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Church business. Praise their lord!

I was going to post a reply to the topic until I saw that dear poster is actually a perverted nincompoop...

Very inappropriate abeg. The guy should desist - gentle nature or not!!

Yes. It can.
Self discipline is key... No one is saying there won't be temptation but you have to have enough self discipline to conquer temptation. Notice I have not said you have to be a true christian like some people say, because I have seen pastors and deacons fall!

Beautiful pictures really like the tunnel of love. Very picturesque!

Focus on the topic Obadiah! We now know the lord can kill. Thank you for the enlightenment

30 ppl at once? Na wa o!

@ Obadiah pls focus on the topic and stop spreading falsehoods!

i moved out becuase I felt my mum needed the space. i have three younger siblings. She wasn't happy at first but she soon got used to it. . . I would have stayed home if I was leaving with Grandma though because she had the space etc. but she lives far away. . .

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Sad news. RIP

Wow! Richvkunt and harakiri, you guys must have had a very bad experience. But to actually say that all women do the same is unreal. Similarly, I can't turn around and say all men cheat!

The way you guys have criticised women, I'm seriously wondering how you could remain straight. . .

If you keep something as trivial as money from your wives, goodness knows what else you keep a secret too. I think the prayers of most women is that they meet a man who is capable of taking care of their needs and show love as well be a loving companion. Otherwise why do you think rich women do marry when they have all the money, more than they will ever need.

Any man that commits himself to a long-term relationship or marriage and expects the woman will only rely on her earnings and the man doing same is clearly living in fantasy land.

That said, I wonder what Richv and harakiri's solution is to this problem apart from staying clear of marriage?

I wish there was some sort of universal men forum to place this on so that the men will understand marriage more!

Just like you I was terrified of delivery all because I was shy. But towards the beginning of pregnancy about 2-3 months pregnant, complications started (bleeding randomly etc). So, I went to the hospital to be checked out and guess what I had to open my legs for internal examination at 2-3 months pregnant! I don't have to explain the mess that I created. Anyway, I was examined by a guy! So I got my first tester of opening my legs.

Long story short, you will be fine. All you would want during labour is to get the baby out and first. You might want to make 'down there' presentable if that will boost your confidence. I had a male doctor for delivery but at some point during the pushing stage I must have counted at least three other staff and my mum and husband and friend and yes, they saw it all.

There are more things to worry about such as meeting your healthy baby, minimal or no tear and fast recovery. So buckle up, it's going to be a bumpy (pardon the pun) ride!

[quote author=Richvkunt link=topic=727449.msg8864691#msg8864691 date=1312581473][/quote]Richvkunt, I must confess that you have quite a strong opinion on this matter. I hope this did not contribute to your divorce though. . .

Richvkunt:
No real man tells his wife what he earns unlesss he is a complete f.ool.
Women will still come to ask their man for the money for the smallest thing in the house even if she earns more than him!
The more a man exposes his finances,the more she gonna ask for.
Clever men never declare real account figures to their women.
Thats the truth!
So when you feel you are cleaning him out,he is actually having the last laugh!
I do it all the time and I can bet my bottom money other brothers do it too!

Thank you very much for your response. I have to admit I was expecting something similar from a guy. But you didn't say if you know what your wife earns and if you do, does that make her foolish? If you don't know what she earns does that mean she is secretive or hoarding her money etc?

I am still waiting for a guy to give an answer or an opinion on this issue. Or could it be that the guys have other ideas?

Unfaithfulness is about the only reason why you can divorce your spouse. That said though, if it is something you can and both willing to work on I.e getting counseling etc then, you can try doing that first.

Well the reason why I asked is because some men think it's Oyinbo style to talk about what they earn with their other half. I am in favour of transparency. If you cannot share these kind of information with your other half, it may mean you do not trust her and if you do not trust her, why be with her?

At the same time, I am also against women who depend on their man for everything or stash away their earnings somewhere while eyeing the guy's own. . .

Okay, I don't really want figures. I just wanted to ask the guys here, do you share your salary details with your wives? If you don't why? And for the women in here, does your hubby tells you what he earns? Do you expect him to?

PS: not just husband/wives but fiancé/fiancee. . .