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okerekingsley90:
But konojunkie is right on the one. She has told you the truth. Nothing in this life sweet pass mind your business. You would save yourself from lots of troubles

SAMBARRY:
tell the mother in clear words and actions.no hide mouth talk am or be sounding apologetic, speak firmly and with conclusion.if after telling the mother the kids still come around,do something that will provoke the woman that will make her never to allow her kids around your house again.e.g when the kids come around (that's after you must have warned her o) carry broom and sweep their legs off your premises.anybody that is Yoruba knows the meaning of that.

No mother can stand watching her kids getting embarrassed or chased away so that trauma will be a reminder to her to ensure she doesn't allow her kids to your vicinity again

Fountainofyouth:
See them, birds of a feather

You want a married woman to stay with your wife at the hospital when she has her own family to cater to, why can't you arrange where your daughter will stay till your wife is well so you can stay with her at the hospital? Why feel she has to be the one to do it on your behalf because you help her family? Did you ask permission from her husband? Or you feel they are at your mercy because you also clothe them? What if all her excuses are genuine? Such entitlement, smh, see the way you're even very condescending of people's life situation because you're above them, na only poor people get bad character?

Ko da, this life ehn, so many people lack conscience and genuine human sympathy.

torqque7:
Don't mind her..see her even opening dirty mouth to try to justify her bad and arrogant behaviour. She is lucky she met a calm person that she can take advantage of because she give am dead phone or helped her small before.

7upnigeria:
Apparently you have that 'use them as long as they're benefiting from you' mentality. I will not argue with you because it's a mentality of people who have low IQ, it's either you're UNEDUCATED or an OBIDIENT. Otedola donated N1 million each to 750 students of Augustine University who he didnt know, it was just to ease their burden and make life meaningful for them. Many people adopt children who are not theirs and give them meaningful lives. Come to the UK and see how millionaires donate heavily to orphanages just to share love and their wealth. You're seated in one corner of the world thinking everyone has a poverty decorated brain like you.

IjebuWarrior:
OP, You're MADDD! 🤬🤬🤬

frog12:
AH. this na FAKE story

we ask serious question and see the reply.

frog12:
AH. this na FAKE story

we ask serious question and see the reply.

tollyboy5:
Dont worry you can call me stupid na.
Because i have also been leaching on you. If you have a pet like cat and you notice people ignorantly believe cat are trained by witches then make sure your cat is confined within your apartment and not disturbing others.
Get your neighbor threat recorded and let her know you have evidence you want to harm your pet in case anything later happen to the
Honestly speaking you must be an arrogant and terrible person

frog12:
how many children do you have? why can't you send your children on errands?

Obinzubechi:
My dear I don't think you dropped this write up here for people's opinion because all what they're saying seems not to be sounding write to you, if you feel you know it all you shouldn't have come here asking in the first place.....you can't be too sure your friend actually told the daughter not to come, confront her and hear what she will say, and feeling entitled that the children must always do what you ask of them is too bad, for me that is know more help, because you are expecting something in return.

7upnigeria:
Madam, the little change you have is getting into your head. They were not eating before you moved into their street abi. Haven't you heard? 'Who go help you no go stress you'. Nobody truly wants their kids becoming househelps, its financial situations that makes people consider such options. If you want to help them, please help. Stop looking for cheap labour.

SAMBARRY:
madam no be everything you go say here.the more you talk,the more your words are misconstrued to make you look like a bad person.

In the first place you don't even have any point to prove to anybody.God sees your heart and motives and he is a rewarder.he rewards everyone accordingly for their deeds on Earth

tollyboy5:
For you to even be in a street argument might reveal the kind of person you are. So you wanted the said friend to come and fight on your behalf?
It seems you don't even put on a thinking Cap. She did the right thing as your friend to calm the other woman on your behalf and calm you down later. Sorry to say that your friend is way smarter than you are. You're just feeling you're better maybe because you're more financially stable.

tollyboy5:
For you to even be in a street argument might reveal the kind of person you are. So you wanted the said friend to come and fight on your behalf?
It seems you don't even put on a thinking Cap. She did the right thing as your friend to calm the other woman on your behalf and calm you down later. Sorry to say that your friend is way smarter than you are. You're just feeling you're better maybe because you're more financially stable.

culf:
So the assistance you're rendering is a reward for the errand they run for you?
You should see it as a privilege but no wahala, when one door closes, God opens another unless if they don't look up to God.

