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Rosaline5000:
Nice input and I am not arguing with you.

Just try and look at it from another prospective, "What if you were poor" could you have remained in that position long enough to get that amazing job, the answer is No, 24k a month wont be enough if you are handling the responsibility of your family members, your parents, siblings.
Or what if you didn't have someone in Ogun to accommodate you, a poor guy without connections or place to live.
It's because your parents are financially okay, that's why you had the peace of mind to work and struggle without stress but your own determination.
Many a times family responsibilities slow progress.
Take for example I had a cousin who is an only child, he was give basically everything, when he was in school, he can ask for 50k from his Dad and he will he given, he use this money and started a business which is so successful now because he had help what about a friend of mine

When Ultimate cycler came (a ponzi scheme) we were the first to hear about it, my friend invested in it and made 200k before it crashed, me on the other hand couldn't do it because I didn't have any money, my friend now have a good business and is very rich.
Point is the rich keep getting rich because they can use opportunities around them but the poor remain poor because even if they see opportunities they can act on it because of resources or responsibilities or they move on before they can eat the fruit of their labour because they dont have the luxuries of waiting.

Not all poor people are lazy, some are just unfortunate

I could have stay in my parent house and be on that 25k .....I could have done nothing because there weren't complain or forcing me to get a job.
I didn't have anyone accommodate in ogun ooo....I was sleeping under trailers for like a month with some of my colleagues and we quickly bath by 5am....I quickly made friends.

Been poor isn't a excuse for me because have seen people make it from absolutely nothing and have seen people there parent were rich but they are in poverty now.

See what matters is the hunger to succeed in life......the lady I intend to marry now ,what attracted me to her was while she was serving in eruwa in oyo state this girl was hawking ponmo (cow skin)...imagine a graduate hawking ponmo in a village.....she has like 3 business she running without her parent giving her a dime.

She was able to establish the business and today despise finishing service few month ago she still one of the major ponmo supplier to that side and she making her money.
She approached a commercial bank and took a loan to ran this business which she paying back

If everyone should look at it from your perspective then no one will struggle my dear.

Not everyone will be rich in life that for sure but you have to work to be able feed yourself.

What you talking about is different from my post....am talking about some ladies who doesn't want to struggle at all.

You just have to do something......let the man see you doing something even if is not working.

40fy:



**It's like @Godoverevery said, "LIFE IS MEANT TO BE HARD". Yeah, you're damn right!!! That is the purpose of Earth, you know, to teach one hardship and how to endure it and how to overcome it!!! We do not come to Earth to have a "very" enjoyable time, we all are here to learn!!!

**Y'all should just brace up!!!

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That what my father always tell me and brother from childhood...Life isn't meant to be easy.

You have to work for the good life you want.....as an adult the worst thing to do to yourself is to be dependent on someone for livelihood.

Kaiair:
Deep down most men dey find easy money...dem dey find who go fvck dem pay 200k per night

200k a nite to sex a woman....imagine just having to do 5times a month...1m...OMG

Kaiair:
Do you know how difficult it is to make legal money?

It takes sweat and blood.......legal money comes with serious pains.

Rosaline5000:
Like you said "Some ladies" nobody is perfect, the way some ladies aren't perfect is the way some men are not perfect too and are very lazy.

Now you should know that some ladies also have issues too like it's not that they dont hustle but it's hard when many men see them as a sex object.
A lady I know went to look for job after searching she saw one in a boutique, guess what the man that owes the boutique wants her to be his sex slave before he can give her the job.
Many ladies have gone to interview searching for jobs and the employers ask them for sex, some do it tho but the ones that don't are left jobless, then maybe this ladies will start thinking of starting businesses but that require money which they dont have.

So it's basically not a big deal if you can help your wife to start a business because it is not easy for women out there.

