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Family / Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by Godlovesyou28: 11:57pm On May 20, 2020 |
aeion: My step mum is not wicked, she only gave me crumbs... Honestly, she even tried because some women would have done worse. I just wonder about many things. 108 Likes 1 Share |
Family / Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by Godlovesyou28: 11:50pm On May 20, 2020 |
Ishilove: I don't know what the story is; and I clearly do not care how I came... Am here now, and need to know who my mother is. But for the record, the relative told me that my father paid my real mother's dowry when he Briefly separated from my step mum but returned it afterward after sending her out to bring my step mum back. I do not care what the history is; I just want to know my real mum. 235 Likes 11 Shares |
Family / Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by Godlovesyou28: 10:58pm On May 20, 2020 |
merieam16: The person referred me back to my dad to get the identity of my real mum. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Family / Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by Godlovesyou28: 10:56pm On May 20, 2020 |
Jullima: I am am a replica of my dad even more than all my siblings. I don't think I was adopted since I have older siblings. 98 Likes 3 Shares |
Family / Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by Godlovesyou28: 10:50pm On May 20, 2020 |
sinaj: My father will kill if I go that public. 12 Likes 5 Shares |
Family / Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by Godlovesyou28: 10:45pm On May 20, 2020 |
vikkimimi: My grandparents are all late. My dads pastor sadly is not an option trust me. 20 Likes 2 Shares |
Family / Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by Godlovesyou28: 10:40pm On May 20, 2020 |
Jullima: I can't even hold my tears back, my heart is bursting out. I don't even know why I feel this amount of pain. My birth certificate says I was born in a private hospital that don't exist(I have gone there and its an office complex) and mother's name, occupation and signature is that of my mum(now step mum). 79 Likes 4 Shares |
Family / Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by Godlovesyou28: 10:24pm On May 20, 2020 |
I type this with so much pain and sense of loss. I found out about two years ago that my step mum is not my real mum (everyone keeps wondering why am just waking up to the obvious). I grew up being hated by my mum's (now step mum) family, usually beaten, overworked and deprived; but I was told that I was being trained to be strong since I was the first daughter by my mum (now step mum). At age seven I cooked all the meals except my (dads soups) and did all the cleaning. By age ten I cook every single meal at home, wash all the cloths and Iron, clean the house and run all the errands while my siblings both older and younger play and watch TV. I always felt my mum (step mum) will love me just a little bit more if I worked harder; she always told me I was special (and different) and that she loves me so much but does not know how to show it. . It hurt me deeply then that I was different so much so that its expression translated to pain; but that's in my past now and I have no regrets. Fast forward, am all grown up and fully independent, then a distant relative I helped told me two years ago that my mum is not my real mum with facts. For me it was a relief (I thought there was something wrong with me that made me unloveable and to be treated different and given less, but I know better now). I am more confident knowing she never loved me and that it was no fault of mine. Now, I just can't move on knowing I have a mother and I want to meet her and ask her questions (why she would dump her child for another woman to raise? Why she never came back to take me? Etc). And also if we could catch-up and be friends maybe. The problem is that no one wants to tell me anything since most of my family members fear my dad and keep referring me back to my dad; I visited my dad and begged him to tell me who she is (I cried so much that he had to beg me to stop), he asked me to go so he can discuss it with my mum (step mum) but now shouts me down each time I bring up the topic. I want to find my real mother . l don't know why I can't sleep or think about anything else. I need closure. I have been advised to sue my dad and am considering it. Please help me, I can't bear knowing I have a mother out there and not know who she is. Please help! 252 Likes 14 Shares |
Crime / Re: My Neighbor And His Wife Stole My Phone And Are Forcing Me To Pay. by Godlovesyou28: 1:42am On May 08, 2020 |
sonofthunder: Thanks. |
Crime / Re: My Neighbor And His Wife Stole My Phone And Are Forcing Me To Pay. by Godlovesyou28: 12:40pm On May 05, 2020 |
