed it to front page as it is not a recent issue. it happened last month and it has been concluded.

whatever anyone decides to call me is what they feel. I've been traumatized by all the things I was called. we are all free borns, how can I make another human my slave ? it doesn't sit well with my own soul.

I no longer give the kids access to my house as I used to. they only eat and go home now as I can't bear the thought of seeing these kids hungry.

I'm scared of letting any child come closed to me these days. The matter has taught me life is in black and white. like rolled dice ,your good deeds may backfired or have negative consequences.

LIGHTROOM:
Telling her specifically to send you her daughter is wrong. You said that you've block her number, how come she is still able to call you?. You could approach her with this issue and settled it. Check your emotions and your level of jealousy and also learn to forgive. And don't allow the help you are giving them make you feel that you have right ever those children. God bless those who are able to help their neighbors in this hard and trying time.

so if you block someone they can't use another number to call you? what's your point? that I would lie on such small details? na wa

yemmit90:
You don't actually base on what her child told you, children do lie sometimes, especially the moment they knew you won't give them a particular thing if they don't talk about something.

Try to let her mum know about it and settle it amicably.

the matter has been settled. she came to my house and asked me to forgive and forget. if you read through the pages you will see it. the daughter wanted to come with her friends but the mother refused so the child didn't come to me.

I've kept my distance to a reasonable degree. I only feel uncomfortable for the kids when they come to me and say they're hungry which I can't drive them away.

I still care for the kids but I'm traumatized someway. I don't let them stay long in my house anymore. I help at a distance but still provide periodically cos they're children and shouldn't be hungry. God will bless us all.

Mom007:
You send her kids errands?
You call her on the phone, tell her to send her child to you so you can send her on errands and you feel justified in doing this because you dash the kids peanuts? God punish poverty sha, because if that your friend was rich you will not dream of such! If you had kids of your own, you will also know that all you wrote here is rubbish! Wicked somebody, block her na, who even needs friends like you sef?

you're such a dummy. if you had read through all the pages you would have seen the conclusion of the matter but you only read the first page and you're foaming at the mouth like a paralysed animal.

thank you for your input and shut up jare.

TheVictorious:
I was enjoying your narration until I read the part where you blocked her, you were very emotionally aware until then. You should have reached out to discuss, so that even if it'd lead to ending the friendship, you'd have been certain that that's exactly what she was trying to communicate indirectly. You didn't try at all. Please unblock her and still reach out, tell her you took the action of seeking to let her be in a bid to empathize with her because you infact thought she wasn't too comfortable with your closeness, and then hear what she'd say.

it has been sorted out. take your time to read through the pages.

I'm fine.

Sermwell:
Stop playing God!! They were surviving before you came to the neighborhood!!

I'm not God o. thank you for your input

Godmademan:
Perspective. The people you have to be most wary about are those who are less buoyant than you. The little things that seem harmless to you might come off as showoff or exploitative to them due to low esteem which was portrayed by the concerns about her home appearance. It's pretty much why some people try not to indulge those considered poorer even though there is pity towards them. Get engaged with something that will keep you off them physically for a while, the relationship will die naturally. A little hello once in a while is still not out of order, but watch the familiarity

ya. thanks for the input.

Justbehave:
Ginaz. Your actions speaks alot about your immaturity. So because of what the daughter said which you didn't care to Verify,you stopped picking your friends call. Just tell us you are tired of being helpful to her because of her financial situation.

wow. thanks!

GabrielYulaw:
@Ginaz, you are a real good person and that's so rare to see. But the problem is that Nigerians love taking undue advantage of good people. Whatever you decide next, put yourself first.

And biko, please remember that Nairaland is like a heavily polluted river. Not everyone here is sane or with properly working brains. So, that explains why some saw wrong in what you were doing. Just do your best to filter out the good from the bad here. Thankus.

Thanks for your encouragement. the mother is now pregnant with her 7th child in this harsh economy condition. may God provide for us all.

I still assist them within my abilities. it's hard to drive away hungry kids from your door. despite that people concluded I was taking them for slaves, they still come to my house till date. but I no longer allow them to stay and play like they used to in the past cos I was traumatized reading those comments that said I was taking them for slaves. once they have eaten, I send them back home. no more watching TV in my house or staying till night. I had to protect my mental health.

Zoe257:
Hello! I only read through the first and the last page of this thread, time will fail me to read through the entire thing.
One thing is certain though, people misjudged you from what I read. It seems most of the people who gave their opinions were just plainly being unemphatic and unreasonable.
You needed to see the way I was put off while reading through those idiotic remarks.
Imaging, you telling us tales of how you would send those kids to get you fish and things you would use to prepare food for them, still make them hold the remaining cash, and people still said you were taking advantage of them.
If this helps at all, you're a good person, regardless of what any unreasonable NLander comes up with.