When I was in the Uni, a lecturer ask me for sex and when I turned him down he threaten to fail me and he tried, I barely passed the 2 courses he was taking while my fellow male classmates passed with "A" I was struggling to get a "C" and it's not like I can do anything to him, half of the whole department was like that.
Poor women dont have it easy

Let me tell you a lil story.
After service year 2013 ......I was in my parent house for 8month with no job... i attend interviews but was never called ,my dad friends and uncle who promised me jobs no one came through.
One day I decided to go down to ogun state and find a job from lag....there lots of companies In sango area....I went to some but the security men told they weren't hiring ...luckily for me one told me to try dangote cement in ilaro ,have never been there before infact I knew no one there.
The next day I asked around and got there .....It was a massive plant with lot of people at the gate....I asked around on how to get a Job and was clearly told I needed serious connections...After finishing school my parent were still giving 25k pocket money every month and I was eating at home but i needed my own money.
I decided to take up a casual worker job there in the plant which was 12k per two weeks...my dear it was a terrible job but I did it for 1yr and 4 month.
When the new lines was completed for production, new engineers were needed.....I got the info early because people already knew i am a graduate of mech engine....immediately I called my boss in charge of my unit and he drove me down to the admin ....immediately my name was taken down and I did a short interview.
2weeks later my employment letter came out and that was it.

Nothing come easy.....life is meant to be hard my dear.....excuses only beget failure.

If you know what men do everyday to make money ....you wont be writing those things up.

I have a pig farm....anytime I go there if you see what I do...you will marvel....sometimes there poo slash on my face while parking them with water....i do all this things just to make money.

Stillwhites:
Most ladies are lazy and stupid! They can't afford to live on their own.You better empower yourself before you come close to me....Don't think that your vagina can make me empower you.

Easy bro.....you getting angry.

It really heartbreaking when you see an adult who plan is to just totally depend on you.

Thonia69:
Okay... The topic doesn't make sense. You could have said "some ladies".

Corrected.......make sense now??

So I saw this on Facebook and over 2k women liked it and commented "very correct"

So in my head am wondering why will someone go through primary, secondary, high institution and nysc, at the end she waiting for her husband after wedding spendings to still empower her.....what is the essence of the education.

Was the education not an empowerment for her to create a livelihood for herself.

This struck me because I remember my ex fiancee banking on me to open a store for her after marriage......honestly I was expecting her to ask her parent for that before marriage but she felt it was my duty which was awkward to me.

We are both b.tech/b.sc holders, after graduation I had to struggle to make money but you prefer not to struggle but rather wait for me to make the money and give it to you to start a business.

I think parent should stop sending ladies to higher institutions....they should just give them money to start a business or trade after WAEC and save we men the the stress of having to set up businesses for this women.

If i have a daughter right now who is done with secondary education......I will empower in a business or trade and after 3yrs she enrol in noun or per time.
Sending ladies to full time uni education is waste of money this days because at the end she wil likely end up as a make up artist or barker etc .....so what the point.

Cc: Lalasticlala Mynd44 And Seun

festacman:
Of course, there is no way Gov. Nyesom Wike would dump PDP when he has planted his acolytes as PDP candidates in Rivers State at different levels for 2023 elections. He will be stupid to do that.

As for Sen. Bukola Saraki, immediately after the presidential primary, he ran back to Kwara State and has been silently working hard to secure the bag for next four years. Only four years of being outside government and he felt like fish out of water. He has all his life lived on public fund and ran-down family bank.

How Bukola Saraki as as young man born, raised and trained as a doctor in United Kingdom with urbane disposition and gift of the gab failed to change the situation of Kwara State for 8 years as governor is something that needs to be a case study in leadership failure research.

Veterinary doctor please.....he isn't a medical doctor.

wis3:
more like you can't handle the truth.