sonofthunder: Thanks again. Where can I get the dashboard cam and how much does it cause... I think its wise to get it. |
Crime / Re: My Neighbor And His Wife Stole My Phone And Are Forcing Me To Pay. by Godlovesyou28: 12:02pm On May 05, 2020 |
andyanders: You are just a breath of fresh air... This world would have been Paradise is everyone was like you |
Crime / Re: My Neighbor And His Wife Stole My Phone And Are Forcing Me To Pay. by Godlovesyou28: 11:58am On May 05, 2020 |
sonofthunder: Thanks for your support so far but mentioning my dad in that light leaves a bad taste in my mouth. Not cool. (No offence taken) You are right about something though, I usually see through people's actions but yet allow things to play out when I could have taken a decisive step... I have no Idea why I do that; coupled with the fact that I easily forgive and forget (and the sad circle continues). I don't know but something deep down always searches for goodness in people even when its a really long wait with many disappointing stops along the way; love is supposed to conquer all right?... Its rewarding when it does but often times than non it just doesn't. I will think about seeing someone who can help me see things clearly if I must, a psychologist maybe; where do you find them in Nigeria , psychiatric hospital? I don't see their offices anywhere. Thanks. |
Crime / Re: My Neighbor And His Wife Stole My Phone And Are Forcing Me To Pay. by Godlovesyou28: 9:30am On May 04, 2020 |
Ndeoma: Thanks. |
Crime / Re: My Neighbor And His Wife Stole My Phone And Are Forcing Me To Pay. by Godlovesyou28: 12:30am On May 04, 2020 |
Ndeoma: Thanks, I appreciate your concern but I don't have a problem that requires a life coach like you said earlier. Am sure you are a fantastic life coach, but this is just an ugly incidence that will soon pass like other ugly incidences I have faced; except that am having to face it alone. I will be fine. Thanks. |
Crime / Re: My Neighbor And His Wife Stole My Phone And Are Forcing Me To Pay. by Godlovesyou28: 12:22am On May 04, 2020 |
andyanders: I have decided to move, and hope to start the search for another place tomorrow. Someone told about a nice place at federal housing lugbe, I'll take a look. I can't sleep. I cant concentrate. Am so scared. |
Crime / Re: My Neighbor And His Wife Stole My Phone And Are Forcing Me To Pay. by Godlovesyou28: 10:35pm On May 03, 2020 |
Ndeoma: Thanks. I call my friends and family, but I can't understand how I feel Ndeoma; its a cocktail of anger, disappointment, regret, fear, pity, helplessness, bullied and so on , Very bad feeling. |
Crime / Re: My Neighbor And His Wife Stole My Phone And Are Forcing Me To Pay. by Godlovesyou28: 6:50pm On May 03, 2020 |
andyanders: I don't know, his face was just indifferent. My neighbours don't speak to me anymore... Their obvious weight loss says volumes. I have decided to move out. My front door key nob was loosed and opened last night... I was lucky to have bolted my door from the inside. My car was also scratched with objects. I think I have fallen into depression. I miss my dad. |
Crime / Re: My Neighbor And His Wife Stole My Phone And Are Forcing Me To Pay. by Godlovesyou28: 11:25pm On May 02, 2020 |
andyanders: I met the tout on my way back (along my street) and really apologized and also thanked him for his help before offering the money to him. I can't afford to relocate now, I moved in early February and did a lot of upgrades on the house. |
Crime / Re: My Neighbor And His Wife Stole My Phone And Are Forcing Me To Pay. by Godlovesyou28: 5:12pm On May 02, 2020 |
andyanders: I gave them the 1k as advised but they rejected it. Should I be worried? |
Crime / Re: My Neighbor And His Wife Stole My Phone And Are Forcing Me To Pay. by Godlovesyou28: 11:34pm On Apr 30, 2020 |
Naija4love: I see... |
Crime / Re: My Neighbor And His Wife Stole My Phone And Are Forcing Me To Pay. by Godlovesyou28: 11:35pm On Apr 27, 2020 |
Exmilitant: Please don't laugh cos its not funny at all... I have been seriously thinking towards learning karate; who knows, With the way the country presently is now- its could save ones life. 3 Likes |
Crime / Re: My Neighbor And His Wife Stole My Phone And Are Forcing Me To Pay. by Godlovesyou28: 9:01pm On Apr 27, 2020 |
I have been looking for them to give them the money but they have not been home. I can't wait for this to pass |
Crime / Re: My Neighbor And His Wife Stole My Phone And Are Forcing Me To Pay. by Godlovesyou28: 8:55pm On Apr 27, 2020 |