It reminds me of a woman, now late (RIP) that my mom would let me visit inside the same compound while growing up. She made me tons of great things then. She prepared the most yummy custard and cakes for me then. She treated me to treats that I couldn't have gotten from my own parents.
I beg you to not completely give up on those kids though, kids are known to do the most stupid things cos they don't know any better.

Sending you love and light!

Awwww thanks so much for the encouragement.😊 I'm still helping to the best of my abilities.

I decided to listened to the few who encouraged me to keeping helping the children,the mother still calls me on phone. I saw her today and she's currently pregnant with her 7th child. may God help her.

she and her hubby must love sex so much . wow . the last child is less than 2yrs old. The children don't eat to school sometimes, and I feel terribly uncomfortable knowing the kids go to school on empty stomach.

I feel I'm the one being taken advantage on if you look at it. the mother called me on phone one day to say she and her children slept on empty stomach, they haven't eaten till that time she called me. I started running up and down looking for ways to assist them.

I don't know what to do anymore. in this hard economy someone is fuvking to stupor and birthing children to the number of 7th. May God in his mercies provide for them.

Naturetony1:
Camera is cool

wow looks cool. I plan on having pixel 5 soonest but I'm scared of the lack of updates it would stop having.

Naturetony1:
Got the pixel 5 delivered to me yesterday from @nobody. Phone is neat beyond expectations and being my first pixel phone,I'm loving the experience..

is the camera cool? can you snap a picture and post?

Ishilove:
My sister. E taya me. Are they kids that will eat biscuits and juice?

biscuit and juice. as per say the parents na primary school children. the guy's gift is 10 times worst than the bread the in- law gave him.

he was fed with good food and still given bread yet he felt the bread was too suspicious or beneath him to accept.

The way he spoke to his wife- to- be about her parents shows he lacks home training. The girl will marry him despite his lack of manners. tufia!

PuZZyNegro:
I accept I would have collected it. My friend told me that but I needed a broader opinion

which broader opinion do you need again? you're looking for someone to support the nonsense you did? you are wrong period! go and apologise immediately. imagine if somone treated your parents like that would you be happy?

I really don't like what you did. you're annoyingly stupid.

Guy you are wrong, you should have collected the gift. I can't imagine the embarrassment of your in law when you rejected the bread, they must had felt inferior in themselves thinking you rejected their gift due to their condition.

you are wrong period! ha! you had the guts to tell your gf that her parents gift is the wrongest gift to give you.

damn! no respect at all.

Good one but you need to work on the audio. it's too low to hear clearly and your vocals are not so smooth.

tales by moonlight.
if you believe this story then you can believe anything on the net.

your mother is a terrible person. for she to be so bold to say lies with a straight face shows the kind of person she is and I won't be surpised if she was the cause of the divorce between her and your father.

Don't feel guilty for exposing her, she brought the disgrace on herself. how can she go about lying against everyone without a conscience? she's now acting like the victim and playing mind games with your siblings.

she's very terrible. keep her away from you pls an becareful of sharing information about your family with her. she seems toxic and troublesome. Don't feel guilty , Ah! your mother own dey her body! which kind mama be that?

forget everyone and face your life. If your siblings ain't feeding you, then to hell with them. how can you mom just lie against your husband like that? so disrespectful!

turmacs:
Surgery? Please don't ever quote me again in your miserable life, nonsense. All these small breasted girls sef, Mthewww.

which country your big flat breast don carry you go? small breast has a car of her own, own her own house and living a flashy life.

your own na bathroom your breast carry you end to fvckk like a wasted future. No wonder your boyfriend like to take you to bathroom cos that's all you're worth.

TheSuperX:
Take your frustrations elsewhere.

cos you're frustrated don't go about thinking others are frustrated in life as you are.

TheSuperX:
Just shut up, you are not making any sense.

you shut up. what right does she have to bodyshame a fellow woman? did she create her boobs herself? shut up and get out!

turmacs:
I knew that their relationship wouldn't last with that her yeye small breast 😹 They think it's all about answer "model" upandan. A model whose packages are not well modelled is nothing but a breakup waiting to happen, men no dey last for their hand. Abeg Idris, come and check out profile, make you see Better package wey set, no b all these opioro mango bress.

Who your body epp? she's happy with her boobs and if she wants a bigger one she could have done surgery. jealousy kee you there.

her men takes her over the world for vacation, your boyfriend takes you to the bathroom to fuvk. what a useless life!

Abisolababe:
No problem
I will do that for you sir
I will send my ND result to use as well sir.
I did my ND at Crown Polytechnic..
How do I contact you privately

why don't you post your bank account so all these would end?

I don't know what to say.

He should be old enough to know what he wants. If the ex is a good woman, he should go ahead to marry her. Did your mother gave any tangible reason why he shouldn't marry his ex?

o.p you're not fit for marriage. Your mental thoughts need to be totally liberated for you to have a happy life. all these your negative mindset won't help you in life.