The truth is if that guy was a billionaire she would be glad to be used and dump like you claimed .....you the only one naive to the fact is all about what she stands to gain.

wis3:
Childbirth causes so many changes in a woman. So such that she could go looking from a lady in her teens to a woman in her forties. Would you allow your daughter make that kind of sacrifice for a man who just wants her for producing babies? Only to be discarded when she's no longer needed? If the guy was ever really interested in the girl. He'd be talking stuff like meeting the girl's parents, convincing the girl to make her see how nice it'd be to start a small family with her. But that's not the case.

I don't deal in emotions .......since the discussion isn't about logic I bow out....cheers bro.

wis3:
I'm just saying. A woman can't make herself pregnant, What should you expect when you have unprotected sekz? However you choose to look at this, the man is always and will always be the one responsible.

Very funny......hope you know what consensual sex means.

It takes ovaries and sperm to make a baby.........both contributed and is there responsibility.

wis3:
This is different because the ladies in question voluntarily agreed to it. I'm sure if roles were reversed, the same guy would not want his sister to turn baby making machine just because some guy who got her pregnant is threatening her with arrest.

But guys can be turn to baby daddies even if they disagree??

I really wish table can be turned and let see what you have to say.

wis3:
Clearly he's not interested in her. She's just some baby making machine to him and after he's gotten what he wants. He dumps her. For who exactly? Abi you fit marry baby making machine?

So if I get you correctly the isn't interested in her.

I will give two good examples of guys who are victim of this same narrative you are talking
about and yet many people still castigated them

Wizkid first baby mama and Davido first baby mama.
Do you think these ladies truly love wizkid and davido??

Like I said we are all in this mess because there different rules for the same scenario.

10yrs from now I pity lot of ladies.

wis3:
The way the guy in question is going about the whole thing is wrong if there was no written agreement between the two of them.

Written agreement??

Do you know how many guys pregnancy were forced on ??

Like do you people know what you are implying is if a lady want to abort a pregnancy the bf doesnt have a say and if she want to keep it still the bf doesn't have a say.

Is this double standard that making relationships and marriages worthless this days.

https://www.nairaland.com/7218180/unwanted-abortion-finally-get-arrested
After reading the thread above .....I must confess the comment I saw made me realise most people on NL are hypocrite.

Many guys have been tag unprinted names, infact some are in jail for suggesting a lady have an abortion.
Last year I made a thread about how one of the boys working for me was arrested for impregnating a lady....now imagine if he had suggested she aborted the baby who knows maybe he be in jail now.

Am very sure if it was a lady that made a thread about a guy rejecting a pregnancy and asking her to have an abortion everyone will call the guy terrible names.

Many guys have been arrested for rejecting pregnancy in this country so what wrong in him arresting the lady for aborting the baby without his knowledge.

So if a lady get pregnant for a guy and he tell her he isn't ready to be a father then no one should say shit about him with majority of the comment on that thread.

If is OK for lady to determine whether to keep a pregnancy or not then is OK for guy to determine whether if he wants to be a father or not...QED

Wannnasale:
Wanna sale my DStv. Used for 6 months plus you would still use for 2 weeks as I still have some subscription in it

Your number and location

Power of silence.

Dino,saraki are nowhere to be found today in nigeria politics.

OBJ even had to give this man his own space.

Like I always say .....I don't like tinubu but I have lot of respect for this man.

It obvious you are scared of your wife and her family.

Is wife your benefactor?? Do you run business together Do you have properties together??

Something is still holding you in that marriage hence you so scared to the point of aborting three pregnancy for your side chic.

The best way for you is too emotionally start blackmailing your wife.....let people know about her attitude towards having baby.

Since you are yoruba people won't really blame you once the blackmailing is properly executed.

Price to pay for reaping where you didn't sow.

Won't be surprised thousands of ladies will apply.

Like 50cent said....A b**ch have to eat using what she has between her legs instead of her hands.

vickydevoka:
Fat lie. If u are into tech or software u won't say this. Please change your mentality

U are into tech and you don't know about how bill gate stole for Steve jobs??