[quote author=sonofthunder post=88906651] Hmmm, op we may need to talk oh.... Lol. On a more serious note, you need to know when and where to draw a line. There's a difference between your friends, good friends and your best friend but in your case, an outsider will find it difficult/impossible to differentiate the three categories. This in itself is not bad, but you can see how you struggle to cope when things go 'south' Learn to establish appropriate boundaries for different people in your life (family, friends, neighbos, colleagues, etc), that way your aren't overly hurt by people before fully admitting them into your life (consider it like granting them a trial..... Lol). Also for the long run and to develop a firm personality, you can consider reading certain books: The Prince by Nicolai Machiavelli, 48 laws of power, why you think the way you do, amongst others but be carefully what you read though. Some of those books can completely change your ideology. You're the kind of person everyone loves and tries to relate with but its unfortunate many will try to take advantage. Thanks. I have been working on it my whole life , I feel helplessly troubled when I know I can do something about a friends problem, especially when children are involved, I can't say "No". I think its genetic because my Dad is like that too (Now he keeps telling me to learn from his mistakes). My step- brother says my extreme softness is incurabe; If I could live, love and easily forgive his mom for all the things she did to me without getting tough or ever saying "enough" then I would never change.(funny enough, honestly I thought she was tough on me because I was a girl amongst many boys, I never felt I was being maltreated). I don't know where and when to draw the line like other sane people. Do I need to see a psychologist? |
Crime / Re: My Neighbor And His Wife Stole My Phone And Are Forcing Me To Pay. by Godlovesyou28: 5:11am On Apr 27, 2020 |
andyanders: Thanks. |
Crime / Re: My Neighbor And His Wife Stole My Phone And Are Forcing Me To Pay. by Godlovesyou28: 5:03am On Apr 27, 2020 |
Naija4love: Sure, but If I must ask- what do we share in common? I just hope it not "extreme softness " |
Crime / Re: My Neighbor And His Wife Stole My Phone And Are Forcing Me To Pay. by Godlovesyou28: 4:55am On Apr 27, 2020 |
Freddykrueger: Do you want to send me help? |
Religion / Re: 31 Powerful Scriptures To Help Strengthen Us Through This Uncertain Times by Godlovesyou28: 5:09pm On Apr 26, 2020 |
Jesus be praised forever for by his sacrifice we can call God "Father" and partake in the promises of the Scriptures. Amen 2 Likes |
Crime / Re: My Neighbor And His Wife Stole My Phone And Are Forcing Me To Pay. by Godlovesyou28: 4:57pm On Apr 26, 2020 |
Rozz: I don't think its even possible to stop, my friends and family say that Its a problem I need to work on. Once I accommodated a pregnant friend with her husband and two kids; providing everything (school fees and school bus fees to help ease stress)only for them to turn me to second class in my house; even moved into my room when I traveled. When I came back and met my things in the guest room, they claimed they needed more space since the baby was already due. I had to move in with my parents after the baby came for them to host guests for several months... My elder brother couldn't understand my weakness and had to rent a self contain for them to move out (paid for 2years). They never said thank you but kept complaining that am so insensitive to have moved them to a self-contained without considering the fact that they are five in number |
Crime / Re: My Neighbor And His Wife Stole My Phone And Are Forcing Me To Pay. by Godlovesyou28: 9:10am On Apr 26, 2020 |
Xisnin:You are absolutely right... Am so scared. I have to go to the police and also make arrangements to move. Thanks. 1 Like |
Religion / Re: What's That Favorite Scriptures That Reminds You That God Gat Your Back? by Godlovesyou28: 1:22am On Apr 26, 2020 |
John 3: 16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten son. That who so ever believes in him should not perish but have everlasting life. 1 Like |
Crime / Re: My Neighbor And His Wife Stole My Phone And Are Forcing Me To Pay. by Godlovesyou28: 12:50am On Apr 26, 2020 |
Georgekyrian: The story is, Things got really rough for me after a setback so I moved to another city and to a lower budget apartment. My family is not here and I am embarrassed to bring very old friends who live here to my house since I know its a temporary arrangement before I fully get back on my feet and get a befitting abode. And No, I don't have a boyfriend and don't need one for now; I can't concentrate when am in-love And I need to concentrate if I'll be leaving this place soon. Thanks. 5 Likes |
Crime / Re: My Neighbor And His Wife Stole My Phone And Are Forcing Me To Pay. by Godlovesyou28: 11:24pm On Apr 25, 2020 |
I planned to confront them but that tout looked bad ass I was really scared. Now I realize I should not have runaway; you're right, I should have given the tout some money even though I was so terrified. I was just hurt and angry. I guess That's how we women first react in the face of danger 2 Likes |
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