Hmmm!

9icetoo:
Your entitlement mentality is astonishing.

Truly, common sense is not as common as it ought to be.

Unless of course, you are just trolling.

Which makes your post and comments barely okay.

frog12:
if your story is not fake, just pack away from that area

escapadechuks:
Op doesn't sound like a very nice person.

Is her child your nanny? Or because of your small small help? Then stop helping and get yourself a personal errand person. Shior

Olumaeme:
I usually keep my distance from poor people, maybe I know them or not. They have a very bad mentality.

They want to milk you dry but will never want to also support you.

I remember one family my wife used to literally feed, even though I have told her to leave them in their poverty but she's won't listen.

One day, my wife was sick, and she declined coming to assist stay with her in the hospital so I can stay with my daughter she declined giving lots of foolish excuses.

BrooklynBoy:
Nothing like lessons learnt, what you did is wrong.

DrFunmisticGlow:
she is envious of you and feels inferior but also feels that she can look down on you since you don't have kids, but she will not stop the kids from freeloading in your house. Sounds like she wants to use you.

Limit your association with such a person because the next thing now is to accuse you of snatching her husband.

BrooklynBoy:
Madam forget that thing, calling her mother to call her daughter to send her on an errand is totally wrong, if na me i no go take am. If say u see her child outside and sent her on an errand, that one is quite okay

VULCAN:
Pls stop defending yourself.

As you have described it carefully, there is nothing wrong with asking your friends kids who are watching your TV to go outside and buy something from the aboki or the corner shop 2 mins away.

One of those condemning you dropped a post not long ago saying that she does not allow anyone tell her what to do.

Yet she is the No 1 "Let me tell you what you should do even though I'm an anonymous online stranger"

But I believe you should tell your friend why you have created distance.

She will say "the child is lying".

But I have seen plenty of such so I will take that defense with a pinch of salt.

Be careful of her.

Envy is the foundation of witchcraft and is one of the primary reason Africa is in such darkness. Most black people envy those closest to them and look for covert ways to take them down.

Be careful

simoncynto:
You also mentioned that the errand u wanted the child to go for you is only 2mins away. Why should the child leave her mother's house and come to your house just for a 2mins errand that u can go yourself?. Your story doesn't add up or maybe u are just trying to stir up discussion.

simoncynto:
Sexual abuse is not limited to one gender alone, but that's not my only point in that write up.

sylve11:
You're too defensive. I don't think anyone can advise you.

simoncynto:
The fact that u specifically requested for her female child to visit you, a bachelor, at home might be the red flag in this issue. Maternal protective instincts are usually high and she has done the right thing in this case.
U don't have any right to send the another woman's children on errand because of the things u do for them. However, being gender specific might also be the fear.
You don't start recording every good things you do for people and start thinking they owe for it.
Give freely, if you can do that, please stop.

Zhunnurayn:
Ginaz, of all the odds surrounding your conduct u question why you don't take advise. People like kobunukie and others have been telling you that you are exploiting and enslaving the children but you end up blasting them, you brought a matter to seek advice and you condemn those telling you the truth, which is painful.

No take a deep breath, imagine yourself as your friend and you her... she calls you to send your kid to her so they can run errands for her....what do you feel

The answer you get is your judgement

PeachtreeReside:
Nothing wrong in you sending them on little errands. Life is give and take.


They eat at your place and experience a bit of the good life too, right?


Their mum should not have stopped her daughter from going on that errand.


Dey your dey .


Keep the lady blocked.