Maybe you still a very young tech guy.....your eye will open when someone rich cheat you in that line of business.

vickydevoka:
In Nigeria or in de world. Bcus whites rich guys money are pure

Go read about bill gate very well....every wealthy man all over have dirty money it just that only few are caught.

There no way you will build wealth without cheating at one point or the other.

80k....serious buyer

seankafor:
I was surprised even his father who should be elderly, more advanced, matured and more socially sophisticated doesn't have a lawyer in his contacts

Bro you suppose dan code na.....his father know what the boy is into hence can't do anything but settle.

A pastor paying bride to policemen.

If you were clean your father won't negotiate with them rather he will come to the station with a lawyer.

It very easy to know fraudulent people they are always scared to there balls when they see policemen.

Am very sure this a young boy who is into crypto investment promising people ROI....fraud

A pastor giving bribe to policemen......the boy is so foolish and ridiculing his father by posting this.

Show me a wealthy man without fraudulent money and I will show you the devil chilling in heaven.

You can never be filthy rich with all your money clean.....Never Ever......You must steal,cheat and dupe people.

This was how my friend ex cut him off from us.....she called us terrible people and put the fault of the guy lifestyle on us.
She was too dumb to realise the guy himself was his own probs.

2 year later relationship scatter and she came to us the bad friends to come help her resolve the matter..lol.
The guy rubbish her in our present and played us tape how she always bad mouth us.

Ladies don't think at all......it is pure foolishness when you try to cut people off from a guy life solely for your own selfish interests.

Ezinwa120:
But because of Hijab in Missionary school, this Muslims want to tear down Osun and Kwara State, even started attacking Churches. Continue deceiving the Christians but one day is one day. Ndi MURIC

Today is Monday....Happy holiday.

Don't face ipob keeping you at home...be more concern about people who don't give Bleep about you opinion.

OK2NVME:
And that's where you get it wrong.

Religion is a fundamental belief ideology. A man must impart his beliefs not only on his wife but entire household.

How can a born again husband and father keep his Christian beliefs to himself and allow his wife and wards to experiment on their own.

It is this liberal outlook on religion that made the Muslims among you team up with the Fulanis and stole Ilorin for themselves.

Your religious liberalism is not a virtue but a weakness. If the traditionalists had put their foot down and clamped down on the Muslim population do you think Ilorin would be part of sokoto today?

Stole Ilorin from your compound abi

You just sound delusional .......did anyone from Ilorin complain they are being stolen by fulani
Have you ever been to Ilorin in your life??

Better face your region and life.

wickedJezibel:
truth hurts

dear Yoruba Christians
Stop sleeping on the bicycle.
stop falling for their deceit
they know what they're doing

Yoruba Christians ronu

Try something different........this one is just too senseless.

Oplomo:
Ishaq Akintola and MURIC does not agree with you. They have vowed that yoruba muslims will never vote yoruba christians.

Is only you oustsiders the take him serious......to us that man speaks only for himself.
He has the freedom of speech....we know our leaders and we don't follow blindly.

Ishaq,sowore,adeyanju are in the same category......they only speak for themselves we don't give a Bleep about them.

SHINJA:
You guys think Yoruba Christians are not wise,I don't even know how you Yoruba Muslims do reason some times..

You guys always say religion will not divide the yoruba nation,but the same you guys want tinubu to pick a Muslim Vp..

If truly you guys consider we "Yoruba Christians" as your brother's ,you will not support this Muslim-Muslim ticket..

We yoruba Christians have the right to vote any one we want...We are not fools..


God bless southsouth and southwest..

God bless the good people of southwest..

Is very easy to know an imposter .

Nairaland is a faceless forum but doesn't mean we intelligent people don't know fake people like you.

No yourba person will ever call him/herself yoruba Muslim or yoruba Christian.

We are all yorubas........religion is nothing to us.